FabSwingers.com forum: Help please.

By *rWhistle OP Man
over a year ago

Hampshire

Hello Fab people.

I'm having trouble actually getting interest from anyone. I don't know why. I am as genuine as can be, I'm never rude in the messages I send out, I always look at the age requirements, and read people's profile before I message people. However anything I try, seems to fall flat on the ladies interest levels.

Is there anything else I can do? Maybe something I can change, or add to my profile?

Please help...I'm at breaking point!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are many men here so you need to make your profile stand out if you can. At the moment it doesn't if I am being honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

try a building society, tho they don't give much these days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are many men here so you need to make your profile stand out if you can. At the moment it doesn't if I am being honest."

This. If anything it comes across as a little desperate. It says absolutely nothing about you, what you like or what you are looking for.

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By *rWhistle OP Man
over a year ago

Hampshire

"There are many men here so you need to make your profile stand out if you can. At the moment it doesn't if I am being honest."

That's what I need the most, honesty. I will see what I can do, but as I come from a small Suffolk town, it's hard to know what fact to put, and which to keep secret.

I know it's easier for girls to put as little as possible, but I guess us guys have to try doubly as hard on the net. :/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you can find a way I can rid myself of my noisy, disgusting, swearing, doorslamming upstairs neighbour, I would be interested.

I used to be nice, but he's making me horrid. Tearing me hair out, not making any progress.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are looking for women but expect them to send a picture first and before they see you ?

Thanks to the fakes, pic collectors and talkers on sites like this, many treat single men with an element of distrust and aren't likely to go flashing their pearly whites at you just to get your attention.

Especially when as a rule they can have their pick from the 10's of men who openly send them face pics every day.

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By *rWhistle OP Man
over a year ago

Hampshire

"There are many men here so you need to make your profile stand out if you can. At the moment it doesn't if I am being honest.

This. If anything it comes across as a little desperate. It says absolutely nothing about you, what you like or what you are looking for."

I never even looked at it like that to be honest. Kind of typed it out, and then left it. Ha, I need to tone it down then.

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By *rWhistle OP Man
over a year ago

Hampshire

"You are looking for women but expect them to send a picture first and before they see you ?

Especially when as a rule they can have their pick from the 10's of men who openly send them face pics every day."

That's true, I didn't mean for it to come across as me wanted them to send me a message first. Just, if they were to then to attach a picture. I thought it would just be common courtesy? :S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks ok, take the warning off the bottom though, it's pointless.

Maybe have a few pics for people to look at. Other than that you might just be unlucky due to your age. Keep trying, you seem nice. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you can find a way I can rid myself of my noisy, disgusting, swearing, doorslamming upstairs neighbour, I would be interested.

I used to be nice, but he's making me horrid. Tearing me hair out, not making any progress.

If he has a dog...

PM me...;-)

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By *rWhistle OP Man
over a year ago

Hampshire

"Looks ok, take the warning off the bottom though, it's pointless.

Maybe have a few pics for people to look at. Other than that you might just be unlucky due to your age. Keep trying, you seem nice. Good luck. "

I have thought it might be an age thing. Seems that most of the girls my age group are interested in me in their 30's. There is no way I could even begin to pretend I'm older, as I still look about 18 :/

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By *rWhistle OP Man
over a year ago

Hampshire

All updated. Hopefully I get a bit more interest

Thanks for the advice peeps! x

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Your profile really doesn't say anything about what you're looking for from the people you meet, or what you can offer.

No public pics at all???? I don't mean face pics, lots of people keep them private.

The warning is bollocks... and worthless, take it off.

Your location is a bit confusing... if you live / work / travel between these places, maybe explain this

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By *rWhistle OP Man
over a year ago

Hampshire

"Your profile really doesn't say anything about what you're looking for from the people you meet, or what you can offer.

No public pics at all???? I don't mean face pics, lots of people keep them private.

The warning is bollocks... and worthless, take it off.

Your location is a bit confusing... if you live / work / travel between these places, maybe explain this

Updated my profile, although the picture thing I can understand. I do keep my face pics private. The only thing is, I need to find a way of getting some full body shots.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would like more pics ..Not just the cock , I like faces and bodys .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry OP but your profile wouldn't interest me. No photos (not expecting face pics on the public gallery but no photos at all puts me off) and little substance. Nothing really to repel me but nothing to make you stand out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you can find a way I can rid myself of my noisy, disgusting, swearing, doorslamming upstairs neighbour, I would be interested.

I used to be nice, but he's making me horrid. Tearing me hair out, not making any progress.

Have you spoken to him? If you have report him to the landlord and keep a log

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People never give us a reason why we should meet them or what they could do for us. If they did we would show interest.

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

Remove the "What are you all waiting for?" bit - it's highly unlikely that any woman will contact you first.

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By *njamesMan
over a year ago

Swindon

I think that you need to rid yourself of the infamous "cock pic" as your profile picture, this seems to be most un-appealing to most genuine people on here.

Plus you (we) are the absolute minority on this site as the single male...so maybe some more pictures?

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

Jimmy,

As I have said before on similar postings, you are just one of hundreds of other single guys on here, so in short, you have to "sell yourself!"

Whilst I did not see your original Profile content, what you have now isn't too bad. However, despite the image you wish to convey, you let it down with a spelling error in your description and that can sometimes put people off (it's spelt 'handsome' by the way)

You have chosen to list your attributes but have fallen into the usual trap (just as people do in their CV's too) by starting each sentence with "I" That unknowingly actually puts people off!

That last sentence, "What are you all waiting for?" smacks of desperation and also a tad arrogant, so ditch it!

Also, move the Cock pic to Private Photos, and instead (if you can) replace it with a Face pic.

Once you have any success, build on that; tweak your Profile periodically, with little changes here and there.

Good Luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are many men here so you need to make your profile stand out if you can. At the moment it doesn't if I am being honest."

So what exactly doe make a profile 'stand out'? Is it lots of information or very little information? I ask this as I've had a look at a few guys profiles to find out what may be wrong with mine, and honestly I'm non the wiser!

One profile I looked at had precisly FIVE words on it, he had a long list of verifications. Another read like war and bloody peace, again a long list of verifications.

To me NEITHER profile stood out, one read as 'can't be arsed', the other read as 'christ this guys boring'!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you can find a way I can rid myself of my noisy, disgusting, swearing, doorslamming upstairs neighbour, I would be interested.

I used to be nice, but he's making me horrid. Tearing me hair out, not making any progress.

Have you spoken to him? If you have report him to the landlord and keep a log"

I have done everything possible. Personal appeal, landlord, letting agent, social services (he has schizophrenia), had the police up many times and he has threatened me for knocking on his door to complain about the noise.

I feel like crying, at my wits end. The letting agent has supposedly requested "Accellerated Repossesion" but apparently this has stalled on the Judges's desk since beginning of May?!!!!!!!

Keeping a log and will be handing it to the Env Control at the council next week.

(slowly-pulling-my-hair-out of Kent)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you can find a way I can rid myself of my noisy, disgusting, swearing, doorslamming upstairs neighbour, I would be interested.

I used to be nice, but he's making me horrid. Tearing me hair out, not making any progress.

Have you spoken to him? If you have report him to the landlord and keep a log

I feel like crying, at my wits end. The letting agent has supposedly requested "Accellerated Repossesion" but apparently this has stalled on the Judges's desk since beginning of May?!!!!!!!

Keeping a log and will be handing it to the Env Control at the council next week.

(slowly-pulling-my-hair-out of Kent)

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Has this thread lost its way ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it is entitled help, and believe me, I need it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"it is entitled help, and believe me, I need it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you can find a way I can rid myself of my noisy, disgusting, swearing, doorslamming upstairs neighbour, I would be interested.

I used to be nice, but he's making me horrid. Tearing me hair out, not making any progress.

Have you spoken to him? If you have report him to the landlord and keep a log

I feel like crying, at my wits end. The letting agent has supposedly requested "Accellerated Repossesion" but apparently this has stalled on the Judges's desk since beginning of May?!!!!!!!

Keeping a log and will be handing it to the Env Control at the council next week.

(slowly-pulling-my-hair-out of Kent)

I will ask at work if there is anything else that can be done as I work for a housing association

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you can find a way I can rid myself of my noisy, disgusting, swearing, doorslamming upstairs neighbour, I would be interested.

I used to be nice, but he's making me horrid. Tearing me hair out, not making any progress.

Have you spoken to him? If you have report him to the landlord and keep a log

I feel like crying, at my wits end. The letting agent has supposedly requested "Accellerated Repossesion" but apparently this has stalled on the Judges's desk since beginning of May?!!!!!!!

Keeping a log and will be handing it to the Env Control at the council next week.

(slowly-pulling-my-hair-out of Kent)

I will ask at work if there is anything else that can be done as I work for a housing association"

Thanks for info.

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By *tehalifaxMan
over a year ago

halifax

ive been postin messages to couples n single girls on this site no not gettin no where n no replys or meets ive been honest n genuine ive been swinging for 3years now n on this site hardly anyone replys or just blocks people whats the point of them bein on here.... im steve 25 single male honest genuine from halifax lookin for nsa fun with couples n single ladies in halifax,huddersfield,bradford i love stockings or suspenders with a outfit or something sexy so ifbur intrested please mail me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stehalifax do you think it's appropriate to continually troll people's posts with this rubbish? Do you really think you're going to get a meet this way?

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"ive been postin messages to couples n single girls on this site no not gettin no where n no replys or meets ive been honest n genuine ive been swinging for 3years now n on this site hardly anyone replys or just blocks people whats the point of them bein on here.... im steve 25 single male honest genuine from halifax lookin for nsa fun with couples n single ladies in halifax,huddersfield,bradford i love stockings or suspenders with a outfit or something sexy so ifbur intrested please mail me "

Are you going to hijack ALL the other guys threads with this????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've reported it every time I've seen it so hopefully it will be gone soon enough

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