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By *arol321 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Poole

Is it normal to get friend requests from people who have never even messaged you?

I think it’s strange so I delete them.

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

Entirely normal. We get lots - mostly from single men with no verifications. Probably just wanting to see friends only pictures.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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It's pretty normal yes. I just delete them too.

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By *iberty RedWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

If you don't delete them they can't resend them.

I never understand it either if we've never spoken, just assume they are picture collectors wanting access to my private photos

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive asked ppl why they do it. Some said it was accidental, others said it gets them noticed over sending a message.

I do think ppl do it just to see private pics. I Dont delete them as they cant send another for 30 days.

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By *ostonJoeMan
over a year ago

Boston

Some people collect "friends" like its a Facebook game.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mostly op it’s just to see your private pictures so we have put “no friend requests “ in our profile which is one of the ways we can tell if they have read it or not which helps out the chaff on here.

Best of luck.

T

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get them all the time, if they can't be bothered to read our profile, or message we just delete them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you don't delete them they can't resend them."

Unfortunately they can after a certain amount of time has passed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

9 today do far even though our profile says we only accept if we have met

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it normal to get friend requests from people who have never even messaged you?

I think it’s strange so I delete them. "

Your get more now youve mentioned it lol

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"Is it normal to get friend requests from people who have never even messaged you?

I think it’s strange so I delete them. "
I get loads.. I do as you do and delete them x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive asked ppl why they do it. Some said it was accidental, others said it gets them noticed over sending a message.

I do think ppl do it just to see private pics. I Dont delete them as they cant send another for 30 days.

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To be fair this is true. If you are friends then msgs will go to the top of the list and if you are getting lots of msgs its actually a pretty smart move as it can be difficult to maintain conversation and progress when you get lost because others are flooding the inbox.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get them - and we don’t have any friends pics

We normally get an message with the excuse “sorry meant to hit wink but hit add as friend instead” when they’ve managed to get past the pics and perhaps actually read our profile. Fact trying that excuse as it’s two different screens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to delete them... then I thought maybe they want me to see their pics. So I wait till they are off line, accept the request, look at their pics then delete them as friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think we've all got so much in common. We should all be friends!

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Yep I get them regularly

Often wait til they've gone offline, add them, look at their pics and delete again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OMG..don’t get me started..!!!!!

I get tons every day, what’s a guy to do..?!?!

Had the very rare one without so much as a message, one today in fact, from some random living in Scotland no less.

Delete

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By *ouplefor funCouple
over a year ago

near kilmarnock

Yes just that

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

I like to accept them when they're off line, fab them (just to let them know iv done it) then unfriend them I think plenty of people do this too. We can't be the only ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get this all the time even though it says on my profile that I'll delete and block them so that they can't send any more invites x

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South

I never even check friend requests I send them to people who I want on my list

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mainly for me it's women wanting fabs to get on page 1 of pictures.

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By *arol321 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Poole

Thanks everyone. I’m a bit new to this on my own so just wanted a bit of input from you all - it’s appreciated. I’ll just keep deleting them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see a lot of women posting this about people requesting them as friends before even messaging.

I don’t get it, I mean they will get to see my friends pic too, and I’d like to send at least a few messages to know that they won’t be a fake pic collector also.

I think it’s the ones who request a friend request that have no friends pics of their own that are untrustworthy or more likely to be not quite who they say they are.

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By *rs BxxWoman
over a year ago

Chippenham, Wiltshire.


"Ive asked ppl why they do it. Some said it was accidental, others said it gets them noticed over sending a message.

I do think ppl do it just to see private pics. I Dont delete them as they cant send another for 30 days.

To be fair this is true. If you are friends then msgs will go to the top of the list and if you are getting lots of msgs its actually a pretty smart move as it can be difficult to maintain conversation and progress when you get lost because others are flooding the inbox."

I never knew this, I'll be watching now to see if it's true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same OP.. Unless I've chatted they just get deleted..

My theory is... If they cba... Neither can i

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Same OP.. Unless I've chatted they just get deleted..

My theory is... If they cba... Neither can i"

Could not agree more, adds more to the thrill as well, wondering what pics they may/may not have......... I mean it does for me anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Total Stranger friend requests are very `Fab Normal` total stranger as in never even sent a msg. I keep my `friends` list extremely limited. And yes better to not delete as then they cannot keep sending a friend request. I find it quite off the wall tbh... Avoid Them as I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d be happy to get one friend request lol!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ve had instances where we get a message saying “ X X has accepted your friend request” when we’ve never even sent one!

Has anyone else had this happen? x

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

Says in our profile that we block anyone sending a friend request when we've not chatted. And we do block them. Every time

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By *lasphemousGirlWoman
over a year ago

Cambs

I definitely delete the requests from strangers, if there are some good messages back and forth and the other person has private pics too that's when I'd add as a friend.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I don't have any pics set to friends only and still get random friend requests. I rarely check the requests but when I do I tend to just delete the lot.

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By *itvclaireTV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I don't have any pics set to friends only and still get random friend requests. I rarely check the requests but when I do I tend to just delete the lot."

Same here, all.my pics are public. Friends are those I've actually met or know.

XX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we get them, always from single men, we have now blocked single men from contacting us, guys, you dont help yourselves, and then come on the forums complaining you cant get meets, its just rude, block and delete, its the only way, shame that we felt the need to block single men, as we do like to meet them sometimes, but as always a few idiots ruin it for the rest

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By *ed velvet thornWoman
over a year ago

over the rainbow

I check their pics and if I like what I see and they have friends only aswell I accept but purely because my friends pics are more boring than my public ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

99% of these types of people are pic collectors and fantasist. Never going to meet. Clearly states on our profile we need to chat first too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We tend to ignore the friends request section, unless one we are talking with let's us know they've sent a request.

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