FabSwingers.com forum: dominated please help

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey all after advice. I met a girl on here she is 18 she wants me to be her master I an 27 but never dominated anyone before need some advice please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

google is your friend

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By *BOSSMan
over a year ago

Berkshire

Read 50 shades of grey

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By *iceguydaveMan
over a year ago

Monmouth

"Read 50 shades of grey"

..then chuck it away and read 'Justine' by the Marquis de Sade..

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By *awty nannaWoman
over a year ago

sheffield

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By *r Tony.Man
over a year ago

Warrington B'ham London Lowestoft

Then read the story of 'O' its got pictures in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Suggests that she joins a kink site and finds a dom or master that knows what he is doing? Not a great deal for you but probably a lot safer for everyone involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Domination isn't just about fucking and sometimes never is in certain relationships it's about a state of mind and reading what your partner is comfortable with. Trust is important nay vital for this to be successful. You are responsible for her safety. It is important to have codewords. One codeword for slow down what is happening at that moment as it is getting too much but don't stop the whole session. The second codeword is to stop the session. You MUST respect these codewords. The build up is as important as the event. When i play properly the build up can be several days before. Keep the game interesting. Leave notes with instructions in your house when she is expecting you to meet her to keep her guessing. sensory deprivation i.e blindfolds, earplugs are a great way to heighten senses. Toys and restraints are great to use but be careful with silk as the cut when they are put into knots and a bugger to undo. talk about it after and find out what she liked and what she didn't then progress the game with what you have learnt.

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

"Suggests that she joins a kink site and finds a dom or master that knows what he is doing? Not a great deal for you but probably a lot safer for everyone involved."

That's a bit harsh lol.

You can learn together but not really in the short term. If you are both totally in-experienced then you are both going to need to do your research and talk to people who are more experienced and the easiest way to do that is on the kink sites.

Look on the kink sites for recommended reading. (that's not 50 shades!) and start out slowly.

The heavier the play the more important to do it right obviously. Personally I would recommend you don't play with silk for restraint until you are more experienced and know how to

organise a scene. Simple things like having scissors discreetly handy for quick release can be easily missed. Or tying restraints so they don't end up cutting off circulation etc can be easily

missed in the beginning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Suggests that she joins a kink site and finds a dom or master that knows what he is doing? Not a great deal for you but probably a lot safer for everyone involved.

That's a bit harsh lol.

Look on the kink sites for recommended reading. (that's not 50 shades!) and start out slowly.

The heavier the play the more important to do it right obviously. Personally I would recommend you don't play with silk for restraint until you are more experienced and know how to

organise a scene. Simple things like having scissors discreetly handy for quick release can be easily missed. Or tying restraints so they don't end up cutting off circulation etc can be easily

missed in the beginning."
You two give great advice

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

"Suggests that she joins a kink site and finds a dom or master that knows what he is doing? Not a great deal for you but probably a lot safer for everyone involved.

That's a bit harsh lol.

Look on the kink sites for recommended reading. (that's not 50 shades!) and start out slowly.

The heavier the play the more important to do it right obviously. Personally I would recommend you don't play with silk for restraint until you are more experienced and know how to

organise a scene. Simple things like having scissors discreetly handy for quick release can be easily missed. Or tying restraints so they don't end up cutting off circulation etc can be easily

missed in the beginning.You two give great advice

It's only what we have learnt since we started exploring and speaking to those more experienced than us.

We are only at the beginning of the journey ourselves lol.

Lots of fun exploring though!!! Just have to do it right.

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By *lubPartyPeepsCouple
over a year ago

London

Wise words from Phonenix as always.

Surprised no one has mentioned what a lucky son-of-a-bitch you are also. No doubt such a scenario would be many a mans wet dream on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wise words from Phonenix as always.

Surprised no one has mentioned what a lucky son-of-a-bitch you are also. No doubt such a scenario would be many a mans wet dream on here.

yet did it happen or was it just a dream

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

"Wise words from Phonenix as always.

Surprised no one has mentioned what a lucky son-of-a-bitch you are also. No doubt such a scenario would be many a mans wet dream on here.

Lol thanks guys.

Believe me I know exactly how lucky I am

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By *anSusieCouple
over a year ago

Midlothian

many can learn to be a Dom + enjoy it but to be a Master is a real state of mind!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Domination isn't just about fucking and sometimes never is in certain relationships it's about a state of mind and reading what your partner is comfortable with. Trust is important nay vital for this to be successful. You are responsible for her safety. It is important to have codewords. One codeword for slow down what is happening at that moment as it is getting too much but don't stop the whole session. The second codeword is to stop the session. You MUST respect these codewords. The build up is as important as the event. When i play properly the build up can be several days before. Keep the game interesting. Leave notes with instructions in your house when she is expecting you to meet her to keep her guessing. sensory deprivation i.e blindfolds, earplugs are a great way to heighten senses. Toys and restraints are great to use but be careful with silk as the cut when they are put into knots and a bugger to undo. talk about it after and find out what she liked and what she didn't then progress the game with what you have learnt."

At least someone had the decency to give some proper advice. Well done!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey all after advice. I met a girl on here she is 18 she wants me to be her master I an 27 but never dominated anyone before need some advice please "
pull her hair shout at her . O and make her stand in the corner of the room er em think that's about it !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Suggests that she joins a kink site and finds a dom or master that knows what he is doing? Not a great deal for you but probably a lot safer for everyone involved.

That's a bit harsh lol.

Harsh yes. But the green arrow will point you in the direction of an identical post the OP made elsewhere on the forums and judging by his subsequent comments I think I was also totally fair.

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

"Suggests that she joins a kink site and finds a dom or master that knows what he is doing? Not a great deal for you but probably a lot safer for everyone involved.

That's a bit harsh lol.

Harsh yes. But the green arrow will point you in the direction of an identical post the OP made elsewhere on the forums and judging by his subsequent comments I think I was also totally fair."

Oh ffs lol. That will teach me.

In retrospect it wasn't harsh at all you were bang on the money and I was assuming that the op had half a clue.

To the Op having read through some

of your other thread your not a Dom your a bully and and your never gonna make a Dom.

Your friend could do with either a knowledgable Dom in their life or a psychologist before you fuck them up totally, that's if they exsist.

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