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Why do some men/women have such a sense of entitlement??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi lovely fabbers!

This is something that is really getting to me lately and is making me want to leave the fab scene altogether.

Why if some men don’t get a response straight away do they feel the need to reply with offensive, abusive messages? I know not everyone is like this, but there’s seems to be more that are these days. For instance one charmer just told me to “go f*** yourself fatty”....and that was probably the nicest part of the message.

I guess this isn’t really a question as much as a statement....but please tell me there are some decent people left out there??

E xo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course there are xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are some decent ppl on here. Just block and report the nasty ones. Don't let them put you off

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South


"Hi lovely fabbers!

This is something that is really getting to me lately and is making me want to leave the fab scene altogether.

Why if some men don’t get a response straight away do they feel the need to reply with offensive, abusive messages? I know not everyone is like this, but there’s seems to be more that are these days. For instance one charmer just told me to “go f*** yourself fatty”....and that was probably the nicest part of the message.

I guess this isn’t really a question as much as a statement....but please tell me there are some decent people left out there??

E xo"

This is why I’ve started not replying .... the abuse you get when you decline makes it not worth it.

I’m losing hope of decent single men existing on here too

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

You get bad apples every where, there's something about the internet that brings out the worst in some people at times. But on the main I would say most people on here are nice and friendly enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You say men/women, but I hazard that you probably mean men. Let’s be honest, you don’t get the same from women on this site.

Why? I think it’s often an expression of anger and frustration that some men feel. They often join the site hoping to get to meet women and couples, then realise that they’ve not got a cat in hells chance due to numbers and they’ve neither got the charm, intelligence or looks to get anywhere. Hence they hit out.

Others are just misogynistic pricks.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

They exist. And while (when my filters are open) men are the vast majority of the vile stuff, I do find couples and women have entitlement in different ways.

It never goes away, but it gets easier to deal with. Be ruthless and don't take it to heart. The block button is your best friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had my share of those kind of replies tho not so much lately, I've also seen some pretty bad behaviour on the forums lately from women harassing men and thinking it's OK cause they'were just kidding'.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You say men/women, but I hazard that you probably mean men. Let’s be honest, you don’t get the same from women on this site.

Why? I think it’s often an expression of anger and frustration that some men feel. They often join the site hoping to get to meet women and couples, then realise that they’ve not got a cat in hells chance due to numbers and they’ve neither got the charm, intelligence or looks to get anywhere. Hence they hit out.

Others are just misogynistic pricks. "

I was trying to be diplomatic lol...but it is definitely more men.

I understand they are frustrated and there are so many in comparison to females/couples...but they haven’t a hope in hell if they don’t change their attitude. Guys get annoyed at being turned down after messages that simply say “hi” or “wanna f**k”. Do they really believe that people are going to drop everything and run off to them legs open?

A little effort and kindness could go a long way.

I do agree with you though x

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

The internet just brings out the nutters ..there are loads of lovely people on here. I love organised socials and clubs..its so different from the anonymous internet...people are, generally, pleasant and charming . you have my sympathies..I hate rude people..they are Just ignorant...

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

I think the most important thing is to remember is you don’t need to give a fuck what anyone who doesn’t know you and you don’t consider important in your life thinks of you. And then remember they don’t actually think it, they just say it because they can with no consequences. They think nothing of you, and you can think nothing of them. It’s ok.

I very very rarely reply with a no to anyone because I simply can’t be arsed. Use the “no reply means no thanks” option. And just block the utter wankers (whoever they are)

Then go back to your day and don’t lose sleep.

(Hug)

V x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"They exist. And while (when my filters are open) men are the vast majority of the vile stuff, I do find couples and women have entitlement in different ways.

It never goes away, but it gets easier to deal with. Be ruthless and don't take it to heart. The block button is your best friend."

Yes I agree with you completely. Couples and women can be very dismissive or present like they are a higher power.

Taking your advice though, I need to become more ruthless! Wouldn’t it be lovely if everyone could just be kind and respectful to each other x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think the most important thing is to remember is you don’t need to give a fuck what anyone who doesn’t know you and you don’t consider important in your life thinks of you. And then remember they don’t actually think it, they just say it because they can with no consequences. They think nothing of you, and you can think nothing of them. It’s ok.

I very very rarely reply with a no to anyone because I simply can’t be arsed. Use the “no reply means no thanks” option. And just block the utter wankers (whoever they are)

Then go back to your day and don’t lose sleep.

(Hug)

V x "

Thanks V you are 100% right! I need to stop letting these things bug me, it’s not worth the brain power x

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth


"They exist. And while (when my filters are open) men are the vast majority of the vile stuff, I do find couples and women have entitlement in different ways.

It never goes away, but it gets easier to deal with. Be ruthless and don't take it to heart. The block button is your best friend.

Yes I agree with you completely. Couples and women can be very dismissive or present like they are a higher power.

Taking your advice though, I need to become more ruthless! Wouldn’t it be lovely if everyone could just be kind and respectful to each other x"

At organised socials (I have a couples profile with a lady and we have organised socials in birmingham ) we find that the blokes that come along are presentable charming and sociable...only ever had poor behaviour issues with a few couples and two single ladies ......

I wanted to organise them for exactly that reason..I wanted charm, good chat and looking nice to be what mattered...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You say men/women, but I hazard that you probably mean men. Let’s be honest, you don’t get the same from women on this site.

Why? I think it’s often an expression of anger and frustration that some men feel. They often join the site hoping to get to meet women and couples, then realise that they’ve not got a cat in hells chance due to numbers and they’ve neither got the charm, intelligence or looks to get anywhere. Hence they hit out.

Others are just misogynistic pricks.

I was trying to be diplomatic lol...but it is definitely more men.

I understand they are frustrated and there are so many in comparison to females/couples...but they haven’t a hope in hell if they don’t change their attitude. Guys get annoyed at being turned down after messages that simply say “hi” or “wanna f**k”. Do they really believe that people are going to drop everything and run off to them legs open?

A little effort and kindness could go a long way.

I do agree with you though x"

I can kind of see it both ways though. We came back on last night after months and months away. We’ve already got loads of messages from single guys (we don’t have filters up for various reasons) and we won’t reply to them. So from their point of view, they may have spent ages crafting a message, just for it to be ignored. That must get frustrating.

I wonder if they then start changing their approach until they eventually end up with the 'Hi' message. It gets the same response but they’ve invested less? Viscous circle, because no one replies to ''Hi' but it confirms to them that no one wants them and women and couples are up their own arse.....

Really there needs to be a way of controlling the number of single men. That’s the main problem.

I think I’ve over thought this, this afternoon - we need to get out of a weekend

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I find it's a very small minority of offensive people in reality, though they can tend to dampen your day if you let them. I just tend to be grateful that I'm not of that same outlook to life - it must be a miserable existence.

Block and report. You just need to have that lovely message come in to be reminded that the fab community isn't all like that.

C

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth


"You say men/women, but I hazard that you probably mean men. Let’s be honest, you don’t get the same from women on this site.

Why? I think it’s often an expression of anger and frustration that some men feel. They often join the site hoping to get to meet women and couples, then realise that they’ve not got a cat in hells chance due to numbers and they’ve neither got the charm, intelligence or looks to get anywhere. Hence they hit out.

Others are just misogynistic pricks.

I was trying to be diplomatic lol...but it is definitely more men.

I understand they are frustrated and there are so many in comparison to females/couples...but they haven’t a hope in hell if they don’t change their attitude. Guys get annoyed at being turned down after messages that simply say “hi” or “wanna f**k”. Do they really believe that people are going to drop everything and run off to them legs open?

A little effort and kindness could go a long way.

I do agree with you though x

I can kind of see it both ways though. We came back on last night after months and months away. We’ve already got loads of messages from single guys (we don’t have filters up for various reasons) and we won’t reply to them. So from their point of view, they may have spent ages crafting a message, just for it to be ignored. That must get frustrating.

I wonder if they then start changing their approach until they eventually end up with the 'Hi' message. It gets the same response but they’ve invested less? Viscous circle, because no one replies to ''Hi' but it confirms to them that no one wants them and women and couples are up their own arse.....

Really there needs to be a way of controlling the number of single men. That’s the main problem.

I think I’ve over thought this, this afternoon - we need to get out of a weekend "

I'm an old fart ..and I dont do to bad on messaging folk...I enjoy the challenge of trying to write something that gets their attention ...I think some of the guys on here would do well to get out and chat to ladies in real life ..they seem to invest to much of their Hope on here ...

Birmingham is packed with single woman..

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By *heonixRaven 777Woman
over a year ago

Guildford

Unfortunately I don’t think it’s limited to the site, it is society in general.

With everything there are good and bad people, and remember it’s takes all sorts to make the world go round.

You do not owe anybody anything not even an explanation. Just respect yourself and hit the block button and don’t them ruin your day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont really understand the term sense of entitlement. If someone sends me a message their choice. If I choose not to reply my choice.

Very rarely get abusive messages and I dont have many on my block list. Its usually when they keep sending message after I havent replied to the previous ones.

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

Some men carnt take it when people say no to them yes this is a sex site but dos not give anybody a reson to be nasty to others some of us are polite to others please stay and dont be put off with nasty people theres loads of good honest and respectful People on here too

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By *irtyold manMan
over a year ago

barnsley

I think itsnew swingers who havent the years under theire belt of experiance.ive been turned down in the past and had women come back because i was polite about it.but dont think this is just a man thing ive had women turn nasty for no reason.its more of a lack of experiance

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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters


"Hi lovely fabbers!

This is something that is really getting to me lately and is making me want to leave the fab scene altogether.

Why if some men don’t get a response straight away do they feel the need to reply with offensive, abusive messages? I know not everyone is like this, but there’s seems to be more that are these days. For instance one charmer just told me to “go f*** yourself fatty”....and that was probably the nicest part of the message.

I guess this isn’t really a question as much as a statement....but please tell me there are some decent people left out there??

E xo"

It's because they have fragile egos, and they lack the emotional maturity and resilience not to lash out at you. It's allllll about them, and nothing to do with you, remember that, and just block them and move on.

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By *owhambamMan
over a year ago

clacton

Yes as a single male this site can be very frustrating, but it can also give you the biggest ego boost. You can spend as he’s composing a message tailored to the person/ persons you’re interested in, being polite and showing respect and giving common interests. Then you get the read message but no reply, ok we should all no what that means. Then reply bingo you’ve got someone’s attention, now you have too keep it for a chance to meet. Then you read replied chatted then nothing, you don’t know why but the other person has lost interest in you. Lastly you have the unread, well these are the ones that probably cause more problems than any other. To the sender it’s why haven’t they read it, to the receivers it’s why am I getting another from the same person. So as you can see, there’s frustration building up in all corners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I send a face pic I usually say if Im not your type just say and they do. We cant all be everyones cup of tea and if you can tell people they arent your type you should be able to be told by some that you arent their type either.

And at the end of the day if they dont want to meet you its their loss

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.


"Hi lovely fabbers!

This is something that is really getting to me lately and is making me want to leave the fab scene altogether.

Why if some men don’t get a response straight away do they feel the need to reply with offensive, abusive messages? I know not everyone is like this, but there’s seems to be more that are these days. For instance one charmer just told me to “go f*** yourself fatty”....and that was probably the nicest part of the message.

I guess this isn’t really a question as much as a statement....but please tell me there are some decent people left out there??

E xo

It's because they have fragile egos, and they lack the emotional maturity and resilience not to lash out at you. It's allllll about them, and nothing to do with you, remember that, and just block them and move on."

Exactly this.

I have stopped replying with polite no thank yous now, as a tiny minority would reply aggressively.

However, they are the ones that you remember, and have the ability to get through your defences, on a bad day.

Just ignore & move on, OP. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have it specifically on profile, I only reply to those I'm interested in and still get abuse.

I've been called sad and deluded by someone outside of my age range simply because I hadn't replied to their message because God forbid I have a life outside of Fab.

Sometimes the behaviour of men I've experienced is just mind blowing... But then they feel they can say what they want when they're behind a screen.

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By *stwo80Couple
over a year ago

yorkshire

We have stopped replying for that reason , the latest one told us to F off back to our knitting when we said that we weren't meeting due to the lock down

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By *hatalovelypairCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

Just had a look at your profile and you look gorgeous.

My guess is some people think so highly of themselves that only the most perfect of specimens is good enough for their endeavours.

Take no notice. Block and move on, report them if they were purely being nasty for their own entertainment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You say men/women, but I hazard that you probably mean men. Let’s be honest, you don’t get the same from women on this site.

Why? I think it’s often an expression of anger and frustration that some men feel. They often join the site hoping to get to meet women and couples, then realise that they’ve not got a cat in hells chance due to numbers and they’ve neither got the charm, intelligence or looks to get anywhere. Hence they hit out.

Others are just misogynistic pricks. "

Think it’s more like a lot join EXPECTING to meet women and/or couples. Yes the numbers game makes it more difficult for single guys, but I’d hazard the single guys who DO get meets tend to be the ones who show respect (especially with couples - ok you’re only interested in the woman but show respect to their partner too and address messages to both of them, at least initially), don’t be pushy, don’t start any exchange of messages with “sex talk”. Read profiles and take note - don’t just stop at the pics etc.

And it’s not exclusive to men - we’ve experienced similar things from couples (both “fab couples and genuine verified couples).

If somebody sends you a polite negative response, it is not an excuse for you to send an insulting or offensive response , it doesn’t matter you ARE frustrated, as opposed to in many cases it is very possibly more of a case that your entitled ego doesn’t like the fact that people had the temerity to turn you down

We’re very much not anti-single guys, the majority of our play in clubs is with single guys or groups of guys, and I had experience on the scene as a single guy before I was lucky enough to meet Smoke - so we can empathise how difficult it can be for genuine people on here.

Fire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You most probably find they are not nice people in other ways as well as on here. Some people are just born nasty.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

To a certain extent that's the Internet as a whole. Facelessness of it all empowers people to be dicks, especially the ones with weak egos.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just had a look at your profile and you look gorgeous.

My guess is some people think so highly of themselves that only the most perfect of specimens is good enough for their endeavours.

Take no notice. Block and move on, report them if they were purely being nasty for their own entertainment. "

Awk thank you, that’s very kind you are gorgeous love your pics!

You are just right! Normally I don’t take people under my notice but every now and again there’s just one that rubs you up the wrong way isn’t there! X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To a certain extent that's the Internet as a whole. Facelessness of it all empowers people to be dicks, especially the ones with weak egos. "

I think this is 100% spot on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To a certain extent that's the Internet as a whole. Facelessness of it all empowers people to be dicks, especially the ones with weak egos. "

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Sadly it is the case and totally wrong as we are all here to enjoy and this can have a knock on affect on the decent ones But live in hope as their are some very nice people I myself have lost loads of female friends via those similar actions from others as some just make additional accounts to continue to attack but reporting helps to keep this place enjoyable and blocking helps so can continue to enjoy hassle free

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By *ny1localMan
over a year ago

READING


"Hi lovely fabbers!

This is something that is really getting to me lately and is making me want to leave the fab scene altogether.

Why if some men don’t get a response straight away do they feel the need to reply with offensive, abusive messages? I know not everyone is like this, but there’s seems to be more that are these days. For instance one charmer just told me to “go f*** yourself fatty”....and that was probably the nicest part of the message.

I guess this isn’t really a question as much as a statement....but please tell me there are some decent people left out there??

"
I've had a quick look at your pics, they've all been fabbed more than 400 times, I would say there's a lot more decent folks out there than the nasty ones.

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

3 blocks tonight

young guy didn't understand that I don't go for younger - argued, like that's going to get you anywhere

another with 'only live once' and thought that would get him fun - block

a guy it seems only into sploshing, like you can do that every night.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Its a shame that people act in this way, and the common question most normal people have is do these people believe their attitude shift will somehow change your mind?

But its the internet, people can hide behind their profile and be dicks and try and get some sense of empowerment by ruining other peoples days (or so they think).

Ignore and don’t let them get to you. What ever flaws they feel you have (fat, ugly, small penis etc.) just remember theirs are far worse.

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South

This thread has resulting in a handful of messages referring to this thread and thinking my comment was about them ... sigh.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Unfortunately that’s how it is sometimes in here. But if you have been here long enough you will understand that and don’t your waste your time and energy on this type of negativity

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By *ceKweenWoman
over a year ago

Bolton

Messages are hard enough but when numpties don't get the response they’re after and ruin it for some lovely genuine people out there trying to break the ice.

Best way... is a social. I’m so looking forward to these starting up again and it’s by far the best way to find friends, naughty and nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block (over 500 do far) and report.

Its not nice its not big and not clever..

#bekind.

Op.. the wonders of fab.

Hold your head higher than those

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP . This is what spoils it for the decent single guys on here. On my couple's profile we have single males blocked for this reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've used Fab for many years, since 2015 infact! coming on and off, as and when it suits me, but, this time around, I find the majority of users are increasingly just on here for a cheap thrill, I think most of the genuine swingers have hidden their profiles during this awful time we are all experiencing, I re joined to cam with verified users, as am working from home now.

But all in all, there is a marked changed, puts me off, every time I log in!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This site has changed massively since me and jenny were singles on here. Now seems quite a lot of timewasters, pic collectors, keyboard wankers/warriors and guys who get abusive if you turn them down. Was not like this years ago. John.

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By *inkyandsexyMan
over a year ago

Eastbourne

Thank goodness for the lovely button called, BLOCK. You’ll always get some a few bad apples in a barrel but the majority are good.

Just block and move on and don’t let hateful comments get to you, a lot of it is jealousy and loneliness and desperation.

We find that the overwhelming majority of people on this site are nice. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This site like any contact site has a vast swathe of bellends is why

Block / ignore / delete whatever ... occasionally I screenshot a cracking message to post on my social media for comedy value to my followers to enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This site like any contact site has a vast swathe of bellends is why

Block / ignore / delete whatever ... occasionally I screenshot a cracking message to post on my social media for comedy value to my followers to enjoy "

You dont publish username?

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"OP . This is what spoils it for the decent single guys on here. On my couple's profile we have single males blocked for this reason. "

I don't agree with this at all and it's constantly being said on here. If anything it makes decent guys stand out more .

And yes there are quite a lot of entitled people on here of both genders and couples as well.

I just block any abuse and don't let it get to me anymore.Why let a random person you don't know ruin it for you. I've had the usual abuse when I say no and that includes from women (even though I have straight on my profile ) and some of the messages I've gotten off couples have been really bad as well but now I just roll my eyes and delete them. Usually you can tell before you even open the message the gist of it and it's easily to delete than bother wasting time reading it.

To be fair though most say thanks for the reply and that's it .

Op don't let it get to you they are looking a reaction and to upset you by saying what they say .Don't let them win by getting it.

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By *aulaxd2020TV/TS
over a year ago

dudley


"Some men carnt take it when people say no to them yes this is a sex site but dos not give anybody a reson to be nasty to others some of us are polite to others please stay and dont be put off with nasty people theres loads of good honest and respectful People on here too "
what really pisses me off is when men who have never even messaged previously send the one word question “Meet?” Then when you reply back with “No” the toy throwing begins...... you have to ask yourself would you really want to be meeting these kind of people anyway

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

local, but not too local

People are twats.

More so on the internet, and even more so during lockdown.

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By *urrey_2011Man
over a year ago

Dorking

Just a general internet thing.. people just seem to think they can be rude as it’s faceless. I must admit it’s frustrating when you spend time writing a polite message just to be ignored but I’m sure couples/single ladies must get inundated with rude messages.. very sad.

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

Blinkered.

All they can see is their profile and yours.

They don't see the hundreds of similar profiles also sending messages to you.

They think that recieving one opening message a week is good going, and don't believe that even a blank female profile, with no details, photos etc will get a hundred messages in the first hour it appears.

Block and move on

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By *yphodMan
over a year ago

London

Best they show their true nature on here before you meet. No means No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately there are many rude people, wannabe players, fantasists who have no idea on what the real swinging world is. These people don’t take rejection well and become verbal and rude. These same people will most likely be barred from clubs.

Clubs and being polite is normal. Never expect to play, just enjoy chatting and who knows where that will lead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi lovely fabbers!

This is something that is really getting to me lately and is making me want to leave the fab scene altogether.

Why if some men don’t get a response straight away do they feel the need to reply with offensive, abusive messages? I know not everyone is like this, but there’s seems to be more that are these days. For instance one charmer just told me to “go f*** yourself fatty”....and that was probably the nicest part of the message.

I guess this isn’t really a question as much as a statement....but please tell me there are some decent people left out there??

E xo"

Oh wow that is so rude and uncalled for! We as a couple have had a few rude messages when we have decided to politely tell someone they are not for us. Which brings me to another question if I may....is it more polite to ignore someone or politely wish them well if they are not for you?

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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Any rude people are instantly blocked x

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By *DW1983Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen, Leeds, Sheffield

I genuinely don't get the need for abusive messages, it seems to be a recurring theme. It wouldn't even cross my mind no matter how frustrated I was. I hope they are banned when reported to Admin.

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

I think a lot of people ingeneral are nastier. I have experienced it at work and home.

It is a lot easier to do in via a message on the internet and one way to look at ot would be, at least you didn't invest any time. It's just learning to be able to to diconnect with it. Invest in the positive people for a while.

Try not to let other people's degative or abusive tendancies interfere with the person you are. Some people are just shit.

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By *onnoisseur100Man
over a year ago

Woking-ish

OP I can't understand it either, what possibly chance do they think they have of changing your mind with an abusive response?

Sadly it seems to have become acceptable to some people to do this.

Personally I think you look fab and suggest like in other areas of life you have to kiss a lot of frogs.......

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"You say men/women, but I hazard that you probably mean men. Let’s be honest, you don’t get the same from women on this site.

Why? I think it’s often an expression of anger and frustration that some men feel. They often join the site hoping to get to meet women and couples, then realise that they’ve not got a cat in hells chance due to numbers and they’ve neither got the charm, intelligence or looks to get anywhere. Hence they hit out.

Others are just misogynistic pricks. "

No, women in couples are bad too, very entitled. They seem to control what is happening, the men don’t get much say in anything. Well that’s my experience of some of them.

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By *rcadian110Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

We opened our filters to single guys for just one day. The amount of venom was unbelievable. Talking about Rhiannon like a piece of meat and calling me every ugly, fat shaming slur you can think of. Out of several hundred messages only a handful were funny, or polite and respectful. There are a lot of good guys out there but it's trawling through the swamp to find them that makes it difficult for both us as well as them. We stick to finding single guys at clubs where we can get a measure of them face to face and if both of us don't feel comfortable we say no thank you. No matter if rhiannons randy or not. I can be a good judge of character and rarely deny her anything but if I get a bad vibe I'm not going to set it aside. It's not worth risking the woman I love. This is for fun after all. The respectful guys are usually welcome , even if just for a drink , flirt and possible new wingmen. Lol

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By *iscreet-is-paramountMan
over a year ago

somewhere only we know.

Worse now than it ever was. The ratio to women, cpls and men are well favoured towards single women so they get far more messages than ever.

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

luton

Hi snowball just delete and block ,simple as that unfortunately there are some desperate sicko s on here ,you will get it anywhere ,plenty nice people on here too ,ps hope you succeed with all your wishes x

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By *uicy jugsWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Hi lovely fabbers!

This is something that is really getting to me lately and is making me want to leave the fab scene altogether.

Why if some men don’t get a response straight away do they feel the need to reply with offensive, abusive messages? I know not everyone is like this, but there’s seems to be more that are these days. For instance one charmer just told me to “go f*** yourself fatty”....and that was probably the nicest part of the message.

I guess this isn’t really a question as much as a statement....but please tell me there are some decent people left out there??

E xo"

Its cos they mistake a swingung site for a free i will have sex with anyone site ..... sad men who in reality still think women are theres to do with what they want

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near

If I'm not busy I'll respond to messages, then if i don't I get the

Not talking then

Did i say something wrong

Goodness me fellas we all have a life away from fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You get bad apples every where, there's something about the internet that brings out the worst in some people at times. But on the main I would say most people on here are nice and friendly enough. "

I agree with you on this matey.

There's some right keyboard warriors on the internet that wouldn't dare to say anything in real life.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

It can become quite deflating.

I've certainly been put off meeting because of many reasons but including this one.

Thing is, you've no idea if people you may consider meeting are pricks- because you've not actually turned them down so would only know if they behave badly if you did.

Add to that the sheer volume wanting to meet during lockdown, well that showed me just how many really don't fucking care about safety.

Yes, I could have used my filters, but then I stood the chance of not realising someone I may agree to meet in the future had spent all of lockdown in a car park begging for a cock sucking coz his balls were blue and they NEEEEEEEEEEDED emptying (ok, not ALL of lockdown)

It's sad. Really sad actually.

I reckon to 80% of the site, I'm a hole to be used and nothing more. That's a bitter pill to swallow.

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By *outhseaMan69Man
over a year ago

Portsmouth

[Removed by poster at 31/03/21 00:34:34]

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By *outhseaMan69Man
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Spot on!

The amount of no responses is incredible. When I get a thanks but no thanks I always respond now with thank you.

Because it’s so rare it’s almost like you think we’ll have a look - respond if you wish and then we can chat more,

I once sent a simple message to a couple that had looked at my profile and I suggested politely that we could swap pics if they wanted and the torrent of abuse I got was disgusting.

Good debate though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Southsea man has a point

Some couples tbh are pretty obnoxious even to the extent that they lack manners replying to a simple message

I personally can't be arsed - I'm just rude first and get my retaliation in early

20 years of going to swingers clubs leaves you with a very warped sense of humour iro couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Southsea man has a point

Some couples tbh are pretty obnoxious even to the extent that they lack manners replying to a simple message

I personally can't be arsed - I'm just rude first and get my retaliation in early

20 years of going to swingers clubs leaves you with a very warped sense of humour iro couples "

This is exactly why single guys get a bad rep.

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By *ihimbiherCouple
over a year ago

lightwater

We like it when we get the abuse..... nothing anyone can say that will upset us but it just shows the mentality of some people........ we also like to answer cold callers from India so I guess this gives more of an insight to us lol

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Spot on!

The amount of no responses is incredible. When I get a thanks but no thanks I always respond now with thank you.

Because it’s so rare it’s almost like you think we’ll have a look - respond if you wish and then we can chat more,

I once sent a simple message to a couple that had looked at my profile and I suggested politely that we could swap pics if they wanted and the torrent of abuse I got was disgusting.

Good debate though! "

I’m not condoning the abuse from that couple as that’s wrong but why would you message them because they looked at your profile? They obviously looked but you weren’t suitable, they would have messaged you after looking if they had an interest in you. I find it strange a man would expect a message because someone looked at his profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I find it strange a man would expect a message because someone looked at his profile. "

You mean they feel entitled ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This site can make you feel ugly, it is usually men that are feeling horny and feel they want it now.. and when that doesn't happen their ugly self shines as their dummy get spat out

. So our motto is "real swingers understands the game of swinging".. and forget rest they don't deserve your time and energy

BTW beautiful profile..

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"This site can make you feel ugly, it is usually men that are feeling horny and feel they want it now.. and when that doesn't happen their ugly self shines as their dummy get spat out

. So our motto is "real swingers understands the game of swinging".. and forget rest they don't deserve your time and energy

BTW beautiful profile.."

Can you use reply and quote so we know who you are answering. The guys who do that and show their true colours aren’t ‘swingers’, they are single guys looking for a fix, that’s not the true spirit of a swinger...it’s quite shocking how they behave on here.....

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By *S2004Man
over a year ago

Bromsgrove


"This site can make you feel ugly, it is usually men that are feeling horny and feel they want it now.. and when that doesn't happen their ugly self shines as their dummy get spat out

. So our motto is "real swingers understands the game of swinging".. and forget rest they don't deserve your time and energy

BTW beautiful profile.."

So true. We mainly meet at clubs for this reason. On the whole people there understand swinging (by the way I have figured out they are currently closed before some angry guy corrects me)

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By *mbisextrousCouple
over a year ago

Manchester/Glossop

Men seem to be getting bad press on here but as we don’t meet men we can’t really comment, but what we will say is single women can be very strange as well on here to, for example, we would not look at you or contact you if you didn’t come up on our preference page so it’s your profile page that’s states this, why put meet couples if you have never met any and all your veris say that and bi Curious or bi sexual when again all you meet is men, so when you contact them because of there profiles status coming up they also can be off with you which we find strange or even block you.You can change your preferences at anytime on your profile so it’s not the person who asks fault. We did think some women on here think it’s a site for them only and whats been said it’s a swingers site not a dating site which to us are two different things xx

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By *K herts mMan
over a year ago

Fleetwood

Sadly like everything the few spoil it for the many. I realise in this case few could be a loose term. Just try not to take it to heart and move on to the next one, as there are plenty of decent people out there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi lovely fabbers!

This is something that is really getting to me lately and is making me want to leave the fab scene altogether.

Why if some men don’t get a response straight away do they feel the need to reply with offensive, abusive messages? I know not everyone is like this, but there’s seems to be more that are these days. For instance one charmer just told me to “go f*** yourself fatty”....and that was probably the nicest part of the message.

I guess this isn’t really a question as much as a statement....but please tell me there are some decent people left out there??

E xo

This is why I’ve started not replying .... the abuse you get when you decline makes it not worth it.

I’m losing hope of decent single men existing on here too "

^^^^^^^ I've started to not reply either. Some see any reply as encouragement and will start to plague me. Some guys will be all nice at first...then when they realise that I'm serious when I say and have said I'm not meeting...they turn into this totally different nasty abusive ignorant imbecile.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Hi lovely fabbers!

This is something that is really getting to me lately and is making me want to leave the fab scene altogether.

Why if some men don’t get a response straight away do they feel the need to reply with offensive, abusive messages? I know not everyone is like this, but there’s seems to be more that are these days. For instance one charmer just told me to “go f*** yourself fatty”....and that was probably the nicest part of the message.

I guess this isn’t really a question as much as a statement....but please tell me there are some decent people left out there??

E xo

This is why I’ve started not replying .... the abuse you get when you decline makes it not worth it.

I’m losing hope of decent single men existing on here too

^^^^^^^ I've started to not reply either. Some see any reply as encouragement and will start to plague me. Some guys will be all nice at first...then when they realise that I'm serious when I say and have said I'm not meeting...they turn into this totally different nasty abusive ignorant imbecile. "

I reply politely then block them. I don’t give them chance to be abusive from that message. However some have deleted the profile, created new and send me abuse. Guys like this have too much time on their hands.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

A lot of this would be stopped if the site had a combined block and send a 'No tganks' reply button but most people haven't been in favour of it, when it's been suggested before

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I send a face pic I usually say if Im not your type just say and they do. We cant all be everyones cup of tea and if you can tell people they arent your type you should be able to be told by some that you arent their type either.

And at the end of the day if they dont want to meet you its their loss "

I do this too! I'm not for everyone and keeps it interesting Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi lovely fabbers!

This is something that is really getting to me lately and is making me want to leave the fab scene altogether.

Why if some men don’t get a response straight away do they feel the need to reply with offensive, abusive messages? I know not everyone is like this, but there’s seems to be more that are these days. For instance one charmer just told me to “go f*** yourself fatty”....and that was probably the nicest part of the message.

I guess this isn’t really a question as much as a statement....but please tell me there are some decent people left out there??

E xo

This is why I’ve started not replying .... the abuse you get when you decline makes it not worth it.

I’m losing hope of decent single men existing on here too "

Don’t loose hope we are out there just block them in fact it’s a good way of getting rid of the wolves in sheep’s clothing don’t reply to anyone for a few days if they give you abuse block if they don’t reply lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi lovely fabbers!

This is something that is really getting to me lately and is making me want to leave the fab scene altogether.

Why if some men don’t get a response straight away do they feel the need to reply with offensive, abusive messages? I know not everyone is like this, but there’s seems to be more that are these days. For instance one charmer just told me to “go f*** yourself fatty”....and that was probably the nicest part of the message.

I guess this isn’t really a question as much as a statement....but please tell me there are some decent people left out there??

E xo"

I find this. I also have people presume that because I don't show face on profiles am honest about my size and I'm over 40 that I don't have standards and should be grateful for the poorly crafted messages etc. It's frustrating and is the reason I now have a long block list xx

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Hi lovely fabbers!

This is something that is really getting to me lately and is making me want to leave the fab scene altogether.

Why if some men don’t get a response straight away do they feel the need to reply with offensive, abusive messages? I know not everyone is like this, but there’s seems to be more that are these days. For instance one charmer just told me to “go f*** yourself fatty”....and that was probably the nicest part of the message.

I guess this isn’t really a question as much as a statement....but please tell me there are some decent people left out there??

E xo

I find this. I also have people presume that because I don't show face on profiles am honest about my size and I'm over 40 that I don't have standards and should be grateful for the poorly crafted messages etc. It's frustrating and is the reason I now have a long block list xx"

I’ve had the attitude I should be grateful a man is interested in me because I’m a size 18. Erm nope not grateful. I’m a full size 18, a gorgeous sexy, sassy confident woman who is actually happy with her size so you guys with that attitude can just get lost....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi lovely fabbers!

This is something that is really getting to me lately and is making me want to leave the fab scene altogether.

Why if some men don’t get a response straight away do they feel the need to reply with offensive, abusive messages? I know not everyone is like this, but there’s seems to be more that are these days. For instance one charmer just told me to “go f*** yourself fatty”....and that was probably the nicest part of the message.

I guess this isn’t really a question as much as a statement....but please tell me there are some decent people left out there??

E xo

This is why I’ve started not replying .... the abuse you get when you decline makes it not worth it.

I’m losing hope of decent single men existing on here too "

Don't loose hope as there are decent guys on here.

However, I notice that you started not replying 2 years ago. As you didn't reply to me then but I didn't complain. Its Fab life not to have a reply.

When I do have a reply and it's a no thank you. I think them for replying and wish them happy fabbing.

No drama or hassle either way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to be so well mannered haha xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it not there right to be assholes? If admin are happy to let them join and pay the money then cant they? Who decides who can be on this site? Certainly not me and Certainly not you....every site on the web will attract assholes...when you start to ask for assholes to be banned because you don't like them. .then thats a totally different matter...

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Is it not there right to be assholes? If admin are happy to let them join and pay the money then cant they? Who decides who can be on this site? Certainly not me and Certainly not you....every site on the web will attract assholes...when you start to ask for assholes to be banned because you don't like them. .then thats a totally different matter..."

Manners are free though. Yes agree there are asses all over the internet and there lies the problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it not there right to be assholes? If admin are happy to let them join and pay the money then cant they? Who decides who can be on this site? Certainly not me and Certainly not you....every site on the web will attract assholes...when you start to ask for assholes to be banned because you don't like them. .then thats a totally different matter..."

If they keep their asshole ways to themselves without impacting others then of course they have every right to be here.

It's when they decide to be abusive and disrepsectful to others usually towards females as well (abusive cowards in my opinion). That is when they should be held to account for their behaviour and if needed removed.

KJ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it not there right to be assholes? If admin are happy to let them join and pay the money then cant they? Who decides who can be on this site? Certainly not me and Certainly not you....every site on the web will attract assholes...when you start to ask for assholes to be banned because you don't like them. .then thats a totally different matter...

If they keep their asshole ways to themselves without impacting others then of course they have every right to be here.

It's when they decide to be abusive and disrepsectful to others usually towards females as well (abusive cowards in my opinion). That is when they should be held to account for their behaviour and if needed removed.

KJ"

True....but you should be calling out the site to do something...1 abusive message then barred from site and everyone who wants to use site has to pay....

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South


"Is it not there right to be assholes? If admin are happy to let them join and pay the money then cant they? Who decides who can be on this site? Certainly not me and Certainly not you....every site on the web will attract assholes...when you start to ask for assholes to be banned because you don't like them. .then thats a totally different matter...

If they keep their asshole ways to themselves without impacting others then of course they have every right to be here.

It's when they decide to be abusive and disrepsectful to others usually towards females as well (abusive cowards in my opinion). That is when they should be held to account for their behaviour and if needed removed.

KJ"

Totally agree a zero tolerance for abuse should be adopted ....

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton


"You say men/women, but I hazard that you probably mean men. Let’s be honest, you don’t get the same from women on this site.

"

Women do it too! Had a woman I’d been speaking to try and remain me from the get go. At first I thought it was just banter, but then she was sending me photos of herself in a fur coat, and drinking expensive stuff and then telling me that I have a tiny dick (first time anyone has ever told me that lol) and the messages got more and more abusive. So I blocked her. It was a shame about her personality cause she had an amazing body lol

Started like this: “ You have no 6 pac or a 10 inch cock x”

Then developed to: “ My fella his cock is 10 inches and thick You would love my wet Pussy but your cock is not big enough to ruin it”

It went downhill after that lol

So women do it too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You say men/women, but I hazard that you probably mean men. Let’s be honest, you don’t get the same from women on this site.

Women do it too! Had a woman I’d been speaking to try and remain me from the get go. At first I thought it was just banter, but then she was sending me photos of herself in a fur coat, and drinking expensive stuff and then telling me that I have a tiny dick (first time anyone has ever told me that lol) and the messages got more and more abusive. So I blocked her. It was a shame about her personality cause she had an amazing body lol

Started like this: “ You have no 6 pac or a 10 inch cock x”

Then developed to: “ My fella his cock is 10 inches and thick You would love my wet Pussy but your cock is not big enough to ruin it”

It went downhill after that lol

So women do it too. "

And some odd ball men,for whatever reason,pretend on fab,you are chatting with a woman

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton


"

And some odd ball men,for whatever reason,pretend on fab,you are chatting with a woman "

I think I’ve analysed that and came to a logical conclusion.

As a single

Male, you’re fighting 10,000 other males for attention so it’s the only way they get attention lol

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By *aturing bullMan
over a year ago

TOOTING


"Hi lovely fabbers!

This is something that is really getting to me lately and is making me want to leave the fab scene altogether.

Why if some men don’t get a response straight away do they feel the need to reply with offensive, abusive messages? I know not everyone is like this, but there’s seems to be more that are these days. For instance one charmer just told me to “go f*** yourself fatty”....and that was probably the nicest part of the message.

I guess this isn’t really a question as much as a statement....but please tell me there are some decent people left out there??

E xo"

Firstly, I have to say I am sorry for all the abuse you have received. Totally not cool. There are lots of decent people on Fabs and in the wider Scene. Fabs is the easy bit-all on line behind profiles so it is easier to pretend to be something you may not be, and to forget all manners. The real fun can happen when we have the chance to meet at socials and clubs, hopefully seeing each other as real people. Please hang in there, it can get much better.

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By *issnkWoman
over a year ago

Barnsley

I once got told I deserved to be tied down and have my both my holes ripped open and left covered in blood like the split pig I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi lovely fabbers!

This is something that is really getting to me lately and is making me want to leave the fab scene altogether.

Why if some men don’t get a response straight away do they feel the need to reply with offensive, abusive messages? I know not everyone is like this, but there’s seems to be more that are these days. For instance one charmer just told me to “go f*** yourself fatty”....and that was probably the nicest part of the message.

I guess this isn’t really a question as much as a statement....but please tell me there are some decent people left out there??

E xo"

Yes it’s a sad indictment

You don’t have to let it spoil things, but it does the edge off it at times. Not always easy to brush off cutting nasty remarks like that.

Fortunately there’s a lot of decent folks who know how to behave, but the annoying ones tend to be the most noticeable like in everything else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't generally say a lot. But t is no reason or excuse for abusive messages either in the forum on within direct messages.

We are supposed to be adults here and a bit of respect wouldn't go amiss.

Some people just don't understand the word no. This is an issue that both you ladies and us gents experience as well.

I have left a couple of times but keep coming back in time hoping the situation has improved.

So let me give a view of respect to all you decent people on here. Ladies and gents. Start nice and be proud of yourself.

J

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it hilarious when you speak to some folk on here who have profile pictures of their vagina, then profile that want anal, watersports and s&m their name is usually contains "slut" or "whore".

Yeah they moan about guys being "disrespectful"

Honestly, people are getting dumber.

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton


"I find it hilarious when you speak to some folk on here who have profile pictures of their vagina, then profile that want anal, watersports and s&m their name is usually contains "slut" or "whore".

Yeah they moan about guys being "disrespectful"

Honestly, people are getting dumber."

What’s worse is the “must send face pic or you’ll be blocked, this isn’t blind date” that comes with the profile with zero face pics on the profile

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton


"I don't generally say a lot. But t is no reason or excuse for abusive messages either in the forum on within direct messages.

We are supposed to be adults here and a bit of respect wouldn't go amiss.

Some people just don't understand the word no. This is an issue that both you ladies and us gents experience as well.

I have left a couple of times but keep coming back in time hoping the situation has improved.

So let me give a view of respect to all you decent people on here. Ladies and gents. Start nice and be proud of yourself.

J "

I had a polite “no thank you” from a lovely couple this morning. I replied to them thanking them for their time and respect for at least taking the time to message back (I’d sent a long personalised message haha), but it shows the character of the couple. They then replied, it’s the nicest rejection I’ve ever had (and there’s been a few lol)

I wish there were more like this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm guessing the last two guys don't get the irony of their posts

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"I find it hilarious when you speak to some folk on here who have profile pictures of their vagina, then profile that want anal, watersports and s&m their name is usually contains "slut" or "whore".

Yeah they moan about guys being "disrespectful"

Honestly, people are getting dumber."

I think the dummy is the person who doesn't realise because that person behaves that way with their playmates/partners, it's not for randoms to use that language towards them or have expectations regarding interaction. That shit gets earned by being respectful in the first place

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By *averockrockMan
over a year ago

swindon

forget these people, carpe diem!

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs


"Hi lovely fabbers!

This is something that is really getting to me lately and is making me want to leave the fab scene altogether.

Why if some men don’t get a response straight away do they feel the need to reply with offensive, abusive messages? I know not everyone is like this, but there’s seems to be more that are these days. For instance one charmer just told me to “go f*** yourself fatty”....and that was probably the nicest part of the message.

I guess this isn’t really a question as much as a statement....but please tell me there are some decent people left out there??

E xo"
Don’t see why it worries you , just mostly time wasters and losers that give such abuse, also realise they are never going to get a meet off here with such limited social skills

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton


"I'm guessing the last two guys don't get the irony of their posts "

I’m guessing so too #IFailed haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looking at your profile picture, you look very beautiful. When someone punches above their weight and know they have not much of a chance of meeting, they’ll resort to childish, infantile comments designed to hurt you. Anyone who is mean or rude to you has nothing to offer you and is missing something in their life. When I actually receive response messages, it’s never straight away. Not nice dealing with stress heads who feel entitled. Hope you’re ok.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looking at your profile picture, you look very beautiful. When someone punches above their weight and know they have not much of a chance of meeting, they’ll resort to childish, infantile comments designed to hurt you. Anyone who is mean or rude to you has nothing to offer you and is missing something in their life. When I actually receive response messages, it’s never straight away. Not nice dealing with stress heads who feel entitled. Hope you’re ok."

Thank you and yes im fine

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South


"I find it hilarious when you speak to some folk on here who have profile pictures of their vagina, then profile that want anal, watersports and s&m their name is usually contains "slut" or "whore".

Yeah they moan about guys being "disrespectful"

Honestly, people are getting dumber."

So women that want and enjoy sex don’t deserve respect? I suggest you google Madonna vs Whore syndrome .....

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South


"I once got told I deserved to be tied down and have my both my holes ripped open and left covered in blood like the split pig I am"

Jesus Christ .....

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South

I’ve just had a message calling me a cunt for having an opinion on another thread ... all kinds of abuse from a sad little man who has nothing better than to abuse women he doesn’t know.

This is why there isn’t many women on this site ... full of abusive men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi lovely fabbers!

This is something that is really getting to me lately and is making me want to leave the fab scene altogether.

Why if some men don’t get a response straight away do they feel the need to reply with offensive, abusive messages? I know not everyone is like this, but there’s seems to be more that are these days. For instance one charmer just told me to “go f*** yourself fatty”....and that was probably the nicest part of the message.

I guess this isn’t really a question as much as a statement....but please tell me there are some decent people left out there??

E xo"

You do fab your way not theirs or mine or the popes but the way that makes you feel comfortable so I suggest to the haters report block forget move on and enjoy!!!!

Best of luck op.

T

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve just had a message calling me a cunt for having an opinion on another thread ... all kinds of abuse from a sad little man who has nothing better than to abuse women he doesn’t know.

This is why there isn’t many women on this site ... full of abusive men "

I get called that by women and couples for things I've said in a thread....but I would guess its rare for single man to get abuse and threats

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I once got told I deserved to be tied down and have my both my holes ripped open and left covered in blood like the split pig I am"

That is horrific! It is just not ok to speak to anyone that way. God bless anyone that ever actually meets that person, they sound beyond disturbed x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there has to be an element of understanding how you're presenting yourself. What the site is etc.

You are on a swinging site, with your pussy as a profile picture, with the name littleslut etc, then claiming somebody asking "you wanna fuck?" Is being disrespectful, personally I think that's a bit fucking mental.

Personally I wouldn't send that message, because I think it lacks creativity. But I have dudes messaging me asking to suck my dick and personally I just take it as a compliment.

If the person is abusive, totally different.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"I think there has to be an element of understanding how you're presenting yourself. What the site is etc.

You are on a swinging site, with your pussy as a profile picture, with the name littleslut etc, then claiming somebody asking "you wanna fuck?" Is being disrespectful, personally I think that's a bit fucking mental.

Personally I wouldn't send that message, because I think it lacks creativity. But I have dudes messaging me asking to suck my dick and personally I just take it as a compliment.

If the person is abusive, totally different.

"

Of course how you're presenting yourself will impact. If those ladies asked specifically for ignorant mesaages from people with nowt else than "wanna fuck" then really they can't call people rude or disrespectful.

If she didn't say that, if someone assumed that, then yeah, it's disrespectful.

Same way I get sent dick pics, I get sent inappropriate messages, that's rude, ignorant and disrespectful. I get married men message me asking to meet. Disrespectful.

I don't expect someone I don't know to treat me like a queen.

I don't expect someone I don't know to treat me like a whore.

I expect someone I don't know to treat me like a fucking human.

Once there's mutual respect the other stuff can follow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think there has to be an element of understanding how you're presenting yourself. What the site is etc.

You are on a swinging site, with your pussy as a profile picture, with the name littleslut etc, then claiming somebody asking "you wanna fuck?" Is being disrespectful, personally I think that's a bit fucking mental.

Personally I wouldn't send that message, because I think it lacks creativity. But I have dudes messaging me asking to suck my dick and personally I just take it as a compliment.

If the person is abusive, totally different.

Of course how you're presenting yourself will impact. If those ladies asked specifically for ignorant mesaages from people with nowt else than "wanna fuck" then really they can't call people rude or disrespectful.

If she didn't say that, if someone assumed that, then yeah, it's disrespectful.

Same way I get sent dick pics, I get sent inappropriate messages, that's rude, ignorant and disrespectful. I get married men message me asking to meet. Disrespectful.

I don't expect someone I don't know to treat me like a queen.

I don't expect someone I don't know to treat me like a whore.

I expect someone I don't know to treat me like a fucking human.

Once there's mutual respect the other stuff can follow."

Can I ask about the being sent a dick pic? How do you feel about the dick being the persons profile pic? Your not asking to see that dick but its being shown to you?

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"I think there has to be an element of understanding how you're presenting yourself. What the site is etc.

You are on a swinging site, with your pussy as a profile picture, with the name littleslut etc, then claiming somebody asking "you wanna fuck?" Is being disrespectful, personally I think that's a bit fucking mental.

Personally I wouldn't send that message, because I think it lacks creativity. But I have dudes messaging me asking to suck my dick and personally I just take it as a compliment.

If the person is abusive, totally different.

Of course how you're presenting yourself will impact. If those ladies asked specifically for ignorant mesaages from people with nowt else than "wanna fuck" then really they can't call people rude or disrespectful.

If she didn't say that, if someone assumed that, then yeah, it's disrespectful.

Same way I get sent dick pics, I get sent inappropriate messages, that's rude, ignorant and disrespectful. I get married men message me asking to meet. Disrespectful.

I don't expect someone I don't know to treat me like a queen.

I don't expect someone I don't know to treat me like a whore.

I expect someone I don't know to treat me like a fucking human.

Once there's mutual respect the other stuff can follow.

Can I ask about the being sent a dick pic? How do you feel about the dick being the persons profile pic? Your not asking to see that dick but its being shown to you?"

If it's someone I know I'll respond at some point and probably give em a wedgie for it. If it's a stranger, I ignore the message and think "dude, I said I didn't want a willy in my box ffs"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think there has to be an element of understanding how you're presenting yourself. What the site is etc.

You are on a swinging site, with your pussy as a profile picture, with the name littleslut etc, then claiming somebody asking "you wanna fuck?" Is being disrespectful, personally I think that's a bit fucking mental.

Personally I wouldn't send that message, because I think it lacks creativity. But I have dudes messaging me asking to suck my dick and personally I just take it as a compliment.

If the person is abusive, totally different.

Of course how you're presenting yourself will impact. If those ladies asked specifically for ignorant mesaages from people with nowt else than "wanna fuck" then really they can't call people rude or disrespectful.

If she didn't say that, if someone assumed that, then yeah, it's disrespectful.

Same way I get sent dick pics, I get sent inappropriate messages, that's rude, ignorant and disrespectful. I get married men message me asking to meet. Disrespectful.

I don't expect someone I don't know to treat me like a queen.

I don't expect someone I don't know to treat me like a whore.

I expect someone I don't know to treat me like a fucking human.

Once there's mutual respect the other stuff can follow.

Can I ask about the being sent a dick pic? How do you feel about the dick being the persons profile pic? Your not asking to see that dick but its being shown to you?

If it's someone I know I'll respond at some point and probably give em a wedgie for it. If it's a stranger, I ignore the message and think "dude, I said I didn't want a willy in my box ffs" "

Sorry I meant when your in the forums and someone's pic is of his dick?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe I'm just an arsehole, it wouldn't shock me. I've been called one before.

But, if you're on a swinging site and you think it's disrespectful to be messaged "do you wanna fuck?" for me personally, that is pretty much a red flag.

Avoid that person.

What I mean is that person is probably a little emotionally unstable, because this site is pretty much built to connect people that "wanna fuck?".

I'm beating a dead horse I guess but I just don't see the logic of going on a swinging site, and being shocked if people essentially ask you if you wanna swing lmao.

If somebody is abusive, clearly, that is totally different, report them.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I don't generally say a lot. But t is no reason or excuse for abusive messages either in the forum on within direct messages.

We are supposed to be adults here and a bit of respect wouldn't go amiss.

Some people just don't understand the word no. This is an issue that both you ladies and us gents experience as well.

I have left a couple of times but keep coming back in time hoping the situation has improved.

So let me give a view of respect to all you decent people on here. Ladies and gents. Start nice and be proud of yourself.

J

I had a polite “no thank you” from a lovely couple this morning. I replied to them thanking them for their time and respect for at least taking the time to message back (I’d sent a long personalised message haha), but it shows the character of the couple. They then replied, it’s the nicest rejection I’ve ever had (and there’s been a few lol)

I wish there were more like this."

This is why I block when I reject them so they don’t thank me for rejecting them! Every day is a learning curve on Fab and I’m using this thread as judgement for who NOT to meet in future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't generally say a lot. But t is no reason or excuse for abusive messages either in the forum on within direct messages.

We are supposed to be adults here and a bit of respect wouldn't go amiss.

Some people just don't understand the word no. This is an issue that both you ladies and us gents experience as well.

I have left a couple of times but keep coming back in time hoping the situation has improved.

So let me give a view of respect to all you decent people on here. Ladies and gents. Start nice and be proud of yourself.

J

I had a polite “no thank you” from a lovely couple this morning. I replied to them thanking them for their time and respect for at least taking the time to message back (I’d sent a long personalised message haha), but it shows the character of the couple. They then replied, it’s the nicest rejection I’ve ever had (and there’s been a few lol)

I wish there were more like this.

This is why I block when I reject them so they don’t thank me for rejecting them! Every day is a learning curve on Fab and I’m using this thread as judgement for who NOT to meet in future. "

I think people feel the same

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By *UTTERFLY EVENTSWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I think there has to be an element of understanding how you're presenting yourself. What the site is etc.

You are on a swinging site, with your pussy as a profile picture, with the name littleslut etc, then claiming somebody asking "you wanna fuck?" Is being disrespectful, personally I think that's a bit fucking mental.

Personally I wouldn't send that message, because I think it lacks creativity. But I have dudes messaging me asking to suck my dick and personally I just take it as a compliment.

If the person is abusive, totally different.

Of course how you're presenting yourself will impact. If those ladies asked specifically for ignorant mesaages from people with nowt else than "wanna fuck" then really they can't call people rude or disrespectful.

If she didn't say that, if someone assumed that, then yeah, it's disrespectful.

Same way I get sent dick pics, I get sent inappropriate messages, that's rude, ignorant and disrespectful. I get married men message me asking to meet. Disrespectful.

I don't expect someone I don't know to treat me like a queen.

I don't expect someone I don't know to treat me like a whore.

I expect someone I don't know to treat me like a fucking human.

Once there's mutual respect the other stuff can follow.

Can I ask about the being sent a dick pic? How do you feel about the dick being the persons profile pic? Your not asking to see that dick but its being shown to you?"

Not impressed if we want a cock pic we shall ask...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe I'm just an arsehole, it wouldn't shock me. I've been called one before.

But, if you're on a swinging site and you think it's disrespectful to be messaged "do you wanna fuck?" for me personally, that is pretty much a red flag.

Avoid that person.

What I mean is that person is probably a little emotionally unstable, because this site is pretty much built to connect people that "wanna fuck?".

I'm beating a dead horse I guess but I just don't see the logic of going on a swinging site, and being shocked if people essentially ask you if you wanna swing lmao.

If somebody is abusive, clearly, that is totally different, report them.

"

Your profile says very similar to your post above. You have been here longer than covid but no verifications yet. How's that approach been working out for you? Genuine question? (If has worked great).

From our experience it wouldn't get you very far in swinging clubs , get you invited to private parties and swinger social events / festivals.

Just because people swing doesn't mean the normal social niceties suddenly don't matter.

If you can't be graceful, friendly , charming and most importantly respectful then you not going to get far in the swinging world.

The biggest issue on fab is some single guys who lack the social graces and personality to pull in the real world come to fab in the hope they can somehow skip those steps that always let them down in vanilla life and jump straight to you wanna fuck. Thinking somehow that's ok in the swinging world and its going to lead to success for them.

Sorry but if you can't pull in the real world you have very little chance of doing the same in the swinging world. The same rules built on the foundation of respect apply.

KJ

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"I think there has to be an element of understanding how you're presenting yourself. What the site is etc.

You are on a swinging site, with your pussy as a profile picture, with the name littleslut etc, then claiming somebody asking "you wanna fuck?" Is being disrespectful, personally I think that's a bit fucking mental.

Personally I wouldn't send that message, because I think it lacks creativity. But I have dudes messaging me asking to suck my dick and personally I just take it as a compliment.

If the person is abusive, totally different.

Of course how you're presenting yourself will impact. If those ladies asked specifically for ignorant mesaages from people with nowt else than "wanna fuck" then really they can't call people rude or disrespectful.

If she didn't say that, if someone assumed that, then yeah, it's disrespectful.

Same way I get sent dick pics, I get sent inappropriate messages, that's rude, ignorant and disrespectful. I get married men message me asking to meet. Disrespectful.

I don't expect someone I don't know to treat me like a queen.

I don't expect someone I don't know to treat me like a whore.

I expect someone I don't know to treat me like a fucking human.

Once there's mutual respect the other stuff can follow.

Can I ask about the being sent a dick pic? How do you feel about the dick being the persons profile pic? Your not asking to see that dick but its being shown to you?

If it's someone I know I'll respond at some point and probably give em a wedgie for it. If it's a stranger, I ignore the message and think "dude, I said I didn't want a willy in my box ffs"

Sorry I meant when your in the forums and someone's pic is of his dick?"

That's to be expected. Navigating main site I expect to see dicks and a whole lot more.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Maybe I'm just an arsehole, it wouldn't shock me. I've been called one before.

But, if you're on a swinging site and you think it's disrespectful to be messaged "do you wanna fuck?" for me personally, that is pretty much a red flag.

Avoid that person.

What I mean is that person is probably a little emotionally unstable, because this site is pretty much built to connect people that "wanna fuck?".

I'm beating a dead horse I guess but I just don't see the logic of going on a swinging site, and being shocked if people essentially ask you if you wanna swing lmao.

If somebody is abusive, clearly, that is totally different, report them.

"

Don't ya think it's common courtesy to at least have a civil conversation first?

Swinging to me ain't all about putting dicks in holes, it's about respect, boundaries, trust, communication and friendships.

Then sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe I'm just an arsehole, it wouldn't shock me. I've been called one before.

But, if you're on a swinging site and you think it's disrespectful to be messaged "do you wanna fuck?" for me personally, that is pretty much a red flag.

Avoid that person.

What I mean is that person is probably a little emotionally unstable, because this site is pretty much built to connect people that "wanna fuck?".

I'm beating a dead horse I guess but I just don't see the logic of going on a swinging site, and being shocked if people essentially ask you if you wanna swing lmao.

If somebody is abusive, clearly, that is totally different, report them.

"

We are here for more than just a quick fuck. Me personally it puts me right off if the first thing someone says is ‘wanna fuck’, if I was out and someone walked up to me and said it I wouldn’t just drop my knickers so why would it be any different here?

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By *ueenieHWoman
over a year ago

leeds

I've had this a lot recently, even when I've told them I'm cooking or doing university work or looking after my child , I get told that university won't make me any smarter , that I shouldn't lead men on if I'm not going to talk , been told to leave the site because I didnt reply back and been told im a slag and a whore, tbh its getting to the point that I wanna leave the sites, its made my anxiety bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe I'm just an arsehole, it wouldn't shock me. I've been called one before.

But, if you're on a swinging site and you think it's disrespectful to be messaged "do you wanna fuck?" for me personally, that is pretty much a red flag.

Avoid that person.

What I mean is that person is probably a little emotionally unstable, because this site is pretty much built to connect people that "wanna fuck?".

I'm beating a dead horse I guess but I just don't see the logic of going on a swinging site, and being shocked if people essentially ask you if you wanna swing lmao.

If somebody is abusive, clearly, that is totally different, report them.

"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe I'm just an arsehole, it wouldn't shock me. I've been called one before.

But, if you're on a swinging site and you think it's disrespectful to be messaged "do you wanna fuck?" for me personally, that is pretty much a red flag.

Avoid that person.

What I mean is that person is probably a little emotionally unstable, because this site is pretty much built to connect people that "wanna fuck?".

I'm beating a dead horse I guess but I just don't see the logic of going on a swinging site, and being shocked if people essentially ask you if you wanna swing lmao.

If somebody is abusive, clearly, that is totally different, report them.

Your profile says very similar to your post above. You have been here longer than covid but no verifications yet. How's that approach been working out for you? Genuine question? (If has worked great).

From our experience it wouldn't get you very far in swinging clubs , get you invited to private parties and swinger social events / festivals.

Just because people swing doesn't mean the normal social niceties suddenly don't matter.

If you can't be graceful, friendly , charming and most importantly respectful then you not going to get far in the swinging world.

The biggest issue on fab is some single guys who lack the social graces and personality to pull in the real world come to fab in the hope they can somehow skip those steps that always let them down in vanilla life and jump straight to you wanna fuck. Thinking somehow that's ok in the swinging world and its going to lead to success for them.

Sorry but if you can't pull in the real world you have very little chance of doing the same in the swinging world. The same rules built on the foundation of respect apply.

KJ"

kJ, couldn’t of put it better myself!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

leave them be and dont let them worry you as they are much more easy to spot and block

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By *attM73Man
over a year ago

Oldham


"Hi lovely fabbers!

This is something that is really getting to me lately and is making me want to leave the fab scene altogether.

Why if some men don’t get a response straight away do they feel the need to reply with offensive, abusive messages? I know not everyone is like this, but there’s seems to be more that are these days. For instance one charmer just told me to “go f*** yourself fatty”....and that was probably the nicest part of the message.

I guess this isn’t really a question as much as a statement....but please tell me there are some decent people left out there??

E xo

This is why I’ve started not replying .... the abuse you get when you decline makes it not worth it.

I’m losing hope of decent single men existing on here too "
I am a decent single bloke.

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton


"Hi lovely fabbers!

This is something that is really getting to me lately and is making me want to leave the fab scene altogether.

Why if some men don’t get a response straight away do they feel the need to reply with offensive, abusive messages? I know not everyone is like this, but there’s seems to be more that are these days. For instance one charmer just told me to “go f*** yourself fatty”....and that was probably the nicest part of the message.

I guess this isn’t really a question as much as a statement....but please tell me there are some decent people left out there??

E xo

This is why I’ve started not replying .... the abuse you get when you decline makes it not worth it.

I’m losing hope of decent single men existing on here too I am a decent single bloke. "

Yep, there’s a few of us around here. Usually getting drowned out by the horny six packs lol

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