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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have wanted to watch my partner getting a right good seeing to by a bbc or similar for some time now and surprisingly she has come round to the idea but my only true concern would be that once she has gone black as they say would I be able to give her what she wants. I see this as a whole change of life style.

We are also fully aware of the impact this could have on our relationship which is why we want to be as sure as we can that this is for us.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

you can't predict what will happen but if you are in a VERY secure relationship and totally honest with each other the possibility of her preferring other men to you is reduced in my opinion.

It isn't true that once you've had black there's no going back either .

Do you have a tiny doubt about this? If so don't do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex with someone that your not emotionally involved with will never be bettered by anyone else no matter what colour.

I'd be very careful about what you do if you worry about not measuring up. Of course there are some type of relationships that the guy likes to feel he isn't enough. But on that I don't really have any experience.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just like it's true that all black guys are well hung, good dancers, fast sprinters and listen to rap music!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i disagree with the "once you go..." thing, i always go back to pinks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do people have this prejudice about skin colour? It makes no odds either way... Of course in any swing situation there is always the danger 'he' will be a better lover, better endowed etc etc - but what's to say she meets someone else in the vanilla world & prefers him to you - as the saying goes 'you can't make someone love you'

Just my thoughts for what it's worth

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs D wanted a BBC for ages..then she had one and it was a disappointment lol

I wouldn't worry about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have wanted to watch my partner getting a right good seeing to by a bbc or similar for some time now and surprisingly she has come round to the idea but my only true concern would be that once she has gone black as they say would I be able to give her what she wants. I see this as a whole change of life style.

We are also fully aware of the impact this could have on our relationship which is why we want to be as sure as we can that this is for us.

"

So you've wanted it for some time, she's come round to it and now you are having second thoughts?

Do you really think this is a good idea? At the very least I think you need to do an awful lot more talking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have wanted to watch my partner getting a right good seeing to by a bbc or similar for some time now and surprisingly she has come round to the idea but my only true concern would be that once she has gone black as they say would I be able to give her what she wants. I see this as a whole change of life style.

We are also fully aware of the impact this could have on our relationship which is why we want to be as sure as we can that this is for us.

So you've wanted it for some time, she's come round to it and now you are having second thoughts?

Do you really think this is a good idea? At the very least I think you need to do an awful lot more talking. "

I agree with this too.

I've also had many shapes, sizes, colours, ages etc but my husband will always be enough for me.

Mind you saying that my husband makes love to me when we are together its not just sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh I don't like the fact that it sounds like she's not really up for this and she might just be doing it to please u. The fact u said she's come around to it doesn't sound good. Think you both have reservations so my advice would be don't do it. In fact don't do anything that both of u arent into cos ur looking for trouble. I'm sure there's plenty other things to do that will float ur boats. If u do do it choose carefully and be 100% agreed on who u play with.

Have fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Tbh I don't like the fact that it sounds like she's not really up for this and she might just be doing it to please u. The fact u said she's come around to it doesn't sound good. Think you both have reservations so my advice would be don't do it. In fact don't do anything that both of u arent into cos ur looking for trouble. I'm sure there's plenty other things to do that will float ur boats. If u do do it choose carefully and be 100% agreed on who u play with.

Have fun "

Thanks for the replies. When I said she was coming round to the idea that was just my humour . She knows what a night of pleasure it would be as do I.

I should have stated that I too would be getting involved.

As people have said you have to be 100% but with this sort of thing but can you?

Decisions, decisions LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have enjoyed many a vwe BBC ( well she has ! And I have loved watching ) and it's awesome lol

In a secure relationship it's no problem at all - enjoy !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only advice I can give is, don't confuse sex and love, they are two totaly different things.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Tbh I don't like the fact that it sounds like she's not really up for this and she might just be doing it to please u. The fact u said she's come around to it doesn't sound good. Think you both have reservations so my advice would be don't do it. In fact don't do anything that both of u arent into cos ur looking for trouble. I'm sure there's plenty other things to do that will float ur boats. If u do do it choose carefully and be 100% agreed on who u play with.

Have fun

Thanks for the replies. When I said she was coming round to the idea that was just my humour . She knows what a night of pleasure it would be as do I.

I should have stated that I too would be getting involved.

As people have said you have to be 100% but with this sort of thing but can you?

Decisions, decisions LOL

"

yes you can be 100% and you're clearly not, so don't do it one night of pleasure isn't worth months of relationship problems.

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By *lbecCouple
over a year ago

Whitstable

If you are in a secure relationship its is fantastic, we like black guys who are VWE as it is so horny for us both and when we meet single men want something very different.

One piece of advice is when meeting couples/singles do not meet too often the same people, the excitment is meeting new people for sex rather than staring to get feelings for someone you know a liitle too well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you are in a secure relationship its is fantastic, we like black guys who are VWE as it is so horny for us both and when we meet single men want something very different.

One piece of advice is when meeting couples/singles do not meet too often the same people, the excitment is meeting new people for sex rather than staring to get feelings for someone you know a liitle too well"

Couldn't agree more... it's just fucking, and it shouldn't impact your domestic life. You also won't know until you've done it. So if it's agonising you now that's healthy - it's meant to. If it agonises you afterwards, it won't be healthy - but if you're an understanding couple who listens to each other well, you'll surmount it.

Wolf

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By *njamesMan
over a year ago

Swindon

I think it has been said before, but there may be some difference between what you want and what she wants.

You do need to be 110% sure and happy before you do anything, what it is you get and agree on should be irrelevant, whether that be white or black - big or small.

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

Speaking from experience here from when I was still with my Ex, make time to talk things through together afterwards as well as before. What you think, now, about how you'll feel after the 1st time of swinging could very well turn out to be different to how you do actually feel. Make sure you're both fully open with each other about your feelings and emotions.

Trust, honesty and communication are all vital aspects of a swinging couple's relationship.

Good luck with whatever you both decide to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have wanted to watch my partner getting a right good seeing to by a bbc or similar for some time now and surprisingly she has come round to the idea ...."

So what was her objection to it in the first place? 'Coming round to it' suggests that the original objection is still there and she is only agreeing to this as you have probably been whining like a little boy who desperately wants 'that toy' in the toy shop window and won't stop going on about it!!!!

Now if you had said that SHE is the one who wants some BBC, then we would say that that is a much better starting position from where to look into it and see what you can arrange. But not the way you have presented the situation.

Makes one wonder what the 'effect on your relationship' that you are really worried about is? Personally think the 'once you had black you won't wanna go back!' thing is a smoke screen.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have wanted to watch my partner getting a right good seeing to by a bbc or similar for some time now and surprisingly she has come round to the idea ....

So what was her objection to it in the first place? 'Coming round to it' suggests that the original objection is still there and she is only agreeing to this as you have probably been whining like a little boy who desperately wants 'that toy' in the toy shop window and won't stop going on about it!!!!

Now if you had said that SHE is the one who wants some BBC, then we would say that that is a much better starting position from where to look into it and see what you can arrange. But not the way you have presented the situation.

Makes one wonder what the 'effect on your relationship' that you are really worried about is? Personally think the 'once you had black you won't wanna go back!' thing is a smoke screen.

"

As i replied further up the page when i said that she was "coming round it it" there was a degree of humour in it.

I must admit i have been like a kid in a toy shop like you stated as deep down i knew that she would love it. We have duscussed it and my partners only concern would be our relationship but same would be said about who ever we were to play with.

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