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"Hi guys, We started with personal meets but always recommend clubs to new people as we personally feel that, as long as you pick a good one, you can just go for a drink and chat with other like minded people and it's really easy to say no thanks as there is no pressure and plenty of choice for you and others. You can even just drink in the bar for your first visit and get comfortable being in the environment. Hope that helps or at least gives you another perspective x" | |||
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"Hi all we are a new couple seeking some advice we are a bit shy but have gsoh and personality we want to get started into swinging but don't know whether it's best to go to a swingers club first or make/meet friends through here to see if we are going to enjoy this first no doubt we will Many thanks Pete and lize" Hiya Pete & Lize, well first off welcome to the world of swinging and after 1 week on FAB i bet your eyes are a little wider than they were... Like others I'd suggest a club, but bearing in mind where you live I'd suggest 1 of 2 clubs to you. They are similar but different. The first, which I think would be best suited to you for you first experience would be Xtasia in West Brom. The reason I think it is best suited to you is it's a clothed nightclub type of club, so Pete will be in smart casual wear and Lize can dress as sexy as she dares. The club has new owners and has undergone some refurbishment, so it has a good well stocked bar, a large dance area, many social areas and private and public playrooms. The other club is Chameleons in Darleston, which is a towel club. Now I've not been to this club personally but most towel clubs reqyuire you to get undressed as soon as you enter the building which means in Pete's case he's in a towel or shorts, whereas Lize most ladies in a towel club wear undies, towels aren't that flattering... This club has a wider range of things I believe like a cinema but may be a bit in your face for a first timer, though I'm sure plenty would disagree, Both clubs have a mixed night on a Friday (males/couples/single ladies) and couples/single ladies only on a Saturday night and both have accomodation close by though that probably won't be needed by you. I think if you went to Xtasia it would give you the chance to look around and see whats what while chatting to various people couples, singles etc withpout any pressure to join in. However if the urge gets to you, well there's plenty of places to join in and lots of willing people to help you achieve what you have set out in your profile. Hope this helps you both. Mark | |||
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"We would also recommend clubs for first time, if you meet another couple at yours or theirs then if you don't play nobody plays which can add pressure you don't need. In a club you play if you want to, if not then there are plenty of others they can play with..... BUT the best sex tends to be at home with a small group, it's strangely off-putting as you are approaching an orgasm to hear someone across the room in another play space screaming in orgasm! time it right and it's erotic... but time it wrong and you forget where you were! So our recommendation is visit a club either alone or perhaps arrange to meet someone at the club. Try it out, and if you find someone you want to play with more, then perhaps invite them to yours another night. Whatever you do, have fun... that is what this is all about, it doesn't matter so if it's not fun then don't do it. " Nail on the head. | |||
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"Hi guys, We started with personal meets but always recommend clubs to new people as we personally feel that, as long as you pick a good one, you can just go for a drink and chat with other like minded people and it's really easy to say no thanks as there is no pressure and plenty of choice for you and others. You can even just drink in the bar for your first visit and get comfortable being in the environment. Hope that helps or at least gives you another perspective x" This would also be our recommendation. Go on a Couples Only night, as its pretty clear you might be a little nervous and the atmosphere in a venue is strikingly different from a mixed to a couples evening, thats not to say that mixed nights aren't fun, but you want to be comfortable and confident on the scene first. Really good clubs for first timers would be VA, Liberty Elite, Atlantis, La Chambre or Chams, though the latter might be a bit full on for first timers. All of the clubs are good for different reasons. Of them all we would recommend Liberty as the most comfortable enviroment for a nervous first time couple, simply because of the layout and the decor. Nothing is in your face. But any of the clubs above you would be hard pushed to have a bad time at. Chams and Libs both have accomodation on site, there is a swingers B and B down the road from Atlantis as well. As Xtasia's seems to be the nearest one to you, adding to Marks comments above, the new owners have done a great job at turning this once flagging club around, with alot of improvements still to come and the hotel is literally meters away, with most of the visiting swingers normally staying on the 7th floor. Its an unusual venue, but still a very good one, so thats not a bad choice either. | |||
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