FabSwingers.com forum: Pet hates that put you off bothering to even reply to a mess

By *oublethefun OP Man
over a year ago

royston

Being asked questions about things that are already explained within the profile. Shows that they haven't even bothered to take the time to read your profile.

People sending messages aimed at just one person from the couples and people always assuming they are talking to the female when we are seen to be online.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd agree with asking questions that are answered in my profile.

That and knobshots being sent.

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South

"Being asked questions about things that are already explained within the profile. Shows that they haven't even bothered to take the time to read your profile.

People sending messages aimed at just one person from the couples and people always assuming they are talking to the female when we are seen to be online. "

.... wuu2 (am I 12)

.... hey

...... I want to do .......... etx

..... faf

..... up to anything exciting this weekend?

God I could go on and on

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Any message that leaves is having to drive the conversation, especially when they initiated it.

One liners.

Messages from “women” that are obviously men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Messages from guys that say they are straight

Means they have not even bothered to read the first sentence of my profile, let alone the rest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Asking if I’m free or asking for my address in the first message.

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By *oublethefun OP Man
over a year ago

royston

Men asking to meet me on my own as don't want to meet my partner!!!!. Really, do you think that's going to happen.

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South

"Asking if I’m free or asking for my address in the first message."

Ooh yes forgot that one ‘where abouts are you’ ...

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By *oublethefun OP Man
over a year ago

royston

Give me your number and I can send you my picture!!! Not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We love those one worders "hey" "hi" with a friend request. In the block bin you go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Messages being exchanged.. seems things are going well.. then a block with no explanation.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Or the favourite Joey impersonator

How you doing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just pointless messages that really have no intent to actually open a convo,

hi how are you ...

you are really hot .

whats up babe .

like what is the purpose and point to this ? its really weird opening message imo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cock pics but no face pics

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By *ubby and naughty wifeCouple
over a year ago

kingswinford.

Just

Hi!!

You’ve got sexy tits (although profile states only Male runs profile)

No pictures (it’s not blind date. We send ours when we message)

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Being asked to meet with the first message from a profile without any pictures.

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near

"just pointless messages that really have no intent to actually open a convo,

hi how are you ...

you are really hot .

whats up babe .

like what is the purpose and point to this ? its really weird opening message imo "

Agree. Then get the did I say something wrong ... when message is deleted and not responded too

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By *ickdasterdly51Man
over a year ago

Lingfield

Oh dear, I'm embarrassed on behalf of my gender (assuming that people don't get similar messages from women). That's the problem with it being a free site, within two minutes these people can be messaging complete strangers requesting sex. I'm always a bit miffed if I spend time writing a nice personal message to a couple and it get ignored bit if this is the sort of thing you have to deal with them I'm not surprised you all skim over your messages.

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near

Hey this is me message.. followed by a dozen cock pictures

How are you

Your gorgeous

These are a pathetic

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By *iablo soloWoman
over a year ago

southside

The "wanna fuck now" messages...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First messages like would you like to ride this ? Thats a no from me . Ones from someone who hasnt read my profile. And the ones who want to fuck you but havent asked for a face pic so makes you think any hole is a goal.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

People who put “elephant” in the subject line.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Asking how I am. Drives me f£#@ing INSANE

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being asked questions about things that are already explained within the profile. Shows that they haven't even bothered to take the time to read your profile.

People sending messages aimed at just one person from the couples and people always assuming they are talking to the female when we are seen to be online. "
this happens to us every day

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By *oItForYorkshireCouple
over a year ago

Yorkshire

“Can I ask you a question?”

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

The stalker type questions when they ask where you live, where you work, what do you do for a job, what do you eat...etc. Instant block is that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

CAN I make you an offer? £££

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By *ornytoad1362Couple
over a year ago

St. Austell

yes we agree with all these lol sometimes single men haha !!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People sending messages aimed at just one person from the couples and people always assuming they are talking to the female when we are seen to be online. "

Have you ever considered that if anyone looks at your profile and sees just the female in hundreds of pictures and not a single one of the fella, that they see it as a female profile?

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By *ollycouple71Couple
over a year ago

manchester

"The stalker type questions when they ask where you live, where you work, what do you do for a job, what do you eat...etc. Instant block is that. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When every sentence in a message contains either “babe” or “hun” or both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Messages from guys that say they are straight

Means they have not even bothered to read the first sentence of my profile, let alone the rest"

we used to get that alot, so unfortunatly we have now had to block single guys from messaging us, shame, a bad few ruin it for all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh and " we are a professional couple"

arent we all professional at what we do, that and hot couple.

up their own arses or what

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh dear, I'm embarrassed on behalf of my gender (assuming that people don't get similar messages from women). That's the problem with it being a free site, within two minutes these people can be messaging complete strangers requesting sex. I'm always a bit miffed if I spend time writing a nice personal message to a couple and it get ignored bit if this is the sort of thing you have to deal with them I'm not surprised you all skim over your messages."

I am finding the same thing as a reader of profiles, attempting to contact, but getting lost in the ether of bizzare gentleman who bombard, pester a d irritate with obscene requests.

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

"oh and " we are a professional couple"

arent we all professional at what we do, that and hot couple.

up their own arses or what"

Totally agree!

We've always wonder what the frig is exactly a "Professional Couple"

Do they think they're so good that they're getting paid after or something?

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Unsolicited friend requests from profiles I haven’t spoken to, and which usually don’t even contain a friends gallery of pics. Straight block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The message saying "Can I ask you a question"

"In your area now/for the week"

"Fancy meeting me and a mate for MFM? He's black" (Oh yes, then count me in

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By *umslaveTV/TS
over a year ago

Sheffield

I don't like to moan and 'manbash' but I am getting fed up of unrealistic messages from men. My profile is quite, quite clear but basic reading comprehension seems to vanish the moment they hit my profile. why do they never pay attention to the fact that if I don't accom and they don't accom where would we meet? I answer that question in my profile as well.

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By * AND R 777Couple
over a year ago

Teesside

Getting, fabs, winks or even a message from a hidden profile

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By *ute.chubby.Woman
over a year ago

newcastle upon tyne

Asking to meet almost immediately or later that night when I clearly state on my profile that I cannot instantly just commit to something.

And another thing is your “absolutely stunning”, which In fact they’ve only seen a photo of my tits or arse, which is clearly a first liner who is sent to all other women.

Jog on you desperate silly man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they send a vag pic instant block.

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By *ornLordMan
over a year ago

Wiltshire and London

Pet hates? Well, I'm not sure I'd mention pets, and certainly not in a first message.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Disrespect. Selfish demanding expectations, without consideration for me. Very poor quality photos, that consistently don't reveal how someone looks, even if there are dozens. Immediate demands for meets. And a lot more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

— Lack of basic common decency

— failing to read my profile but try their luck instead

— friend/pic requests from a blank profile/ miles away

— Winking/fabbing but ignoring a message

Pretty much the general consensus right?

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By *londie8399Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

When they just look at the pictures and don't actually read the bio age or what our prefences are. Some people message and we don't meet there preferences either so clearly didn't read any of the bio

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By *aria_dreamgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

stockport

Presumptuous idiots who ask what I'm wearing and do I want a fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Messages that say:

"Can/may I ask you a question?"

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By *ueenieHWoman
over a year ago

leeds

When they tell you they are hung

ive stated not to be added and then they add me and say well it was worth a try or say oh I thought you was joking , its same because im not meeting they keep asking to meet and when I tell them why they try telling me im wrong

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London

When you send a pleasantry introductory message and the person’s reply clearly shows they haven’t even read the message before pressing send with a one or two word reply....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really bad spelling and grammar!

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

Dead end messages! We love to chat but if your message is just a closed question with a yes/no/I'm OK, you? answer then we're not really going to get anywhere.

It's not even a single guy thing. We've had couples and women send similarly dreary messages.

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By *usty kayWoman
over a year ago

Burnham

You're beautiful, stunning, exquisite, gorgeous etc when all they can see is a pair of boobs that could be from frigging google. I had those messages minutes after adding the profile and hadn't even put a photo up. Makes me feel like I'm the only woman in the world they want obviously and not just that I'm a fanny to dip their wick in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So much negativity lol, what do you all actually like being sent?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I very rarely message anyone any more as can be very disheartening putting effort into a message and it just being deleted possibly without even being read. Sometimes I think it's because of the sheer amount of mindless messages ladies receive on here.

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By *agikMan
over a year ago

MagikCity

I know right, what are you supposed to say to someone you dont know for the first time especially when all see is one pic of tits and an undiscriptive bio, is there some sort if codeword or magic phrase im supposed to use lol. But i dont like getting asked for pics when nothings been sent first... then nothing gets sent after.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi hun/hi babe.

420 friendly...no thanks

Those who ain't read my long profile...I think I cover most of it..

So if dont put effort in reading it.. I out no effort into replying..delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get that these are pet hates. However it might be more helpful and maybe more interesting all round to also post what kind of messages you do like to receive

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By *indy SometimesTV/TS
over a year ago

BoxHill

Do you have WhatsApp?

Another person (man) who obviously hasn’t bothered to read my profile. I even put a list of answers to FAQs at the very top but to no avail.

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By *oublethefun OP Man
over a year ago

royston

Well one if it were a single profile it would say so and two there are pictures of the male on the profile you just need to bother to look.

The profile says it all from both of us so don't think anyone should ever think it's a single female.

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By *an.thisMan
over a year ago

Torbay & Bournemouth

"Hi hun/hi babe.

420 friendly...no thanks

Those who ain't read my long profile...I think I cover most of it..

So if dont put effort in reading it.. I out no effort into replying..delete"

Sorry can I ask what is 420 friendly ?

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

I hate being asked what im up to or wuu2, if I'm reading messages and answering then I'm on here not jet skiing or mowing the lawn.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

When they clearly meant to reply in the forum but hit "Reply privately" instead.

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By *estofbothCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

“You ok?” “Hi”

Or any other short one liner really, Covid permitting we are on here to chat and to meet, a bit of introduction or what you’re about doesn’t hurt.

And even worse is when we send an introduction and get back

“You’re both really sexy”

What do we do with that? Are you interested, is it a statement, do we even reply? Would rather be ghosted than get that!

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

"Hi hun/hi babe.

420 friendly...no thanks

Those who ain't read my long profile...I think I cover most of it..

So if dont put effort in reading it.. I out no effort into replying..delete

Sorry can I ask what is 420 friendly ?

420 is slang for marijuana.

My pet hate is couples messaging, without saying who is writing.

Sometimes it's obvious, if they talk about what their husband / wife is interested in, but sometimes gender neutral terms like partner are used.

But a phrase like " my partner wants to watch me have sex with other men" could literally go either way.

So sign your emails

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do understand it can be difficult to make that first contact. What to say, how to phrase the first message.

But it is frustrating when men do not read profiles, taking the time to write a good profile should be respected.

I have rewritten mine stupidly after a guy got annoyed as I was put off by his message of at least 6 questions I felt I was being interrogated. The art of messaging is an issue, for many, a simple no thanks is what is say to every annoying and irritating message, I think it's polite to answer, often I have had debates with men some who apologise and genuinely try to improve others are just downright abusive ànd shouldn't be in the site.

I never blocked till lockdown it became an necessity which was a shame

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The up to much line. Get it all the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

MF couples messaging and zero photos of the M or just a dick pic.

wuu2. As the "u" refers to "you" as well as "up"

Messages asking to meet and offering to pay my lockdown fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it is "Nice Cock" I don't even bother. Had that off 2 ladies also. Talk to me as though we are sat together in a bar. Yes this site is for sex, but lads especially, what you are going to do to me is crap especially when it's the first message.

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By *urvesincontrolWoman
over a year ago

Nice Try

It’s the “hey, hi, wanna meet, are you submissive?” No bish, read my eloquently worded profile. I ignore those ones, but I’ll politely say no thanks if given the time to other lacklustre messages. I mean, it’s not my fault they have good taste in women even if I can’t stand their lack of grammar, charm and/or looks haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"just pointless messages that really have no intent to actually open a convo,

hi how are you ...

you are really hot .

whats up babe .

like what is the purpose and point to this ? its really weird opening message imo

Agree. Then get the did I say something wrong ... when message is deleted and not responded too"

What about the where do you live when it's clearly on my profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being asked questions about things that are already explained within the profile. Shows that they haven't even bothered to take the time to read your profile.

People sending messages aimed at just one person from the couples and people always assuming they are talking to the female when we are seen to be online. "

This

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By *1011Woman
over a year ago

Barnsley

Can I ask you a question?

Anything instantly crude

Want to fuck

Free now, im in your area

Most messages without pictures attached or that have blank profiles

Those that constantly message and then get nasty if they don't get a response!

I feel like I could keep going ??

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By *unloversCouple
over a year ago

rotherham

Oooh just let me make a list

I could go on forever with shit that we get asked constantly

Do you meet alone

Is your hubby straight

Oh I can’t even be arsed

Lol

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By *exysecretsCouple
over a year ago

Carlisle

We're happy to answer questions about anything that's not on our profile but those that obviously don't read the profile boil our blood as does " can I ask a question?" You, yous, use, babe babes also liable not to get a reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give me your address and i can send a taxi in the next 10 minutes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys asking if I want a bj, when my profile clearly state I'm straight

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By *oobaaMan
over a year ago

South Shields

"CAN I make you an offer? £££"

Certainly, go ahead

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By *oobaaMan
over a year ago

South Shields

"Can I come to yours"

"are you free now"

"can you bring me a bag of sniff"

No to all

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By *elaxedsexyfunMan
over a year ago

Northants

Simpoltons who can't be bothered to write correctly. It's called a 'message'. It's not difficult. If you don't have the intellect to understand that then I wouldn't waste my time even talking to you and certainly not giving you the pleasure of my company.

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

Your gorgeous

That would really annoy me.

You would think that they should know that they should be saying "You're gorgeous".

Unless, of course, they are referring to some feature(s) of yours which they consider to be gorgeous, such as your gorgeous ....(s)!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being asked questions about things that are already explained within the profile. Shows that they haven't even bothered to take the time to read your profile.

People sending messages aimed at just one person from the couples and people always assuming they are talking to the female when we are seen to be online. "

The above and people obviously have not even made it past the pics, if they cannot be bothered to read the profile, how do you know they can be bothered to have a shower before they turn up ??!?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We're happy to answer questions about anything that's not on our profile but those that obviously don't read the profile boil our blood as does " can I ask a question?" You, yous, use, babe babes also liable not to get a reply."

yous, those people should be banned for life.

Moronic

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By *exysecretsCouple
over a year ago

Carlisle

yous, those people should be banned for life.

Moronic"

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

People sending messages aimed at just one person from the couples and people always assuming they are talking to the female when we are seen to be online. "

Unfortunately, based on some past experiences, I would be inclined to assume that I was only talking to the man and that, in all probability, the woman is unlikely to accompany him when it comes to meeting, or even currently feature other than in photographs. She might not even know that she is being used in the profile!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Messages from men saying " meet me now" or " where are you " blah blah all them types or of they demand a face pic on their first message line I just block without response

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By *959femxCouple
over a year ago

Weston super mare

I can spare half an hour on my way home from work .

Not into endless messaging.

Have you got pics more pics more pics .

In your area tonight .

Do you do x or y or z ?

I can’t send my pic because of my job .

The list goes on and on and on , yes it’s a sex site but if you’re not prepared to put a little effort in then just stay home and wank . Or start your own site maybe something like : meet tonight no chat fuck every position I’ve ever seen in porn movies in 10 minutes and leave .

Or is that a bit cynical : Discuss .

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By *iss.ddWoman
over a year ago

Leeds + Newcastle

The 28 paragraph long porno plot on message 1.

The shit "Hi" first message so you say hi back then they launch in to a tirade about how you're miserable, Mardy, rude, stuck up etc for only saying hi back.

Dunno what they were expecting

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By *nnie2009Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

Instant delete if 420 friendly

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By *ueenieHWoman
over a year ago

leeds

When guys ask me if I'm a man u fan even though I have a pic wearing the top

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By *oublethefun OP Man
over a year ago

royston

What a great idea it would be if single guys now took the time to read through this thread as I'm sure they could learn a great deal of what not to do. The only problem is is that a lot of the single guys don't ever want to meet people and just use the site for an ego boost so wasting my time trying to give advice I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Biggest one is those "copy and paste messages" that take you hours to read because they are so long... Keep it simple and interesting

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By *rincess PhoenixWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

The first message being one that tells you what they'll do to you or asks you to meet tonight.

If they say not into endless messaging - well I like to have a bit of a chat and find out about you if I'm going to have sex with you.

If they can't string a sentence together or spelling is horrendous it puts me off

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By *ick_and_BickerCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Being asked questions about things that are already explained within the profile. Shows that they haven't even bothered to take the time to read your profile.

People sending messages aimed at just one person from the couples and people always assuming they are talking to the female when we are seen to be online. "

People who have the ridiculous warning messages on their profiles.

Total waste of time and totally unenforceable.

Even Fab FAQs says don't put it on your profile.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

Hun/babes/love/sweetie/gorgeous or anything along those lines.

When all they send is What you up to?- clearly they are wanting to hear that I'm lounging about in underwear, masturbating, & just waiting for their message. They tend not to be too thrilled when I say I was doing laundry but have had to stop because the cat has coughed up a hair ball on the kitchen floor and the kids are currently screaming blue murder because they want fed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Getting a box full of close ups of boobs

id sooner see a face thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When a couple profile messages you and says they want to meet butbthe first time it will just be the guy...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate that question!

Well, you have just asked me a question.

You want to ask me if you can ask a 2nd question? What if I say no?

Surely you would use the first opportunity to ask what you wanted too.

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London

"What a great idea it would be if single guys now took the time to read through this thread as I'm sure they could learn a great deal of what not to do. The only problem is is that a lot of the single guys don't ever want to meet people and just use the site for an ego boost so wasting my time trying to give advice I guess. "

I’m sorry but I can ask why this message is solely aimed at single men when women and couples are also guilty of not reading profiles and sending terribly constructed messages?...

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

For us most (probably all) of the above.

I suppose the worst ones for us are "where are you?" when it clearly states on the profile exactly where we are.

Probably most of the messages we get are from guys who obviously haven't got past the 1st line of the profile. Yes, as pointed out above, sometimes from couples as well. But the vast majority are from single guys.

Text speak is an instant turn off, as is trying to pluralise the word you by using "yous" or even worse "youz"

Oh and our Sydney university message is a bit different.

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

Basically the ones who assume the Female is ...and nowadays you could just about put anything in the "Profile" and we have over the years and oh of course messages that contain "Txt" speak and of course .."Babe" ..."Sexy " although mr4 loves being called it and gives him a quite massive ego boost and anything containing a penis or a description of how the "Penis" is doing or not doing ..and the kind offers of watching it ...

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Asking to meet at moment..

Asking for a same day meet (pre covid)...

Asking if I wanna meet when we haven't even spoken or exchanged face shots.

Hi hun/bbe/nawty

Have you got more pics

No avatar /cock avatar

Profile full of other women and hardly anything of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So much negativity lol, what do you all actually like being sent?"

Good point.

Messages that actually reply to the ones that have been sent.

Messages that clearly mean someone has read the profile and shown interest in a point made.

Messages that compliment on pictures (in a better way than "nice chest").

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

"...

If they can't string a sentence together or spelling is horrendous it puts me off"

That must rule out a hell of a lot!

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By *nnie2009Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

People asking to meet now just because you have had first covid jab. Even though i have said not meeting for next couple months

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By *oublethefun OP Man
over a year ago

royston

Being sent a message while online that's directed towards the female. If it's replied to the next message ends up being who am I talking too and if told its the male half online that will be the end of the conversation.

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By *irty desireWoman
over a year ago

newcatle

Pet names.. babe, hun makes me cringe especially if there younger than me

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

Pet names.

Dick pics attached.

One word messages.

"What you up to" (we've all been grounded for a year, what do you think I'm up to).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would simply be happy with a messages these days!

Haha.

Seriously though:

3 or 4 words

Nothing about my profile and why there may be potential.

I've had a couple of 'you look familiar' and/or do we know each other...

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

If they don't repeat the half dozen or so secret words, they don't get to enter the chamber of horror/pleasure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys calling me "babe" or "hun", or telling me they want to suck my clit and fuck my pussy, I'm not a woman, I'm a guy with a dick and an ass, ok, I sometimes wear woman's clothes, but that doesn't change my gender, I hate it when people assume that I'm a sissy because I like to crossdress

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By *amousgrouseCouple
over a year ago

coventry

That really annoys me when they ask that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Will let you know when I get a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couples who think single men should jump through hoops and do anything requested of them to meet them.

Couples who come online late at night offering a meet if you have drugs to bring with you.

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By *odgerNbadgerCouple
over a year ago

Chepstow

"Is hubby out at work? I could come round" usually gets the reply "this is hubby, now foxtrot oscar"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys from couples who want to know what you would do to their wife/partner when you meet. 999 times out of 1000 the wife/partner knows nothing about their husband/partner being on here.

After you tell them what you would do to her they either block you or go unlos.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Short

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am finding the same thing as a reader of profiles, attempting to contact, but getting lost in the ether of bizzare gentleman who bombard, pester a d irritate with obscene requests."

Oh the old it's other singles guys' fault as to why I can't get a meet.

There are lots of successful single guys on here and the idiot single guys don't stop them from getting meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The up to much line. Get it all the time. "

Reply back with

Yes. I am currently replying to about 60 emails from single men asking if I am up to much.

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By *ny1localMan
over a year ago

READING

"CAN I make you an offer? £££"
or conversely, I'm looking for a sugar daddy £££

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The up to much line. Get it all the time.

Reply back with

Yes. I am currently replying to about 60 emails from single men asking if I am up to much.

Well, are you? Don't keep us in suspense

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By *iddle ManMan
over a year ago

Walsall

[Removed by poster at 15/03/21 20:49:19]

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By *iddle ManMan
over a year ago

Walsall

Don't forget the classic "How's you" or "How's yous"

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By *OXO2018Couple
over a year ago

Norfolk

We reply to every message and the block if we aren’t interested.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

It can be as simple as their username or profile pic.

Not interested in a dick pic attached to megadom2020

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By *obbydo1Couple
over a year ago

canterbury

We get 20 messages a day that are deleted like this ... it does make it harder for the genuine guys out there but unfortunately there are so many time wasters that make it less fun than it should be x

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By *aulaxd500TV/TS
over a year ago

Wigan

U ok?

I don't know why but this really annoys me.

It's not a way to start a conversation. It's something you ask a friend if you're worried about them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say there is an amount of apathy from men when trying to communicate. My outbox has many thought out, original messages left on unread. I’m sure I’m not the only one and many a time I have wrote and not sent.

That said it must be equally frustrating or annoying to be bombarded with dull, generic messages.

It’s a bit of a vicious circle unfortunately. As long as the good times are worth it I’m sure we’ll all carry on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really hate the constant barrage of messages I get from women telling me that they're desperate to see me, that they've never known a man like me before, they've been unable to climax with anyone else since me, their boyfriends / husbands don't get them like I do... it never ends. Give it a rest ladies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I really hate the constant barrage of messages I get from women telling me that they're desperate to see me, that they've never known a man like me before, they've been unable to climax with anyone else since me, their boyfriends / husbands don't get them like I do... it never ends. Give it a rest ladies."

I had to delete the tinder due to this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The up to much line. Get it all the time. "

So do I reply with things like yep just washing my smalls lol

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Yes and then you logged in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The have you had any naughty fun lately, or are you going to have naughty fun tonight with hubby. I don't count having sex with my husband as naughty. And it's obvious they just want you to get them off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couples and fems saying...hi how are you..... or winking and lazy to send a message ...or even worse are the ones....that initiate the chat and then dont bother to reply....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hubby and I use this account it's just hilarious sometimes when he gets the dick pics when I am not online.

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By *ex-BombsCouple
over a year ago

Flitwick

Bad grammar! Can’t abide it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hubby and I use this account it's just hilarious sometimes when he gets the dick pics when I am not online. "

I wonder how many guys have messaged bi-couples without reading their profile and ended up getting more of a reply than they bargained for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hubby and I use this account it's just hilarious sometimes when he gets the dick pics when I am not online.

I wonder how many guys have messaged bi-couples without reading their profile and ended up getting more of a reply than they bargained for

He is nice about it getting a tribute pic at the wrong time is funny. He got one one when he was online. It was hilarious.

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

Being asked about meeting when they're 200 miles away. How does that work?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being asked about meeting when they're 200 miles away. How does that work? "

Get them too it's like ok your hot it's not going to happen.

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

"Being asked about meeting when they're 200 miles away. How does that work? "

200 miles! That is just around the corner compared to some we get.

We regularly get "meet tonight" messages from all over the UK even Aberdeen.

Because we are based in Europe we get lots from the Canaries (we are usually a 4 hour flight away)

However the top one was a guy messaged us asking for a meet in Jamaica. At the time we were actually in Singapore.

That could be a FAB record.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some msgs I receive are like an interrogation...True

Asking way too many personal questions...i.e. how many kids have you...where do you live I'll pop over as in they want my address

in a first msg

and many many other very personal questions

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

There are so many things and some of them are silly but we can't help what irks us.

When they can't spell their own location or the word tongue.

When I'm addressed as a couple even though I'm a single lady,

When they say we are looking for the same things when we really are not.

When they clearly are not the age that they say they are.

When they say I'm pretty yet I haven't got any visible face pictures

When they ask if they can ask me a question

When they pretend that they know me from a venue

when they said that we've chatted before, and actually that chatted simply means they've sent me a "wuut" message months before

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By *ikeC2012Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Suggesting a meet when there is a pandemic lockdown on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

“How’s fab treating you?”

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Some msgs I receive are like an interrogation...True

Asking way too many personal questions...i.e. how many kids have you...where do you live I'll pop over as in they want my address

in a first msg

and many many other very personal questions"

I really don’t like that, makes me feel uncomfortable. The amount of guys that try to invite themselves over is shocking, or if they can sneak over while the kids are in bed

My main bugbear messages are...send me your Snapchat, I’m in your area for work, watch me wank on cam

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Short hi how's you messages. Also bad spelling and grammar. If you don't know "their" from "there".. Forget it.

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By *ogisticalBigManMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Having looked through this thread and looked at what people want in a message I have determined the following: sit back, don't message and just have have a wank instead

The mathematics behind a perfect message are too much to comprehend

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By *heAddamsCouple
over a year ago

corbridge

Actually if you read through this thread it is quite easy to see how to write a good message!

Just avoid the pitfalls that people have highlighted.

We do wonder if people who send "wat u up 2?" and the like messages ever begin to realise they are probably not going to work?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually if you read through this thread it is quite easy to see how to write a good message!

Just avoid the pitfalls that people have highlighted.

We do wonder if people who send "wat u up 2?" and the like messages ever begin to realise they are probably not going to work?

Ah well, are you sure they don't work?

Let's do maths

Writing a good messages takes 10 minutes, finding profiles to paste a one-liner into I can do 10 every minute.

So the bad messages I can send out at 100 times the rate of a good message.

For the good messages to work, my response rate needs to be 100 times the response rate of my bad messages.

Put another way, if my bad messages work on 1 / 1000 women then I need to get a reply to 1 of every 10 good messages I send out to get even value from my investment of 100 minutes spent sending messages.

The problem is that if I'm not the most attractive guy, many women aren't interested regardless of what I write. There's a break even point where I am better off writing lots of crap messages instead of a few good ones.

On another note, I'm willing to accept shags as payment for helping you complete your tax returns

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By *heAddamsCouple
over a year ago

corbridge

lol - it gives a whole new meaning to the shotgun approach!

And to send out 100 crap messages in 10 minutes..... You must be employing a team of people to filter the profiles and cut and paste the messages?

I have just had a thought! Why not spend 10 minutes writing a "good" but generic message, and then get your minions to cut and paste that??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"lol - it gives a whole new meaning to the shotgun approach!

And to send out 100 crap messages in 10 minutes..... You must be employing a team of people to filter the profiles and cut and paste the messages?

I have just had a thought! Why not spend 10 minutes writing a "good" but generic message, and then get your minions to cut and paste that??

Thank you for your response to my post. I appreciate your views and will take them into consideration.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually if you read through this thread it is quite easy to see how to write a good message!

Just avoid the pitfalls that people have highlighted.

We do wonder if people who send "wat u up 2?" and the like messages ever begin to realise they are probably not going to work?

We get all the pretty uninspiring, mindless or deadmessages previously mentioned above.

Don't think that we've read "Face pics?" "got any face pictures?" etc. One liners above that is quite common.

Face pictures are a bit of a sticking point for alot of people on here naturally. always a good idea to attach a picture of who you are on a message when asking, if you want to see if someone is genuine and who they are then it's polite and respectful to attach a picture when asking

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By *ikingpairCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

Don't assume, we have had these type of messages from men, women and couples...

Sometimes we reply in a similar vein to see if it might make them realise how boring it is... it doesn't!

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By *oublethefun OP Man
over a year ago

royston

That's simply to reply to as when you receive at least 250 messages every single day and about 230 of them are from single guys and those are the ones I'm talking about that's why it's aimed at single guys that are sending them simple.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Asking what I'm looking for when it's all within my profile and they aren't one of the preference so annoying and damn rude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Couples and fems saying...hi how are you..... or winking and lazy to send a message ...or even worse are the ones....that initiate the chat and then dont bother to reply.... "

This does happen rather a lot actually. Often a wink then a message - to which I reply. Then nothing. Weird !

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By *lacklovingwomanWoman
over a year ago

St. Neots

What are you into ?

Want a fuck ?

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By *kyblue1878Couple
over a year ago

Southport

The usual banal pointless shit like 'hey', 'how are you' 'hows it going'

And then statements or observations like 'great pussy lips'

And, of course, addressing only Mrs Skyblue, when we are a couple.

If you message, one can only assume you're interested and want to meet. If you can't be bothered in your introductory message (or in your profile) then why waste your time and our time. It's an instant delete and more than likely, a block too.

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

All of the above as well as couples profiles with photos of a woman alone with some brief, half assed description of a man expecting to be treated as a couple and more so expecting women and couples to want to meet them.

Just as much irritating as single guys who can't be arsed to show themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Messaging you saying they are playing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When something in the message is the complete opposite of what's in my profile as I've had numourous times lately...

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Wuu2? I'm not 12.

I've got a thing about older women. That's not a compliment.

You're really pretty. They can't see my face.

You're the hottest thing on here. They've obviously not seen the other women in here.

I'm in town tonight. Good for you! I'm at home in my pyjamas.

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By *heDeliveryManMan
over a year ago

Leicester

On the opposite side though, what do you want to hear in 1st message. I see female profiles with nothing about them, one nice body pic (or no public ones), then a comment saying 'must send a face pic' and 'say more than hi how you doing'.

Give us something to go on. Some common interests.

Not having a go, just my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's obvious they haven't read the profile text I delete and block. Silhouettes or sparse photos, delete. Nothing in their profile text demonstrating intelligence or effort, delete. In other words, if they can't be arsed to make an actual effort, I certainly won't.

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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Pushy guys. Guys that haven't read my profile. Photos that look like they have been taken at a tip. Any photo of a guy sitting on a toilet. Instant block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think my profile is fairly concise about what I hate. The big ones are cut and paste messages, boring people and men demanding a response. Been noticing a lot of that last one but I’m putting it down to lockdown. Get a lot of follow up messages saying ‘not interested?’ Or ‘hey just checking you got my last message’ these days.

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By *hrough the looking gla55Couple
over a year ago

Epsom

Omg don’t even get me started. I’ve had to update our profile twice this week and nope. Maybe if I put our profile on our pictures. Maybe going across the boobs... now there’s a potential solution

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being asked questions about things that are already explained within the profile. Shows that they haven't even bothered to take the time to read your profile.

People sending messages aimed at just one person from the couples and people always assuming they are talking to the female when we are seen to be online. "

Text speech......I don't bother trying to decipher it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Messages being exchanged.. seems things are going well.. then a block with no explanation. "

Had that this month. Not been blocked though. We had been exchanging messages for a few weeks and discussed meeting when allowed, then nothing else for a few weeks. I know that she has read the messages but not replied to my last one.

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

Anything daddy related.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

if the profile is just cock pics then I just have no interest.

I need them to have a bit more to offer, I take it for granted that if it's a male profile there's a cock, I want to know what else is there

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By *rincess PhoenixWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

"I think my profile is fairly concise about what I hate. The big ones are cut and paste messages, boring people and men demanding a response. Been noticing a lot of that last one but I’m putting it down to lockdown. Get a lot of follow up messages saying ‘not interested?’ Or ‘hey just checking you got my last message’ these days.

Me too! Or 'did you get my friend request?' Lockdown seems to have made some people more desperate

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By *lanor the FairWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

Not reading my profile , asking to meet , copy and pasted messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pictures taken in bathrooms or stupidly messy homes

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By *entenTeaCouple
over a year ago

Buckley North Wales

The worst we have seen is "wanna fuc".

I verbally layed into him for sending such a truly pathetic and appalling message.

There have been many other dreadful attempts. Especially those that make no effort to read our profile, inculding some suggesting brutal sex. Or asking to come round immediately.

Though there are many genuinely lovely guys here. There are also some vile posturing, so called alpha males and wanking wannabes.

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