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"The most important things for me would be open honesty and communication. A club might be a good idea, when they are open. You don’t have to participate, but you may get an idea? " This clubs are your best bet when they reopen. Many of them have events specifically for newbies which would be good for you. And absolutely be sure that this lifestyle is what you want. I know some people will be put off by the fact that you haven't ever done this before, so there's a chance that when the reality is played out, one or both of you may not like it as much as the fantasy. That can cause drama that people tend to avoid. But a club will be an opportunity for you to get used to that environment and allow you to see swinging for yourselves before getting involved. | |||
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"The most important things for me would be open honesty and communication. A club might be a good idea, when they are open. You don’t have to participate, but you may get an idea? " This is very good advice. I’ve seen new couples at socials as well, that’s a good, no pressure way to get started. If you do decide on a club, make sure that you’re both clear on what you want | |||
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"Hey, thank-you for the reply’s already (mrs here). We both 100 percent know what we want from this, and have talk and talked and talked about it, then had some amazing sex about it For me I suppose, it’s more the easiest way into the lifestyle.. We are a fun couple and love an evening out so the club aspect really excites us both (especially me) but, never been to anything like this in my life so rather nervous about it. The do’s and don’t, how not to offend someone if you are not keen, " Like you, my first time I was pretty nervous on my own at club, but soon overcome inhibitions knowing we are all there for more or less the same thing, to have nsa fun with like minded peeps. There’s never really any pressure to play if you don’t want to, a polite no will suffice. Like most things, good communication is key. | |||
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"If your relationship is fun. Naughty and enjoyable then swinging MAY improve it. If its boring mundane and dull AVOID swinging, it won’t fix it. There’s nothing at all wrong with visiting a club, Not find anyone you want to play with and leave. Don’t play just because you “should”. Though we enjoyed being watched as we played together. To turn someone down a simple “thanks but no thanks” is all you need to say. We have an invisible physical signal between us. Squeezing your partners finger means stay and play. Pulling the finger means get me out of here. Silent. Discrete and to be obeyed instantly without question. Once you 2 are in private then discuss honestly and openly why you stopped it. Without blaming the other person unless they broke your agreed boundaries. We’ve found regretting what you didn’t do means you can do that another time. Regretting what you did do can’t be undone and may split you up. " Your discrete sign to each other is an excellent idea. We may have to steal it. | |||
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"We have an invisible physical signal between us. Squeezing your partners finger means stay and play. Pulling the finger means get me out of here. Silent. Discrete and to be obeyed instantly without question. Once you 2 are in private then discuss honestly and openly why you stopped it. Without blaming the other person unless they broke your agreed boundaries. " This is a wonderful idea! Subtle but clear signal. Bookmarking the thread for the multitude of solid advice on here. Many thanks | |||
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"Soooooo we absolutely brand new to fab and the lifestyle (eager to get started) We joined fab a few months ago whilst in lockdown so haven’t had chance to get started as of yet... but lockdown is now on the way to ending. We would love any advice on how other people got started into the lifestyle and how people would recommend us to find our first experience?? What did couples find they liked and disliked from there first experiences? What was your first experience and how did things change from there first experience to how they do things now? Thank you for taking time to help us " we are also very new we had a social first and chatting with the other couple to set down what we wanted and set boundaries and we also want social first to check everyone clicks x | |||
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