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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi, could I have some tips etc for my profile please ? Or is there just a lot of time wasters on here obviously we can't meet at the moment but still a reply would be nice.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

The first thing I see when looking at your profile is a negative statement "no one ever replies on this bloody site".

Your reference to a cream pie in either hole might be offputting to people who practice safe sex.

You only have two public pics and one is a bit niche.

Keep persevering on this site. I'm sure with some profile tweaking you will get replies.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks, updated my status and changed my profile picture. I'll changed my other things later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ill say it...but the cannot accommodate is a red flag to some people....I cannot accommodate either but I explain why in my profile, so maybe tinker with that

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

Agree with the comments above. The creampie comment would definitely put me off, as would the fact you can't accommodate but offer no explanation why. The profile bio seems more about what you want than what you offer and doesn't really make you stand out from the thousands of other male profiles, One, not very inspiring, picture also isn't great.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry but (to me) your profile is awful from start to finish.

Slightly weird photo

Unpleasant and contradictory "cream pie" text yet safe sex checked as an interest.

Can't accommodate

Your profile generally has a sleazy vibe and makes me feel icky. I can't imagine that the more discerning and selective members would be interested.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

That floating face is the only pic you have so maybe add more.

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By *oxy lady40Woman
over a year ago

bridgwater

Delete it all and start again

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks all, I've updated my text. What do you think ?

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Thanks all, I've updated my text. What do you think ?"

"Looking for something new and different" doesn't tell me much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks all, I've updated my text. What do you think ?

"Looking for something new and different" doesn't tell me much."

Something different from your existing partner?

Is that what you are looking for?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hello matey, hope you find your way here. Take what I say with a pinch of salt because my profile is a load of nonsense haha.

1. As all the other commenters have mentioned, the floating head is a little odd to be honest. Thankfully no close up dick pictures though, so well done.

2. I really don’t understand the phrase:

“I am quite new here but looking for something new a different, is that you ?”

Maybe try wording that a little more succinctly?

3. I see you’ve taken heed of the other commenters and added some blurb on why you can’t accommodate, but it feels even “red-flaggier” than not mentioning at all now.

Anyways, just my two cents. I haven’t been too lucky on here so feel free to ignore everything I say!

Take care dude.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

"I live with someone" is very vague & who that person is will make a big difference to a lot of people. A wife? A housemate? Your parents? Your kids?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Changed it again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Changed it again "

Dude you dont need a smug grin emoji...not everyone on here cheats....

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

Does your partner know that you are on here? Again, that will make a difference to people

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all the advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s not a good camera angle for anyone.

And the (potential) cheating thing? Along with creampie etc just makes me think you are only thinking about yourself and giving no consideration to someone else and their health. If the partner doesn’t know that is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You say you've got a partner and she doesn't know you're on here and yet you say you'd love her to join in. Are you going to say to her or is this just a fantasy as maybe you think she won't approve of you being on the site? Just curious x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You say you've got a partner and she doesn't know you're on here and yet you say you'd love her to join in. Are you going to say to her or is this just a fantasy as maybe you think she won't approve of you being on the site? Just curious x"

Might tell her but not sure she would approve of me being on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Obviously it’s your life, your choice etc etc..

But with prejudice, I’d say you need to pick this site, your partner or involving them.

As soon as we know someone is cheating, that’s it. Done. Blocked. They don’t even get a chance to explain or give an excuse.

And, FYI, single guys on here.. success rate isn’t the best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You say you've got a partner and she doesn't know you're on here and yet you say you'd love her to join in. Are you going to say to her or is this just a fantasy as maybe you think she won't approve of you being on the site? Just curious x

Might tell her but not sure she would approve of me being on here. "

Have an open mind, she might surprise you especially if you tell her you'd like her joining in

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford


"we can't meet at the moment but still a reply would be nice. "

You joined mid-lockdown when no-one's meeting. People don't generally want to expand their circle of contacts if there's no prospect of meeting - it can be a full time job answering all the "how's your day" questions from single guys that are worried well forget about them.

Just be patient, take some decent pics, read other people's profiles and wait till lockdown is over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Obviously it’s your life, your choice etc etc..

But with prejudice, I’d say you need to pick this site, your partner or involving them.

As soon as we know someone is cheating, that’s it. Done. Blocked. They don’t even get a chance to explain or give an excuse.

And, FYI, single guys on here.. success rate isn’t the best. "

Really??? I'm doing much better then I expected...chatting to a few single females with possibility of meeting....whenever that will be...and not just for sex...Nice to flirt and just chat

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

Your profile pic is pretty scary tbh

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

People want to know if you'd be someone they'd potentially enjoy physical contact time with - so need photos to be able to assess this. A face pic is fine but they'll want to know your physique is right for them.

They will be picking from a huge range of other men, so the better you sell yourself and what you'll be giving them, the easier it is for them to know if you're likely as a good potential match and better than the others.

If they get to you and are very uncertain, they will probably pass you by - there will be others mailing them who almost certainly manage to hit the spot better. They need to feel right after checking you out.

I gleaned 2 main things, I think, from reading it - 1. You want a dominant woman 2. You're attached and cheating.

Those 2 things will cut the proportion of women considering you right down, due to being unmatched. None of them will have learned what they would get out of a connection with you, either.

More details will be better. More details about you, leaving others knowing more clearly any reasons why you might be worth considering.

The blander and more vague a profile of a guy is, the less likely it will be that others will get to form some certainty that you could be worth their time.

Plenty of time to get it to reflect you better, as meets aren't happening for a long time yet

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By *tormchasingCouple
over a year ago

Billericay

Agree with most of what has been said here.

We would also add that your profile text (which in itself is a bit vague) talks only about what you want. You might want to say something about what you offer. What makes you stand out from the other single guys here?

Also, this thread in itself days a lot about you. You joined during a pandemic with a vague, slightly weird profile but accuse others of being time wasters. Trust us, good guys get meets. But only the good ones.

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