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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Often seen people say they are top/bottom only on their profile, what does this mean?

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By *ncMan
over a year ago

Dudley

Top is active, bottom is passive, versatile is a bit of both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends if they are a giver or a taker ... bi-guy/gay wise.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So top is a giver & bottom is a receiver?

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By *ncMan
over a year ago

Dudley


"So top is a giver & bottom is a receiver?"

You got it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The same terminology is used in both the gay scene and the BDSM scene.

In the BDSM scene, my understanding is that a "top" is someone who is dominant and a "bottom" someone who is submissive. A "switch" is someone who can be either a top or a bottom. Being topped means being dominated.

I guess it's a question of what context it is mentioned in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The same terminology is used in both the gay scene and the BDSM scene.

In the BDSM scene, my understanding is that a "top" is someone who is dominant and a "bottom" someone who is submissive. A "switch" is someone who can be either a top or a bottom. Being topped means being dominated.

I guess it's a question of what context it is mentioned in."

Top or bottom doesn't necessarily mean one is Dom or sub. I often bottom to tops - but Im in no way submissive to them. I just like the way we play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought you didn't do and didnt do that and also didn't do that when you wasn't doing that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So top is a giver & bottom is a receiver?

You got it "
On a pervy note which does he prefer?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Versatile for the right people

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By *ub bbwWoman
over a year ago

oldbury

in bdsm top and bottom play is normally casual play with a dominant and submissive that are not in a relationship with each other

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By *abloBackMan
over a year ago

London


"The same terminology is used in both the gay scene and the BDSM scene.

In the BDSM scene, my understanding is that a "top" is someone who is dominant and a "bottom" someone who is submissive. A "switch" is someone who can be either a top or a bottom. Being topped means being dominated.

I guess it's a question of what context it is mentioned in.

Top or bottom doesn't necessarily mean one is Dom or sub. I often bottom to tops - but Im in no way submissive to them. I just like the way we play "

You mean you switch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The same terminology is used in both the gay scene and the BDSM scene.

In the BDSM scene, my understanding is that a "top" is someone who is dominant and a "bottom" someone who is submissive. A "switch" is someone who can be either a top or a bottom. Being topped means being dominated.

I guess it's a question of what context it is mentioned in.

Top or bottom doesn't necessarily mean one is Dom or sub. I often bottom to tops - but Im in no way submissive to them. I just like the way we play

You mean you switch"

No - cos I dont top anyone - I only bottom

Switches top and bottom

The only topping I do is strictly from the bottom - cos Im cheeky like that

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By *abloBackMan
over a year ago

London

Top means Dom

Bottom means sub

Switch means alternate

You call it whatever you like if it makes you happy

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By *inkyScot22Man
over a year ago

Anniesland

It gets really confusing when the bottom is on top (cowgirl?) being dom...

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By *arnayguyMan
over a year ago

Durham Tees

Or you get all turned on as you make your way there and arrive to find they have bunks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Top means Dom

Bottom means sub

Switch means alternate

You call it whatever you like if it makes you happy"

I disagree. You can 'top' someone without domming them, I know plenty of people who enjoy the pain side of play without being even slighly submissive.

I have 'bottomed' to people and I have subbed to people. They are not nessesarily the same thing at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But isn't that because, even within BDSM, there's a difference between S&M and D&S?

So, for example, I'm submissive but I'm not a masochist. If I'm looking for someone to top me I'm looking for a Domme. I'm not necessarily looking for someone to hurt me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But isn't that because, even within BDSM, there's a difference between S&M and D&S?

So, for example, I'm submissive but I'm not a masochist. If I'm looking for someone to top me I'm looking for a Domme. I'm not necessarily looking for someone to hurt me."

Yeppers

It's a bit like... erm...

A ford Fiesta is a car, but a car is not nessesarily a Ford Fiesta

Does that make any sense? lol!

If I am playing with someone who makes me feel 'compliant' I don't see that as 'bottoming' it doesn't feel the same to me at all as a bloody good fun thrashing ... but maybe that's just my view of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like being bottom because it feels good and I like being top because it also feels good.

It has absolutely nothing at all to do with wanting to be dom or wanting to be sub....it just feels GOOD.

I wish some people would stop attaching labels to people.

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By *arnayguyMan
over a year ago

Durham Tees


"It's a bit like... erm...

A ford Fiesta is a car, but a car is not nessesarily a Ford Fiesta

If I am playing with someone who makes me feel 'compliant' I don't see that as 'bottoming' it doesn't feel the same to me at all as a bloody good fun thrashing ... but maybe that's just my view of it "

I thrashed a Ford Fiesta once but it didn't feel at all kinky!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just like good sex!

What does that make me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The only topping I do is strictly from the bottom - cos Im cheeky like that "

But you're cheeky every which way!! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Top means Dom

Bottom means sub

Switch means alternate

You call it whatever you like if it makes you happy

I disagree. You can 'top' someone without domming them, I know plenty of people who enjoy the pain side of play without being even slighly submissive.

I have 'bottomed' to people and I have subbed to people. They are not nessesarily the same thing at all.

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