FabSwingers.com forum: Help with androgynous guy

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

my partner matt is having trouble finding someone.

well matt, is and i know this is going to sound odd, but he's an androgynous guy and when he's with a girl its girl-girl. when he does it it looks and feels like two girls doing it and it's very hot xxx

We had one bi-girl play with with and she loved it, she's been with girls obviously being bi and said with my eyes closed it's the same.

he's attracted to girls like a girl is attracted to girls, but he's absolutely amazing in bed as a result he know just the right way to touch them, but they think he is taking the P on here.

It's not a weird excuse to get girls in a sneaky way or anything, we know guys will try anything but he is totally genuine.

so, how do we prove he's not taking the p.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry, what exactly are you asking girls to do?

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By *inkyScot22Man
over a year ago

Anniesland

An old girlfriend once said I had sex like a woman, I took it as a compliment but I really should've asked her what she meant by it, kinda sounds like what you're talking about...

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

I doubt its anything to do with being androgynous or not. It's hard for guys to get meets on here, full stop.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

ok to be more detailed :

Matt is: androgynous and a lesbian-identified male or guydyke as it's called

Guydyke refers to a biologically male person who feels a strong romantic or erotic attraction towards lesbians, bisexual women, or lesbian culture

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't most guys fancy lesbians? The fit ones lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So he is straight x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

yeah guess they do but, do you want to use your fingers and oral but no cock with them

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

he wont use his cock but will use a strapon?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i guess hes trying to get you girls in bed with him lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is he secure with being a man not transgender x does he like his penis

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"he wont use his cock but will use a strapon?"

I think you might struggle on a site like Fab for this sort of thing. Have you looked at transgender sites?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

he will use his penis but more for the girls pleasure than his, he is happy with his penis as far as i know

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

and he is totally happy with his male body just he is attracted to bi/lesbian girls but usually not straight girls

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"and he is totally happy with his male body just he is attracted to bi/lesbian girls but usually not straight girls "

Pardon me for being rude....but he's just a regular guy. Any old guy.

Proof?

Round up lads. Hands up who is more attracted to bi and lesbian ladies? *counts* Yup that's about 90% of the guys in the world.

Sorry if I sound facetious, but come on....

PS If I end up on the naughty step, it was totally worth it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"and he is totally happy with his male body just he is attracted to bi/lesbian girls but usually not straight girls "

well theres a surprise, i just found out whats been wrong with me all these years , im also attracted to 2 women especially bi ones, who will let my have my way with them

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

I don't really see how anyone could reasonably say he's being sneaky or trying to trick people.

He's not pretending to be a girl. You're being open about what who you are and what you're looking for. If people are still being funny, then forget them, they're probably idiots and not going to be worth playing with anyway!

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he is only attracted to gay girls then he really is stuck lol I reckon all girls are at least a little bi curious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't really see how anyone could reasonably say he's being sneaky or trying to trick people.

Good luck!"

I am not an idiot thank you.

Actually I googled this lesbian identified male and I also remember the term coming up on The L Word.

Nobody is suggesting he's sneaky. I personally find it funny that guys have come up with a PC way of pursuing bi and lesbian women. That isn't sneaky, it's innovative. It is still, however, a total load of bollocks.

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

"Pardon me for being rude....but he's just a regular guy. Any old guy.

Proof?

Round up lads. Hands up who is more attracted to bi and lesbian ladies? *counts* Yup that's about 90% of the guys in the world."

Gender and sexuality issues can be really complicated. If he identifies as a male lesbian, why not?

There's a difference between liking bi girls and wanting to give them a damn hard fucking (as I would!) and wanting to play with them in a girlie manner.

Don't see why you feel the need to try and dismiss it when neither you nor I know what the scenario is.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"It is still, however, a total load of bollocks."

Transgenderisnm isn't 'bollocks'. The guy identifies as a gay woman who wants to meet gay women. I don't see a problem with that. I just think they are on the wrong site for that sort of thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is still, however, a total load of bollocks.

Transgenderisnm isn't 'bollocks'. The guy identifies as a gay woman who wants to meet gay women. I don't see a problem with that. I just think they are on the wrong site for that sort of thing."

He is not trans. They said that themselves. I have trans friends and would never say that is bollocks. However a guy who prefers lesbians and bi women and then calls it a name is talking bollocks....that is just a guy.

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

"I don't really see how anyone could reasonably say he's being sneaky or trying to trick people.

Good luck!

I am not an idiot thank you.

Actually I googled this lesbian identified male and I also remember the term coming up on The L Word.

In the OP his female friend said people think he's being sneaky. That's what I was referring to.

You keep up the judgmental attitude though, its really nice.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"It is still, however, a total load of bollocks.

Transgenderisnm isn't 'bollocks'. The guy identifies as a gay woman who wants to meet gay women. I don't see a problem with that. I just think they are on the wrong site for that sort of thing.

I agree that the OP states that he still plays as a guy, but it does sound like he ids as a gay woman. The fact he uses his cock is odd but he hasn't actually posted here himself so nothing is certain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't really see how anyone could reasonably say he's being sneaky or trying to trick people.

Good luck!

I am not an idiot thank you.

Actually I googled this lesbian identified male and I also remember the term coming up on The L Word.

In the OP his female friend said people think he's being sneaky. That's what I was referring to.

You keep up the judgmental attitude though, its really nice."

I wasn't judging him. I just find it funny. Chill out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It sounds like the guys who like to suck cock but aren't bi. Everyone can have their own label.

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

You decided to tell the guy his sexuality was a 'load of bollocks'. Might be funny to you, probably isn't to him.

Perfectly chilled, thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is still, however, a total load of bollocks.

Transgenderisnm isn't 'bollocks'. The guy identifies as a gay woman who wants to meet gay women. I don't see a problem with that. I just think they are on the wrong site for that sort of thing.

To be fair, you have a point there.

That said, I was going on what they said and that was that he identifies as biologically male and he was also born male. This does not place him as trans.

I am aware that there are grey areas here. However, I cannot see how the guydyke and girlfag (I wiki'ed them) are not jst a gimmick name. I like bi guys, but this does not make me a girlfag...I'm just pervy about guy/guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You decided to tell the guy his sexuality was a 'load of bollocks'. Might be funny to you, probably isn't to him.

Perfectly chilled, thanks."

Where was his sexuality mentioned?

I believe I said that giving what guys regularly like a name and saying that he is different was a load of bollocks...and that is true.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

well i watched him with a bi-girl in the same room and the way he went about it he was way more gentle than a guy is usually.

it was all cuddely, caring his eyes went all that girly way.

when she touched him his legs buckled he went all giggly like a girl.

it was all soft kissing, hugging, gentle very tender he didn't use a toy or his cock.

if he is a guy he is the strangest guy on earth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats just soft swop, loads of people do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well i watched him with a bi-girl in the same room and the way he went about it he was way more gentle than a guy is usually.

it was all cuddely, caring his eyes went all that girly way.

when she touched him his legs buckled he went all giggly like a girl.

it was all soft kissing, hugging, gentle very tender he didn't use a toy or his cock.

if he is a guy he is the strangest guy on earth. "

With all due respect, I have slept with guys like this. It tends to be bi guys from my experience. They seem to be more tender and behaved very differently to straight guys.

For your other half's point of view, it's possible that he can see women from a woman's perspective, and that is great.

I did not mean any disrespect and I do apologise if it came across that way. I found it a bit funny on first reading is all, on account of the fact that most guys prefer bi and lesbian women.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

we have been soft swapping so far, it seems to be working for him.

but guys usually want to bang everything that moves so whats wrong with him.

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By *inkyScot22Man
over a year ago

Anniesland

"well i watched him with a bi-girl in the same room and the way he went about it he was way more gentle than a guy is usually.

it was all cuddely, caring his eyes went all that girly way.

when she touched him his legs buckled he went all giggly like a girl.

it was all soft kissing, hugging, gentle very tender he didn't use a toy or his cock.

if he is a guy he is the strangest guy on earth. "

First off, very creepy, you're describing the way I have sex... but I do use my cock and don't identify as a 'guydyke' I just call what I do being a 'nice guy' and being not being 'cock-focused' when it comes to sex

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"With all due respect, I have slept with guys like this. It tends to be bi guys from my experience. They seem to be more tender and behaved very differently to straight guys.

For your other half's point of view, it's possible that he can see women from a woman's perspective, and that is great.

I did not mean any disrespect and I do apologise if it came across that way. I found it a bit funny on first reading is all, on account of the fact that most guys prefer bi and lesbian women."

it's ok he's not bi he tried guys and he doesn't like that either.

but he is extremely fem like a bi/gay guy however he is not attracted to men or straight girls.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"With all due respect, I have slept with guys like this. It tends to be bi guys from my experience. They seem to be more tender and behaved very differently to straight guys.

For your other half's point of view, it's possible that he can see women from a woman's perspective, and that is great.

I did not mean any disrespect and I do apologise if it came across that way. I found it a bit funny on first reading is all, on account of the fact that most guys prefer bi and lesbian women.

it's ok he's not bi he tried guys and he doesn't like that either.

but he is extremely fem like a bi/gay guy however he is not attracted to men or straight girls. "

I don't like straight men. Haven't done for over a decade. I won't touch them.

It's a preference.

Don't try to label what he is, because he's still young and has plenty of time to grow into his own identity.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"we have been soft swapping so far, it seems to be working for him.

but guys usually want to bang everything that moves so whats wrong with him. "

There's nothing wrong with him, and he is probably not much different from other guys. I recommend you try just to meet bi fems as a couple. Don't use these new words to id him as most people won't understand what you mean, and by the time you explain they'll probably have gone.

He sounds like a guy who is just a little more emotionally attached than most guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is he 100% definitely straight?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

yeah he's straight the only other solution we can think of is he is borderline asexual

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"yeah he's straight the only other solution we can think of is he is borderline asexual "

Aces don't have sex. Have you looked at biromantic?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why so keen to put a label on a preference? Next week it could be you with butch gay rugby player types. Drop labels, and enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

yes he's tried that one too lol he's been on a 27 year confusing journey to try and work himself out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why so keen to put a label on a preference? Next week it could be you with butch gay rugby player types. Drop labels, and enjoy. "

very true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well i watched him with a bi-girl in the same room and the way he went about it he was way more gentle than a guy is usually.

it was all cuddely, caring his eyes went all that girly way.

when she touched him his legs buckled he went all giggly like a girl.

it was all soft kissing, hugging, gentle very tender he didn't use a toy or his cock.

if he is a guy he is the strangest guy on earth.

... same here

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"yes he's tried that one too lol he's been on a 27 year confusing journey to try and work himself out."

I think you're just going to have to describe him as 'confused'. In the meantime I am sure all will be fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"With all due respect, I have slept with guys like this. It tends to be bi guys from my experience. They seem to be more tender and behaved very differently to straight guys.

For your other half's point of view, it's possible that he can see women from a woman's perspective, and that is great.

I did not mean any disrespect and I do apologise if it came across that way. I found it a bit funny on first reading is all, on account of the fact that most guys prefer bi and lesbian women.

it's ok he's not bi he tried guys and he doesn't like that either.

but he is extremely fem like a bi/gay guy however he is not attracted to men or straight girls.

I don't like straight men. Haven't done for over a decade. I won't touch them.

It's a preference.

Don't try to label what he is, because he's still young and has plenty of time to grow into his own identity."

When I was younger I was desperate to understand what 'label' I should have. I figured it out one day and felt much happier. So I totally understand why he would feel the need to have some kind of label. It's nice to feel you fit in somewhere.

Possibly he could be pansexual? Or he could just fall somewhere along the grey line between hetero/ gay/ bi.

Either way, it sounds like he's really lucky to have you (OP) as his girlfriend. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im with starra tbh.

sounds like your trying to push him into a corner and determine his 'business' to label him.

mostly sounds like a nice guy, like those who care about feelings instead of a fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

reading back and i don't even know half the terms written about.....can we not just say human?!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

would be alot easier to say human no im not trying to push him im just trying to help him feel like he fits in, thats all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know it's late and I've had a couple of beers, but this thread is REALLY making my head hurt......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"would be alot easier to say human no im not trying to push him im just trying to help him feel like he fits in, thats all "

Why should have to fit in why cant he just be happy with himself x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we have been soft swapping so far, it seems to be working for him.

but guys usually want to bang everything that moves so whats wrong with him. "

That's not quite true.

There's nothing 'wrong' with him.

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By *thlete0Couple
over a year ago

southend

"well i watched him with a bi-girl in the same room and the way he went about it he was way more gentle than a guy is usually.

it was all cuddely, caring his eyes went all that girly way.

when she touched him his legs

buckled he went all giggly like a girl.

This is clearly real! He's a guy who kinda wants to be a girl (traped in a guys body) and so he's a girl inside who's bi that's all...simples

it was all soft kissing, hugging, gentle very tender he didn't use a toy or his cock.

if he is a guy he is the strangest guy on earth. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why label him, it sounds like hes having fun, if so then just carry on and enjoy

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By *orth West CoupleCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

"well i watched him with a bi-girl in the same room and the way he went about it he was way more gentle than a guy is usually.

it was all cuddely, caring his eyes went all that girly way.

when she touched him his legs buckled he went all giggly like a girl.

it was all soft kissing, hugging, gentle very tender he didn't use a toy or his cock.

if he is a guy he is the strangest guy on earth. "
You said it.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont think there is a way to stop people thinking your taking your mick if thats what they thinking . On a sie like this everyone is going to be cynical of tothers especially if its something they have never heard of or dont understand . I dont really understand it myself and doub anyopne will unless they been through it , however having said that if it was explained to me in the way it has been in this forum it wouldnt bother me that much . good luck .

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

What a special little flower, best get some labels out for him so everyone can know exactly why hes special.

Just sounds like a straight guy to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What a special little flower, best get some labels out for him so everyone can know exactly why hes special.

Just sounds like a straight guy to me

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

"but guys usually want to bang everything that moves so whats wrong with him. "

There's nothing wrong with him and,if he can find the pleasure in life that he seeks, he can have a sexually fulfilling life. Androgyny is very healthy psychologically, and he may want to rate his personality on the Bem scale. We're all potentially a mix of 'feminine' and 'masculine' traits, and this may also be represented in our sexual selves.

The labels seek to help some people where it helps them to crystalise their understanding into a simple term, but we're all so unique that it's near impossible to squash the billions of us into a few small categories.

How we love to express ourselves sexually is a wonderfully personal thing, and we all find some people more on our wavelength than others. I can imagine that many females would love the tenderness of being affectionately caressed this way - it's just a matter of finding females for him who want reciprocal needs this way. Maybe he could provide some words for you, so he describes himself to us, if there's something we're missing. Sure there will be people out there for him, but less sure that it's going to be lesbians, as he's physically male in form.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Androgynous:

Having both male and female characteristics( appearance )that it becomes a challenge for one to decipher what sex that person is."

That's what google tells me it is

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Androgynous:

Having both male and female characteristics( appearance )that it becomes a challenge for one to decipher what sex that person is.

That's what google tells me it is

I have always found a 5 o clock shadow a defining characteristic of androgyny !

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By *uby In StockingsTV/TS
over a year ago

Cheadle

Well I am classified as androgynous and if you want to put me in a label then that's the one I feel closest to, for those of you that think of themselves as perfect and in a position to ridicule and judge others then I feel sorry that you don't appear educated enough to consider other humans feelings or emotions, xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I am classified as androgynous and if you want to put me in a label then that's the one I feel closest to, for those of you that think of themselves as perfect and in a position to ridicule and judge others then I feel sorry that you don't appear educated enough to consider other humans feelings or emotions, xx

Well said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said.

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just sounds like a straight guy to me

Let me add to that, sounds like a straight guy who is acting "different" in order to impress the girls and it's clearly working on at least one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The *what*? And who classified you as that? The government?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a lesbian trapped in a man's body if that's any help?

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By *uby In StockingsTV/TS
over a year ago

Cheadle

The *what*? And who classified you as that? The government?"

Well, if it's any of your business, the NHS and my gender psychologist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

but he is extremely fem like a bi/gay guy however he is not attracted to men or straight girls. "

I'm sorry but you're trying to appear very open minded and supportive and you come out with a wholy inaccurate sweeping stereotypical generalization like that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The *what*? And who classified you as that? The government?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Learning curve heh, OP?

Posting in this liberal, open minded forum is like throwing raw steak to a pack of starving wolves.

Him.

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By *r mrs pCouple
over a year ago

taunton

"I know it's late and I've had a couple of beers, but this thread is REALLY making my head hurt......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just sounds like 90% of guys *** holds hand up *** i'v played with Bi girls and not used my cock.

In fact with Helen i will just please her and not use my cock, just as she sometimes just pleases me.

However the only thing i consider myself is one bloody lucky, kinky guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

an·drog·y·nous [an-droj-uh-nuhs] Show IPA

adjective

being both male and female; hermaphroditic.

having both masculine and feminine characteristics.

having an ambiguous sexual identity.

neither clearly masculine nor clearly feminine in appearance: the androgynous look of many rock stars.

sorry i just had to give you the definition of androgyny, as phil said above we are both very gentle and loving and he does'nt always use his cock to satisfy me he has always been a very gentle and caring lover this is his way, now i honestly think its unfair to label your partner in this way unless he has the above characteristics if he is happy to use his cock with a woman then he is a normal red blooded male i'm afraid, and i can say that in a medical opinion too as an ex psych nurse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

am I the only 1 thinking how is he getting gay women?! I thought if you were gay you liked vagina?!! it doesnt matter if u do things like a girl it comes down to 1 thing - your a man!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"am I the only 1 thinking how is he getting gay women?! I thought if you were gay you liked vagina?!! it doesnt matter if u do things like a girl it comes down to 1 thing - your a man!

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By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow

You say he isn't attracted to straight girls and yet you are a straight girl and you are a couple together. Just how does that work?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Learning curve heh, OP?

Posting in this liberal, open minded forum is like throwing raw steak to a pack of starving wolves.

Him."

I've already eaten tonight...

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry but..

If im having sex with a man....

Sure as hell he better use his cock!!!!!

Why have a dog and bark yourself??

Auds xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a tad confused about this one! tried to figure it out to comment but my brain hurts now

as long as you're having fun who cares what 'ticket' you're wearing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry but I dont get it either. It is the early hours of the morning though.

And I cant get my head around wearing a strap on when you have a cock. does it sit properly on the body cos id imagine they are designed for women to wear. I dont know of course cos ive never worn one

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By *ohjaneCouple
over a year ago

south staffs

"I reckon all girls are at least a little bi curious."

Erm . . . NO. I think that is male fantasy talking there.

Jane x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"so, how do we prove he's not taking the p. "

Overlooking what has been said on this topic. It's back to basics. Your profile makes poor reading. Turns you from a good looking couple looking for bi-females into a medical nightmare that is best avoided.

You would be so much more successful just looking for soft swap with other couples with bi fem. save the reasons until you are friends with potential meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"am I the only 1 thinking how is he getting gay women?! I thought if you were gay you liked vagina?!! it doesnt matter if u do things like a girl it comes down to 1 thing - your a man!

Yes however some lesbians, so I have heard have anal sex, often with gay blokes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really, he's just a straight guy that plays soft (oral, fingers, soft sensual touching and kissing etc) with other females?

Has no particular interest in actual penetrative sex as when he plays he's all about the "other" fem, and not himself.

Gains most enjoyment from visual stimulation and what he senses the females is feeling during play?

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By *ohnny4playMan
over a year ago

Kinross

"we have been soft swapping so far, it seems to be working for him.

but guys usually want to bang everything that moves so whats wrong with him. "

There is nothing 'wrong' with him.

I'd say he likes to please, being tactile and enjoying a womens body - I can identify with that and enjoy that without having to stick a penis anywhere.

As long as you warn potential partners they might not be getting a hard fucking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"am I the only 1 thinking how is he getting gay women?! I thought if you were gay you liked vagina?!! it doesnt matter if u do things like a girl it comes down to 1 thing - your a man!

Yes however some lesbians, so I have heard have anal sex, often with gay blokes

do they moan if you get the wrong hole...?

would love to diddle a cock-dodger

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Androgyny is very healthy psychologically, and he may want to rate his personality on the Bem scale. We're all potentially a mix of 'feminine' and 'masculine' traits, and this may also be represented in our sexual selves.

Hi, matt here on my solo account. weaveintothewin2 is our couple account I thought i'd come on here and talk cause i feel very lost in my gender/sexuality did an online bem test

http://androgyne.0catch.com/gentest1.htm

GENDER TRAITS SCORES

Masculine -20 and under

Nearly Masculine -19 to -10

Androgynous -9 to +9

Nearly feminine +9 to +19

Feminine +20 and over

I scored 36 is this good or bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gains most enjoyment from visual stimulation and what he senses the females is feeling during play?

yeah that's sounds about right, I'm not really bothered about my own pleasure I get pleasure from watching a girls face getting pleasure if that makes sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"am I the only 1 thinking how is he getting gay women?! I thought if you were gay you liked vagina?!! it doesnt matter if u do things like a girl it comes down to 1 thing - your a man!

Yes however some lesbians, so I have heard have anal sex, often with gay blokes

do they moan if you get the wrong hole...?

would love to diddle a cock-dodger

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi, matt here on my solo account. weaveintothewin2 is our couple account I thought i'd come on here and talk cause i feel very lost in my gender/sexuality did an online bem test

http://androgyne.0catch.com/gentest1.htm

GENDER TRAITS SCORES

Masculine -20 and under

Nearly Masculine -19 to -10

Androgynous -9 to +9

Nearly feminine +9 to +19

Feminine +20 and over

I scored 36 is this good or bad."

Read the bit at the bottom again. Was it positive or negative 36? Depends on which column you scored more on, the 2nd or 3rd column.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read the bit at the bottom again. Was it positive or negative 36? Depends on which column you scored more on, the 2nd or 3rd column.

65 in 2nd column

29 in 3rd column

65 - 29 = +36

so im + 36

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By *ncMan
over a year ago

Dudley

Apparently I'm almost masculine with a -11. Need to understand what that means so more reading needed

Hi, matt here on my solo account. weaveintothewin2 is our couple account I thought i'd come on here and talk cause i feel very lost in my gender/sexuality did an online bem test

http://androgyne.0catch.com/gentest1.htm

GENDER TRAITS SCORES

Masculine -20 and under

Nearly Masculine -19 to -10

Androgynous -9 to +9

Nearly feminine +9 to +19

Feminine +20 and over

I scored 36 is this good or bad.

Read the bit at the bottom again. Was it positive or negative 36? Depends on which column you scored more on, the 2nd or 3rd column.

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By *inkyScot22Man
over a year ago

Anniesland

http://androgyne.0catch.com/gentest1.htm

GENDER TRAITS SCORES

Masculine -20 and under

Nearly Masculine -19 to -10

Androgynous -9 to +9

Nearly Feminine +9 to +19

Feminine +20 and over

55 - 41 = +14... which makes me Nearly Feminine

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By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow

Your partners post above says that you aren't into straight girls and yet she is straight. Isn't that a contradiction?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your partners post above says that you aren't into straight girls and yet she is straight. Isn't that a contradiction?"

yeah but thats why all their verifications are from single guys..she gets her filling from elsewhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Woo hoo, I am all feminine with a score of 27

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I may be a lesbian

All these years I've been using my fingers, tongue and dare I say it.....cock!!

This has answered a lot of questions.

I might even start wearing dungarees to add to the effect and scorn other men for opening doors for me and call them sexist pigs for eye-ing me up.

Only ome word springs to mind for the op

Naievety.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dammit. I'm only nearly a woman

What I wanna know is, who stole my penis?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nope... still don't get it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its the " he is attracted to girls the same way a girl is attracted to girls" that has confused me.

Im bi...Im attracted to girls by the same things as men

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By *r and mrs sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

BOLDON COLLIERY

Well if he is going by that test.

He is being mislead I have no problem with my sexuality and i only got +5 so what does that tell you ?

I have always been a lesbian as I like women and don't want to shag a guy

mrshields

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

I'm androgynous, apparently...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think "Matt" is having problems meeting someone for a lot of reasons.

One of them possibly being, that according to his " Are these acceptable swinging rules" thread... you insist on single fems coming to your house to be "vetted" by you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a straight guy I actually prefer straight women. Bi women seem to come across more bitchy towards guys and bitchiness is a turn off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a straight guy I actually prefer straight women. Bi women seem to come across more bitchy towards guys and bitchiness is a turn off."

Errrrr what?

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over a year ago

"As a straight guy I actually prefer straight women. Bi women seem to come across more bitchy towards guys and bitchiness is a turn off.

Errrrr what?"

I must admit I looked and thought that too

Wolf

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

Much ado about nothing me thinks . A case of trying too hard to feel special or different . Why he is confused is beyond me .,and as for these silly labels .

he is a male In touch with feminine side who likes to pleasure women .

welcome to the club this fantasy with gay women is a distraction gay women are as diverse as any other group with their preferences

Eddie izzard labeled himself as a pre op transexul ,lesbian with out the op 20 years ago

as for this sweeping statement that men are not gentle or tactile , perhaps madam needs to experience more men

so he is a sensitive soul who likes playing with fanny . Can't see any confusion here although he may need to wake up to fact that the only real difference between a lesbian and non is many lesbians only want to lick and play with fanny and boobs and so far ee ain't got either

he is not different odd or extra special and stop trying to pigeon hole his sexual preference

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I will admit I am very confused by all of your and his posts! he has contacted me direct and as soon as I mentioned bdsm, there was a different story! Also, for someone who is crying at lack of meets etc, you've had more than I have in 8 weeks and I've been here for more than 3 years lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a straight guy I actually prefer straight women. Bi women seem to come across more bitchy towards guys and bitchiness is a turn off.

Errrrr what?"

The one opposing the OP was stating that most guys will say they prefer lesbians/bis to straight women. Not the case.

Also from that i'm not banding everybody as the same but i've just found there's more general waspiness from the non-straight women towards guys but it might just be the specific ones i've come across. I know they're not all the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"my partner matt is having trouble finding someone.

We had one bi-girl play with with and she loved it, she's been with girls obviously being bi and said with my eyes closed it's the same.

he's attracted to girls like a girl is attracted to girls, but he's absolutely amazing in bed as a result he know just the right way to touch them, but they think he is taking the P on here.

It's not a weird excuse to get girls in a sneaky way or anything, we know guys will try anything but he is totally genuine.

so, how do we prove he's not taking the p. "

people will believe what they want to believe they no way you can change that so just gotta accept the way things are really, more you go on about it on profiles etc then i think the more you probs alienate people who arnt familar at all, maybe they other sites that catter for it better? :s

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