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"Maybe friends with benefits is too close to a relationship for a lot of women on here ?" I think that you are right with that x | |||
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"This is something I have looking for. More so since hubby has worked away Monday to Friday. He's luckily been home since the first lockdown, but may have to go away again soon" Well there's nothing wrong with that x you should go ahead and find a fwb x its always nice to be able to phone a fwb when you get that overwhelming urge x | |||
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"I'd love an FWB! Just don't know how to find one... It's hard on this site cos it's so focused on the Benefits side, not the Friends bit. I've got a medical procedure coming up. I'd love an FwB to look after me overnight post sedation. Instead I'm relying on friends to tag team... It can be really miserable being single sometimes. " You did have one! | |||
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"This is something I have looking for. More so since hubby has worked away Monday to Friday. He's luckily been home since the first lockdown, but may have to go away again soon" Hey guys Thomas works nights so angie knows how you feel we are near you,friends and meet a cpl of times at the old Sussex social I will ddrop you a hello x | |||
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"I'd love an FWB! Just don't know how to find one... It's hard on this site cos it's so focused on the Benefits side, not the Friends bit. I've got a medical procedure coming up. I'd love an FwB to look after me overnight post sedation. Instead I'm relying on friends to tag team... It can be really miserable being single sometimes. " I’m happy to help out . | |||
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"I've found men just want the benefits, without the friendship. They think checking in on WhatsApp once a month is a friendship " Story of my life | |||
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"I'd love an FWB! Just don't know how to find one... It's hard on this site cos it's so focused on the Benefits side, not the Friends bit. I've got a medical procedure coming up. I'd love an FwB to look after me overnight post sedation. Instead I'm relying on friends to tag team... It can be really miserable being single sometimes. " You would still be ‘single’ with a FWB as it’s not a relationship. I’ve a lovely FWB but I would not expect him to nurse me. | |||
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"I've found men just want the benefits, without the friendship. They think checking in on WhatsApp once a month is a friendship " Not all men, I've had FWB's and im more than happy to have it feel in part like a relationship where you're there for each other through whatever may come but it's not a full relationship. Its not exclusive and and you're both still single and live that way, just that it's a proper friendship where sex is also involved. I like things that way too but then its probably because I'm polyamorous. | |||
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"a FWb is a one way thing for a guy , take these scenarios.. 1 her - what you doing ..fancy coming over ? me - yeah ok ( shes horny) after several weeks.. 1 me - you ok ? her yeah me fancy meeting up ? her no No idea whats going on here ! 3. me - what you doing tonight ? her i'm busy , painting the bathroom ceiling, planning a party for my sisters neice brother in law ! ( i was horny ) ! Tips for guys .. 1 get several fwb's 2 don't get married ones 3. get some new hobbies Tips for ladies .. " Where's the friendship? | |||
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"a FWb is a one way thing for a guy , take these scenarios.. 1 her - what you doing ..fancy coming over ? me - yeah ok ( shes horny) after several weeks.. 1 me - you ok ? her yeah me fancy meeting up ? her no No idea whats going on here ! 3. me - what you doing tonight ? her i'm busy , painting the bathroom ceiling, planning a party for my sisters neice brother in law ! ( i was horny ) ! Tips for guys .. 1 get several fwb's 2 don't get married ones 3. get some new hobbies Tips for ladies .. Where's the friendship?" Exactly!!! | |||
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"I've found men just want the benefits, without the friendship. They think checking in on WhatsApp once a month is a friendship " Not all men, and you'd be surprised at what some women think is acceptable for the F part. In an FWB, the F is hugely important to me. So, meeting socially, for coffee, drinks, meals, walks, etc. Being there as best you can for each other. But not an exclusive thing. You could have several. The benefits are obvious, enhanced by the F part. If you're lucky enough to get a great friendship, and equally great benefits, then hold on to it! | |||
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"lol so basically you're good enough to fuck but not good enough to be considered as a girlfriend You're supposed to keep your life on hold and wait around for a possible booty call" No, that's not it at all... you're describing a fuck buddy. I think the crux of it comes down to two things. Are you ready for or do you want a commitment? Do you want exclusivity? Crucially, it's not down to any hardened definition of what an FWB arrangement is. That definition is something that is agreed or understood (or should be) by both parties. In my past experience, it wasn't unlike a boyfriend / girlfriend arrangement, with the significant differences in that each was free to see others, and we were not "an item". So meals, drinks, walks, days out, helping out... all part of the package. | |||
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"I've found men just want the benefits, without the friendship. They think checking in on WhatsApp once a month is a friendship Not all men, and you'd be surprised at what some women think is acceptable for the F part. In an FWB, the F is hugely important to me. So, meeting socially, for coffee, drinks, meals, walks, etc. Being there as best you can for each other. But not an exclusive thing. You could have several. The benefits are obvious, enhanced by the F part. If you're lucky enough to get a great friendship, and equally great benefits, then hold on to it!" In my experience the F part is more important, being there for each other, walks, chilling out together, hanging out, shopping together, having a laugh. No one should be expected to have sex even with a FWB! | |||
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"I know I don't want a fuck buddy! or to be treated like an unpaid prostitute, which guys on here do" What do you want? An FB arrangement should be something mutual, for both sides. Having had FWB arrangements, feeling like an unpaid prostitute was never part of the equation. And if you wish to equate, a prostitute would be much cheaper. | |||
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"lol so basically you're good enough to fuck but not good enough to be considered as a girlfriend You're supposed to keep your life on hold and wait around for a possible booty call" This is exactly why I don’t do FWB lol! What’s the point in getting to know someone and spending time with them none sexually for it never to go anywhere. Have friends, have sex, and date. Keep it all separate haha x | |||
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"Yes but it was on tinder. When not on lockdown we meet every Monday for drinks and a night of amazing sex, Go for a nice lunch together and then I drop her off home. It’s a very good arrangement." Tinder can be great, I had a lady friend i met on there used to have a take out on a friday ...go out drinking...lots of sex .some sleep ...cooked breakfast and she would drop me back home ... | |||
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"a FWb is a one way thing for a guy , take these scenarios.. 1 her - what you doing ..fancy coming over ? me - yeah ok ( shes horny) after several weeks.. 1 me - you ok ? her yeah me fancy meeting up ? her no No idea whats going on here ! 3. me - what you doing tonight ? her i'm busy , painting the bathroom ceiling, planning a party for my sisters neice brother in law ! ( i was horny ) ! " That's not FWB but more FB. | |||
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"For me a FWB is at least 80% friendship. There’s more to life than sex. " I totally agree I value my friendships above sex | |||
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"I've been searching for a fwb but most men just want a quick grope and fuck in a carpark lol" You are right unfortunately I would love to find someone nice and keep him for longer | |||
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"I've been searching for a fwb but most men just want a quick grope and fuck in a carpark lol" that may be true for some but definitely not all. Some of us still have some class about us | |||
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"I've been searching for a fwb but most men just want a quick grope and fuck in a carpark lol that may be true for some but definitely not all. Some of us still have some class about us " I believe so, but they usually live far from me | |||
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"I've been searching for a fwb but most men just want a quick grope and fuck in a carpark lol " that may be true for some but definitely not all. Some of us still have some class about us " When I read the former of the above quotes I thought "Cue all the replies detaching themselves from that label". The second quote confirms that I should have been faster on the keys! Come on, favour curriers and good impression seekers, where are the rest of you? | |||
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"I'd like it, more emphasis on the friends part and not just the sex. Someone to do stuff with and have the fun as a perk" Exactly this....living the dream | |||
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"I'd like it, more emphasis on the friends part and not just the sex. Someone to do stuff with and have the fun as a perk" | |||
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"I'd love an FWB! Just don't know how to find one... It's hard on this site cos it's so focused on the Benefits side, not the Friends bit. I've got a medical procedure coming up. I'd love an FwB to look after me overnight post sedation. Instead I'm relying on friends to tag team... It can be really miserable being single sometimes. " Hope you recover well and glad you have friends to rely on - sometimes a better bet. | |||
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"I've been searching for a fwb but most men just want a quick grope and fuck in a carpark lol" Open air or multistorey? | |||
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"I found my fwb in a club, met, chatted for hours, played that night and kept meeting at clubs. It progressed to going out together, hanging out, lots of contact, weekends away etc and we must ring each other 4-5 times a day and met some from each other’s family. It’s nice without the complication of a relationship like living together. I wouldn’t say Fab is a good place to find a fwb as most just want a quick shag with no after care or contact afterwards. " That's not fwb that's a boyfriend! | |||
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"I found my fwb in a club, met, chatted for hours, played that night and kept meeting at clubs. It progressed to going out together, hanging out, lots of contact, weekends away etc and we must ring each other 4-5 times a day and met some from each other’s family. It’s nice without the complication of a relationship like living together. I wouldn’t say Fab is a good place to find a fwb as most just want a quick shag with no after care or contact afterwards. " This sounds good to me although we gave each other more space between seeing archer other. We saw each other about every month or so. It suited us both. | |||
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"I found my fwb in a club, met, chatted for hours, played that night and kept meeting at clubs. It progressed to going out together, hanging out, lots of contact, weekends away etc and we must ring each other 4-5 times a day and met some from each other’s family. It’s nice without the complication of a relationship like living together. I wouldn’t say Fab is a good place to find a fwb as most just want a quick shag with no after care or contact afterwards. This sounds good to me although we gave each other more space between seeing archer other. We saw each other about every month or so. It suited us both. " It works very well for us as FWBs, we are friends first and foremost with no pressure of a serious relationship. | |||
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"My wife and I found a really nice mature Geordie guy on here, who became her friend with benefits. It was good for her, having the social side as well as the intimacy. I enjoyed having him around too. The friend with benefits element made the scenario work extremely well for all of us. It lasted for a few years. Happy times. " Mutual respect... Sounds nice and a good experience for you both. Good for you. | |||
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"Maybe friends with benefits is too close to a relationship for a lot of women on here ?" Replying to a message is to much of a relationship for most women on here lol | |||
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"Maybe friends with benefits is too close to a relationship for a lot of women on here ? Replying to a message is to much of a relationship for most women on here lol " Women get over 500 messages a day so will pick and choose who they like to respond to. No response means no interest | |||
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"Maybe friends with benefits is too close to a relationship for a lot of women on here ? Replying to a message is to much of a relationship for most women on here lol " Hey as long as we admit it haha! | |||
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"I found one... he was such a gentleman " Good for you!! | |||
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"I dint see the point of fwb or fuck buddys If u are constantly shaggin each other that must prove there is some attraction between u both so why not becone a couple then u can just shag when u want. Like wise wuth fuck buddy Butcif your shsggin soneone one day but also seein someone else aswell I dont get it " Because being ‘a couple’ is not what everyone wants. Not everyone wants that commitment or to shag the same person all the time. Some want a nice friend with benefits but to also see others. | |||
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"I dint see the point of fwb or fuck buddys If u are constantly shaggin each other that must prove there is some attraction between u both so why not becone a couple then u can just shag when u want. Like wise wuth fuck buddy Butcif your shsggin soneone one day but also seein someone else aswell I dont get it Because being ‘a couple’ is not what everyone wants. Not everyone wants that commitment or to shag the same person all the time. Some want a nice friend with benefits but to also see others. " Great comment x | |||
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"I've been searching for a fwb but most men just want a quick grope and fuck in a carpark lol that may be true for some but definitely not all. Some of us still have some class about us I believe so, but they usually live far from me " and me | |||
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"Maybe friends with benefits is too close to a relationship for a lot of women on here ?" Agreed you can’t be a friend and fuck each other that to me is misleading | |||
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"Maybe friends with benefits is too close to a relationship for a lot of women on here ? Agreed you can’t be a friend and fuck each other that to me is misleading " Why? I’ve got a friend who I have sex with.....works well. Some guys on here just don’t want to be friends but take the sex and run. Glad I’m only here for the forums. | |||
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"Maybe friends with benefits is too close to a relationship for a lot of women on here ? Agreed you can’t be a friend and fuck each other that to me is misleading Why? I’ve got a friend who I have sex with.....works well. Some guys on here just don’t want to be friends but take the sex and run. Glad I’m only here for the forums. " I agree with you and I'm a man...Being a friend to the person is always more attractive for me ... Im not going to judge FB's... That's people's own choice and if both consenting to that then so be it | |||
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"Maybe friends with benefits is too close to a relationship for a lot of women on here ? Agreed you can’t be a friend and fuck each other that to me is misleading " How so? I've done non fab life fwbs for decades! One was 14 years, another 8 years! Real life friends! Sex really was a bonus not a starting point! | |||
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"Would love a fwb just very hard to find " We are here just waiting to be found. | |||
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"I’ve met a couple of FWB’s over the years on here and it’s worked well. It’s finding that needle in a haystack though.. " We are stuck in the hay loft . Waiting to be found. | |||
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"Maybe friends with benefits is too close to a relationship for a lot of women on here ? Agreed you can’t be a friend and fuck each other that to me is misleading How so? I've done non fab life fwbs for decades! One was 14 years, another 8 years! Real life friends! Sex really was a bonus not a starting point! " Some people hate getting to know anything about each other which is fine if both are happy with that... Whatever floats your boat... But i think when the brain is stimulated so is the body...Also with a fwb you get to laugh, tease and flirt before anything which definitely z bonus that you don't get with FB | |||
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"I'd love an FWB! Just don't know how to find one... It's hard on this site cos it's so focused on the Benefits side, not the Friends bit. I've got a medical procedure coming up. I'd love an FwB to look after me overnight post sedation. Instead I'm relying on friends to tag team... It can be really miserable being single sometimes. " Twice in the past year I have had to bluff my way through the overnight post sedation system. The older one gets the harder it becomes to avoid being miserable | |||
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"Maybe friends with benefits is too close to a relationship for a lot of women on here ? Agreed you can’t be a friend and fuck each other that to me is misleading How so? I've done non fab life fwbs for decades! One was 14 years, another 8 years! Real life friends! Sex really was a bonus not a starting point! Some people hate getting to know anything about each other which is fine if both are happy with that... Whatever floats your boat... But i think when the brain is stimulated so is the body...Also with a fwb you get to laugh, tease and flirt before anything which definitely z bonus that you don't get with FB" Oh I meant actual friends ... instead of the fab "benefit with friends" type of arrangement ... exactly the same as any other life friend! | |||
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"Maybe friends with benefits is too close to a relationship for a lot of women on here ? Agreed you can’t be a friend and fuck each other that to me is misleading How so? I've done non fab life fwbs for decades! One was 14 years, another 8 years! Real life friends! Sex really was a bonus not a starting point! Some people hate getting to know anything about each other which is fine if both are happy with that... Whatever floats your boat... But i think when the brain is stimulated so is the body...Also with a fwb you get to laugh, tease and flirt before anything which definitely z bonus that you don't get with FB Oh I meant actual friends ... instead of the fab "benefit with friends" type of arrangement ... exactly the same as any other life friend! " Not all of us found our ‘friend’ on Fab. It’s the last place I would look for a fwb.....! | |||
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"Maybe friends with benefits is too close to a relationship for a lot of women on here ? Agreed you can’t be a friend and fuck each other that to me is misleading How so? I've done non fab life fwbs for decades! One was 14 years, another 8 years! Real life friends! Sex really was a bonus not a starting point! Some people hate getting to know anything about each other which is fine if both are happy with that... Whatever floats your boat... But i think when the brain is stimulated so is the body...Also with a fwb you get to laugh, tease and flirt before anything which definitely z bonus that you don't get with FB Oh I meant actual friends ... instead of the fab "benefit with friends" type of arrangement ... exactly the same as any other life friend! Not all of us found our ‘friend’ on Fab. It’s the last place I would look for a fwb.....! " Definitely the last place I'd look! I have fab "benefits with friends" but not interested in looking here for fwbs as wouldn't work for me ... | |||
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"This is something I have looking for. More so since hubby has worked away Monday to Friday. He's luckily been home since the first lockdown, but may have to go away again soon" Wish you lived closer! | |||
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"I've been searching for a fwb but most men just want a quick grope and fuck in a carpark lol" All men want a quick grope and fuck in a car park. Some want other things as well | |||
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"I've been searching for a fwb but most men just want a quick grope and fuck in a carpark lol All men want a quick grope and fuck in a car park. Some want other things as well " Yeah like a f**k and grope in a wagon, a car, a park....anywhere if he is given permission to. Not for me. | |||
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"The hardest thing is to find someone who lives close enough to you, I always find the perfect woman but she always lives up north lol" The night is dark and full of terrors. Sexy little things those wildlings aren’t they ?? | |||
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"The hardest thing is to find someone who lives close enough to you, I always find the perfect woman but she always lives up north lol" We are very perfect up here haha | |||
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"The hardest thing is to find someone who lives close enough to you, I always find the perfect woman but she always lives up north lol We are very perfect up here haha " Northern women are the best!!! | |||
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"I have THE most amazing FWB. If we were both in a different point in our lives I know I'd want more from the relationship but for now I'm happy to have him in my life any way I can get him." Can I borrow him please after Covid ? Thank you | |||
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"I have THE most amazing FWB. If we were both in a different point in our lives I know I'd want more from the relationship but for now I'm happy to have him in my life any way I can get him. Can I borrow him please after Covid ? Thank you " What's wrong with the one you have?!!! | |||
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"always opened to the idea as had successful ones" I have a sneaky feeling you will not be short of offers... | |||
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"a FWb is a one way thing for a guy , take these scenarios.. 1 her - what you doing ..fancy coming over ? me - yeah ok ( shes horny) after several weeks.. 1 me - you ok ? her yeah me fancy meeting up ? her no No idea whats going on here ! 3. me - what you doing tonight ? her i'm busy , painting the bathroom ceiling, planning a party for my sisters neice brother in law ! ( i was horny ) ! Tips for guys .. 1 get several fwb's 2 don't get married ones 3. get some new hobbies Tips for ladies .. " That's a fuck buddy not a fwb. | |||
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"I'd love an FWB! Just don't know how to find one... It's hard on this site cos it's so focused on the Benefits side, not the Friends bit. I've got a medical procedure coming up. I'd love an FwB to look after me overnight post sedation. Instead I'm relying on friends to tag team... It can be really miserable being single sometimes. " I be happy to look after you :p | |||
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"On a previous fab life, I met a woman and had what I thought was an amazing "FWB" situation. As time went on, it became complicated, and she became very contradictory in what she wanted, or didn't want. As time passed in the relationship, I learned more about what we hadn't got than what we had, and eventually, to my absolute shock and horror, I was ghosted. Everything she said she wanted I was offering, and everything she needed I provided. We had great sex together, with lots of passion, so I'm fairly sure the desire was there too. An FWB has to be built on honesty and trust. While I was completely honest with her, she didn't always believe or accept that, and when it ended, I found myself doubting everything she ever said to me. I'm not closed off to the idea of an FWB situation. Actually, I think it's much nicer. But if I were to find myself in that situation again (and I actually hope I do at some point) then I now know that it is utterly crucial for both parties to openly and frankly discuss their hopes, needs and expectations from the arrangement, with total honesty. When that FWB relationship failed, it took me to edge." Perhaps she had an altogether different perception | |||
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"Perhaps she had an altogether different perception " Who knows? It all stopped so abruptly and without explanation, that she left more questions than answers, and more contradictions than certainties. Lesson learned. | |||
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"Perhaps she had an altogether different perception Who knows? It all stopped so abruptly and without explanation, that she left more questions than answers, and more contradictions than certainties. Lesson learned." What lesson is that? | |||
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"What lesson is that?" All that glitters isn't gold, especially on fab! Honestly, this lady took me in so much, was so utterly convincing, that when she ghosted me it was like ripping my heart out. I never expected that someone who I'd given so much to, who appreciated everything I did so much, could do something she hated having done to her by others, to me, especially with the knowledge I shared her views on it. | |||
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"What lesson is that? All that glitters isn't gold, especially on fab! Honestly, this lady took me in so much, was so utterly convincing, that when she ghosted me it was like ripping my heart out. I never expected that someone who I'd given so much to, who appreciated everything I did so much, could do something she hated having done to her by others, to me, especially with the knowledge I shared her views on it." I'm never that keen on just hearing one side of a story | |||
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"'m never that keen on just hearing one side of a story " She hasn't given me hers, so I guess you are no more likely to hear it than I am! | |||
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"always opened to the idea as had successful ones I have a sneaky feeling you will not be short of offers... " beg to differ. quality over quantity.. too many people do alot of idle talking these days | |||
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"always opened to the idea as had successful ones I have a sneaky feeling you will not be short of offers... beg to differ. quality over quantity.. too many people do alot of idle talking these days " totally agree....its trying to filter the good from the bad that's the tricky part... Good luck finding that needle in the haystack | |||
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"I think I’m just looking for lady who wants a human sex toy pickup and put down when they want. " Not my style! | |||
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"I have THE most amazing FWB. If we were both in a different point in our lives I know I'd want more from the relationship but for now I'm happy to have him in my life any way I can get him. Can I borrow him please after Covid ? Thank you " That'll be a no!!! Keeping him for myself | |||
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"I think I’m just looking for lady who wants a human sex toy pickup and put down when they want. Not my style! " It has to be someone’s though. Someone with a busy life that just wants her needs attending to. Then off you pop until I need you again. | |||
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"I think I’m just looking for lady who wants a human sex toy pickup and put down when they want. Not my style! It has to be someone’s though. Someone with a busy life that just wants her needs attending to. Then off you pop until I need you again. " As I said not my style. | |||
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"As I said not my style." But for many people, especially in the modern age, and in particular amongst those who for whatever reason are not or cannot be emotionally available, it can be a wonderful thing. Needs being fulfilled, company, companionship and a safe and caring environment. | |||
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"As I said not my style. But for many people, especially in the modern age, and in particular amongst those who for whatever reason are not or cannot be emotionally available, it can be a wonderful thing. Needs being fulfilled, company, companionship and a safe and caring environment." His ‘advert’ didn’t feature ‘caring’? | |||
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"His ‘advert’ didn’t feature ‘caring’? " The important thing is both parties discuss the arrangement, understand the expectations and limitations, and that they are each on board with it all. Any FWB situation I've been in has always had a large "caring" element. | |||
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"His ‘advert’ didn’t feature ‘caring’? The important thing is both parties discuss the arrangement, understand the expectations and limitations, and that they are each on board with it all. Any FWB situation I've been in has always had a large "caring" element." Not debating this with you dear but that’s the sort of fwb you want, it’s not what the comment I replied to asked for so please take a moment to read back. Enjoy the rest of your day. | |||
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"His ‘advert’ didn’t feature ‘caring’? The important thing is both parties discuss the arrangement, understand the expectations and limitations, and that they are each on board with it all. Any FWB situation I've been in has always had a large "caring" element." Totally depends on what a person's definition of a FWB is surely? I don't have any kind of agreements, understandings, expectations or limitations with any single one of my friends! Be a hideous thought ... aren't you more describing a 'benefits with friends' or fb type arrangement? | |||
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"Op I have 2 Fwb we all have our own select Feb too " What is a select Feb? | |||
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"Op I have 2 Fwb we all have our own select Feb too What is a select Feb? " I'm wondering the same... Should I Google it? | |||
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"Op I have 2 Fwb we all have our own select Feb too What is a select Feb? I'm wondering the same... Should I Google it? " Lol I get scared of googling anything on here | |||
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"Op I have 2 Fwb we all have our own select Feb too What is a select Feb? I'm wondering the same... Should I Google it? Lol I get scared of googling anything on here " Haha... Every day is a school day here... I always have Google ready!! There is probably some guy sitting in Google watching my search history and thinking.."what crazy shit is this guy into?" | |||
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"Op I have 2 Fwb we all have our own select Feb too What is a select Feb? " Maybe it's when there's a leap year?!!! | |||
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"Op I have 2 Fwb we all have our own select Feb too What is a select Feb? I'm wondering the same... Should I Google it? Lol I get scared of googling anything on here Haha... Every day is a school day here... I always have Google ready!! There is probably some guy sitting in Google watching my search history and thinking.."what crazy shit is this guy into?" " The first rule of Fab - do NOT Google it. Never Google. Not ever | |||
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"Op I have 2 Fwb we all have our own select Feb too What is a select Feb? I'm wondering the same... Should I Google it? Lol I get scared of googling anything on here Haha... Every day is a school day here... I always have Google ready!! There is probably some guy sitting in Google watching my search history and thinking.."what crazy shit is this guy into?" The first rule of Fab - do NOT Google it. Never Google. Not ever " i normally don't Google somethings from here before I go to sleep cos I could wake up in a cold sweat in the middle of the night! But otherwise being informed is the best form of defense!! | |||
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