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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What is the best way to start a conversation because I never know to go it hard and say what I want or go in soft with a hey because some just get deleted and some just read and no reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A hey hi how are you will 99.9% of the time get your great message delete so I’d suggest actually read their profile and just be yourself.

T

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I do read every profile just don't really get much to start conversation without going in the deep end

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"A hey hi how are you will 99.9% of the time get your great message delete so I’d suggest actually read their profile and just be yourself.

T"

I would also suggest this.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I do read every profile just don't really get much to start conversation without going in the deep end"

Know your audience. How would you approach a woman face to face?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for the advice girls

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well I'd say hey if I could buy them a drink etc the normal stuff

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Thank you for the advice girls "

You're welcome but I believe the other respondent is the guy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oh sorry

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Well I'd say hey if I could buy them a drink etc the normal stuff "

I think something along those lines is probably the best way to approach people on here. Say hello, mention something about their profile you like and ask if you could meet for a coffee/drink once this madness is over.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Okay so going straight into asking about a meet is all good in the first message is all good ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Okay MMA does really have a bad name it's mainly for fitness and football is playing football and I thought saying dancing when d*unk would sound like I'm fun.

Thank you for the advice

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Okay so going straight into asking about a meet is all good in the first message is all good ?"

It depends how you ask really.

Saying "can we meet and fuck when covid is over" will probably appeal to fewer women than "hi my name is hankysteamtrain, I saw that you like flying kites off the foot hills of Everest. Would you like to meet for a coffee after covid?"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Does that sound any better on my profile ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Okay so going straight into asking about a meet is all good in the first message is all good ?

It depends how you ask really.

Saying "can we meet and fuck when covid is over" will probably appeal to fewer women than "hi my name is hankysteamtrain, I saw that you like flying kites off the foot hills of Everest. Would you like to meet for a coffee after covid?"

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Yeah that's makes sense ahah thank you

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Okay so going straight into asking about a meet is all good in the first message is all good ?

It depends how you ask really.

Saying "can we meet and fuck when covid is over" will probably appeal to fewer women than "hi my name is hankysteamtrain, I saw that you like flying kites off the foot hills of Everest. Would you like to meet for a coffee after covid?"

Yeah that's makes sense ahah thank you "

Our of interest what are your expectations of the site?

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

Starting a message saying " hey how are you " has used up 4 words of the 14 or so a woman sees in her list of Unopened messages today. It's the same 4 words in many other messages. Why open yours OP ? Maybe the next 10 words you write are the decider?.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just to have some fun and excitement back into my life.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Okay thank you mate

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Just to have some fun and excitement back into my life."

OK, is it mainly sex you're after? I say that because a lot of people like to engage socially first.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well I'd be more than happy to meet for socials aswell going to clubs and stuff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women get a lot of messages, if I log in in the morning and see a solid block of yellow "hey/how's you/wuu2/up to much" they are just getting deleted as honestly, I don't have the patience for that shit.

Read their profiles, then read it again to be sure you're what they want and then approach with authenticity. Keep it bright and breezy, no long-arsed fantasy erotic fiction or stupid ice breaker questions like "Hey, what's your favourite biscuit?:. A simple introduction that shows you've read their profile and states your interest is fine.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So something like this ?

Hey I'm also a single parent what would you think about going for a drink sometime once it's safe to do so ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think the single parent factor is necessary, this isn't Gingerbread. Simular but say something about yourself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Okay such as my hobbies and stuff or what I'm into ?

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford


"I do read every profile just don't really get much to start conversation without going in the deep end"

With people not meeting due to Covid, I think a LOT of single girls and couples simply don't want/need to expand their contacts. It's exhausting trying to keep thirty conversations going at the same time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Okay thank you hopefully be better once the clubs and parties are back on

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