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By *upcake68 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Ely

Asking for a friend

Fem is sub, straight & has a Sir but wants a bi fem to help her Sir use her BUT Sir would not fuck the bi fem, he could touch, play but not fuck! Also sub would not do oral to bi fem, touching, playing ok but no oral ..... what's the chances of said friend finding a bi fem who would be ok with this scenario?

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

Fairly slim I would say, but I wish your 'friend' all the best

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

Slim to none I’d say. Your “friend” is looking for a dominant or switch lady who is fine with receiving no pleasure at all. While there are dominant and switch ladies on here, and some of them are probably bi, I can’t imagine anyone being up for the no pleasure bit. Your “friend” should hire a sex worker as this kind of highly specific and extremely one-sided scenario isn’t something anyone should expect someone to provide for free.

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By *upcake68 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Ely

Thank you for replies....you've confirmed what had already been said to friend

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By *mmixtapeCouple
over a year ago

middle earth

This sounds like you're looking for a kink scene rather than a threesome.. if honestly suggest a professional dominatrix..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems highly specific, maybe you would do well to clarify what you you expect the extra femme would get out of the meet ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's not "with a twist" that's just a scenario where the other woman gets literally nothing out of it lol

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By *ilkChocManMan
over a year ago

Sanderstead


"That's not "with a twist" that's just a scenario where the other woman gets literally nothing out of it lol "

Maybe that's the twist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My head hurts trying to work this out..... I hope that your'friend' finds what they are looking for x

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

Putting the kink aspects aside, this looks like a couple wanting a single woman as their play thing. Although some single women will play with couples my understanding is that single women don't want to be a couple's toy.

If you return to the kink aspects if the additional women is to use the sub, is the additional woman there as a submissive or a domme? Some submissive single women will play with kink couples but they will need their submissive needs met. OP makes no reference to discussion or negotiation with the additional woman.

If the additional woman is to be a domme, I cannot see a domme agreeing to it as it is easier for them to meet single women by themselves and leave out the middle man. Even if a domme was up for it there will still need to be a discussion and negotiation as she will still want her needs met.

Although the plan is feasible I would suggest it needs consideration of the third party as a human being and not as a play thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fem ... wants a bi fem to help her Sir use her ... what's the chances of said friend finding a bi fem who would be ok with this"

Zero - it sounds like a sleazy scam.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Seems highly specific, maybe you would do well to clarify what you you expect the extra femme would get out of the meet ? "

Seems the extra femme gets nothing out of the meet, unless she is happy to not receive pleasure.

Wish your ‘friend’ good luck OP finding such a femme.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im surprised that so many of you seem surprised at the scenario... i stopped looking to meet couples years ago because minus the kink aspect i found this was what most of them wanted ... a play toy to enhance their sexual experience with very little regard for what the solo f was actually getting from the situation

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"im surprised that so many of you seem surprised at the scenario... i stopped looking to meet couples years ago because minus the kink aspect i found this was what most of them wanted ... a play toy to enhance their sexual experience with very little regard for what the solo f was actually getting from the situation "

I’m not surprised, more annoyed and exasperated than anything. I think this is why I find FWB couples easier to get along with, they don’t have the rigid rules and are more interested in mutual pleasure. It especially winds me up when the F is straight, like in this case.

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By *j48Man
over a year ago

Wigan

Nil

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip


"Slim to none I’d say. Your “friend” is looking for a dominant or switch lady who is fine with receiving no pleasure at all. While there are dominant and switch ladies on here, and some of them are probably bi, I can’t imagine anyone being up for the no pleasure bit. Your “friend” should hire a sex worker as this kind of highly specific and extremely one-sided scenario isn’t something anyone should expect someone to provide for free."

This strikes me as spot on. The issue you have is that there isn't anything obvious in it for the lady who you want to join you.

I would take seriously the idea of paying for it. That seems to be the most straightforward way of getting this to happen.

The only other thing I can think of is finding a soft-swap couple so the other lady can get pleasure from her man, but then you have an extra man in the mix which is not part of your scenario. That may or may not be a problem for you.

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Slim to none I’d say. Your “friend” is looking for a dominant or switch lady who is fine with receiving no pleasure at all. While there are dominant and switch ladies on here, and some of them are probably bi, I can’t imagine anyone being up for the no pleasure bit. Your “friend” should hire a sex worker as this kind of highly specific and extremely one-sided scenario isn’t something anyone should expect someone to provide for free.

This strikes me as spot on. The issue you have is that there isn't anything obvious in it for the lady who you want to join you.

I would take seriously the idea of paying for it. That seems to be the most straightforward way of getting this to happen.

The only other thing I can think of is finding a soft-swap couple so the other lady can get pleasure from her man, but then you have an extra man in the mix which is not part of your scenario. That may or may not be a problem for you. "

Thinking more about this since, I think I was wrong in saying they’re looking for a dominant lady, as reading between the lines I think the woman joining them will be expected to take instructions from the man, and I’ve never known a Domme who would do that. So they’re looking for a bi switch woman who doesn’t mind being a sex toy and isn’t interested in her own pleasure. And everyone thinks single bi women are rare!

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