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By *yonsmc OP   Man
over a year ago

Tooting

Hi everyone..joined fab during the lockdowns ..I am just nervous about messaging people and what to message and to not look like a dumb fuck..and also I was looking for some help.with my profile..didn't have much luck coming in contact with people..thanks guys!!

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By *renzMan
over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant

As far as messaging goes, my advice would be polite, but be yourself. Tell people what you can offer them.

For your profile. The majority of it is made up of your disclaimer. It's not relevant, many will tell you it's not necessary. You need to tell your 'target' audience what you can offer them, experience etc. Sell yourself. As you would in an interview, minus the personal details, or if you were chatting to a girl in a club. On the positive you have no dick pics. Although I'm not sure what the second one is all about or even if it's you.

As I say be yourself, sell yourself and good luck!

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

The photo of you on a cliff is lovely. It is puzzling on your profile when you say you don't have many pics on your profile for professional reasons yet have a clear face pic.

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By *yonsmc OP   Man
over a year ago

Tooting


"The photo of you on a cliff is lovely. It is puzzling on your profile when you say you don't have many pics on your profile for professional reasons yet have a clear face pic. "

Can you guide me regarding what more I can add or change to my profile?And some tips for messaging?Thanks for the help

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Personally I would delete the legal warning

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By *yonsmc OP   Man
over a year ago

Tooting


"Personally I would delete the legal warning"

Thanks....any pointers of how to make the messages interesting?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's unfortunate that you joined when you did as the majority of people joining and wanting to get to know others or meet have probably all fared similarly. It's generally not happening, as people are waiting to meet older friends etc, so there's a stacking system in place for many of us.

Singh men always struggle at first. It helps to have realistic expectations.

And to use the site as effectively as you can. 90% of your results will be gained from a great profile. 2 equal males in competition will show the 1 who uses his profile to sell himself better, will get more success.

There are a lot of threads that give different users tips on how to do this, so it's worth reading through them. You'll get some tips here too.

I want photos of a guy that fully show me how he looks when he will be with me - I'll see him and imagine the full details. If his pics show me his physique, his upper body, chest, shoulders etc, that's a great start. Fully clothed pics are good but some unclothed ones for me are the best. A range suits most tadtes. You don't need a cock pic, though legs and arse are fine. You've already got your face, which is great.

The text needs to build on what you are going to bring to the table. If a guy can squeeze his essence into this, it's lovely.

Ideally every matched visitor to your profile will leave with as much certainty as possible that you could be a good match for them. The lower the certainty, the fewer the replies you will get. Obviously it's not about boastful arrogance but it is about selling yourself.

If the viewer understands who you'd like to meet, in a non-generic way, eg not 'any woman with a pulse', they'll feel more confident that you want someone like them and will give them those things that they are looking for.

Read a lot of single mens profiles. You will see an awful lot of really poor ones - they'll probably not do too well. But get a feel for how others do it both right and wrong. They are your competitors and you won't be the same as rhem but if they get more things right, they can get the edge.

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By *yonsmc OP   Man
over a year ago

Tooting


"It's unfortunate that you joined when you did as the majority of people joining and wanting to get to know others or meet have probably all fared similarly. It's generally not happening, as people are waiting to meet older friends etc, so there's a stacking system in place for many of us.

Singh men always struggle at first. It helps to have realistic expectations.

And to use the site as effectively as you can. 90% of your results will be gained from a great profile. 2 equal males in competition will show the 1 who uses his profile to sell himself better, will get more success.

There are a lot of threads that give different users tips on how to do this, so it's worth reading through them. You'll get some tips here too.

I want photos of a guy that fully show me how he looks when he will be with me - I'll see him and imagine the full details. If his pics show me his physique, his upper body, chest, shoulders etc, that's a great start. Fully clothed pics are good but some unclothed ones for me are the best. A range suits most tadtes. You don't need a cock pic, though legs and arse are fine. You've already got your face, which is great.

The text needs to build on what you are going to bring to the table. If a guy can squeeze his essence into this, it's lovely.

Ideally every matched visitor to your profile will leave with as much certainty as possible that you could be a good match for them. The lower the certainty, the fewer the replies you will get. Obviously it's not about boastful arrogance but it is about selling yourself.

If the viewer understands who you'd like to meet, in a non-generic way, eg not 'any woman with a pulse', they'll feel more confident that you want someone like them and will give them those things that they are looking for.

Read a lot of single mens profiles. You will see an awful lot of really poor ones - they'll probably not do too well. But get a feel for how others do it both right and wrong. They are your competitors and you won't be the same as rhem but if they get more things right, they can get the edge. "

Thanks for the help

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