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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

You think you know someone but then they break the unwritten rules.

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

Constantly amazed by what some will give away about other people, seemingly oblivious to impact. It’s the end of any friendship I may have had if I realise they do not respect privacy.

V x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Knew this guy for a year too. So thought he was pretty safe. But nope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I learnt to be discreet & keep things to myself from very early in life. Saw too many others make fools of themselves & get in trouble by not doing so.

Unfortunately many find it very difficult to do it & before you know it someone gets hurt.

I find you get more respect from others who feel safe to confine in you.

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By *mmixtapeCouple
over a year ago

middle earth

Or you could also just.. not care? As long as you're not doing anything illegal or unethical you should be fine? I've never understood why people are upset, I obviously don't plaster the fact I'm a swingers all over my life, but if someone found out surely if they are in the community then they wouldn't/couldn't say anything, and if they aren't you're not doing anything wrong? So why would it matter?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Or you could also just.. not care? As long as you're not doing anything illegal or unethical you should be fine? I've never understood why people are upset, I obviously don't plaster the fact I'm a swingers all over my life, but if someone found out surely if they are in the community then they wouldn't/couldn't say anything, and if they aren't you're not doing anything wrong? So why would it matter? "

This guy gave out my home address to another guy on here.

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By *ab jamesMan
over a year ago

ribble valley

Most people know what I do. Even family. I think they think I'm a little strange. Nobody's ever said anything bad, just a bit of leg pulling. So no privacy needed for myself. But I always ask meets if they want a veri or not. Veris tell everyone who you've met.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or you could also just.. not care? As long as you're not doing anything illegal or unethical you should be fine? I've never understood why people are upset, I obviously don't plaster the fact I'm a swingers all over my life, but if someone found out surely if they are in the community then they wouldn't/couldn't say anything, and if they aren't you're not doing anything wrong? So why would it matter?

This guy gave out my home address to another guy on here.

"

That is just not on. Sorry you experienced that.

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By *ostonJoeMan
over a year ago

Boston

There are no unwritten rules. We have responsibility to our own privacy and no one else's.

If at any time another individual reveals any information about another, then the responsibility lies with the original individual having shared it. When the origional individual did so, they should have in mind how it might be used, now or in the future by any other individual and not just their conspirator. If there is a possibility that this information being revealed to a third party might cause an issue for the original individual, then they should first consider changing their circumstances and/or changing what they reveal when entering into that conspiracy. The conspirator has no responsibility to protect any information. That is, unless they first agree to sign an NDA prior to the original individual revealing any information, pertaining to the information shared.

I think of secrets as cancer. I don't want anyone's cancer.

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"There are no unwritten rules. We have responsibility to our own privacy and no one else's.

If at any time another individual reveals any information about another, then the responsibility lies with the original individual having shared it. When the origional individual did so, they should have in mind how it might be used, now or in the future by any other individual and not just their conspirator. If there is a possibility that this information being revealed to a third party might cause an issue for the original individual, then they should first consider changing their circumstances and/or changing what they reveal when entering into that conspiracy. The conspirator has no responsibility to protect any information. That is, unless they first agree to sign an NDA prior to the original individual revealing any information, pertaining to the information shared.

I think of secrets as cancer. I don't want anyone's cancer. "

I think not giving out someone’s home address is basic decency, nothing to do with secrets at all.

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By *mmixtapeCouple
over a year ago

middle earth

Yeah jesus is be calling the police for that one, I'm so sorry you've experienced that

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough


"Or you could also just.. not care? As long as you're not doing anything illegal or unethical you should be fine? I've never understood why people are upset, I obviously don't plaster the fact I'm a swingers all over my life, but if someone found out surely if they are in the community then they wouldn't/couldn't say anything, and if they aren't you're not doing anything wrong? So why would it matter?

This guy gave out my home address to another guy on here.

"

What the actual fuck! I have no words. Other than swears.

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or you could also just.. not care? As long as you're not doing anything illegal or unethical you should be fine? I've never understood why people are upset, I obviously don't plaster the fact I'm a swingers all over my life, but if someone found out surely if they are in the community then they wouldn't/couldn't say anything, and if they aren't you're not doing anything wrong? So why would it matter?

This guy gave out my home address to another guy on here.

"

wtf?! Whyyyy??? What an asshole. Then ppl wonder why you get so protective over sharing photos or accommodating. The minute it goes wrong it still your fault for sharing pics or personal info!!! How about folks just dont be tossers and respect ppls privacy. Sorry for your troubles OP. Smh.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'd drop them angrily. I don't have much, if anything, to hide but I expect full respect from others, which is always mutual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear this, it's awful. Being single, I always fear the worst. Their are some arseholes out there. I had someone advertise what I did to all his work colleagues who happened to be working in the area, shared private photos of my home to prove it was me. Friends found out and pictures went round. I reported to bigger boss's and a few got fired. Was not on this site xxx

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

It's things like this that put me off meeting blokes off here. Hope you're ok OP.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

This is why we don't "accommodate", even if we're here without kids. Too risky to let people know our address. Hotels or clubs only.

Very sorry you experienced this, OP. I don't even know if any offence has technically been committed to report him??

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Strange I know how you feel xxx

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"Or you could also just.. not care? As long as you're not doing anything illegal or unethical you should be fine? I've never understood why people are upset, I obviously don't plaster the fact I'm a swingers all over my life, but if someone found out surely if they are in the community then they wouldn't/couldn't say anything, and if they aren't you're not doing anything wrong? So why would it matter?

This guy gave out my home address to another guy on here.

What the actual fuck! I have no words. Other than swears.

V x "

No one, Not even an elusive unicorn would get our address unless we had theirs & confirmed it.

Not saying it’d stop something like this but at least you have an address for the police or a visit yourself if that way inclined.

S

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London


"Or you could also just.. not care? As long as you're not doing anything illegal or unethical you should be fine? I've never understood why people are upset, I obviously don't plaster the fact I'm a swingers all over my life, but if someone found out surely if they are in the community then they wouldn't/couldn't say anything, and if they aren't you're not doing anything wrong? So why would it matter?

This guy gave out my home address to another guy on here.

"
What an absolute moron!

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By *ermite12ukMan
over a year ago

Solihull and Brentwood

Serious lack of common sense, and decency imho.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Sadly this doesn't surprise me. I've seen men quite openly offer their unaware wives or partners phone number to random men on the internet to see "how far they can take it" and other men offer to give their wife's location so that yet another unknown weirdo from the internet can try to seduce her. Despicable behaviour both on the part off the men offering and those agreeing to take part and shows how much disrespect for women's autonomy and safety there still exists.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

*of

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

luton

Lucky we have not had that problem, everyone we have met either as couple or solo have been great . We don’t meet at home and only two of the guys know our address but have been very respectful and descrete .I would never divulge information like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So why would it matter? "

Really, are you actually asking that question? You've not experienced judgmental people? I can think of a million reasons why it would be a problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sadly this doesn't surprise me. I've seen men quite openly offer their unaware wives or partners phone number to random men on the internet to see "how far they can take it" and other men offer to give their wife's location so that yet another unknown weirdo from the internet can try to seduce her. Despicable behaviour both on the part off the men offering and those agreeing to take part and shows how much disrespect for women's autonomy and safety there still exists."

A friend of mine recently had an incident that was very frightening. He had been talking with a 'woman' on another site, and they had discussed meeting to act out a very specific sexual fantasy. They exchanged several pictures and arranged a time to meet - he turned up at her house, at the agreed on time, the door was answered by the woman in the pictures... and she had no clue who he was or why he was there. Needless to say, the poor woman was terrified and my friend was pretty freaked out too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is completely unacceptable. I hope that admin have removed him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately some men have little to no boundaries. In the past I have had messages from men wanting me to "surprise" their wives at work or who have given me their wife's number to text as part of a fantasy that she probably had no clue was being played out

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"It's things like this that put me off meeting blokes off here. Hope you're ok OP. "

I share your opinion! I would never meet a guy from Fab. Too much hassle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the Data Protection Act should extend to personal conversations; no person should have to worry about someone passing their address and personal details onto another without their knowledge and consent.

And on top of that it’s just bad manners.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"Or you could also just.. not care? As long as you're not doing anything illegal or unethical you should be fine? I've never understood why people are upset, I obviously don't plaster the fact I'm a swingers all over my life, but if someone found out surely if they are in the community then they wouldn't/couldn't say anything, and if they aren't you're not doing anything wrong? So why would it matter?

This guy gave out my home address to another guy on here.

"

Omg that's awful op. Why the hell do people think that's an acceptable thing to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this some sort of joke? What an odd thing to say... I feel sorry for anyone meeting up with you!

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By *ate_BMan
over a year ago

London

I get why many ppl prefer meeting in clubs and stuff. I suppose those who attend clubs regularly are seen as genuine and decent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is one of the reasons i have cannot accommodate on my profile

So sorry OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

thats awful...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unfortunately some men have little to no boundaries. In the past I have had messages from men wanting me to "surprise" their wives at work or who have given me their wife's number to text as part of a fantasy that she probably had no clue was being played out"

Had this same thing, also a few time's that their wife is really shy and can you chat her up at the bar that they will be in. Always a definite no, instantly says weirdo , plus also I think I'd be crap at doing it

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By *ellsuitedMan
over a year ago

Elstree

Absolutely not acceptable...ever!

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh.


"Or you could also just.. not care? As long as you're not doing anything illegal or unethical you should be fine? I've never understood why people are upset, I obviously don't plaster the fact I'm a swingers all over my life, but if someone found out surely if they are in the community then they wouldn't/couldn't say anything, and if they aren't you're not doing anything wrong? So why would it matter?

This guy gave out my home address to another guy on here.

"

Lol love the change in attitude once people know what he did. What a needle dick.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley


"Or you could also just.. not care? As long as you're not doing anything illegal or unethical you should be fine? I've never understood why people are upset, I obviously don't plaster the fact I'm a swingers all over my life, but if someone found out surely if they are in the community then they wouldn't/couldn't say anything, and if they aren't you're not doing anything wrong? So why would it matter?

This guy gave out my home address to another guy on here.

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That’s bang out of order in any situation never mind on here. Even passing a telephone number between my friends I ask first. People need to respect other’s privacy.

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By *ucky24Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

The propensity for humans to disappoint another fellow human has long ceased to surprise me. Although it still disappoints me.

Genuinely feel sorry for the distress that his thoughtless action has caused you.

Hope Karma bites him back big style!

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By *innMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

Respect for a persons right to remain anonymous is essential. The secrecy of this lifestyle is also one of its attractions.

In addition to men who have no respect for this, FAB has become a very public place, more so with the lockdowns which brought the curious and nosey types.

I value the secret aspects and prefer anonymous scenarios.

We may have to start promoting a code of conduct to the newbies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"lol love the change in attitude once people know what he did. What a needle dick. "

Breaching the privacy of someone in this lifestyle is not acceptable, regardless of what is revealed or how it's done.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Funnily I never went to his place was always at mine. When I pulled him about giving out my home address, he said it was no big deal and I need to stop worrying. Admin haven't removed him and last time I reported him them removed me from the forums.

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By *tevied68Man
over a year ago

London

That’s not good an any level

Also you got removed for reporting it .

Think I’ve been too trusting as I got nothing to hide

But would not want private life involved with normal life . Hope your ok

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By *iking SoftiesCouple
over a year ago

Chesterfield

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By *iking SoftiesCouple
over a year ago

Chesterfield


"Or you could also just.. not care? As long as you're not doing anything illegal or unethical you should be fine? I've never understood why people are upset, I obviously don't plaster the fact I'm a swingers all over my life, but if someone found out surely if they are in the community then they wouldn't/couldn't say anything, and if they aren't you're not doing anything wrong? So why would it matter?

This guy gave out my home address to another guy on here.

That’s bang out of order in any situation never mind on here. Even passing a telephone number between my friends I ask first. People need to respect other’s privacy. "

Same here just the decent thing to do in any circumstances but especially so when intimate aspects of your life are concerned.

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham


"Or you could also just.. not care? As long as you're not doing anything illegal or unethical you should be fine? I've never understood why people are upset, I obviously don't plaster the fact I'm a swingers all over my life, but if someone found out surely if they are in the community then they wouldn't/couldn't say anything, and if they aren't you're not doing anything wrong? So why would it matter?

This guy gave out my home address to another guy on here.

"

That is outrageous. Anybway you can return the favour?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sadly this doesn't surprise me. I've seen men quite openly offer their unaware wives or partners phone number to random men on the internet to see "how far they can take it" and other men offer to give their wife's location so that yet another unknown weirdo from the internet can try to seduce her. Despicable behaviour both on the part off the men offering and those agreeing to take part and shows how much disrespect for women's autonomy and safety there still exists.

A friend of mine recently had an incident that was very frightening. He had been talking with a 'woman' on another site, and they had discussed meeting to act out a very specific sexual fantasy. They exchanged several pictures and arranged a time to meet - he turned up at her house, at the agreed on time, the door was answered by the woman in the pictures... and she had no clue who he was or why he was there. Needless to say, the poor woman was terrified and my friend was pretty freaked out too! "

There was a guy once in chat rooms asking people to come and fuck his wife. When I asked what they were looking for this guy told me his wife would be blindfolded and tied up. She liked to be pretend she was being abused. They wanted men to come over and abuse her sexually.

Something about it just screamed "no" don't go there. I just had a feeling the wife had not consented and was being forced. As I had no proof she was being forced there was nothing I could do.

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