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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I meesage people in my area and not more in NORTH EAST I hardly get a replay when I do it's a NO not insterted or not her type happy with replies like that

Am I doing something worng or is there something in my profile that is putting women off

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

You and thousands of others. You'll get used it.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"I meesage people in my area and not more in NORTH EAST I hardly get a replay when I do it's a NO not insterted or not her type happy with replies like that

Am I doing something worng or is there something in my profile that is putting women off"

Derek - few are no people are meeting at the moment because of covid - and that could mean that they - like me - are only looking to chat to people they already know.

I’d suggest just sticking to having a natter on the forums for the time being my lovely.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I meesage people in my area and not more in NORTH EAST I hardly get a replay when I do it's a NO not insterted or not her type happy with replies like that

Am I doing something worng or is there something in my profile that is putting women off"

People aren’t meeting plus lots not in the right frame of mind due to Covid-19. Don’t get too upset about it OP, no point.

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By *essie.Woman
over a year ago

Serendipity

Covid means most aren’t meeting atm, plus Christmas is a hectic time of year without adding a pandemic into the mix. Hopefully 2021 will see some normality return. Can’t see it being until at least spring time though.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Covid means most aren’t meeting atm, plus Christmas is a hectic time of year without adding a pandemic into the mix. Hopefully 2021 will see some normality return. Can’t see it being until at least spring time though. "

Summer at least.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

It is difficult for social meets at the moment as in tier 3 pubs, restaurants and cafes are all shut. Very cold to be chatting on a park bench.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I meesage people in my area and not more in NORTH EAST I hardly get a replay when I do it's a NO not insterted or not her type happy with replies like that

Am I doing something worng or is there something in my profile that is putting women off

Derek - few are no people are meeting at the moment because of covid - and that could mean that they - like me - are only looking to chat to people they already know.

I’d suggest just sticking to having a natter on the forums for the time being my lovely. "

I'm nit looking to meet just to chat thanks tho

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I meant fo chat to people in NORTH EAST area I know lot of them not meeting

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By *istress-MazikeenWoman
over a year ago

bolton


"I meant to chat to people in NORTH EAST area I know lot of them not meeting"

You joined this site during a pandemic and people are more interested in chatting to people they know.

As mentioned previously, get involved within the forums as this gets you known more.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"I meant to chat to people in NORTH EAST area I know lot of them not meeting

You joined this site during a pandemic and people are more interested in chatting to people they know.

As mentioned previously, get involved within the forums as this gets you known more.

"

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By *enfold75Man
over a year ago

hemel hempstead

Derek mate.

Don't get upset its just they way it is. Plus people not meeting due to covid.

You on with many other will just have to be patient

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meesage people in my area and not more in NORTH EAST I hardly get a replay when I do it's a NO not insterted or not her type happy with replies like that

Am I doing something worng or is there something in my profile that is putting women off

People aren’t meeting plus lots not in the right frame of mind due to Covid-19. Don’t get too upset about it OP, no point. "

I think OP did not ask for meeting. I assume he would have just introduced himself which has been turned down.

You will get used to it buddy

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I meesage people in my area and not more in NORTH EAST I hardly get a replay when I do it's a NO not insterted or not her type happy with replies like that

Am I doing something worng or is there something in my profile that is putting women off"

You have asked for advice on your profile. You ask what is putting women off. Your photos are off putting, no effort with them. You do not say what you can offer a lady and you cannot accommodate. All these things will put ladies off. I suggest you take a look at the more successful men on Fab and ask them for some tips. Good luck.

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By *appycouple300Couple
over a year ago

North Dorset

Try “spell check” first. Might help?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try “spell check” first. Might help?"

OP has sight issues

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By * Plus ECouple
over a year ago

The South


"Try “spell check” first. Might help?"

In order to offer feedback on a profile, first you have to read it, which you obviously didn't.

Two seconds into the OPs profile and it's clear why spelling might be difficult for him.

Doubtless you feel suitably superior now though.

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

A good way of meeting people in normal times Derek is to go along to one or more of the many social events that are held and chat to other swingers there . Clearly none are being held at the moment but we are all hopeful they will be resuming later in 2021.You will be able to find out about them through the forum and the organisers profile updates for your area. If really is the best way to meet active people and get known.After that it gathers speed and you won't need to rely on messaging people on Fab.

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By *dam and slutCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Op, I am happy to meet you. Now bend over, the flogger only stings a bit....ouch is not a safe word..lol

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley


"I meesage people in my area and not more in NORTH EAST I hardly get a replay when I do it's a NO not insterted or not her type happy with replies like that

Am I doing something worng or is there something in my profile that is putting women off"

Speak English and spelling might help! What language do you use....

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks


"I meesage people in my area and not more in NORTH EAST I hardly get a replay when I do it's a NO not insterted or not her type happy with replies like that

Am I doing something worng or is there something in my profile that is putting women off

Speak English and spelling might help! What language do you use.... "

He’s partially sighted.

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley


"I meesage people in my area and not more in NORTH EAST I hardly get a replay when I do it's a NO not insterted or not her type happy with replies like that

Am I doing something worng or is there something in my profile that is putting women off

Speak English and spelling might help! What language do you use....

He’s partially sighted. "

There's a spell checker on the phone or pc...

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By * Plus ECouple
over a year ago

The South


"I meesage people in my area and not more in NORTH EAST I hardly get a replay when I do it's a NO not insterted or not her type happy with replies like that

Am I doing something worng or is there something in my profile that is putting women off

Speak English and spelling might help! What language do you use....

He’s partially sighted.

There's a spell checker on the phone or pc... "

Which doesn't really help if you can't see it.

E

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By * Plus ECouple
over a year ago

The South


"I meesage people in my area and not more in NORTH EAST I hardly get a replay when I do it's a NO not insterted or not her type happy with replies like that

Am I doing something worng or is there something in my profile that is putting women off

Speak English and spelling might help! What language do you use....

He’s partially sighted.

There's a spell checker on the phone or pc... "

Spaces after punctuation marks, first letter of names of places should be upper case.

Spellchecker would have fixed that for you.

E

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley


"I meesage people in my area and not more in NORTH EAST I hardly get a replay when I do it's a NO not insterted or not her type happy with replies like that

Am I doing something worng or is there something in my profile that is putting women off

Speak English and spelling might help! What language do you use....

He’s partially sighted.

There's a spell checker on the phone or pc...

Which doesn't really help if you can't see it.

E"

Odd then that he can write messages in the first place!.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I meesage people in my area and not more in NORTH EAST I hardly get a replay when I do it's a NO not insterted or not her type happy with replies like that

Am I doing something worng or is there something in my profile that is putting women off

Speak English and spelling might help! What language do you use....

He’s partially sighted.

There's a spell checker on the phone or pc...

Which doesn't really help if you can't see it.

E

Odd then that he can write messages in the first place!. "

Not really as he may use speech recognition software.

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley


"I meesage people in my area and not more in NORTH EAST I hardly get a replay when I do it's a NO not insterted or not her type happy with replies like that

Am I doing something worng or is there something in my profile that is putting women off

Speak English and spelling might help! What language do you use....

He’s partially sighted.

There's a spell checker on the phone or pc...

Which doesn't really help if you can't see it.

E

Odd then that he can write messages in the first place!.

Not really as he may use speech recognition software. "

Well if that's the case surely it would spell words properly?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t worry mate I have exactly the same problem n I’ve been here over a year so it’s not just covid it more down to the ratio of single guys to women and couples .

Odds are not on our side .

Be patient and dot take it personal .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meesage people in my area and not more in NORTH EAST I hardly get a replay when I do it's a NO not insterted or not her type happy with replies like that

Am I doing something worng or is there something in my profile that is putting women off

Speak English and spelling might help! What language do you use....

He’s partially sighted.

There's a spell checker on the phone or pc...

Which doesn't really help if you can't see it.

E

Odd then that he can write messages in the first place!.

Not really as he may use speech recognition software.

Well if that's the case surely it would spell words properly?! "

I don't really get why this is such a huge issue? Imo being registered blind is enough justification for maybe not having the world's best spelling. I don't think OP should be attacked for something he can't help.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I meesage people in my area and not more in NORTH EAST I hardly get a replay when I do it's a NO not insterted or not her type happy with replies like that

Am I doing something worng or is there something in my profile that is putting women off

Speak English and spelling might help! What language do you use....

He’s partially sighted.

There's a spell checker on the phone or pc...

Which doesn't really help if you can't see it.

E

Odd then that he can write messages in the first place!.

Not really as he may use speech recognition software.

Well if that's the case surely it would spell words properly?!

I don't really get why this is such a huge issue? Imo being registered blind is enough justification for maybe not having the world's best spelling. I don't think OP should be attacked for something he can't help. "

Don’t think this was attacking OP, just a question about spelling that’s all. I actually know a blind person who uses speech recognition software but one has to speak clearly into it. The blind person I know has been all over the world on holidays and her lack of sight has never affected her life and she worked as a Receptionist for a large organisation.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"her lack of sight has never affected her life "

Really ?

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"her lack of sight has never affected her life

Really ?"

Yes really, in fact when chatting to her I would forget she was blind. She has visited most countries in the world including USA and some of the wonders of the world.

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley


"I meesage people in my area and not more in NORTH EAST I hardly get a replay when I do it's a NO not insterted or not her type happy with replies like that

Am I doing something worng or is there something in my profile that is putting women off

Speak English and spelling might help! What language do you use....

He’s partially sighted.

There's a spell checker on the phone or pc...

Which doesn't really help if you can't see it.

E

Odd then that he can write messages in the first place!.

Not really as he may use speech recognition software.

Well if that's the case surely it would spell words properly?!

I don't really get why this is such a huge issue? Imo being registered blind is enough justification for maybe not having the world's best spelling. I don't think OP should be attacked for something he can't help.

Don’t think this was attacking OP, just a question about spelling that’s all. I actually know a blind person who uses speech recognition software but one has to speak clearly into it. The blind person I know has been all over the world on holidays and her lack of sight has never affected her life and she worked as a Receptionist for a large organisation. "

I'm not attacking him trying to help as better spelling etc would make his profile better.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Try “spell check” first. Might help?

In order to offer feedback on a profile, first you have to read it, which you obviously didn't.

Two seconds into the OPs profile and it's clear why spelling might be difficult for him.

Doubtless you feel suitably superior now though.

E"

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"I meesage people in my area and not more in NORTH EAST I hardly get a replay when I do it's a NO not insterted or not her type happy with replies like that

Am I doing something worng or is there something in my profile that is putting women off

Derek - few are no people are meeting at the moment because of covid - and that could mean that they - like me - are only looking to chat to people they already know.

I’d suggest just sticking to having a natter on the forums for the time being my lovely. I'm nit looking to meet just to chat thanks tho"

So chat on here with us?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meesage people in my area and not more in NORTH EAST I hardly get a replay when I do it's a NO not insterted or not her type happy with replies like that

Am I doing something worng or is there something in my profile that is putting women off

Speak English and spelling might help! What language do you use....

He’s partially sighted.

There's a spell checker on the phone or pc...

Which doesn't really help if you can't see it.

E

Odd then that he can write messages in the first place!.

Not really as he may use speech recognition software. "

people not wanting to read profile will just think he is wank writing.. its off putting

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By * Plus ECouple
over a year ago

The South


"I meesage people in my area and not more in NORTH EAST I hardly get a replay when I do it's a NO not insterted or not her type happy with replies like that

Am I doing something worng or is there something in my profile that is putting women off

Speak English and spelling might help! What language do you use....

He’s partially sighted.

There's a spell checker on the phone or pc...

Which doesn't really help if you can't see it.

E

Odd then that he can write messages in the first place!.

Not really as he may use speech recognition software.

Well if that's the case surely it would spell words properly?! "

Have you used speech recognition software?

I'm genuinly curious.

Thanks.

E

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I meesage people in my area and not more in NORTH EAST I hardly get a replay when I do it's a NO not insterted or not her type happy with replies like that

Am I doing something worng or is there something in my profile that is putting women off

Speak English and spelling might help! What language do you use....

He’s partially sighted.

There's a spell checker on the phone or pc...

Which doesn't really help if you can't see it.

E

Odd then that he can write messages in the first place!.

Not really as he may use speech recognition software.

Well if that's the case surely it would spell words properly?!

Have you used speech recognition software?

I'm genuinly curious.

Thanks.

E"

We have it on our phones and Alexa. I’ve never had a problem with it but I’m clear when I dictate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meesage people in my area and not more in NORTH EAST I hardly get a replay when I do it's a NO not insterted or not her type happy with replies like that

Am I doing something worng or is there something in my profile that is putting women off

Speak English and spelling might help! What language do you use....

He’s partially sighted.

There's a spell checker on the phone or pc...

Which doesn't really help if you can't see it.

E

Odd then that he can write messages in the first place!.

Not really as he may use speech recognition software.

Well if that's the case surely it would spell words properly?!

Have you used speech recognition software?

I'm genuinly curious.

Thanks.

E"

I had to try out the accessibility settings on my macbook when I was studying to become a software engineer, as it's important to keep disabled users in mind when developing web applications.

It was fucking exhausting. Everything took ten times as long. I have so much sympathy for people who need to use those settings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meesage people in my area and not more in NORTH EAST I hardly get a replay when I do it's a NO not insterted or not her type happy with replies like that

Am I doing something worng or is there something in my profile that is putting women off"

As people point out it’s not just you! Women/couples get loads of messages so if yours is not Extra ordinary they won’t be jazzled.

By curiosity you mentioned being blind but you do car meets?? How this one work...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let’s not be some little spelling Nazi geeks. Some people are affected by dyslexia or don’t have English mother tongue. It doesn’t affect their rights to be on this site and interact with others.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Let’s not be some little spelling Nazi geeks. Some people are affected by dyslexia or don’t have English mother tongue. It doesn’t affect their rights to be on this site and interact with others. "

Totally agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't worry about it Derek.

You will find someone to chat with on message, it just takes a bit time and patience.

You are much loved in the forum and we enjoy your funny jokes and comments.

You are a kind sweet man

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley


"I meesage people in my area and not more in NORTH EAST I hardly get a replay when I do it's a NO not insterted or not her type happy with replies like that

Am I doing something worng or is there something in my profile that is putting women off"

It's nothing personal so try not to take it as such when you don't get a reply. A large majority of members here are males and consequently females and couples tend to get so many messages that it becomes hard to reply to them all.

By posting here you have already attracted a response and made yourself known to quite a few people and that's probably a better way to strike up a few 'friendships'. It does take time though so you do have to be patient and just keep joining in with the forums and even the chatrooms.

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By *moothGrooveWoman
over a year ago

Durham

I hope you take this feedback in the the constructive way it is meant.....

1. Firstly as everyone else's mentioned it's very strange times. Things in the North East are bad, we are in tier 3 for a reason hence people aren't really meeting.

2. Although a profile is meant to tell the reader a little bit about you, I think yours is a little too much about you. "I like this, I want that". It also flags up quite a few potential obstacles to meeting. You don't need to go into to the details off public transport e.t.c. If you meet someone and you click then you will make it happen.

3. I don't know if you remember but we spoke a little bit last year. I remember the conversation was very much centred around and how difficult it is for you to meet people, and how you want to go to clubs, and how no one gives you a chance. A lot of women myself included find confidence quite he turn on, self depreciation really isn't a turn on. In fact, quite the opposite.

I hope you find what you're looking for and I wish you a very merry Christmas x

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By *moothGrooveWoman
over a year ago

Durham

Please over look the 'typing' blunders.... Damn voice text!!

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

If you’re looking just to chat then probably best to interact in the Forums. Why not start a thread for people who just want to chit chat, you might find like minded people that way.

Generally I think people are only interested in chatting with people they are interested in meeting, and meeting isn’t possible at the moment. There are so many men on here that women and couples have their pick of whoever fulfils their fantasies. So it’s easy to not be successful.

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By *illow-TalkMan
over a year ago

Shipston-on-Stour


"I meesage people in my area and not more in NORTH EAST I hardly get a replay when I do it's a NO not insterted or not her type happy with replies like that

Am I doing something worng or is there something in my profile that is putting women off

Derek - few are no people are meeting at the moment because of covid - and that could mean that they - like me - are only looking to chat to people they already know.

I’d suggest just sticking to having a natter on the forums for the time being my lovely. "

Very sound advice, strange times at the moment and we all need to evolve.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

The biggest tip for happiness here is to create realistic expectations.

Most people will not like most other people enough physically or personality. It needs both sides to be in the minority who have mutual interest. Perhaps 5%, if lucky.

Of those 5%, they have a selection of people to pick from. Let's say just 10, so you may have a 1 in 10 chance, or 0.5% chance from every first message.

You will get some chats start, as people need to communicate to know whether you are 1 of the majority that they don't match with, or 1 of the rarer few that they do.

If matched personally, are you then matched for availability, sexual needs and how/where you'd meet? Some have insufficient patience, so this cuta that notional 0.5% match down, perhaps by half. You're at 0.25% chance of getting together.

None of the success happens unless you invest the efforts to communicate well with what may be hundreda of people. These odds assume equal chances and interest for all, though life isn't like that, as we know.

Add a pandemic in, where people cannot meet, have priorities of health, families, relationships, work and non-sexual life and it magnifies the perceived difficulties. Many are not here to discuss meeting for sex, even when online. It can seem inappropriate to discuss it. Nobody knows when it will be safe enough to meet for most of us to want to, laws permitting. 2021? Perhaps.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"I meesage people in my area and not more in NORTH EAST I hardly get a replay when I do it's a NO not insterted or not her type happy with replies like that

Am I doing something worng or is there something in my profile that is putting women off

Derek - few are no people are meeting at the moment because of covid - and that could mean that they - like me - are only looking to chat to people they already know.

I’d suggest just sticking to having a natter on the forums for the time being my lovely. "

Saying that Peachy, I do put a lot into the forums, but I still feel annoyed by the few winks, single figures that are all was done by hidden profile users.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try “spell check” first. Might help?"

Try reading first

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham

The forums are a great way to interact. However expect nothing and when we get the opportunity don't put all your eggs in one basket by relying on meeting people here. Join a gym Derek or get yourself into something that will open doors and get you meeting people.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"I meesage people in my area and not more in NORTH EAST I hardly get a replay when I do it's a NO not insterted or not her type happy with replies like that

Am I doing something worng or is there something in my profile that is putting women off

Derek - few are no people are meeting at the moment because of covid - and that could mean that they - like me - are only looking to chat to people they already know.

I’d suggest just sticking to having a natter on the forums for the time being my lovely.

Saying that Peachy, I do put a lot into the forums, but I still feel annoyed by the few winks, single figures that are all was done by hidden profile users."

Not sure what you mean by that my lovely? Xx

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By *eedsmale36Man
over a year ago

Leeds


"her lack of sight has never affected her life

Really ?

Yes really, in fact when chatting to her I would forget she was blind. She has visited most countries in the world including USA and some of the wonders of the world.

"

I’m feeling some tension between you and Sally, is this overspill from the Quest debate ?

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By *eedsmale36Man
over a year ago

Leeds


"I hope you take this feedback in the the constructive way it is meant.....

1. Firstly as everyone else's mentioned it's very strange times. Things in the North East are bad, we are in tier 3 for a reason hence people aren't really meeting.

2. Although a profile is meant to tell the reader a little bit about you, I think yours is a little too much about you. "I like this, I want that". It also flags up quite a few potential obstacles to meeting. You don't need to go into to the details off public transport e.t.c. If you meet someone and you click then you will make it happen.

3. I don't know if you remember but we spoke a little bit last year. I remember the conversation was very much centred around and how difficult it is for you to meet people, and how you want to go to clubs, and how no one gives you a chance. A lot of women myself included find confidence quite he turn on, self depreciation really isn't a turn on. In fact, quite the opposite.

I hope you find what you're looking for and I wish you a very merry Christmas x"

Let him knob you on the back of the night bus to Gateshead you snobby cow

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By * Plus ECouple
over a year ago

The South


"I meesage people in my area and not more in NORTH EAST I hardly get a replay when I do it's a NO not insterted or not her type happy with replies like that

Am I doing something worng or is there something in my profile that is putting women off

As people point out it’s not just you! Women/couples get loads of messages so if yours is not Extra ordinary they won’t be jazzled.

By curiosity you mentioned being blind but you do car meets?? How this one work... "

How do you think it works?

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By *eedsmale36Man
over a year ago

Leeds


"I meesage people in my area and not more in NORTH EAST I hardly get a replay when I do it's a NO not insterted or not her type happy with replies like that

Am I doing something worng or is there something in my profile that is putting women off"

“I like kissing, licking, body contact and shagging” pmsl, Derek you are a diamond, keep plugging away mate there is somebody out there for everybody, get to a club when they reopen and get chatting to people, don’t get disheartened with this site, it’s hard work for us single guys you just have to persevere mate. Good luck

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"her lack of sight has never affected her life

Really ?

Yes really, in fact when chatting to her I would forget she was blind. She has visited most countries in the world including USA and some of the wonders of the world.

I’m feeling some tension between you and Sally, is this overspill from the Quest debate ? "

No tension from me towards anyone in the forums. You’ve certainly got that wrong.

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley


"her lack of sight has never affected her life

Really ?

Yes really, in fact when chatting to her I would forget she was blind. She has visited most countries in the world including USA and some of the wonders of the world.

I’m feeling some tension between you and Sally, is this overspill from the Quest debate ?

No tension from me towards anyone in the forums. You’ve certainly got that wrong. "

There's always something about quest! Isn't there.

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley

Apparently there's a thing now we're guys send friends requests with out messages to see if the other person isn't a time waster?!!!!!

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"her lack of sight has never affected her life

Really ?

Yes really, in fact when chatting to her I would forget she was blind. She has visited most countries in the world including USA and some of the wonders of the world.

I’m feeling some tension between you and Sally, is this overspill from the Quest debate ?

No tension from me towards anyone in the forums. You’ve certainly got that wrong.

There's always something about quest! Isn't there. "

I’ve no idea what you mean?

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley


"her lack of sight has never affected her life

Really ?

Yes really, in fact when chatting to her I would forget she was blind. She has visited most countries in the world including USA and some of the wonders of the world.

I’m feeling some tension between you and Sally, is this overspill from the Quest debate ?

No tension from me towards anyone in the forums. You’ve certainly got that wrong.

There's always something about quest! Isn't there.

I’ve no idea what you mean? "

You're always knocking it!

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"her lack of sight has never affected her life

Really ?

Yes really, in fact when chatting to her I would forget she was blind. She has visited most countries in the world including USA and some of the wonders of the world.

I’m feeling some tension between you and Sally, is this overspill from the Quest debate ?

No tension from me towards anyone in the forums. You’ve certainly got that wrong.

There's always something about quest! Isn't there.

I’ve no idea what you mean?

You're always knocking it! "

No I’m not ‘always’ knocking it. You’ve got that wrong my ‘friend’!

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley


"her lack of sight has never affected her life

Really ?

Yes really, in fact when chatting to her I would forget she was blind. She has visited most countries in the world including USA and some of the wonders of the world.

I’m feeling some tension between you and Sally, is this overspill from the Quest debate ?

No tension from me towards anyone in the forums. You’ve certainly got that wrong.

There's always something about quest! Isn't there.

I’ve no idea what you mean?

You're always knocking it!

No I’m not ‘always’ knocking it. You’ve got that wrong my ‘friend’! "

OK tell me something positive about the place.... T

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"her lack of sight has never affected her life

Really ?

Yes really, in fact when chatting to her I would forget she was blind. She has visited most countries in the world including USA and some of the wonders of the world.

I’m feeling some tension between you and Sally, is this overspill from the Quest debate ?

No tension from me towards anyone in the forums. You’ve certainly got that wrong.

There's always something about quest! Isn't there.

I’ve no idea what you mean?

You're always knocking it!

No I’m not ‘always’ knocking it. You’ve got that wrong my ‘friend’!

OK tell me something positive about the place.... T"

Easter Egg

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley


"her lack of sight has never affected her life

Really ?

Yes really, in fact when chatting to her I would forget she was blind. She has visited most countries in the world including USA and some of the wonders of the world.

I’m feeling some tension between you and Sally, is this overspill from the Quest debate ?

No tension from me towards anyone in the forums. You’ve certainly got that wrong.

There's always something about quest! Isn't there.

I’ve no idea what you mean?

You're always knocking it!

No I’m not ‘always’ knocking it. You’ve got that wrong my ‘friend’!

OK tell me something positive about the place.... T

Easter Egg "

That's a person?!!!

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By * Plus ECouple
over a year ago

The South

You know when a thread takes a very weird turn?

Yeah, that.......

E

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By *mmabluTV/TS
over a year ago

upton wirral


"I meesage people in my area and not more in NORTH EAST I hardly get a replay when I do it's a NO not insterted or not her type happy with replies like that

Am I doing something worng or is there something in my profile that is putting women off"

Have you heard of covid 19?

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By *illow-TalkMan
over a year ago

Shipston-on-Stour


"You know when a thread takes a very weird turn?

Yeah, that.......

E"

When it’s morphed into something completely different

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By *immy1986Man
over a year ago

Spalding

As others have said mate, covid19 ain't helping the situation.

And in my experience, out of roughly 100 messages I've sent, I've met 2 people since being on this site. But there are a lot of time wasters that have upset and hurt people and spoil it for the rest of us too. Persevere mate it's not all bad

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By *iner69erMan
over a year ago

inverness


"I meesage people in my area and not more in NORTH EAST I hardly get a replay when I do it's a NO not insterted or not her type happy with replies like that

Am I doing something worng or is there something in my profile that is putting women off"

women mostly don't seem to be interested. It's possible you will never get a meet. I've had 1 meet in 11 years and have to accept that I'll never get lucky again. You might get something, but will probably have to keep at it for years.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I meesage people in my area and not more in NORTH EAST I hardly get a replay when I do it's a NO not insterted or not her type happy with replies like that

Am I doing something worng or is there something in my profile that is putting women offwomen mostly don't seem to be interested. It's possible you will never get a meet. I've had 1 meet in 11 years and have to accept that I'll never get lucky again. You might get something, but will probably have to keep at it for years. "

Good reason for filters.

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By *athan 123Man
over a year ago

rochdale oldham border

I’m looking for people in my area if your local ish message me for further chat

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I’m looking for people in my area if your local ish message me for further chat "

Start your own thread for this.

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South


"Apparently there's a thing now we're guys send friends requests with out messages to see if the other person isn't a time waster?!!!!! "

Not wanting to respond to one person doesn’t make anyone a time waster ‘sigh’ - just because people are on here doesn’t mean they will have sex with just anyone.

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By * Plus ECouple
over a year ago

The South


"I’m looking for people in my area if your local ish message me for further chat "

Is this relevant to the opening post?

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley


"Apparently there's a thing now we're guys send friends requests with out messages to see if the other person isn't a time waster?!!!!!

Not wanting to respond to one person doesn’t make anyone a time waster ‘sigh’ - just because people are on here doesn’t mean they will have sex with just anyone. "

I know that, it was an observation from a female friend who got a message saying that...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same here no replays make me thinks it's not real on here ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So, our thoughts on this. Don't just send every profile the same message - we get messages from people that we've replied to, then 3 months later get exactly the same message from the same person. We "guess" they have forgotten that they've messaged us already. Always read the profile and see if you are what they are looking for (age, sex, orientation, do they drive/accommodate etc). Don't think that everyone wants the same thing. Also, nobody is meeting at the moment (granted this was posted a while ago) so don't message thinking you are meeting tomorrow.

The main thing though is that you are a single male, in a sea of single males. Most couples get hundreds of messages most days from prospective profiles hoping to be allowed in to play (we don't, but most other couples do) so you're profile and first message needs to stand out. Think of it like a CV for a job, if it's boring then you will not get the position.

Finally, don't just send a friends request before talking to them as it just gets deleted mostly

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By * Plus ECouple
over a year ago

The South


"Same here no replays make me thinks it's not real on here ?"

Global pandemic.

Lockdown.

Social distancing.

Tiers.

There's probably a few more reasons people aren't meeting right now.

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