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By *sor OP   Man
over a year ago

Chester

I’m not sure if this is the right place for this, but I recently had sex with a girl and it was so bad I genuinely regret doing it. Not experienced this before and it’s very strange haha.

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By *heDesiCandiTV/TS
over a year ago

visiting Glasgow

So what advice do you want ?

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By *sor OP   Man
over a year ago

Chester

Sorry I should have included that. Is it normal and I’ve just been lucky not to experience it so far? Does the regret last?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

bad sex does happen but as with good sex it takes two

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

My advice? Take the lion's share of the responsibility for it being poor.

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By *sor OP   Man
over a year ago

Chester

[Removed by poster at 30/11/20 22:27:33]

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By *sor OP   Man
over a year ago

Chester


"bad sex does happen but as with good sex it takes two"

True. I definitely wasn’t in the right frame of mind.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"I’m not sure if this is the right place for this, but I recently had sex with a girl and it was so bad I genuinely regret doing it. Not experienced this before and it’s very strange haha. "

You are only 20, there is lots of bad sex coming your way and no sex as well.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Don’t worry about it. Shit happens.....oh! It wasn’t that was it?!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"bad sex does happen but as with good sex it takes two

True. I definitely wasn’t in the right frame of mind. "

Probably best to learn and move on.

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By *sor OP   Man
over a year ago

Chester


"I’m not sure if this is the right place for this, but I recently had sex with a girl and it was so bad I genuinely regret doing it. Not experienced this before and it’s very strange haha.

You are only 20, there is lots of bad sex coming your way and no sex as well. "

True, in a way I’m surprised I made it this far without it lol

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I'm suprised that no one has commented on the fact that you had sex in lockdown

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm suprised that no one has commented on the fact that you had sex in lockdown"

You just did!

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Why was it bad? Not what you expected or did something go wrong?

Never have any regrets about meets on Fab. Work out ways so it doesn’t happen again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's like learning anything isn't it? You make mistakes, do things badly and learn from it. You then hope to do better next time. Some say it takes 30,000 hours to master something ...

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

Figure out why it was bad and take steps to avoid that happening again. As for the regret, depends why it was bad and how bad you feel about it. Some regrets never leave you. If it was just disappointing sex you’ll forget about it soon enough.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"I’m not sure if this is the right place for this, but I recently had sex with a girl and it was so bad I genuinely regret doing it. Not experienced this before and it’s very strange haha. "

Bad in what way ?

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon


"I’m not sure if this is the right place for this, but I recently had sex with a girl and it was so bad I genuinely regret doing it. Not experienced this before and it’s very strange haha.

You are only 20, there is lots of bad sex coming your way and no sex as well. "

Fuck me, only 20! Wait until he’s been married a few years!

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By *ecretlivesCouple
over a year ago

FABWatch HQ

The fact that it ever goes right is comic when you consider how many things can go wrong.

Overeaten, d*unk too much (or not enough), dehydrated, wrong smell, cold, hot - the physical list goes on. Thats before you even begin to think of what happens in the mind (including covid breach anxiety!) Add in previous good bad experiences (or none at all). Then multiply it by 2 as you both feel the same, and it starts to become less surprising its not always perfect.

Learn what you can from your own position - including what you could have done to help your partner, then move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The fact that it ever goes right is comic when you consider how many things can go wrong.

Overeaten, d*unk too much (or not enough), dehydrated, wrong smell, cold, hot - the physical list goes on. Thats before you even begin to think of what happens in the mind (including covid breach anxiety!) Add in previous good bad experiences (or none at all). Then multiply it by 2 as you both feel the same, and it starts to become less surprising its not always perfect.

Learn what you can from your own position - including what you could have done to help your partner, then move on "

I 100% agree. I have had sex a few times, but it's just luck that it's been great for me, as I was on that in-experienced list too. Thankfully I'm a fast learner haha. But don't dwell on it too much. Humans make mistakes to learn from them. Enough said. Acknowledge it (which is what you have done), learn why and where you wen't wrong and move on with your life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"bad sex does happen but as with good sex it takes two"

My thoughts exactly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My advice? Take the lion's share of the responsibility for it being poor."

well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of the best sex I've had is after things went badly and we knew we were still ok with each other... from then on we could both relax and enjoy it.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Most people are not compatible with most other people. Our tastes differ. Your mistake is to do anything other than to learn from it.

If you attempt to steer your partner towards sexual engagement that's better for you, they may still not match us. It matters less if it's no strings sex and you don't see them again, than if it's a long term partner.

Always feel right to stop it at any point

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"I’m not sure if this is the right place for this, but I recently had sex with a girl and it was so bad I genuinely regret doing it. Not experienced this before and it’s very strange haha. "

Pissed myself laughing, loved the haha.

Have fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to have a talk with this woman, and tell her to step up her game.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bad sex?

Non consensual? That's really bad. [illegal]? Very bad. Indirectly related family member? Pretty bad. Friends wife or girlfriend? Bad friend. Besiality? Jezuz H. These are examples of bad sex.

Regret doing it? If above applies you need help. If not...

Did you have an orgasm? If yes good for you, bad boy. If not...

Did you pay for it? If yes, was satisfaction guaranteed during your negotiation of the contract? If yes take them to court for a refund. If not, write the contract down next time...

Did they cum? If yes then good for you. Selfless love making is the sign of a true gentleman. If not then you are bad at sex. Bad, bad, bad. So very bad.

Did you want to impress your friend with your sexual prowess in the hope it might turn into a long term relationship and miserably fail, thus thrown into the friend zone bin of indifferent exclusion? Yes? Regrets. I have a few. If no, well read on playa!

Yeah she is going to tell everyone about how clumsy and awkward you are when handling her. Everyone will know about your lack of perception and attention to her needs and your inability to turn her on to wanting to fulfil your needs, or how uncaring you were when you failed to realise her inexperience and got frustrated when she did not automatically understand what you wanted and how to make it enjoyable for you. Either way, how your expressed confidence is a pathetic mask of empathy you use to lure in the unsuspecting lady into your trap. Now everyone will know about your flaccid pee-pee. Regrets. I have a few...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry but at twenty my thoughts of sex were just the action. I will wait for the day when you post: OMG that was life changing sex!

Every encounter has its merits and from my pint of view if you free your mind: it just gets better and better

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By *heDesiCandiTV/TS
over a year ago

visiting Glasgow

You are discovering each other’s bodies and developing your technique - it’s about listening and communicating, what works for you - what excites them - being in the moment and paying attention to how your actions are causing reactions and vice versa.

The only men who I know who have experience regret or guilt are the ones who haven’t accepted their sexuality, desire or are cheating

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"You need to have a talk with this woman, and tell her to step up her game....."

So you’re assuming it’s the woman’s fault? Goodness! Sex is usually about TWO people as the OP explained.

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh.

It’s only bad if you get one chance.

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By *otPrinceHarryMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I was really hoping this would be a thread of sex advice that is bad.

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

South Side.

Have you talked with her about it? How did she feel? It's good to have an honest after action review. Learn from mistakes, accept feedback. Next one should be better. (for both of you)

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