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What do ladies look for in a message?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Women get far more messages a day than men, and I was wondering what you want to hear in a message and in the title that would spark your interest. Thanks x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women get far more messages a day than men, and I was wondering what you want to hear in a message and in the title that would spark your interest. Thanks x"

Rather than trying to craft a message to impress the woman you are sending one to why not read their profile and just be you in your message because if you meet I’m pretty sure that you are going to have to be pretty much you!!!!

Best of luck op.

Stay frosty out there!!!!

T

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/1049695#last

Feel free to read a thread I posted about this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It varies between lady and lady ... when people say craft a personal message based on profile etc etc I find those messages extremely contrived and boring (so we are all different ) but actually have a great fab friend who messaged hi!

I've found with most people, make sure your profile and pictures are up to date and the best you can have them ... always read their profile (twice if the pics are good) and if you're what they're looking for, just be yourself!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Something that ticks thier boxes and grabs thier interest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look for that they have read my profile...& humour..

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"I look for that they have read my profile...& humour.."

Same.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

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"I look for that they have read my profile...& humour.."

Me too and I like to see a little bit of their personality in the message.

Often before looking at the message I will take out their profile there to see if there is anything we have in common, add to see if they have put effort into their profile and pictures as that is important to me.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

"Check" not "take!"

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By *ouncy BabyWoman
over a year ago

Leicester

I’m not one for just a Hi message as it’s hard to start a conversation with one word. Humour is the key but not borderline crazy....that’s scary ??

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By *hilinWoman
over a year ago

north


"Women get far more messages a day than men, and I was wondering what you want to hear in a message and in the title that would spark your interest. Thanks x"

Banter, humour and a little cheek

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset

This morning so far 12 messages from people iv never had contact with,

4 just hi

7 "I love your profile" and include multiple dick pics and/or wanna chat/meet......clearly showing they either A, have not even glanced at my profile or B, think it doesn't applies to them.

1, "wanna hear me come"

There are some that will engage with 1 or more of the above, there are some that won't.

Everyone's an individual and 1 approach won't fit all.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

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I had a very individual approach last night from somebody who apparently was sat in a lay-by near me doing some quite interesting things to himself with a banana and a large dildo.

That particular approach didn't work for me but there's someone for everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a very individual approach last night from somebody who apparently was sat in a lay-by near me doing some quite interesting things to himself with a banana and a large dildo.

That particular approach didn't work for me but there's someone for everyone."

Oh Dear, what a way for the bannana to ends its days

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

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"I had a very individual approach last night from somebody who apparently was sat in a lay-by near me doing some quite interesting things to himself with a banana and a large dildo.

That particular approach didn't work for me but there's someone for everyone.

Oh Dear, what a way for the bannana to ends its days"

Apparently it didn't go to waste and was eaten afterwards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I look for that they have read my profile...& humour.."

I always try to add a little humour to a message. But often it fails lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I look for that they have read my profile...& humour..

I always try to add a little humour to a message. But often it fails lol "

No pics and a short profile will not help your efforts.

L x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I look for that they have read my profile...& humour..

I always try to add a little humour to a message. But often it fails lol

No pics and a short profile will not help your efforts.

L x"

Yes I know that. And one day i will change it. I always send a face pic with a message x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone is really different. I know what I don’t like, and that’s “cheeky banter”, being called babe/hun/sexy off the bat, just a “hi” or “wht u up to” or “u meeting”, too many uses of “lol” as punctuation

What I appreciate is someone who has actually read my profile & who sends a face pic.

I admit I don’t answer about 90% of my messages. Messaging me 30 minutes after your first message to say something like “Guess you’re not interested” usually equals a block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This was my first message today

"Thanks for the wink back, your picture is of course enticing. I think after this lockdown there will be so many horny fabbers, it will be like a new summer of love!"

The reply back was just 'OK'

I thought it was a pretty nice message to start a convo! But alas I should have stuck to dick pics

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset


"This was my first message today

"Thanks for the wink back, your picture is of course enticing. I think after this lockdown there will be so many horny fabbers, it will be like a new summer of love!"

The reply back was just 'OK'

I thought it was a pretty nice message to start a convo! But alas I should have stuck to dick pics

"

Personally I would of sent back just . Lockdown is a topic over done too long ago. Plus it hasn't actually stopped anyone being horny.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was a pretty blank profile but as guy you get a wink off a lady you grab those horns and ride the bull. That came out wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This was my first message today

"Thanks for the wink back, your picture is of course enticing. I think after this lockdown there will be so many horny fabbers, it will be like a new summer of love!"

The reply back was just 'OK'

I thought it was a pretty nice message to start a convo! But alas I should have stuck to dick pics

Personally I would of sent back just . Lockdown is a topic over done too long ago. Plus it hasn't actually stopped anyone being horny."

Oh the dick pics worked anyway

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/1049695#last

Feel free to read a thread I posted about this "

Ehh, sounds like effort. I bet it just says "send a cock shot". Burds love that shit.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Women get far more messages a day than men, and I was wondering what you want to hear in a message and in the title that would spark your interest. Thanks x"

I really dislike sleazy or arrogant messages. I get tons of them though

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset


"https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/1049695#last

Feel free to read a thread I posted about this

Ehh, sounds like effort. I bet it just says "send a cock shot". Burds love that shit."

Trust me it's worth a read lol

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Anyone who clearly hasn’t read the profile gets ignored. Anyone with no pics, short profiles and no verifications gets ignored, or if they made an effort in the message then we would respond. Usually with a thanks but no thanks.

Beth had her own profile open to single guys for a while. Honestly, it became tedious having to respond to everyone so she put filters on to stop it becoming a chore. Sexy disappears rapidly when you just have to deal with rubbish messages.

We are happy to chat & hopefully meet with people in the future, but please read our profile before you message...

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I like when it's apparent that they have a grasp of me and what I like and want.

And when they explain a little about themselves, so I get an understanding of them too.

Lack of any pressure is a great, especial thing

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

Any messages that refer to me as "babes" are an instant delete.

I prefer for guys to tell me what they are looking for when they message and tell me what they think we have in common. I do enjoy humour and banter.

It does help to have read my profile first.

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By *etenewcMan
over a year ago

County Durham

Warm hands.

...oh, message!

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire


"Warm hands.

...oh, message!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This my cut and paste

"hey sugar tits, you've not inspired me to not copy and paste but I'll give you a second chance. If you like a young Burt reynolds with a slightly above average sized penis, I'm your man.#

Tumble..

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By *ouncy BabyWoman
over a year ago

Leicester


"This my cut and paste

"hey sugar tits, you've not inspired me to not copy and paste but I'll give you a second chance. If you like a young Burt reynolds with a slightly above average sized penis, I'm your man.#

Tumble.. "

Oh you had me at Burt Reynolds, what a hairy chest he had

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