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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Women think I’m attractive what’s the problem

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only

You can't be everyone's type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because that's what they might think?

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.


"Women think I’m attractive what’s the problem "

You've only been on here 4 weeks, OP. During a pandemic, too. Join in on the forums, get yourself involved and don't put too much pressure on yourself x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm sure some women do. Everyone likes different things.

On here, I suspect there'll be less interaction due to the pandemic and lockdown.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get that too.

I'm ugly, old and beardy - what's your excuse?

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

They’re all Gay ...some don’t even know it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know, right?

I was expecting a flood of moist pantied ladies with huge norks to be knocking down my door when I joined too.

My penis has fallen off since and I’m a born again virgin now

Sucks to be us, huh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They’re all Gay ...some don’t even know it "

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I’d bum you Mike

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’d bum you Mike "

I wanna watch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The problem is within yourself op!!!!

Some will like you and some will not like you and some will be on the French about you but bleating about it helps no one so chin up and learn to be comfortable with what and who you are.!!!!

Best of luck.

T

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you're nice looking (but, alas, I'm not a woman)

The pics away from the mirror show you off a bit better

The bevel on the mirror makes your head look oddly flat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you're nice looking (but, alas, I'm not a woman)

The pics away from the mirror show you off a bit better

The bevel on the mirror makes your head look oddly flat "

Also, keep the beard

It suits ya

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"The problem is within yourself op!!!!

Some will like you and some will not like you and some will be on the French about you but bleating about it helps no one so chin up and learn to be comfortable with what and who you are.!!!!

Best of luck.

T"

Ultimately the only thing you can do, as noted, is work on yourself. Not "if I work on myself I'll get laid", but work on yourself. It's frustrating but - trust me, I've been where you are, it is also correct.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North


"I’d bum you Mike

I wanna watch "

I’ll bum you, you fist Mike

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’d bum you Mike

I wanna watch

I’ll bum you, you fist Mike "

No change of plans!

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford

How old are you OP??

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By *ig9incherforuMan
over a year ago

Welwyn

Lol another attention seeker!!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"Lol another attention seeker!! "

Everyone is attention seeking on the forum to a certain extent, even those who comment on the posts started by those who want the attention.

I think OP that no one is attractive to everyone and doing things that make you happy will be attractive to others. If you're talking about on here? I can't really comment on that.

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

I’ve noticed women on fab tend not to be too interested in sporty guys, it’s not a selling point.

Take up some more feminine hobbies, like flower arranging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lol another attention seeker!! "

Why try and make someone feel bad!? I don’t get it.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

An awful lot of people are feeling incredibly flat at the moment oh here and in general.

I've had guys message me that when I've been on good form I'd have had fanny flutters upon viewing their pics.

Now my brain just appreciates they're good looking to me, and that's it.

I've nothing.

Nothing to give, nothing to really say. So I've been hotlisting those profiles for if I get back to myself again and then I'll make contact.

It ain't always about you and how you come across its about the person/people who you're speaking to too, and how they're feeling.

I buzz past profiles that have nothing that jumps out at me. Sometimes that "jump out" can be one picture or one word.

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

We are all here for the women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women think I’m attractive what’s the problem "

I think you're attractive.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"An awful lot of people are feeling incredibly flat at the moment oh here and in general.

I've had guys message me that when I've been on good form I'd have had fanny flutters upon viewing their pics.

Now my brain just appreciates they're good looking to me, and that's it.

I've nothing.

Nothing to give, nothing to really say. So I've been hotlisting those profiles for if I get back to myself again and then I'll make contact.

It ain't always about you and how you come across its about the person/people who you're speaking to too, and how they're feeling.

I buzz past profiles that have nothing that jumps out at me. Sometimes that "jump out" can be one picture or one word.

"

Yeah I don't have much bandwidth for new people at the moment. Talk yes, in theory attractive yes.

Meet? Nah. I'll start to get my motor running again when I'm in the group that's due to be vaccinated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure some women do find you attractive. This can be a tricky site to navigate and looks alone are not always what people are looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another thread where the OP is fairly new and people feel the needs to be mean.

Op there has been some really good advice on here and some not so great just focus on what works for you.

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By *ig9incherforuMan
over a year ago

Welwyn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We can’t be all things to all people OP but you will certainly appeal to some.

As others have suggested, take part in the forums and get to know your fellow Fabbers.

Just about all we can do at the moment!

Don’t get disheartened.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Op never try and understand women and their behaviours

Welcome to the forums put a lot of the disinterest in your profile down to the pandemic at the moment.

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

You are very attractive Op and you know it.

Unfortunately that puts a lot of people of. Ie you could come across as "you are lucky that you're with me". That kind of situation.

I don't mean to be rude x

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas


"Another thread where the OP is fairly new and people feel the needs to be mean.

Op there has been some really good advice on here and some not so great just focus on what works for you. "

Not his first rodeo

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Another thread where the OP is fairly new and people feel the needs to be mean.

Op there has been some really good advice on here and some not so great just focus on what works for you.

Not his first rodeo "

It's not, no. But still...

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By *ig9incherforuMan
over a year ago

Welwyn


"Another thread where the OP is fairly new and people feel the needs to be mean.

Op there has been some really good advice on here and some not so great just focus on what works for you.

Not his first rodeo

It's not, no. But still..."

I'm not being mean

Look what he said, Look at his pose... What do you think he wants?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Another thread where the OP is fairly new and people feel the needs to be mean.

Op there has been some really good advice on here and some not so great just focus on what works for you.

Not his first rodeo

It's not, no. But still...

I'm not being mean

Look what he said, Look at his pose... What do you think he wants? "

What do any of us want and why do newbies get a particularly hard time of it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Another thread where the OP is fairly new and people feel the needs to be mean.

Op there has been some really good advice on here and some not so great just focus on what works for you.

Not his first rodeo

It's not, no. But still...

I'm not being mean

Look what he said, Look at his pose... What do you think he wants? "

He wants people to find him attractive?

To me, that is intrinsically different to 'attention seeking'

Attention seeking, to me at least, implies need as opposed to want

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

OP how do you know that women don’t find you attractive?

I personally find it difficult to chat to anyone who deletes their account every few weeks

Everyone is attractive to someone and personally you are attractive but there is a lot more to attraction than looks

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By *ig9incherforuMan
over a year ago

Welwyn


"Another thread where the OP is fairly new and people feel the needs to be mean.

Op there has been some really good advice on here and some not so great just focus on what works for you.

Not his first rodeo

It's not, no. But still...

I'm not being mean

Look what he said, Look at his pose... What do you think he wants?

What do any of us want and why do newbies get a particularly hard time of it?"

Nothing to do with him being a newbie... But as stated not his first rodeo. Just get on with it. Sure you need to be lucky to get meets etc but don't cry about your lack of attention to get attention

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sorry op you dont apeal to us in any way, plus you are on a swingers site, swinging always used to be about couples having fun together, maybe a singles site would suit you more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sorry op you dont apeal to us in any way, plus you are on a swingers site, swinging always used to be about couples having fun together, maybe a singles site would suit you more"

You said it yourself... Swinging USED to be about couples

Not 100% the case any more, the boundaries have shifted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sorry op you dont apeal to us in any way, plus you are on a swingers site, swinging always used to be about couples having fun together, maybe a singles site would suit you more"

Everyone is welcome here, single or couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sorry op you dont apeal to us in any way, plus you are on a swingers site, swinging always used to be about couples having fun together, maybe a singles site would suit you more

Everyone is welcome here, single or couple.

"

the problem weve found is that alot of single guys come on here expecting instashag, not just our observation either, we go to socials, or used to before covid, and very rarly saw single guys, yes they are all over the forum complaining they cant get meets, put the efffort in and things happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sorry op you dont apeal to us in any way, plus you are on a swingers site, swinging always used to be about couples having fun together, maybe a singles site would suit you more

Everyone is welcome here, single or couple.

the problem weve found is that alot of single guys come on here expecting instashag, not just our observation either, we go to socials, or used to before covid, and very rarly saw single guys, yes they are all over the forum complaining they cant get meets, put the efffort in and things happen"

*puts hand up

... but, but, but, but, but you just told them not to put the effort in

You said swinging was for couples, not for singles

You even suggested the OP looked elsewhere in what read as a kinda arsey way (if you don't mind me saying)

So now, are we saying that guys who you two do fancy should stick around, but those that don't should bugger off?

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By *addyBabygirl2020Couple
over a year ago

norwich


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Ultimately the only thing you can do, as noted, is work on yourself. Not "if I work on myself I'll get laid", but work on yourself. It's frustrating but - trust me, I've been where you are, it is also correct."

This is the best advice.

Its law of attraction stuff. The universe will reflect back at you want you put out.

Become happy and confident within yourself and watch how others suddenly become attracted to you.

Many guys with fantastic bodies on here but if they spent as much time working on their inner self to they would be killing it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sorry op you dont apeal to us in any way, plus you are on a swingers site, swinging always used to be about couples having fun together, maybe a singles site would suit you more

Everyone is welcome here, single or couple.

the problem weve found is that alot of single guys come on here expecting instashag, not just our observation either, we go to socials, or used to before covid, and very rarly saw single guys, yes they are all over the forum complaining they cant get meets, put the efffort in and things happen"

Iv been to loads of Socials where there have been more single guys than couples or women.

Yes you might be frustrated but you get to decide who should and shouldn't be here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hugs Op

You are a handsome man and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sorry op you dont apeal to us in any way, plus you are on a swingers site, swinging always used to be about couples having fun together, maybe a singles site would suit you more

Everyone is welcome here, single or couple.

the problem weve found is that alot of single guys come on here expecting instashag, not just our observation either, we go to socials, or used to before covid, and very rarly saw single guys, yes they are all over the forum complaining they cant get meets, put the efffort in and things happen

*puts hand up

... but, but, but, but, but you just told them not to put the effort in

You said swinging was for couples, not for singles

You even suggested the OP looked elsewhere in what read as a kinda arsey way (if you don't mind me saying)

So now, are we saying that guys who you two do fancy should stick around, but those that don't should bugger off? "
we have made friends with alot of people, male and femail that we wouldnt play with, all im saying is put in the effort, dont just come on a forum and moan about not getting meets, its not that easy, we find it hard enough as a couple, so put in some effort, men being the highest number on here obviously also have to put aeeort in, fair, maybe not, but thats the way it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sorry op you dont apeal to us in any way, plus you are on a swingers site, swinging always used to be about couples having fun together, maybe a singles site would suit you more

Everyone is welcome here, single or couple.

the problem weve found is that alot of single guys come on here expecting instashag, not just our observation either, we go to socials, or used to before covid, and very rarly saw single guys, yes they are all over the forum complaining they cant get meets, put the efffort in and things happen

*puts hand up

... but, but, but, but, but you just told them not to put the effort in

You said swinging was for couples, not for singles

You even suggested the OP looked elsewhere in what read as a kinda arsey way (if you don't mind me saying)

So now, are we saying that guys who you two do fancy should stick around, but those that don't should bugger off? we have made friends with alot of people, male and femail that we wouldnt play with, all im saying is put in the effort, dont just come on a forum and moan about not getting meets, its not that easy, we find it hard enough as a couple, so put in some effort, men being the highest number on here obviously also have to put aeeort in, fair, maybe not, but thats the way it is"

Again you don't get to decide what people can post on the forums. You seem very negative towards single men and it's unfair to project that onto the OP.

You have no idea what effort this man has put in so just accept that hes allowed to post on the forum without being told he should look for another site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op Be positive, dont be desperate, chat and have fun and things will happen, just be cool x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All I can say OP is you have only been on 4 weeks - it’s a strange time for us all with the pandemic and restrictions try and build some connections on the forums and then hopefully when the clubs are open and the restrictions lifted you can organise socials and more see what happens all the best and good luck just stick to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hugs Op

You are a handsome man and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise......"

This.

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By *umstibleMan
over a year ago

Colindale


"Lol another attention seeker!! "

Awww how sad, Big9 wants everything to be about him lol

OP we will get our day on the battlefield bro! Keep your head high and your cock hard! Our time will come!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like has been said before. Not everyone is attracted to the same things. That doesnt mean you aren't attractive. Of course it doesnt. You are new on site. It's not instashag. Get involved in the forums and chat rooms. Build some relationships. Dont be a dick.

Good luck, stick with it.

J

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By *aughty_builder87Man
over a year ago

Keston

If you are judging it off of here there is alot of reasons.

1) there is 100 men to 1 women

2) there is a pandemic

3) maybe the messages you send aren't sending the right vibe

4) you haven't been here long

I have been here as a couple and a individual for over 3 years in that time I have had 4 socials and 3 time that led to more. I will go 5/6 months without even getting a response, And then its generally a no thanks. Patience is key.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women think I’m attractive what’s the problem "

The problem is you obviously think you are more attractive than you are.

Swinger does not mean I shag anybody who asks me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feel your pain bro - I get the impression ladies on here get hundreds of messages and men outnumber women by 10/1 so imo will only really reply to the Calvin Klein models.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

PS - you look fine pal

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By *ollycouple71Couple
over a year ago

manchester


"I know, right?

I was expecting a flood of moist pantied ladies with huge norks to be knocking down my door when I joined too.

My penis has fallen off since and I’m a born again virgin now

Sucks to be us, huh?"

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