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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I love kissing and find I really get turned on by it on a meet. In fact I find I sometimes struggle to get rock hard if I don't kiss. Anyone else have any views on this?

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

We can't kiss at present. Very much missing it.

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By *esi_maverickMan
over a year ago

Solihull

It's a must

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Our view is that we don't kiss our casual sex partners. We won't meet anyone who insists on kissing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You won't believe how much bacteria passes between each other when you kiss. Disgusting. From someone in the dental business.

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By *exy penWoman
over a year ago

liverpool

Love kissing so long as the person you are kissing can kiss that is.

No kissing no playing

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

Love kissing

An amazing kiss is the start of everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simple rule of thumb for my wife is :-

One glass of red = no kissing.

Two glasses of red = no kissing.

Three glasses of red = kissing,tongues,cocks,anything goes between her sweet lips.!!!!!

T

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"Simple rule of thumb for my wife is :-

One glass of red = no kissing.

Two glasses of red = no kissing.

Three glasses of red = kissing,tongues,cocks,anything goes between her sweet lips.!!!!!

T"

Would the wine act as a mouthwash , to reduce those pesky germs??

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By *wanseapaulMan
over a year ago

Swansea


"Simple rule of thumb for my wife is :-

One glass of red = no kissing.

Two glasses of red = no kissing.

Three glasses of red = kissing,tongues,cocks,anything goes between her sweet lips.!!!!!

T

Would the wine act as a mouthwash , to reduce those pesky germs??"

Definitely

Got to be worth trying anyway lol

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By *ig Dawg Walking TallMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Kissing is great but not good right now

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By *ue and robCouple
over a year ago

ware

Got to save something for just our partners

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By *rcadian110Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

It's essential for us both. It's clinical and no fun without

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My partner and I initially started with a no kissing other people rule, but now we're both perfectly fine with it and love a good snog when we play with others!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing (and anal) is just for us. Still leaves a lot of fun to be had with casuals. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’re the same. We do not kiss during meets, we keep that for each other x

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By *ememberTheNameMan
over a year ago

barnsley


"We can't kiss at present. Very much missing it. "

Me too

I can’t wait till it’s safe again !

I’ll be setting up a kiss glory hole roll up snog my face off then move on females only

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing is mandatory as is licking

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Everyone is entitled to their own blah blah blah.

Always makes me feel like they have some serious unresolved issues if kissing is forbidden.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Everyone is entitled to their own blah blah blah.

Always makes me feel like they have some serious unresolved issues if kissing is forbidden."

, such as?

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands


"Everyone is entitled to their own blah blah blah.

Always makes me feel like they have some serious unresolved issues if kissing is forbidden.

, such as?"
This could get interesting

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Everyone is entitled to their own blah blah blah.

Always makes me feel like they have some serious unresolved issues if kissing is forbidden.

, such as? This could get interesting "

I'm genuinely interested in the thinking behind such a statement. Not in an aggressive way but kissing seems to be the only boundary that people question and feel able to imply that not doing it indicates problems in a relationship. If I said I only do anal with my husband nobody would dream of suggesting such a thing.

Is it because some people have a need to feel a temporary intimacy with their casual partners and don't understand those of us who don't have that need?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone is entitled to their own blah blah blah.

Always makes me feel like they have some serious unresolved issues if kissing is forbidden.

, such as? This could get interesting

I'm genuinely interested in the thinking behind such a statement. Not in an aggressive way but kissing seems to be the only boundary that people question and feel able to imply that not doing it indicates problems in a relationship. If I said I only do anal with my husband nobody would dream of suggesting such a thing.

Is it because some people have a need to feel a temporary intimacy with their casual partners and don't understand those of us who don't have that need?"

This is interesting. I wonder if some people are therefore longing for a level of intimacy beyond simply swinging?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing is a must for us..its sensual and erotic, a physical and visual stimulation when on a meet which helps set the scene and build the mood and desire for the sex.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I'm genuinely interested in the thinking behind such a statement. Not in an aggressive way but kissing seems to be the only boundary that people question and feel able to imply that not doing it indicates problems in a relationship. If I said I only do anal with my husband nobody would dream of suggesting such a thing.

Is it because some people have a need to feel a temporary intimacy with their casual partners and don't understand those of us who don't have that need?"

Whilst others are unwilling to, for example, justify their homophobic tendencies, I'm happy to justify my thoughts here. It's an interesting conversation if done right.

I suppose you can try and clarify what "temporary intimacy" means when you're already putting bits of your body inside others. But ultimately the huge difference between kissing and anal is that they are naturally on the other side of any realistic continuum that has conventional, consensual intercourse in the middle of them. If it's fine to run your fingers through someone elses hair, to stroke their skin, to play with their junk... to ring fence one act that is pretty tame, "First date after a Nandos and the latest Transformers film that seemed to go well and thought you'd chance your hand in the car park" material just feels very strange to me, as it feels so anomalous.

To me it feels self evident that "intimacy" is a good thing, the whole point of the experiences we seek. The idea of having none, to have sex with people you have (as I'd interpret that language) no connection to, no fondness for, no knowledge of, might as well just be a piece of meat... not for us. I'm not saying anyone should or shouldn't do it, but we would feel very uncomfortable about playing with people who don't. We've never considered for a second that it shouldn't be done, and it was surprising to see people having that position what I'd never have thought would be a thing in the first place. I suppose some just seeing it as more meaningful than others do?

It usually makes immediately think of that Pretty Woman scene...

"What do you do?"

"Everything."

"But I don't kiss on the mouth."

"Neither do I."

Best film ever ever BTW.

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By *lderguy4uMan
over a year ago

wirral

There's a girl on here that can kiss for England

You know who you are

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands


"Everyone is entitled to their own blah blah blah.

Always makes me feel like they have some serious unresolved issues if kissing is forbidden.

, such as? This could get interesting

I'm genuinely interested in the thinking behind such a statement. Not in an aggressive way but kissing seems to be the only boundary that people question and feel able to imply that not doing it indicates problems in a relationship. If I said I only do anal with my husband nobody would dream of suggesting such a thing.

Is it because some people have a need to feel a temporary intimacy with their casual partners and don't understand those of us who don't have that need?"

Not full swapping has also been questioned on other threads. Apparently if some don’t want to do things that others do there’s a problem. If people don’t desire to kiss or full swap, pretty sure there’s not a problem. Let’s let everybody have their own boundaries and not question them. This could still get interesting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got to be kissing involved for me, it's a massive part of the whole sex experience. A bad kisser is a massive turn off and I wouldn't even consider meeting anyone who doesn't kiss.... for me the kissing/touching is every bit as important as the penetration.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Everyone is entitled to their own blah blah blah.

Always makes me feel like they have some serious unresolved issues if kissing is forbidden.

, such as? This could get interesting

I'm genuinely interested in the thinking behind such a statement. Not in an aggressive way but kissing seems to be the only boundary that people question and feel able to imply that not doing it indicates problems in a relationship. If I said I only do anal with my husband nobody would dream of suggesting such a thing.

Is it because some people have a need to feel a temporary intimacy with their casual partners and don't understand those of us who don't have that need?

This is interesting. I wonder if some people are therefore longing for a level of intimacy beyond simply swinging? "

Yes in my opinion and limited observation some people are.

There's nothing wrong with that we all have different reasons for being here. I just wouldn't dream of making assumptions about someone's relationship based on that alone.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I'm genuinely interested in the thinking behind such a statement. Not in an aggressive way but kissing seems to be the only boundary that people question and feel able to imply that not doing it indicates problems in a relationship. If I said I only do anal with my husband nobody would dream of suggesting such a thing.

Is it because some people have a need to feel a temporary intimacy with their casual partners and don't understand those of us who don't have that need?

Whilst others are unwilling to, for example, justify their homophobic tendencies, I'm happy to justify my thoughts here. It's an interesting conversation if done right.

I suppose you can try and clarify what "temporary intimacy" means when you're already putting bits of your body inside others. But ultimately the huge difference between kissing and anal is that they are naturally on the other side of any realistic continuum that has conventional, consensual intercourse in the middle of them. If it's fine to run your fingers through someone elses hair, to stroke their skin, to play with their junk... to ring fence one act that is pretty tame, "First date after a Nandos and the latest Transformers film that seemed to go well and thought you'd chance your hand in the car park" material just feels very strange to me, as it feels so anomalous.

To me it feels self evident that "intimacy" is a good thing, the whole point of the experiences we seek. The idea of having none, to have sex with people you have (as I'd interpret that language) no connection to, no fondness for, no knowledge of, might as well just be a piece of meat... not for us. I'm not saying anyone should or shouldn't do it, but we would feel very uncomfortable about playing with people who don't. We've never considered for a second that it shouldn't be done, and it was surprising to see people having that position what I'd never have thought would be a thing in the first place. I suppose some just seeing it as more meaningful than others do?

It usually makes immediately think of that Pretty Woman scene...

"What do you do?"

"Everything."

"But I don't kiss on the mouth."

"Neither do I."

Best film ever ever BTW.

"

OK I can see your point but what deep unresolved issues do you suspect we have in our 40 year relationship?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Everyone is entitled to their own blah blah blah.

Always makes me feel like they have some serious unresolved issues if kissing is forbidden.

, such as? This could get interesting

I'm genuinely interested in the thinking behind such a statement. Not in an aggressive way but kissing seems to be the only boundary that people question and feel able to imply that not doing it indicates problems in a relationship. If I said I only do anal with my husband nobody would dream of suggesting such a thing.

Is it because some people have a need to feel a temporary intimacy with their casual partners and don't understand those of us who don't have that need?

Not full swapping has also been questioned on other threads. Apparently if some don’t want to do things that others do there’s a problem. If people don’t desire to kiss or full swap, pretty sure there’s not a problem. Let’s let everybody have their own boundaries and not question them. This could still get interesting "

Its interesting to hear others points of view in open, adult discussion. I'm not about to get into an argument though

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Everyone is entitled to their own blah blah blah.

Always makes me feel like they have some serious unresolved issues if kissing is forbidden.

, such as? This could get interesting

I'm genuinely interested in the thinking behind such a statement. Not in an aggressive way but kissing seems to be the only boundary that people question and feel able to imply that not doing it indicates problems in a relationship. If I said I only do anal with my husband nobody would dream of suggesting such a thing.

Is it because some people have a need to feel a temporary intimacy with their casual partners and don't understand those of us who don't have that need?

This is interesting. I wonder if some people are therefore longing for a level of intimacy beyond simply swinging?

Yes in my opinion and limited observation some people are.

There's nothing wrong with that we all have different reasons for being here. I just wouldn't dream of making assumptions about someone's relationship based on that alone.

"

Sure, can't fault any of that, I'd just wonder why you specifically give kissing such an apparently high status over anything else? What makes it more meaningful than whatever else goes on? I love kissing, but don't find it any more intimate than anything else. Indeed rimming vs kissing a beautiful layyydeee... I know which I find more intimate.... But again that's easy to get lost in dictionary definitions etc.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Everyone is entitled to their own blah blah blah.

Always makes me feel like they have some serious unresolved issues if kissing is forbidden.

, such as? This could get interesting

I'm genuinely interested in the thinking behind such a statement. Not in an aggressive way but kissing seems to be the only boundary that people question and feel able to imply that not doing it indicates problems in a relationship. If I said I only do anal with my husband nobody would dream of suggesting such a thing.

Is it because some people have a need to feel a temporary intimacy with their casual partners and don't understand those of us who don't have that need?

This is interesting. I wonder if some people are therefore longing for a level of intimacy beyond simply swinging?

Yes in my opinion and limited observation some people are.

There's nothing wrong with that we all have different reasons for being here. I just wouldn't dream of making assumptions about someone's relationship based on that alone.

Sure, can't fault any of that, I'd just wonder why you specifically give kissing such an apparently high status over anything else? What makes it more meaningful than whatever else goes on? I love kissing, but don't find it any more intimate than anything else. Indeed rimming vs kissing a beautiful layyydeee... I know which I find more intimate.... But again that's easy to get lost in dictionary definitions etc."

We don't give kissing a particularly high status we've agreed between ourselves that it's not something either of us want to do . We ensure that people know before we meet, it's on our profile along with other stuff that won't be happening. A lot of people point out that they won't meet us because of this and its fine, we can't suit everyone

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Ps I wouldn't hold hands with a fab meet person either.

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By *oublethefunMan
over a year ago

royston

Kissing is fine as its a big turn on both to do and watch but there is a time when a kiss can come across as more than just going with the flow as in after the event and its just a thank you and good bye but one person carries on kissing in a more passionate manner. This then comes across as stepping over the line when nsa, casual sex has a cured. This may seem so strange after you have had sex with someone and enjoyed the experience but that's were it should all end and to try and continue it further with passionate kissing of another's partner to me falls into the realm of going to far as it implies that one is wanting more than just sex. Swinging means different things to different people and I guess that's why everyone has an opinion about topics in question.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Kissing is fine as its a big turn on both to do and watch but there is a time when a kiss can come across as more than just going with the flow as in after the event and its just a thank you and good bye but one person carries on kissing in a more passionate manner. This then comes across as stepping over the line when nsa, casual sex has a cured. This may seem so strange after you have had sex with someone and enjoyed the experience but that's were it should all end and to try and continue it further with passionate kissing of another's partner to me falls into the realm of going to far as it implies that one is wanting more than just sex. Swinging means different things to different people and I guess that's why everyone has an opinion about topics in question. "

I can certainly imagine feeling *specific* kisses feel wrong, but I'd expect to see the same thing in general body language and other ways too.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Kissing is fine as its a big turn on both to do and watch but there is a time when a kiss can come across as more than just going with the flow as in after the event and its just a thank you and good bye but one person carries on kissing in a more passionate manner. This then comes across as stepping over the line when nsa, casual sex has a cured. This may seem so strange after you have had sex with someone and enjoyed the experience but that's were it should all end and to try and continue it further with passionate kissing of another's partner to me falls into the realm of going to far as it implies that one is wanting more than just sex. Swinging means different things to different people and I guess that's why everyone has an opinion about topics in question. "

Your last sentence about sums it up for me.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Kissing is fine as its a big turn on both to do and watch but there is a time when a kiss can come across as more than just going with the flow as in after the event and its just a thank you and good bye but one person carries on kissing in a more passionate manner. This then comes across as stepping over the line when nsa, casual sex has a cured. This may seem so strange after you have had sex with someone and enjoyed the experience but that's were it should all end and to try and continue it further with passionate kissing of another's partner to me falls into the realm of going to far as it implies that one is wanting more than just sex. Swinging means different things to different people and I guess that's why everyone has an opinion about topics in question.

Your last sentence about sums it up for me. "

Sure, but then also sex, love and lust in the wider world are going to influence those things too, maybe more so?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Kissing is fine as its a big turn on both to do and watch but there is a time when a kiss can come across as more than just going with the flow as in after the event and its just a thank you and good bye but one person carries on kissing in a more passionate manner. This then comes across as stepping over the line when nsa, casual sex has a cured. This may seem so strange after you have had sex with someone and enjoyed the experience but that's were it should all end and to try and continue it further with passionate kissing of another's partner to me falls into the realm of going to far as it implies that one is wanting more than just sex. Swinging means different things to different people and I guess that's why everyone has an opinion about topics in question.

Your last sentence about sums it up for me.

Sure, but then also sex, love and lust in the wider world are going to influence those things too, maybe more so?"

How do you mean? Our attitudes towards them or experiences of them?

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By *oublethefunMan
over a year ago

royston

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Kissing is fine as its a big turn on both to do and watch but there is a time when a kiss can come across as more than just going with the flow as in after the event and its just a thank you and good bye but one person carries on kissing in a more passionate manner. This then comes across as stepping over the line when nsa, casual sex has a cured. This may seem so strange after you have had sex with someone and enjoyed the experience but that's were it should all end and to try and continue it further with passionate kissing of another's partner to me falls into the realm of going to far as it implies that one is wanting more than just sex. Swinging means different things to different people and I guess that's why everyone has an opinion about topics in question.

Your last sentence about sums it up for me.

Sure, but then also sex, love and lust in the wider world are going to influence those things too, maybe more so?

How do you mean? Our attitudes towards them or experiences of them? "

I just would think it's fairly uncontroversial that your morals, beliefs and world view are pretty similar inside vs outside of swinging. Whilst plenty of things would not be relevant in the wider world, you could probably still guess what they'd be based on other parts of your personality etc.

Given what I just had for lunch, I'm imagining swinging as a pancake being laid over the sugar bowl and lemon juice bottle etc... Everyone's... erm.. swinging... pancake... takes a different shape, but it's because of what it's being put on top of, that was already there beforehand.

Tenuous analogies are awesome.

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By *oublethefunMan
over a year ago

royston

I guess at the end of the day we all should recognise that we are all different and that we should always respect other people's boundaries without judgment of weather its right or not. Remember this is supposed to be about having fun remember so live and let live I say and if it feels right between concenting adults then go for it but if it feels wrong then what ever it is it inevitabley must be for those concerned.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Kissing is fine as its a big turn on both to do and watch but there is a time when a kiss can come across as more than just going with the flow as in after the event and its just a thank you and good bye but one person carries on kissing in a more passionate manner. This then comes across as stepping over the line when nsa, casual sex has a cured. This may seem so strange after you have had sex with someone and enjoyed the experience but that's were it should all end and to try and continue it further with passionate kissing of another's partner to me falls into the realm of going to far as it implies that one is wanting more than just sex. Swinging means different things to different people and I guess that's why everyone has an opinion about topics in question.

Your last sentence about sums it up for me.

Sure, but then also sex, love and lust in the wider world are going to influence those things too, maybe more so?

How do you mean? Our attitudes towards them or experiences of them?

I just would think it's fairly uncontroversial that your morals, beliefs and world view are pretty similar inside vs outside of swinging. Whilst plenty of things would not be relevant in the wider world, you could probably still guess what they'd be based on other parts of your personality etc.

Given what I just had for lunch, I'm imagining swinging as a pancake being laid over the sugar bowl and lemon juice bottle etc... Everyone's... erm.. swinging... pancake... takes a different shape, but it's because of what it's being put on top of, that was already there beforehand.

Tenuous analogies are awesome."

Right. I understand. I think that you and I approach this quite differently and with different life experiences. A lot of people would suggest that anyone involved in swinging has serious relationship problems and certainly it's often been suggested to us that involvement in bdsm means that one or both of us are emotionally damaged. I'll just say that in the 40 years we've been together there's an awful lot of both lemon juice and sugar under our particular pancake, we like the pancake the way it is though

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Although Mr N does wish I didn't snore. (I don't by the way, well I've never heard it)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing is essential and so so erotic if done well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You won't believe how much bacteria passes between each other when you kiss. Disgusting. From someone in the dental business. "

And yet you have rimming in your interests.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love kissing. But if there was someone I wanted to meet. I could abstain from it

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"You won't believe how much bacteria passes between each other when you kiss. Disgusting. From someone in the dental business.

And yet you have rimming in your interests. "

In line with that, the looks I get when I say my wife and I tend to share the same electric toothbrush head! Despite everything else we do together, that's still gross apparently?!

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By *exy penWoman
over a year ago

liverpool

Why thank you kind sir

You know who you are lol and your a very good kisser as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""You won't believe how much bacteria passes between each other when you kiss. Disgusting. From someone in the dental business."

And yet you have rimming in your interests. "

LMAO

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing definitely does it for me!!

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

Sue likes all her lips kissed

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By *ememberTheNameMan
over a year ago

barnsley


"Kissing definitely does it for me!! "

And me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Kissing definitely does it for me!!

And me "

Is there anything better ?

I THINK NOT!!

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By *astMidsCouple555Couple
over a year ago

Leicester


"It's a must "

This

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"I love kissing and find I really get turned on by it on a meet. In fact I find I sometimes struggle to get rock hard if I don't kiss. Anyone else have any views on this? "

One of my worst meets was with a young couple, where the wife didn't kiss others. She also didn't suck cock, so funnily enough, I struggled to get hard too! I thanked them for their time and went home. BIG lesson learned, and I've always checked people kiss before arranging meets ever since

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love kissing. From slow, sensual kisses to the ones where you're practically eating each other...those that leave you breathless

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By *ungle_kingMan
over a year ago

Nuneaton

I totally respect each person/couple has a take on what's ok on a meet.

For me I as with a few find a meet so much better when kissing is involved, it's difficult when you are having sex and faces are close to not want to kiss so end up in some strange head to one side movement. Also the kissing is too intimate statment !? But shagging your wife isn't

Like I said we are all here for different reasons and with different levels of boundaries. Just find a meet and agree the t&c's beforehand.

Jk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love kissing

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By *olidOak85Couple
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I love kissing... We've never swapped with any blokes, I've only ever kissed another woman and just love it xxher

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray


"Our view is that we don't kiss our casual sex partners. We won't meet anyone who insists on kissing."

We are exactly the same, it's something that's very personal to us.x

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray


"Our view is that we don't kiss our casual sex partners. We won't meet anyone who insists on kissing."

We are exactly the same, it's something that's very personal to us.x

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By *ocketman20Man
over a year ago

Douglas

My wife and I would always agree to no kissing during a meet, but then she would always break the rule and I’d usually catch her with her tongue in the mouth of various men and women.

Guess the heat of the moment takes over sometimes, I never minded, in fact it made me hornier!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let's have a fabathon kissathon.virtual of course

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By *100Man
over a year ago

Essex

I'd love a big snog right now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only kiss on the 1st meet if I'm really attracted to him. If not then I'll be polite & tell him it was nice to have met him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both said no kissing.

That has gone out of the window.

We see it as a tease that could lead up to other things.

At the end of the day each for their own we say.x

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"We both said no kissing.

That has gone out of the window.

We see it as a tease that could lead up to other things.

At the end of the day each for their own we say.x"

We had various rules when we started, including soft swap, whatever that would actually mean. In the end we mostly chucked them all out and not regretted it for a second.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We both said no kissing.

That has gone out of the window.

We see it as a tease that could lead up to other things.

At the end of the day each for their own we say.x

We had various rules when we started, including soft swap, whatever that would actually mean. In the end we mostly chucked them all out and not regretted it for a second."

Same here. We say do whatever you feel in the moment and enjoy it. Our only rule is neither of us take it for the team

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a deal breaker but I do like to kiss a lot on meets xx

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

I think I understand why kissing is off limits for some people. It can be very intimate. If I was to swing with someone I had a proper relationship with I think I’d find seeing him kissing another woman more difficult than him fucking her. Without the kissing it’s not intimate, it’s just sport.

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Kissing is a must for me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not a deal breaker but I do like to kiss a lot on meets xx"

Same here.

It is funny how when most swingers greet each other with a kiss on the lips instead of the cheek

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I understand why kissing is off limits for some people. It can be very intimate. If I was to swing with someone I had a proper relationship with I think I’d find seeing him kissing another woman more difficult than him fucking her. Without the kissing it’s not intimate, it’s just sport. "
To us it is part of the build up....by the way you have a great body.

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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago

Southampton

I love kissing, it's part of the meet for me.

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

Love kissing a partner but not for a casual meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Simple rule of thumb for my wife is :-

One glass of red = no kissing.

Two glasses of red = no kissing.

Three glasses of red = kissing,tongues,cocks,anything goes between her sweet lips.!!!!!

T"
fantastic ...

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By *orkshrCplCouple
over a year ago

Ripon


"I'm genuinely interested in the thinking behind such a statement. Not in an aggressive way but kissing seems to be the only boundary that people question and feel able to imply that not doing it indicates problems in a relationship. If I said I only do anal with my husband nobody would dream of suggesting such a thing.

Is it because some people have a need to feel a temporary intimacy with their casual partners and don't understand those of us who don't have that need?

Whilst others are unwilling to, for example, justify their homophobic tendencies, I'm happy to justify my thoughts here. It's an interesting conversation if done right.

I suppose you can try and clarify what "temporary intimacy" means when you're already putting bits of your body inside others. But ultimately the huge difference between kissing and anal is that they are naturally on the other side of any realistic continuum that has conventional, consensual intercourse in the middle of them. If it's fine to run your fingers through someone elses hair, to stroke their skin, to play with their junk... to ring fence one act that is pretty tame, "First date after a Nandos and the latest Transformers film that seemed to go well and thought you'd chance your hand in the car park" material just feels very strange to me, as it feels so anomalous.

To me it feels self evident that "intimacy" is a good thing, the whole point of the experiences we seek. The idea of having none, to have sex with people you have (as I'd interpret that language) no connection to, no fondness for, no knowledge of, might as well just be a piece of meat... not for us. I'm not saying anyone should or shouldn't do it, but we would feel very uncomfortable about playing with people who don't. We've never considered for a second that it shouldn't be done, and it was surprising to see people having that position what I'd never have thought would be a thing in the first place. I suppose some just seeing it as more meaningful than others do?

It usually makes immediately think of that Pretty Woman scene...

"What do you do?"

"Everything."

"But I don't kiss on the mouth."

"Neither do I."

Best film ever ever BTW.

"

Well put x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love kissing. And im sure the person i see will agree that im damn good at it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love kissing that what make it more interesting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not fun without kissing.. I love slow passionate kissing.. miss it actually

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By *hropsGuy69Man
over a year ago

telford

No kissing during sex massively reduces the intimacy for me which then would turn into meaningless humping which is not really for me...

Kissing , neck and ear nibbling all the way for me

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By *SCouple81Couple
over a year ago

Between Edinburgh and Scottish Borders

We are both absolutely love kissing and enjoy seeing partner kissing other people. Really miss it now.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That's everyone. Great to have an open honest discussion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't get people that will fuck someone and not kiss saying that it depends on the person some people your just more inclined to kiss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No kissing during sex massively reduces the intimacy for me which then would turn into meaningless humping which is not really for me...

Kissing , neck and ear nibbling all the way for me "

Agree with you 100%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No kissing WTF - does this actually happen?? No kissing is basically 2 manquins rubbing together.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"No kissing WTF - does this actually happen?? No kissing is basically 2 manquins rubbing together."

It does happen. We're not a mannequins and neither are the people who meet us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No kissing WTF - does this actually happen?? No kissing is basically 2 manquins rubbing together."

I know! What is this no kissing policy???

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"No kissing WTF - does this actually happen?? No kissing is basically 2 manquins rubbing together.

I know! What is this no kissing policy???"

How do you mean?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can’t beat a good old passionate kiss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love kissing and find I really get turned on by it on a meet. In fact I find I sometimes struggle to get rock hard if I don't kiss. Anyone else have any views on this? "

I will not meet a couple or woman who has a no kissing rule.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing women yes, but not men is my preference.

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By *rK MrsJCouple
over a year ago

Kidderminster


"It's essential for us both. It's clinical and no fun without"

Kissing is part and parcel of having more fun.

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By *rK MrsJCouple
over a year ago

Kidderminster


"We are both absolutely love kissing and enjoy seeing partner kissing other people. Really miss it now. "

Totally agree.

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

Kissing gets the juices flowing!

It's a must! xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Kissing gets the juices flowing!

It's a must! xx"

100% agree with you

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By *uriousblondwifeCouple
over a year ago

wickford

Whats the point without kissing?

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By *oneyBear100Couple
over a year ago

Gatwick area

Should it be a search filter?

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Should it be a search filter?"
I'd rather "bigoted" and "homophobic" were filters first!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually crave a good passionate kiss more than I crave anything else sexual. It’s where it all starts with kissing and nothing would happen with me without kissing

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By *teve197_ukMan
over a year ago

Sutton Coldfield

I think kissing is extremely horny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Should it be a search filter?"

^this

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By *implynaughty1Couple
over a year ago

stockport

It as to be a must for us xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love knowing that the built up combination of attraction and frustration comes to a head with a kiss....

....building and building into something amazingly climactic, leading to amazing sex.

I think you can tell what the sex is going to be like from that initial kiss and how each of your bodies respond to it

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By *rabianknightMan
over a year ago

Guernesey


"I love kissing and find I really get turned on by it on a meet. In fact I find I sometimes struggle to get rock hard if I don't kiss. Anyone else have any views on this? "

Kissing is essential to me. I would not say it prevents me from getting hard, but it’s always a surprise when I read profiles where I can read people are not allowing kissing.

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