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By *ristol_married_m OP Man
over a year ago

bristol

Bring up the subject of swinging with the wife? I really want to explore this scene with her but not sure if its her thing. Any tips how to bring it up?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

rent rita, sue & bob to on dvd, then spend the next week going round the house singing "we're having a gangbang"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell her you've joined a swinging site looking for discreet meets with women behind her back.

That'll do the fucking job, eh?

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By *ristol_married_m OP Man
over a year ago

bristol

Well obviously it would be a new profile with her (if she is interested). It's something I really want to explore with her

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

The fact that he's been here 6 months and gas been busy camming with strangers on the internet might taint it though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funny, it seems you are happy to do it without her.

Perhaps you shouldn't have started at all without her? Just a thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The fact that he's been here 6 months and gas been busy camming with strangers on the internet might taint it though

Hopefully when she joins she'll see his threads.

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By *ristol_married_m OP Man
over a year ago

bristol

Top advice so far then

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By *ild Bill Thickcock.Man
over a year ago

Wet Beaver Creek

You should know your wife and whether or not she'd be up for the swinging scene.

If you're asking us, you probably know deep down that it's not on her agenda.

I don't believe you can "talk her into it"

She's either up for it, or she's not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

loving the above comments.

the OP hasnt even PLAYED yet and already getting a slating....FFS!

anyway MY CONSTRUCTIVE advice..watch some porn with her as u both do...try fishing out if she likes looking at cocks,pussys..tell her things like how u'd love seeing her being adored sexually by men(and or women)....

some time later...

visit some swinging clubs (do this with her if the porn things going good)...and maybe then...maybe...suggest it as an observational journey for u BOTH to explore.

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

You know your wife better then any of us, surely if you don't know how to bring it up, then advice from a bunch of strangers isn't going to get you very far.

Maybe having a profile without her isn't the best way of going about it though!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"loving the above comments.

the OP hasnt even PLAYED yet and already getting a slating....FFS!

some time later...

visit some swinging clubs (do this with her if the porn things going good)...and maybe then...maybe...suggest it as an observational journey for u BOTH to explore."

I meant visit a swinging club website*

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By *ristol_married_m OP Man
over a year ago

bristol

I know you can't talk someone into it, we are away this weekend so the chance might come up to talk about her fantasies. I know we both agree we need to spice up our sex life.

Putting porn on just seems to get her shy/embarrassed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know you can't talk someone into it, we are away this weekend so the chance might come up to talk about her fantasies. I know we both agree we need to spice up our sex life.

Putting porn on just seems to get her shy/embarrassed "

well I severly doubt anything remotely near swinging as an idea is gonna help!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know you can't talk someone into it, we are away this weekend so the chance might come up to talk about her fantasies. I know we both agree we need to spice up our sex life.

Putting porn on just seems to get her shy/embarrassed

well I severly doubt anything remotely near swinging as an idea is gonna help!"

yep, if she's not tearing your clothes off screaming 'me next' when you're watching porn then I'd just stick to having a swift half down the pub of an evening

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know you can't talk someone into it, we are away this weekend so the chance might come up to talk about her fantasies. I know we both agree we need to spice up our sex life.

Putting porn on just seems to get her shy/embarrassed "

Amazed that you can be married to someone and "not know."

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By *ukus 62Woman
over a year ago

Essex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So why didnt you discuss swinging with her before you opened your account on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So why didnt you discuss swinging with her before you opened your account on here"

is the OP any worse than the myriads of married men playing on here?? really..is it??

I would have probably came onto a swinging sex site to get some of my sexual needs attended to if I was married/partner...since I dont watch porn.

whatever the OP has joined for, he's just asked for some advice...not really a slating at being a cheat(and as far as I've gathered...he's had a cam wank)

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Or before you decided to interact on cam...

Many OH will regard that as crossing a line if done covertly.

In fact any covert or hidden behaviour (not just sexual behaviour) can be considered a betrayal of trust.

I may seem harsh but this all needs to be considered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or before you decided to interact on cam...

Many OH will regard that as crossing a line if done covertly.

In fact any covert or hidden behaviour (not just sexual behaviour) can be considered a betrayal of trust.

I may seem harsh but this all needs to be considered."

You need a good strong healthy relationship to go into swinging.

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By *ild Bill Thickcock.Man
over a year ago

Wet Beaver Creek

"You need a good strong healthy relationship to go into swinging. "

Yeah, it's your eyes that need to be wide open, as well as your lady's legs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Open a the conversation with asking her how she feels your sex life together is, is she satisfied and is there anything she'd like to do that she's never tried.

Make it about her needs and desires and not yours.

You'll probably be surprised by what she wants.

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By *exy_couple_now_mancCouple
over a year ago

Oldham

"Tell her you've joined a swinging site looking for discreet meets with women behind her back.

That'll do the fucking job, eh?"

Love it lmao

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By *ristol_married_m OP Man
over a year ago

bristol

"Open a the conversation with asking her how she feels your sex life together is, is she satisfied and is there anything she'd like to do that she's never tried.

Make it about her needs and desires and not yours.

You'll probably be surprised by what she wants."

I actually like the idea of someone else pleasing her while I watch/join in. Her bring pleased will please me (if that makes sense)

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

Don't worry about her, she already has her own account and is loving the scene! She met us last week and said being a swinger is the best thing she's ever done! Z

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By *ild Bill Thickcock.Man
over a year ago

Wet Beaver Creek

"Open a the conversation with asking her how she feels your sex life together is, is she satisfied and is there anything she'd like to do that she's never tried.

Make it about her needs and desires and not yours.

You'll probably be surprised by what she wants.

I actually like the idea of someone else pleasing her while I watch/join in. Her bring pleased will please me (if that makes sense)"

That's a common fantasy, but it didn't work for me. I watched another bloke shag my wife and I didn't get the buzz I was hoping to get.

We sorted it though, but only because our heads were in the right place to start with.

How will your wife react to seeing you with another lady, who might just be prettier than she thinks she herself is?

Can you handle it if another guy has her screaming in exctasy?

These are just some of the things you need to discuss

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

Serious question to the OP; how would you really feel if your wife had a profile on Fab? Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know you can't talk someone into it, we are away this weekend so the chance might come up to talk about her fantasies. I know we both agree we need to spice up our sex life.

Putting porn on just seems to get her shy/embarrassed "

If she is shy, ask her to wear a Blindfold and do lovely nasty things to her... it's much easier to let yerself go in that situation. You can easily spice up your sex life without jumping straight into swinging, help her to let herself go a bit...if she can't do that with you it might be tricky to do it with others around

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By *ristol_married_m OP Man
over a year ago

bristol

"I know you can't talk someone into it, we are away this weekend so the chance might come up to talk about her fantasies. I know we both agree we need to spice up our sex life.

Putting porn on just seems to get her shy/embarrassed

She loves the blindfold and not knowing what I am going to do to her next.

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By *ristol_married_m OP Man
over a year ago

bristol

"Serious question to the OP; how would you really feel if your wife had a profile on Fab? Z"

Not sure, but at least i know she likes swinging!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's inevitable you will get slated for being on here without her knowing , and rightly so - however as some have said you know her better than any of us so here is a genuine suggestion .

Ask her if she is aware of the swinging scene and would she fancy it to spice things up .

She will either say yes she is aware of it and no way or yes it may be fun .

If she thinks you are asking in order for you to get your end away with other women as the motive and finds out you are on here already you will be in the shit so be very careful how you put it !

Good luck

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Talk talk and talk some more.......

Speaking about things is usually a good way to start..

Fantasies Roleplay Sharing dreams

I don't know.. I can barely look after myself.

Good luck

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By *orks funMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

organise a house party at yours ???

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Bring up the subject of swinging with the wife? I really want to explore this scene with her but not sure if its her thing. Any tips how to bring it up?"

My husband brought the subject up with me by talking to me about it, saying it was a fantasy of his asking how I felt about it and stressing that if I didn't like the idea that would be the end of the matter. We then talked about it a LOT, all my concerns, how I felt about it, how he felt about it, where we thought our boundaries might lay etc etc. Then we talked about it a lot more. I'd known for a long time it was a fantasy for him we used to talk about it a lot when we were making love so it didn't come as a bolt out of the blue

but making fantasy reality can cause problems.

Anyway here I am thoroughly enjoying what we do and happy that we took the time to talk it through first and still talk about how we feel about it now as things constantly change.

Good luck and I hope you two can reach a conclusion that makes you both happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tell her you've joined a swinging site looking for discreet meets with women behind her back.

That'll do the fucking job, eh?"

PMSL!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Might sound obvious but ....just ask her???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know you can't talk someone into it, we are away this weekend so the chance might come up to talk about her fantasies. I know we both agree we need to spice up our sex life.

Putting porn on just seems to get her shy/embarrassed "

Try a parody porn film and if nothing else you can have a good laugh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

(in Bristol accent)

"ohhh err me luvly.. fancy aven abit of scrumpy pumpy with otha couples me deary?"

it'll only work tho if you say the above while wearing one of those novelty dicky bows that rotate and light up..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol, loving the higher than thou attitudes on here! It isn't as if the op is hiding the fact that he is married, he has it in his name!

And just because someone is MAYBE playing away from home, what the feck does it have to do with anyone else??

If you don't like married guys/gals that are playing away, stay away from them and don't interact!! No need to jump on the high horse and flog the per mare to death!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lol, loving the higher than thou attitudes on here! It isn't as if the op is hiding the fact that he is married, he has it in his name!

And just because someone is MAYBE playing away from home, what the feck does it have to do with anyone else??

If you don't like married guys/gals that are playing away, stay away from them and don't interact!! No need to jump on the high horse and flog the per mare to death!!

pretty clear from the start wasnt it lol...OP asks a question, then is basically told he shouldnt be on here anyway...

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