FabSwingers.com forum: Nervous

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We have been swinging about a year now not had loads of meets mostly mmf but have met a couple a few times

My husband is shy about having sex with another woman I said it's ok it's only fair but he is nervous about it

Advice anyone ?????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why not meet one of the couples that you've already met so you can both swap? I'd think if you already knew the other couple it would be easier. Depends on what he's shy/ nervous about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He is on the right track by admitting he is nervous - there is nothing worse than talking the talk and then when it comes to it finding that nerves spoil it !

Take it easy , and meet folk who are understanding of his situation - and reassure him that you are fine with it .

Perhaps with the right couple and lots of foreplay it will just happen and his nerves will be conquered ?

He must understand that it's normal to be nervous and if he doesn't perform as well as he does with you it's no big deal !

Have fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"He is on the right track by admitting he is nervous - there is nothing worse than talking the talk and then when it comes to it finding that nerves spoil it !

Take it easy , and meet folk who are understanding of his situation - and reassure him that you are fine with it .

Perhaps with the right couple and lots of foreplay it will just happen and his nerves will be conquered ?

He must understand that it's normal to be nervous and if he doesn't perform as well as he does with you it's no big deal !

Have fun

Hiya, thanks for that, think he'll be fine too, I'll show him this and hopefully it will put him at ease xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a beer and just go with the flow and do what feels right and natural for him x otherwise try a herbal little blue tab!?! Might sort out the side effect of being nervous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

how refreshing to find a honest guy......

Anyway,,,,,just a thought.....i know you know your man better than anyone.....but:

Has he ever said he wants to, i mean on his own, independently, without being prompted, or not in a situation infront of people where he might feel like he has to say he does.....

It might not be his thing thats all. He might feel like he has to say yes, as it appears you have been with other people.

Might be worth asking if he really wants to, and let him say no if that is how he really feels.....

Of course only you know the situation, and i dont at all...

X x x x

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By *now-bbw-bunnyCouple
over a year ago

southend-on-sea

We have meet many nervous cpls over the years . As long as they want to swing and they like the looks of us we always have a great time

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

we are both great with swinging its the sex with another woman thats the thing he can get it working no problem he is just worried how i will feel i said its ok but he still has doubts

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We are meeting a woman on Sunday night so fingers crossed will update x

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

A social meet first can also help. It gives time to decide if you both really want to play and takes the pressure off.

That way you also have more anticipation for the play meet since you both know that you like, fancy and are comfortable with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

His honesty is refreshing, my man likes seeing me with others that's his thing, we've also played with couples and he's really enjoyed it.

Swinging means a lot of things to different people, you just need to find a flavour you both like..

His honesty means you'll both get much out of it.

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By *obandruthCouple
over a year ago

wolverhampton

blind fold him and then let him think its you makeing love to him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i felt exactly thr same as he did my first time. i worried enough that i was keeping one women satisfied let alone 2. IM alot more comfortable now i have done it a few times

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"blind fold him and then let him think its you makeing love to him

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have been swinging about a year now not had loads of meets mostly mmf but have met a couple a few times

My husband is shy about having sex with another woman I said it's ok it's only fair but he is nervous about it

Advice anyone ?????"

I may be wrong but I would imagine that the majority of people feel exactly the same way the first time they try something like this, it's just that some, like your bloke, will admit it and the others will just cover it over with bravado. Obviously there is also a fair few who it doesn't bother but I'd put money on that these are fewere than you would think.

You'll both be absolutely fine

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well she never turned up

never mind

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