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By *hilledout-couple OP   Couple
over a year ago

telford

Would love a couple to socialise and play with swap partners bi play ect ,but finding it really hard to find the right one do other couple have this or are they in same position as ,us any advice would be much appreciated

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

It's very difficult to find that all round attraction, it's part of the reason we meet single guys more frequently to couples.

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By *edVelveteenCouple
over a year ago

Heaven in the Midlands


"It's very difficult to find that all round attraction, it's part of the reason we meet single guys more frequently to couples. "

Agree. Very hard to get 4 people attracted to each other. We also tend to meet more single men.

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By *avenTinaCouple
over a year ago

Southport


"It's very difficult to find that all round attraction, it's part of the reason we meet single guys more frequently to couples.

Agree. Very hard to get 4 people attracted to each other. We also tend to meet more single men. "
4 people to please is always difficult but when it does happen it’s superb

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"It's very difficult to find that all round attraction, it's part of the reason we meet single guys more frequently to couples.

Agree. Very hard to get 4 people attracted to each other. We also tend to meet more single men. "

Like the op we'd love to find a couple of two to socialise with and play occasionally (after covid of course).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's very difficult to find that all round attraction, it's part of the reason we meet single guys more frequently to couples.

Agree. Very hard to get 4 people attracted to each other. We also tend to meet more single men.

Like the op we'd love to find a couple of two to socialise with and play occasionally (after covid of course). "

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

No advice as we find the same. I've given up for the time being as it is proving difficult to keep the messages going when we can't actually meet. We also often find a lot of couples either want an instant meet, which we don't do or are only here to get off on the chat and pics and have no intention of meeting.

We have been lucky enough to find a few great couples though so it is worth the effort x

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By *oirinMarkusCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands and West London

We've found it impossible. Ideally it's a romantic couple who are in their 20/30/40s and the lady is also bi. I have also found that some people showing interest have been very keen on photo sharing which is not my style at all x

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Its difficult. Especially online (and of course even more so with the virus). To get mutral attraction between 2 let alone 4 is difficult. You just really can't tell if there will be that mutual attraction for everyone until to you meet in person. There's been times we liked a profile but the attractions just not right in person. But also we've bumped into people in clubs who's profile wouldn't fancy so much but in real life turn out to be great. Thats why going to clubs has always worked best for us and this is where we've found most success.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In our experience many couples have quite strict list of what they are looking for and very often what they are really looking for is a bi-lady with supermodel good looks to join them for fantasy fulfilment and they put down couples in case they could persuade the female to play alone, nothing wrong with it but to be honest in that situation you're better off going to a professional.

Right now like most couples we're not looking because of the virus, and even before covid we found that the longer the messaging went on without actually meeting the more likely it would just fizzle out and never happen.

What did work for us is that just by being a bit more up front and suggesting a social after a few messages, at the very least it helps us quickly identify those who really have no intention of meeting.

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By *weet and SpiceCouple
over a year ago

Around the Midlands


"Its difficult. Especially online (and of course even more so with the virus). To get mutral attraction between 2 let alone 4 is difficult. You just really can't tell if there will be that mutual attraction for everyone until to you meet in person. There's been times we liked a profile but the attractions just not right in person. But also we've bumped into people in clubs who's profile wouldn't fancy so much but in real life turn out to be great. Thats why going to clubs has always worked best for us and this is where we've found most success. "

We find the same as this. Much preferred the real meets in clubs pre-Covid where you can vouch they are real and also read body language.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Would love a couple to socialise and play with swap partners bi play ect ,but finding it really hard to find the right one do other couple have this or are they in same position as ,us any advice would be much appreciated "

We have found similar experience to what others have said in this thread OP.

When things get a bit more normal socials, parties and clubs would be a good opportunity for you both.

We found meeting people face to face in clubs is far easier than through the site. We must admit that online has become a bit rude and impersonal in the past few years.

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Behind the bike shed!

Yes four way attraction is rare I’d say stick with it as when you find a couple it’s absolutely awesome!

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By *ear in the chairMan
over a year ago

yeah there

Also found that getting 4 way attraction online and by text/message is a challenge. There always seems to be one of the 4 who is articulate in person but just can't/won't write. It's why we prefer early on socials but with covid it's a little bit of a waiting game for even that so not contacting new couples often but still hoping for an occasional pair of chatty gems.

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By *himp_KittenCouple
over a year ago

Preston

I Think we've been extremely lucky with our time on fab, we've been fortunate enough to meet a good number of other couples who we not only find attractive but we've developed lasting friendships with.

Of course not everyone we speak with will be for us and vice versa but we seem to have been fortunate in finding plenty of mutual attraction.

Definitely missing the ability to have socials and meet in clubs though..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is so much easier in clubs. We are actively looking for couples in our area and it's hard cos of covid and people being fussy, flakey or outright time wasters! That said we have have had some great meets

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By *hilledout-couple OP   Couple
over a year ago

telford

We think a lot of the time ppl in person are much better than profiles as you can’t really tell a person’s personality in a photo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's very difficult to find that all round attraction, it's part of the reason we meet single guys more frequently to couples.

Agree. Very hard to get 4 people attracted to each other. We also tend to meet more single men.

Like the op we'd love to find a couple of two to socialise with and play occasionally (after covid of course). "

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

Had some great meets with couples off here , most meets go well occasionally they don’t but that’s life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Would love a couple to socialise and play with swap partners bi play ect ,but finding it really hard to find the right one do other couple have this or are they in same position as ,us any advice would be much appreciated "

COVID is delaying our first bi foursome but I have to say we are having some lovely chats with some very sexy couples so hope it won’t be too difficult to organise to meet when the time comes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Would love a couple to socialise and play with swap partners bi play ect ,but finding it really hard to find the right one do other couple have this or are they in same position as ,us any advice would be much appreciated

COVID is delaying our first bi foursome but I have to say we are having some lovely chats with some very sexy couples so hope it won’t be too difficult to organise to meet when the time comes "

Same! Were just keeping each other entertained in the meantime

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I'm half a couple who meets couples and seperately

It's v hard finding 4 way attraction and availability and most couples want bi fems, I'm 100% straight.

So we started meeting alone too due to this, if we want a meet together pre covid, we go to a club..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We were just getting into it before covid happened! We actually met a couple for a social but sadly there wasn't 4 way attraction even though we had a great time. I reccon once you meet a couple you like and play with, they could prob introduce you to other couples who are similar. Thats what we hope anyway! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

probably clubs when the are open its neutral ground and more relaxing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Would love a couple to socialise and play with swap partners bi play ect ,but finding it really hard to find the right one do other couple have this or are they in same position as ,us any advice would be much appreciated "

So difficult during Covid, we took the decision not to meet but prior to that we found that a club is by far the best way, lots of people around and if you arrange to meet a couple and you don’t quite hit it off your not stuck in an awkward situation.

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By *ikingCoolMan
over a year ago

carmarthen

We found, meeting in a hotel have a meal together you get chatting it as worked every time for us and all stayed the night and met again

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By *own and countryCouple
over a year ago

Tewkesbury

We would just be pleased to meet a couple for a socially distanced coffee..

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Finding meets via Fab is incredibly difficult.

The vast majority of meets I have had with hubby, have been at a club or with people we met at a club.

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By *eachesAndCream99Couple
over a year ago

Outskirts of Cardiff just off the M4

It’s not simple, there are difficulties in finding the right mix. However, we have been lucky to find a few great couples in our short time, so it is worth the effort x

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

We have met some lovely couples on here in the past and also in clubs. We do keep trying in here but think it is getting hard to find real couples for all the fakes. Also have to agree that being a bit more direct and asking to skype or whatever soon has the fakes running for the hills

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By *orkshrCplCouple
over a year ago

Ripon


"Yes four way attraction is rare I’d say stick with it as when you find a couple it’s absolutely awesome! "

Agree it can be x

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By *alhamCoupleCouple
over a year ago

London


"We would just be pleased to meet a couple for a socially distanced coffee.."

Yes this, as well as a couples meeting in a wine bar (post COVID) or virtually would be a step forward for us.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"

Would love a couple to socialise and play with swap partners bi play ect ,but finding it really hard to find the right one do other couple have this or are they in same position as ,us any advice would be much appreciated "

No much use now but you just have to have a lot of socials to find the matches.

Being bi it should be a bit easier , finding straight separate room only couples to regularly go out with as friends, have dinner and fuck in separate rooms or houses is hard, we have only found about 3 in 2 years.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Bookmarking

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By *andy2123Couple
over a year ago

Portsmouth

We now find age as a big factor, which we find a big shame, as when we started out in swinging, we found older couples much more genuine and fun. So meeting couples was not a problem for us, the fact is, in the heat of the moment, anything can happen, that's what horny sex is all about. Xx

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By *ornypair300Couple
over a year ago

scottish borders

We find that the numbers on the site in the last 5/6 months have aired more towards more single male profiles than couples . We struggle to get past it all tbh as when we do find a couple we like they are usualy the other end of the country.

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By *ngels of Sin 69Couple
over a year ago

High Wycombe


"It's very difficult to find that all round attraction, it's part of the reason we meet single guys more frequently to couples. "

This is exactly it for us too, its very hard for all parties to be attracted to each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's very difficult to find that all round attraction, it's part of the reason we meet single guys more frequently to couples.

This is exactly it for us too, its very hard for all parties to be attracted to each other "

Exactly this

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria


"I Think we've been extremely lucky with our time on fab, we've been fortunate enough to meet a good number of other couples who we not only find attractive but we've developed lasting friendships with.

Of course not everyone we speak with will be for us and vice versa but we seem to have been fortunate in finding plenty of mutual attraction.

Definitely missing the ability to have socials and meet in clubs though.. "

Same for us, we have been blessed with making some life long friends through fab, with private messages and party invites where we have met friends of friends.

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By *aseMan
over a year ago

Gourock

use to go out with couple of work mates who where married! Back to there's one night game of strip poker

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By *blasiansCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

We thought it would be easy to meet couple for fun but quickly learned as per the gist of the thread.

We have met some lovely couples that we have met on more than one occaison.

Funnily we have had more couples contacting us during lockdown for post covid rendezvous but that looks a millions miles away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is hard finding a couple we both like, and the four of us available at the same time to meet. Is great though when you find the right pair x

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By *ovingeachotherCouple
over a year ago

Devizes

We love to chat/cam with other couples. Although sometimes not easy to find them x

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By *elshcouple18Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Think we've been very lucky, and chatvto a good fe couples, all we'd happily meet, and one we have met for a fantastic night.. soft swing, but all involved.. nice couples are out there, and if you're willing to put the time in, rewards are great.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Would love a couple to socialise and play with swap partners bi play ect ,but finding it really hard to find the right one do other couple have this or are they in same position as ,us any advice would be much appreciated "

Did at first but thankfully we have 2 lovely couples we see (when we're not in lockdown lol) and are in chat with a few also. Try doing another forum post whith your preferences, ya never know might get lucky

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By *uriousandnaughtyCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

We've been fortunate to meet and play with a number of lovely couples.

Certainly missing meeting them and all exploring together !

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By *ovingeachotherCouple
over a year ago

Devizes

We would be happy to chat with you guys x

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

I play with couples

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By *appycouple300Couple
over a year ago

North Dorset

Seems impossible to us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

me and hubs gave up on meeting couple years ago they just came with too much baggage everytime ..and always something different had one wife become a stalker to me had a few guys who wanted to meet alone after we've already met them with there partner but wanted too behind partners back and then we had our fair share of couples who were unbalanced ie jealous hub or wife or one sided ie one wanted to swing and the other didnt and then the rat run of fakes so we gave up ...the best way and only way we feel to meet couples is clubs

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By *na_Luv_4PlayCouple
over a year ago

Bridlington

Not easy to find the right couple with attraction and chemistry all round.. but when you do it is amazing.

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By *asycouple777Couple
over a year ago

bristol


"me and hubs gave up on meeting couple years ago they just came with too much baggage everytime ..and always something different had one wife become a stalker to me had a few guys who wanted to meet alone after we've already met them with there partner but wanted too behind partners back and then we had our fair share of couples who were unbalanced ie jealous hub or wife or one sided ie one wanted to swing and the other didnt and then the rat run of fakes so we gave up ...the best way and only way we feel to meet couples is clubs"

Clubs are definitely the easiest plus we have had fun every time

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

It can be difficult finding the right couple, we have been lucky a few times, but find it much easier at clubs and parties.

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By *r.SJMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough

We've yet to meet a couple, inundated with gents and not all bad but we'd love to meet a couple and try that dynamic... really seems that half the couples that have messaged are fake.

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By *lue NoteMan
over a year ago

Chertsey


"

Would love a couple to socialise and play with swap partners bi play ect ,but finding it really hard to find the right one do other couple have this or are they in same position as ,us any advice would be much appreciated "

Us too

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By *lue NoteMan
over a year ago

Chertsey


"me and hubs gave up on meeting couple years ago they just came with too much baggage everytime ..and always something different had one wife become a stalker to me had a few guys who wanted to meet alone after we've already met them with there partner but wanted too behind partners back and then we had our fair share of couples who were unbalanced ie jealous hub or wife or one sided ie one wanted to swing and the other didnt and then the rat run of fakes so we gave up ...the best way and only way we feel to meet couples is clubs

Clubs are definitely the easiest plus we have had fun every time "

For all the same reasons, we have yet to meet up with anyone directly from Fab. All our experiences have been with people we have met at clubs or spas.

Obviously the virus makes things more complicated.

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By *r.SJMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough


"

Would love a couple to socialise and play with swap partners bi play ect ,but finding it really hard to find the right one do other couple have this or are they in same position as ,us any advice would be much appreciated

Us too"

And us!!!

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By *akedduo66Couple
over a year ago

Near Bordon

Same for us as well.

We've had times where the "couple" suddenly became a single guy due to wife suddenly becoming ill, wife being invited to an improptu party that he wasn't invited to etc.

Also I organised a surprise blindfolded threesome for the wife and my portfolio of five blokes, on the night, became one.

Luckily he was very good and it was brilliant.

It seems this site is a fantasy stomping ground for dreamers and chancers.

Abfabs (old) and BGHS is where we've been most lucky with some memorable meets.

We leave and return here because there's the rare genuine couple and singles that make it worth it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quietly bookmarking with interest xx

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By *blasiansCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield


"Quietly bookmarking with interest xx"

The forums are a really good source of information and remove some of the black arts of swinging (for us at least)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i would like to find a couple who would let me meet and play with the male without the female being there at all. Am straight so would only want the male.

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By *hilledout-couple OP   Couple
over a year ago

telford

Wishing COVID was over so we can have some fun would be nice to get to know some potential couples for when lockdown is over

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By *anestewartCouple
over a year ago

Worcestershire

Interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We never found it hard to be honest just have to read the profile fully have a few chats to ensure you are all looking for the same outcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s why we like going to clubs . But if we met a couple in a club that we all get along then it opens different possibility’s xxx

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"That’s why we like going to clubs . But if we met a couple in a club that we all get along then it opens different possibility’s xxx "

Agreed, we have had more fun with couples and singles meeting in clubs.

Body language and tone make up 93% of communication, some thing that is difficult to express on platforms like fab.

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By *illyjohnyCouple
over a year ago

brighton


"It's very difficult to find that all round attraction, it's part of the reason we meet single guys more frequently to couples.

Agree. Very hard to get 4 people attracted to each other. We also tend to meet more single men.

Like the op we'd love to find a couple of two to socialise with and play occasionally (after covid of course). "

Same here

only time we have really connected with couples are at club or party nights , so much easier meeting single guys

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By *andR Staffs cplCouple
over a year ago

here and there


"It's very difficult to find that all round attraction, it's part of the reason we meet single guys more frequently to couples.

Agree. Very hard to get 4 people attracted to each other. We also tend to meet more single men.

Like the op we'd love to find a couple of two to socialise with and play occasionally (after covid of course). "

We have found this too. Getting the 4 way attraction seems difficult at times. With neither of us interested in bi-play this also appears to count against us.

We would love to find a couple post covid to socialise and enjoy fun with.

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By *aughty_builder87Man
over a year ago

Keston

Me and my wife were in the same boat. Now we decide to play separately as we could never agree on couples. Meeting separately created its own issues for me, but she was still Meeting people before covid. Hopefully the reflection over covid will improve things after it all settles down. Good luck finding that elusive couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Would love a couple to socialise and play with swap partners bi play ect ,but finding it really hard to find the right one do other couple have this or are they in same position as ,us any advice would be much appreciated "

You do know there is a pandemic going on, don't you?

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"

Would love a couple to socialise and play with swap partners bi play ect ,but finding it really hard to find the right one do other couple have this or are they in same position as ,us any advice would be much appreciated

You do know there is a pandemic going on, don't you?"

No.... when did that happen?

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By *illyjohnyCouple
over a year ago

brighton


"

Would love a couple to socialise and play with swap partners bi play ect ,but finding it really hard to find the right one do other couple have this or are they in same position as ,us any advice would be much appreciated

You do know there is a pandemic going on, don't you?"

Where have they said that they are looking to meet now ?

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By *hilledout-couple OP   Couple
over a year ago

telford


"

Would love a couple to socialise and play with swap partners bi play ect ,but finding it really hard to find the right one do other couple have this or are they in same position as ,us any advice would be much appreciated

You do know there is a pandemic going on, don't you?

Where have they said that they are looking to meet now ? "

As above we have not asked to meet now but spoke about experiences we have encountered and hopefully link like minded people together to spark a conversation is that ok?

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

Ppl have already said it but 4 way attraction and “clicking” is hard. Threesomes are far easier.

Most of our MFMF fun has been at parties/clubs and the subsequent friendships and meet ups thereafter.

We have met cpls through sites but definitely harder. As we are Bi F and St8 M it means:

- Both girls must fancy & like both guys.

- Both girls must fancy & like other girl.

- Both guys must fancy & like both girls.

- Both guys must like the other guy.

- Nobody should be taking one for the team!

That’s a lot of combos. Just comes off easier and more relaxed in a party atmosphere.

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By *illyjohnyCouple
over a year ago

brighton


"Ppl have already said it but 4 way attraction and “clicking” is hard. Threesomes are far easier.

Most of our MFMF fun has been at parties/clubs and the subsequent friendships and meet ups thereafter.

We have met cpls through sites but definitely harder. As we are Bi F and St8 M it means:

- Both girls must fancy & like both guys.

- Both girls must fancy & like other girl.

- Both guys must fancy & like both girls.

- Both guys must like the other guy.

- Nobody should be taking one for the team!

That’s a lot of combos. Just comes off easier and more relaxed in a party atmosphere."

Even harder when you are both straight

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By *osweet69Couple
over a year ago

portsmouth


"Ppl have already said it but 4 way attraction and “clicking” is hard. Threesomes are far easier.

Most of our MFMF fun has been at parties/clubs and the subsequent friendships and meet ups thereafter.

We have met cpls through sites but definitely harder. As we are Bi F and St8 M it means:

- Both girls must fancy & like both guys.

- Both girls must fancy & like other girl.

- Both guys must fancy & like both girls.

- Both guys must like the other guy.

- Nobody should be taking one for the team!

That’s a lot of combos. Just comes off easier and more relaxed in a party atmosphere."
That about sums it up.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

It's not easy to find a couple and the 4 way attraction, but when you do find the right people, it's absolutely fantastic.

It's harder than ever at the moment to even keep conversation and the anticipation going at the moment due to restrictions.

We just keep hoping that when this is all over some people would like to meet us. You have to have hope.

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By *ovingeachotherCouple
over a year ago

Devizes

Xx

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By *andJDubaiCouple
over a year ago

Dubai, with visits to Glasgow, Edinburgh and London


"It's very difficult to find that all round attraction, it's part of the reason we meet single guys more frequently to couples. "

We totally agree with this. Also single guys are able to play much more on the spur if the moment. Doesn’t stop us from looking for that ideal 4sum

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By *incsladyandscotsmanCouple
over a year ago

North fife


"It's very difficult to find that all round attraction, it's part of the reason we meet single guys more frequently to couples.

We totally agree with this. Also single guys are able to play much more on the spur if the moment. Doesn’t stop us from looking for that ideal 4sum"

Absolutely, we have found it very hard to meet a couple where there is attraction for all. Single females... Well forget. Single guys are easier to organise.... Finding the right one though that is another story haha x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolutely, we have found it very hard to meet a couple where there is attraction for all. Single females... Well forget. Single guys are easier to organise.... Finding the right one though that is another story haha x"

I found this when I had a couples profile

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By *arbarianzCouple
over a year ago

BARNSTAPLE

We're late to this thread.. but we play to our strengths.

We've had many great chats with fellow nerds, met up with 2 nerdy couples etc.

Nerd stuff is great.. gaming, movies etc etc tons of topics! stops things getting stale as soon as they hit kik etc!

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By *itzimadCouple
over a year ago

harwich

we too had the romantic notion of finding a couple but getting a good connection 4 ways is very difficult

all changed when we became club goers on a regular basis .We then found a circle of friends with whom we would play in various combinations.

We found odd numbers to be easiest with just another couple its just swopping add an extra body and the dynamics change

so the conclusion is friends and party first and see where that leads

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By *itzimadCouple
over a year ago

harwich


"We now find age as a big factor, which we find a big shame, as when we started out in swinging, we found older couples much more genuine and fun. So meeting couples was not a problem for us, the fact is, in the heat of the moment, anything can happen, that's what horny sex is all about. Xx"

yes weve found exactly the same we never had an age criteria but now were at the senior stage we cant find people to play with

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By *arbarianzCouple
over a year ago

BARNSTAPLE


"We now find age as a big factor, which we find a big shame, as when we started out in swinging, we found older couples much more genuine and fun. So meeting couples was not a problem for us, the fact is, in the heat of the moment, anything can happen, that's what horny sex is all about. Xx

yes weve found exactly the same we never had an age criteria but now were at the senior stage we cant find people to play with"

To be fair, we've found even in the conversation stages it dries up fast with people under 30 :P

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs


"We now find age as a big factor, which we find a big shame, as when we started out in swinging, we found older couples much more genuine and fun. So meeting couples was not a problem for us, the fact is, in the heat of the moment, anything can happen, that's what horny sex is all about. Xx

yes weve found exactly the same we never had an age criteria but now were at the senior stage we cant find people to play with"
We are not in the young category, but in normal times it’s quite easy to find playing couples , maybe it’s areas you live

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By *peak and SpellCouple
over a year ago

Greenwich, SE LONDON

This is the holy grail for us. We would love to find a couple where the attraction is mutual (ideally for regular fun)...

So hard to find though, which is why we've ended up meeting singles.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

We have been very lucky to find another couple where there’s 4 way attraction. It’s now got to the point where we are going to try separate dates with each other’s man.

I have really clicked with another couple recently but they are a good few miles away but I’m hoping to have a phone/webcam relationship first ‘swinger pen pals’ so to speak and see what develops from there

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By *appycouple300Couple
over a year ago

North Dorset

We have found it impossible to find a bi couple that we can trust

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Clubs have been the answer for us. Clearly that is a no no for now, but when they re open arrange to meet at a Club and see if you click. We have met some people where we justvdidn’t click and others where it was easy. Of course, being in a Club you also get to look at other eye candy as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ve been lucky enough to find two couples we really gel with. It’s quite tricky for us as we are a quirky couple and not everyone’s cup of tea.

Once you make that connection it’s easy to build on it. Even more so during Covid. The ones that have stayed in touch despite knowing we weren’t meeting are definitely “keepers”

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By *hilledout-couple OP   Couple
over a year ago

telford

It’s great to know some couples have found this gives us hope also x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Following this thread. We’re on the look out

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By *xploressCouple
over a year ago

Mid Devon

We've only been on fab for a year or just over. Understand the couples dynamic can be tricky with 4 way attraction needed, but it's definitely doable with a bit of patience and perseverance. I (Mr E) do most of the Fabmin looking around, filtering out those not to either of our tastes and also fakes as best I can. Then I show the results to Mrs E and see who takes her fancy. If we left it to Mrs E she'd quickly lose patience and become disheartened with the whole thing. Then we ping a message or wink when we find someone we're both interested in (messages always a joint effort). Definitely move swiftly to trying to organise a social if we like each other's face pics. And the meet is where you really find out if the chemistry works or not. It just requires a bit of patience but they are out there. We've met some lovely couples on here.

Clubs are definitely great when they're open and we found ourselves playing with people we wouldn't necessarily have searched for on fab and loved it. Flip side is, there might not be anyone there you fancy if it's a smaller do.

Different strokes for different folks I guess but it seems to be working for us. X

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By *inks_apeyCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire


"It’s great to know some couples have found this gives us hope also x"

We find clubs or socials the best places, easier to mingle, but this whole world at the moment doesn't work like that any more...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’d love to find a couple to get to know and have fun with. Finding the right ones we click with and when all 4 people can be free is tricky! Xx

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By *ostosaCouple
over a year ago

North of England


"

Would love a couple to socialise and play with swap partners bi play ect ,but finding it really hard to find the right one do other couple have this or are they in same position as ,us any advice would be much appreciated "

Honestly, stick with it, there are some lovely genuine couples out there. We have been very lucky as the couples we have met have all been great company. We can relate to most of the comments on this thread but with some patience and perseverance, you will find what you are looking for. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was going to say the same .. area makes a difference.. but also where you go to meet other couples .. x

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By *ecretlivesCouple
over a year ago

FABWatch HQ

Just to add in

As well as matching the matrix of who wants what or whom -

when *real* couples chat (fakes yes all been there!), we are all cautious and really easy to trigger over sometimes random crud. Hardly surprising as there will be at least 2 people with their "partner protecting" hat on. We fill in the gaps about the other side - right or wrong - and go Nope!

We persevere

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By *empseyANDRedheadCouple
over a year ago

warwick

yes, we like the social side too, hard to find 4 way attraction though as seems to be the thoughts of many. We'd be quite happy to chat on kik at the moment but finding THAT other couple is tricky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Would love a couple to socialise and play with swap partners bi play ect ,but finding it really hard to find the right one do other couple have this or are they in same position as ,us any advice would be much appreciated

COVID is delaying our first bi foursome but I have to say we are having some lovely chats with some very sexy couples so hope it won’t be too difficult to organise to meet when the time comes

Same! Were just keeping each other entertained in the meantime "

And from the look of your photos you are having a wonderful time doing just that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is difficult.

We had started going to clubs to try and meet new people and then the virus hit and put a stopper on that.

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By *ushWookyCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Bookmarking

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By *ulu and MonkeyCouple
over a year ago

Durham

We wd love to have a regular bi cpl xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ve tried for over a year and still trying to find ours

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By *ovingeachotherCouple
over a year ago

Devizes

We feel your pain!! X

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By *otwifeforyou1978Couple
over a year ago

Telford

We would like to meet a local couple to just socialise with and share our experiences etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's very difficult to find that all round attraction, it's part of the reason we meet single guys more frequently to couples. "
same as us . We find it easier less hassle

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By *havennaturistsCouple
over a year ago

Banff

For ourselves, developing a genuine friendship first pays dividends in the long run, but how many are prepared to work on that? Instant (or almost instant) sexual gratification seem to be the order of the day. For us going to a club appears to be 'hedging your bets', instead of taking time with one particular couple you may have chatted with for a while and felt a mutual attraction.

We have several long term swinging couple friends we've known and played with for years.

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By *ikingCoolMan
over a year ago

carmarthen

We found it is best to enjoy the sex, yes some you did not click with and ones you did not like but most of the time the sex is good

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By *aysOfOurLivesCouple
over a year ago

Essex

Oh what the post and what kindred spirits!

We’re finding it hard to find people who want people to chat to about the everyday, not just a pissing contest of who would do what to who’s whatever’s. We’re not big in to pic swaps and much prefer to chat over FaceTime.

To enjoy someone’s company, their wit, their smarts and as well as their fantasies.

You can forget all the single-bi-female’s, the 420 party people, and the in-out-shake-it-all-about’s. A couple of sexy friendships would be blissful .

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By *uv2playsoonCouple
over a year ago

cheshire

There are lots of genuine couples out there, stick with it and hopefully you find what your looking for.

I agree its difficult to both find what your looking for.

We have had some amazing experiences on holiday in gran canaria or weekends away.

Always looking for other couples for a night out before onto a party when the virus is under control.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It could be because many cpls don't believe in chatting and building up a connection . Most want instant results and some chats go dry after two days.

Club goers have a different mindset when looking for other cpls to play with .

People who meet privately have more patience I believe.

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

Couples fun all the way for us. We find social in clubs, party nights, banter gets flirty and it evolves

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By *i de BiCouple
over a year ago

Leicester


"It's very difficult to find that all round attraction, it's part of the reason we meet single guys more frequently to couples.

Agree. Very hard to get 4 people attracted to each other. We also tend to meet more single men. "

Snap x

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By *aughty.little.secretCouple
over a year ago

Bradford

We love the excitement of meeting new couples aswell as how much we love meeting our regular couple friends. For us its the mental click more than the physical. You have to find someone attractive to sleep with them yes, but we love finding people on our wavelength too as its makes playtime more fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always tough. Lots of couples in the middle age range on here that are not quite balanced if that makes sense. In other words one is in better shape/better looking than their partner so you then have a taking one for the team situation.

We've found a few but mainly via clubs

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By *heekycppl2016Couple
over a year ago

Worthing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ppl have already said it but 4 way attraction and “clicking” is hard. Threesomes are far easier.

Most of our MFMF fun has been at parties/clubs and the subsequent friendships and meet ups thereafter.

We have met cpls through sites but definitely harder. As we are Bi F and St8 M it means:

- Both girls must fancy & like both guys.

- Both girls must fancy & like other girl.

- Both guys must fancy & like both girls.

- Both guys must like the other guy.

- Nobody should be taking one for the team!

That’s a lot of combos. Just comes off easier and more relaxed in a party atmosphere.

Even harder when you are both straight "

Pretty spot on its equally hard when straight female bi guy most couples the female is bi, the whole 4 way attraction is a tough one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did any couples sign up thinking it would actually be easy to meet other couples via here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We found it an impossibility, we’re not a ‘couple’ couple and trying to organise 4 different diaries just doesn’t work. The only way we’ve managed a foursome of sorts is at a club

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By *ovingeachotherCouple
over a year ago

Devizes

We are x

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By *he force is strongeCouple
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Did any couples sign up thinking it would actually be easy to meet other couples via here?"

We did and we have met some really nice couples some straight some bi but usually at a club.

We have played with couples in clubs that to be honest we probably wouldn't have played with if we hadn't met them in a club

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By *heSofaDestroyersCouple
over a year ago

HereAndThere

Always looking for sexy fun couples

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By *andT2020Couple
over a year ago

Gods Country

Great thread, every complication that we’ve encountered has been mentioned above.

We’re quite a shy couple and clubs did terrify us initially but that’s where we had the greatest fun.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

My fwb and I have a couples profile and yes we have found it hard meeting the right people. Pre Covid had a few social meets but did not click and discovered some time wasters.

Found clubs are much better for meeting people.

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By *BWarksCouple
over a year ago

warwick

Not easy to find the right couples with attraction and chemistry all round.. but we have managed it and had some great times , even had holidays away together

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By *lay PairCouple
over a year ago

Warrington

We recently went to Hedo and there was a take over group there from USA & Canada.

They have a couples for couples group and web site. FaceTime vetted to join the group and both parters must be available on the face time.

Talking to some of the couples who were members of the group it’s now much easier to find genuine couples and that hard to find 4 way attraction.

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By *_Yeah19Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln

This is a scenario that we’d love to find. Did have it before until they moved halfway round the world!

4 way attraction is very important but unfortunately a bit tricky to find, hence we’re still looking...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've found it hard too. Made harder by both of us being straight - majority of couples seem to want the female half to be bi

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

We play with other couples when we can and when all 4 are attracted to each other.

Difficult to find but we’ve been lucky in that we have some very close friends now that we play with.

To give advice to the OP, all you can do is keep talking to couples and see what arises.

It can take time but it’s worth it in the end.

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By *n With LifeCouple
over a year ago

Hadley Wood


"We've found it hard too. Made harder by both of us being straight - majority of couples seem to want the female half to be bi"

We have found this to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've found it hard too. Made harder by both of us being straight - majority of couples seem to want the female half to be bi"

What baffles us is that , cpls playing with singles mostly ,prefer to bi fem play when it comes to other cpls.

We would love straight swap with cpls unless the male half is bi to make it juicy foursome fun but no exclusive bifem show.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

We have noticed that in couples, the females are usually bi and want the other woman to perform like a seal. That’s a no for us.

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By *tt1Couple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"No advice as we find the same. I've given up for the time being as it is proving difficult to keep the messages going when we can't actually meet. We also often find a lot of couples either want an instant meet, which we don't do or are only here to get off on the chat and pics and have no intention of meeting.

We have been lucky enough to find a few great couples though so it is worth the effort x"

Couldn’t agree more, messages frequently get harder to keep going when you can’t discuss meets ...

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By *aughty Hubby n Sexy WifeCouple
over a year ago

Scarborogh


"No advice as we find the same. I've given up for the time being as it is proving difficult to keep the messages going when we can't actually meet. We also often find a lot of couples either want an instant meet, which we don't do or are only here to get off on the chat and pics and have no intention of meeting.

We have been lucky enough to find a few great couples though so it is worth the effort x

Couldn’t agree more, messages frequently get harder to keep going when you can’t discuss meets ..."

Absolutely agree, we have gone quite, as we don’t want to meet at the moment with the Covid situation. Very hard keeping messages going. Haven found it too to meet great couples, however we like people with personalities and we’re not kids lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are one of the couples who have chatted, swapped pics and gone quiet. With our personal life and priorities for others, the current climate has really put a cock block on us getting fully into the swing of things. We hope those we have spoken to and had a connection with understand and we can pop our cherries in a club or a safe meet when all calmed down R&K x

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By *xploressCouple
over a year ago

Mid Devon

We've got a couple of lovely couples we've been chatting with and would love to meet but have had to say..

"Let's pick this up again once restrictions are loosened again. See you on the other side."

They're all very understanding. We're all in the same boat afterall. Keep your fingers crossed for a mega effort to roll these vaccines out. We'll be playing again before you know it x

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

Not a couple but love play with couples

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By *cd and scruffCouple
over a year ago

Rochester

Glad to see its not just us struggling. Was beginning to worry.

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By *aughty.little.secretCouple
over a year ago

Bradford

Just chat and get to know people. We have met some great couples on here who we love spending time with in and out of the bedroom. You'll get there just get to know people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never been a problem for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Would love a couple to socialise and play with swap partners bi play ect ,but finding it really hard to find the right one do other couple have this or are they in same position as ,us any advice would be much appreciated

COVID is delaying our first bi foursome but I have to say we are having some lovely chats with some very sexy couples so hope it won’t be too difficult to organise to meet when the time comes "

Same here we have a few we have chatted to during covid we plan to meet once safe to do so.

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By *reatformeatWoman
over a year ago

my own bubble

We find it very easy . Try some clubs and socials ( when open of course)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also looking for a couple that we get on with and can have social and fun times together. Everyone being bi would be ideal to.

Give us a shout if you like the sound of us.

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By *ovingeachotherCouple
over a year ago

Devizes

Any couples here x

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By *rcadian110Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

It's really hard to find couple who want to play equally. Clubs were so much easier. It can be difficult to guage personality from an online chat or profile. The chemistry builds face to face, that's why we have a social first. But it's been so long now and covids making it worse. It's bringing out the worst in people. The messages are getting more crass and disrespectful. Ok it's a sec site but that doesn't mean I'm going to accept someone talking about my wife like a piece of meat. They definitely won't get any further with that attitude no matter how hot a couple they are. Respect speaks volumes and seems to be in short supply. Damn we miss clubs

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By *rcadian110Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley


"It's really hard to find couple who want to play equally. Clubs were so much easier. It can be difficult to guage personality from an online chat or profile. The chemistry builds face to face, that's why we have a social first. But it's been so long now and covids making it worse. It's bringing out the worst in people. The messages are getting more crass and disrespectful. Ok it's a sec site but that doesn't mean I'm going to accept someone talking about my wife like a piece of meat. They definitely won't get any further with that attitude no matter how hot a couple they are. Respect speaks volumes and seems to be in short supply. Damn we miss clubs "

Sex site , damn my thumbs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's really hard to find couple who want to play equally. Clubs were so much easier. It can be difficult to guage personality from an online chat or profile. The chemistry builds face to face, that's why we have a social first. But it's been so long now and covids making it worse. It's bringing out the worst in people. The messages are getting more crass and disrespectful. Ok it's a sec site but that doesn't mean I'm going to accept someone talking about my wife like a piece of meat. They definitely won't get any further with that attitude no matter how hot a couple they are. Respect speaks volumes and seems to be in short supply. Damn we miss clubs "

If they talk bad about your woman during messages id expect they will show little respect when having sex with her. Id give people like that a wide birth.

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By *ngelLordCouple
over a year ago

Newport

Very hard and most of the times 98% u realise all the effort was wasted that's why we only done club fun for the last few years where u get everything u want hassle free and no waste of time ??

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots


"Very hard and most of the times 98% u realise all the effort was wasted that's why we only done club fun for the last few years where u get everything u want hassle free and no waste of time ??"

Same for us, always have fun when we go to a club...really looking forward to being able to go again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does seem to be getting harder to find similar minded couples, recently at least....

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By *reatformeatWoman
over a year ago

my own bubble

Very difficult if your a little fussy as we are there needs to be a 4 way attraction and connection. We do know couples who will litreraly do it with any couple though but that’s not for us

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By *HELONDONCOUPLECouple
over a year ago

london

Yes very hard to meet the right couple as it works 4 ways, why we used to prefer clubs you see and speak in one go and min

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