FabSwingers.com forum: No show meets

By *herryblossom_BJ OP Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Would you report them to FAB or leave it?

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By *exyredheadtattooCouple
over a year ago

Beaumont

Report.

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By *ornsMan
over a year ago

west Midlands

Makes no difference at the moment, admin will say we are supposed to be meeting and do nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Report every time

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Whatever the type of meet - currently social only, formerly any type - we don't do ourselves any favours if we don't give feedback on people. We could help to prevent others being stood up, having a wasted trip etc, as they can do for us too.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

What can FAB do about something that's happened or not happened outside of FAB.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Nah, just use your time more productivity instead. Its shitty but nothing you can do about it and although maybe not moral (without warning or explanation) people should feel safe to pull out at any time without obligation.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Always report.

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By *assion and MoreCouple
over a year ago

Here and There, Monaghan

Why report them?, not alot fab can do really.

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By *ecretpassion100Couple
over a year ago

Walsall

Block delete forget

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By *ilk_TrayMan
over a year ago

South

Make a private note and move on.

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By *sexman1Man
over a year ago

north oxfordshire

We Have all had then.

Just move on no they are a pain in the but. There loss

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By *hatawasteMan
over a year ago

stafford

I would report them for turning up .. unless it was a social with full social distancing . We dont need this sort of thing at the moment do we!

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"I would report them for turning up .. unless it was a social with full social distancing . We dont need this sort of thing at the moment do we!

I been on here over a year and men always done no show meets but I never reported any of them. Wondering if I should

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By *ance1502Man
over a year ago

London

I've been let down a good few times and never thought to report it. We're not supposed to be meeting anyway so probably not the best idea to report. I just block them

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I would always report OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never understood the point of reporting a no show, suck it up and carry on, the site cant actually do much can they?

Different if there's aggression or abuse but not showing up.. Could be a myriad of reasons why.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Never understood the point of reporting a no show, suck it up and carry on, the site cant actually do much can they?

Different if there's aggression or abuse but not showing up.. Could be a myriad of reasons why. "

They can. They can issue warnings, suspend or remove an account. If they don't know about it they can't act on it.

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

"Never understood the point of reporting a no show, suck it up and carry on, the site cant actually do much can they?

Different if there's aggression or abuse but not showing up.. Could be a myriad of reasons why.

They can. They can issue warnings, suspend or remove an account. If they don't know about it they can't act on it. "
a forum mod said on another similar thread that no shows wasn't against site rules lol although not turning up to meet is one of the reporting ticky boxes

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Never understood the point of reporting a no show, suck it up and carry on, the site cant actually do much can they?

Different if there's aggression or abuse but not showing up.. Could be a myriad of reasons why.

They can. They can issue warnings, suspend or remove an account. If they don't know about it they can't act on it. a forum mod said on another similar thread that no shows wasn't against site rules lol although not turning up to meet is one of the reporting ticky boxes "

Just use the tricky boxes lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well you shouldn't be asking to meet at moment but no shows are very common simply ask them to go do one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d just block them and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see the point in reporting them... They could be late, emergency, flat phone... Got there and chickened out (it takes a lot of courage sometimes)... decided they didn't fancy or even decided you are out of their league

I met a new friend for a coffee and we realised we were in different branches of the same coffee shop chain, just a mile or so down the road

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By *omukMan
over a year ago

manchester

Surely a 'no show' is someone's right to change their mind about meeting and shouldn't be pressured or feel forced into going through with a meet unless they really wanted too?

I Understand decent thing would be to atleast have the decency to let the person know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Surely a 'no show' is someone's right to change their mind about meeting and shouldn't be pressured or feel forced into going through with a meet unless they really wanted too?

I Understand decent thing would be to atleast have the decency to let the person know.

Reporting not gonna do anything.. juat have to chalk it off as bad experience. Had one cancel on me the other daycby not answering front door. Gave me details left lights on as instructed then didnt open door when i knocked..

Weird!!

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

"Surely a 'no show' is someone's right to change their mind about meeting and shouldn't be pressured or feel forced into going through with a meet unless they really wanted too?

I Understand decent thing would be to atleast have the decency to let the person know.

Weird!!

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maybe didn't like the look of you in the flesh ?

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By *ance1502Man
over a year ago

London

"Surely a 'no show' is someone's right to change their mind about meeting and shouldn't be pressured or feel forced into going through with a meet unless they really wanted too?

I Understand decent thing would be to atleast have the decency to let the person know.

So many weirdos on here. I've had people cancel on me for being 10 mins late MORE THAN ONCE

Weird!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't fab have more of an issue with the reporter for expecting a meet rather than the reported for not turning up at the moment?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh, I forgot my actual answer there.

I think if someone doesn't turn up and doesn't even go to the effort of sending a message with a half baked excuse they should be reported (in non-covid times). That way, if they make a habit of it they could be warned and ultimately banned.

Arranging a meet could be a pretty awkward thing to do in terms of time, distance, childcare, expense etc. and someone taking the piss of that is a bit of a dick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never understood the point of reporting a no show, suck it up and carry on, the site cant actually do much can they?

Different if there's aggression or abuse but not showing up.. Could be a myriad of reasons why.

They can. They can issue warnings, suspend or remove an account. If they don't know about it they can't act on it. "

I understand that, what I mean is if someone doesn't show up, how can admin know there's not a valid reason that's all. They only have the word of person reporting that it was a no show.

I mean it's up to the individual, I'm just saying that personally I don't see the point.

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

"Oh, I forgot my actual answer there.

Arranging a meet could be a pretty awkward thing to do in terms of time, distance, childcare, expense etc. and someone taking the piss of that is a bit of a dick"
it's not against site rules tho although it's itemized on the list of reportable offences

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Oh, I forgot my actual answer there.

Arranging a meet could be a pretty awkward thing to do in terms of time, distance, childcare, expense etc. and someone taking the piss of that is a bit of a dickit's not against site rules tho although it's itemized on the list of reportable offences "

I did notice on the report page, you can report for no show so I do that next time.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Never understood the point of reporting a no show, suck it up and carry on, the site cant actually do much can they?

Different if there's aggression or abuse but not showing up.. Could be a myriad of reasons why.

They can. They can issue warnings, suspend or remove an account. If they don't know about it they can't act on it.

I understand that, what I mean is if someone doesn't show up, how can admin know there's not a valid reason that's all. They only have the word of person reporting that it was a no show.

I mean it's up to the individual, I'm just saying that personally I don't see the point. "

It is a shame we can't see people who been reported for no show as it deter me off anyone who that past experience of messing people about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never understood the point of reporting a no show, suck it up and carry on, the site cant actually do much can they?

Different if there's aggression or abuse but not showing up.. Could be a myriad of reasons why.

They can. They can issue warnings, suspend or remove an account. If they don't know about it they can't act on it.

I understand that, what I mean is if someone doesn't show up, how can admin know there's not a valid reason that's all. They only have the word of person reporting that it was a no show.

I mean it's up to the individual, I'm just saying that personally I don't see the point.

It is a shame we can't see people who been reported for no show as it deter me off anyone who that past experience of messing people about. "

True it would be useful but it could also be easily abused if you decided you didn't like a profile. Just bombard then with fake reports and effectively black their profile

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By *w79Man
over a year ago

Stalbridge

Report.

I had a meet arranged sometime last year (around spring/early summer if my memory serves me correctly).

Got myself all clean & fresh inside & out.

Drove to the address. Nobody was in. Waited 15-ish minutes just incase they were running late.

Messaged them, no reply.

Went to message them again to thank them for letting me down & wasting my time, they'd blocked me.

So I reported them, especially as I had to turn other offers down for the meet with them.

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By *lder A Wiser PassionWoman
over a year ago

morecambe

No show meets everyone has the right to back out at last min

No one should be ever assumeing anything poeple are not sex toys, sex worker or ever time wasters

Swinging isnt about using folk

For one thing till you meet some one you dont know where that are at

To report someone for not truning up to a meet you set up is well out of order

Even if you meet up get naked and at last min want to back out a person has a 100% right to do just so

As for meets that report folk for not truning up you should be takeing things as they come on here

As for you getting angry about them not truning up in the breath you have the same right to right to back out at anyone time

So can we have some respect

You got to remember you have newbies who look at forum and status on here

Its giving the wrong idea to them

You cant ever be giving them the impression that cos you taking to some one you have to go with them

That is so wrong if you do

and not on

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By *avina64TV/TS
over a year ago

Grimsby

I sometimes give them a second chance if no show then block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there is a big difference between a Noshow and someone who cancels a meet

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By *S1407Couple
over a year ago

dartford

We normally have a phone conversation before agreeing to meet. If it’s a couple or girl we always insist on a girl girl phone call. The girls get a pretty good idea if the person is genuine or not. Nothings guaranteed of course but it’s very rare we are disappointed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It works both ways tho, I had arranged a meet with a couple, drinks and a chat just a social and kind of a see what happens kinda thing, we had been chatting made friends got to know a bit more about each other boundrys and stuff like that but on just as I was about to go meet I got a message saying they wouldn't be available due to family issues, fair play family comes first so I messaged back basically saying no problem and I hope everything is ok, I really wasnt bothered because again family comes first, but it was the reply the day later that kinda annoyed me, they called me unreliable and they didnt think I was genuine and they then blocked me.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

But should we forgive people who don't explain their absence? Members who back out last minute for any reason but not explain then block/ghost the person to me is bad manners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But should we forgive people who don't explain their absence? Members who back out last minute for any reason but not explain then block/ghost the person to me is bad manners. "

It can be very stressful and I think some people dont see that. I know I was nervous especially if it's your first meet as it was or nearly was with me. You can talk on the phone, chat on webcam but it's nothing like meeting somebody face to face theres that fear of the unknown because you never truly know what to expect until you meet, likewise for the person(s) you are meeting. I think a little understanding would be the best thing to do in my opinion, it's not fair to judge straight away but it happens in all walks of life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But should we forgive people who don't explain their absence? Members who back out last minute for any reason but not explain then block/ghost the person to me is bad manners. "

tottally agree with this

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