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"Often the biggest gripe on this site is guys getting frustrated by no reply to their messages. For whatever the reason may be. Rather than having to write countless no thanks replies would it not be possible to just have an automated polite thanks for your message but no thanks button that we can simply click. So next to the options of reply save delete we can have no thanks. Would definitely save time and energy typing these messages and hopefully make the messenger feel less ignored " That's a very good idea, alot of other sites have it. Though funnily enough when i clicked on this post i thought it was about you turning down Jenson Button :P | |||
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"Another site we use has this option....and people start threads complaining that they get an impersonal reply You can't win really.....so for us it is easier to have a few answers typed into word and copy and paste the relevant ones when answering mails ( we answer when we get a few rather than one at a time )" Not everyone has site support so can't save a message to copy and paste. If keeping it in inbox means can never delete all messages. But time you open up the saved message copy it go back to the message and paste , would be as well replying x | |||
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"Another site we use has this option....and people start threads complaining that they get an impersonal reply You can't win really.....so for us it is easier to have a few answers typed into word and copy and paste the relevant ones when answering mails ( we answer when we get a few rather than one at a time )" This! Another site I'm on also sends people a nice message automatically if you contact someone and you're outwith their criteria. The bitching about being stopped from contacting people not looking for them has to be seen to be believed! | |||
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"Another site we use has this option....and people start threads complaining that they get an impersonal reply " Yeah the wording in pre-set messages is important. There is that facility on another site I use and I find the wording really patronising. A non-reply gets the message across just as well to anyone with an ounce of common sense. This is not 'the real world' it is cyberland. Rightly or wrongly, behind the security and distance of a cyber connection, people interact in a different manner than they would if an approach was made to them in person. It does offer the opportunity to ignore people that you couldn't ignore if they approached you in person, so why not use that opportunity ? I do think on sites like this ignoring someone and being ignorant are two wholly seperate things. | |||
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"Often the biggest gripe on this site is guys getting frustrated by no reply to their messages. For whatever the reason may be. Rather than having to write countless no thanks replies would it not be possible to just have an automated polite thanks for your message but no thanks button that we can simply click. So next to the options of reply save delete we can have no thanks. Would definitely save time and energy typing these messages and hopefully make the messenger feel less ignored " all that would happen is what rubgy said... people would just complain about impersonal replies.... some people will grumble just for the sake of grumbling and that will never change..... | |||
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"And so we get forums full of "Why do people juct click "no thanks""" Och then they can just feck off lol x | |||
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"Another site we use has this option....and people start threads complaining that they get an impersonal reply You can't win really.....so for us it is easier to have a few answers typed into word and copy and paste the relevant ones when answering mails ( we answer when we get a few rather than one at a time ) Not everyone has site support so can't save a message to copy and paste. If keeping it in inbox means can never delete all messages. But time you open up the saved message copy it go back to the message and paste , would be as well replying x" You don't need SS....we save a few different answers to "word" on the PC. | |||
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"How about having that button on msg's, have a stock msg Orr-entered but have it so you can personalise it aswell? Must admit we have stopped declining people politely now. We do, just not reply and the reason is because we got sick of being asked why. Is it Mr or Mrs that puts you off? Which one of you doesn't like which one of us? It's a swinging site it's about fucking not what people look like and you ignorant to think otherwise. Can you just tell me is it because I am ugly? I can't believe I have been declined again what do I have to do to be successful on this website, can you help me? Do you think I am fat? We had all of them and it started to be not much fun anymore. We would like to be able to say a polite no though because we don't consider ourselves rude." you can say a polite no thanks then block. stops the repeat messages. | |||
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"Often the biggest gripe on this site is guys getting frustrated by no reply to their messages. For whatever the reason may be. Rather than having to write countless no thanks replies would it not be possible to just have an automated polite thanks for your message but no thanks button that we can simply click. So next to the options of reply save delete we can have no thanks. Would definitely save time and energy typing these messages and hopefully make the messenger feel less ignored " i think its probably a good idea, but some on here would probably prefer a 'why the fuck would we be interested in you button??' or a 'fuck off and leave us alone, you fugly bastard' button | |||
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"Another site we use has this option....and people start threads complaining that they get an impersonal reply There is no way to let people know that you are not interested without some moaning about the fact to my mind a delete without replying isnt too far away from a not interested button although we do reply. You can't win really.....so for us it is easier to have a few answers typed into word and copy and paste the relevant ones when answering mails ( we answer when we get a few rather than one at a time )" | |||
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"That's the whole point honey. Takes time and effort to type no thanks lol. Absolutely a personalised message you can send with a click x" Go easy now because you would now have to click each message twice ! | |||
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"That's the whole point honey. Takes time and effort to type no thanks lol. Absolutely a personalised message you can send with a click x Go easy now because you would now have to click each message twice !" No no rather than delete would just click the no thanks button | |||
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"There's no point. Currently its 'It's rude not to reply!" With a button it'd just be 'It's rude to use the auto-reply!' The solution isn't a button. It's for guys to stop being whiners." Hallelujah. I salute you. | |||
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" Would only take a matter of seconds to put people out of their misery. " Misery? Really? Come on now. | |||
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" Would only take a matter of seconds to put people out of their misery. Misery? Really? Come on now. " | |||
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"Often the biggest gripe on this site is guys getting frustrated by no reply to their messages. For whatever the reason may be. Rather than having to write countless no thanks replies would it not be possible to just have an automated polite thanks for your message but no thanks button that we can simply click. So next to the options of reply save delete we can have no thanks. Would definitely save time and energy typing these messages and hopefully make the messenger feel less ignored " Id still delete without reply just to make a point lol im stubbon like that | |||
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"Gotta say I totally agree. Would only take a matter of seconds to put people out of their misery. After all if you have time to read the message then you have time to click one button." I read the profile first. If they're outwith what I'm looking for I delete without reading. I don't know how clearer I can make my profile. I don't do stupid, and looking for a man to follow my instructions, therefore major fail if they can't recognise they're not what I'm looking for. I'm here for MY hedonistic pleasure, not to make men feel better about themselves. If you're not what I'm looking for I won't reply is on my profile...don't see what further info is needed personally! | |||
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" Would only take a matter of seconds to put people out of their misery. Misery? Really? Come on now. " I know...unbelievable, but typical of the inflated sense of entitlement exhibited by some men on this site. | |||
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"Gotta say I totally agree. Would only take a matter of seconds to put people out of their misery. After all if you have time to read the message then you have time to click one button. I read the profile first. If they're outwith what I'm looking for I delete without reading. I don't know how clearer I can make my profile. I don't do stupid, and looking for a man to follow my instructions, therefore major fail if they can't recognise they're not what I'm looking for. I'm here for MY hedonistic pleasure, not to make men feel better about themselves. If you're not what I'm looking for I won't reply is on my profile...don't see what further info is needed personally! " this! If you don't reply, you're not interested! What more is there to say. The number of inadequate, needy people on here is unbelievable. Have fun, and with 11,000 people on here at times there must be someone who wants to chat to you. Spend your time finding them, not wasting it moaning about not being sent a message saying 'no thank you'. It isn't rude to ignore an unsolicited message! I don't write to Everest Double Glazing saying no thank you when I get their junk mail. A no reply is a no. End of story! Frankly, if we all also stopped replying to nonsense threads the world would be a better place. | |||
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"Often the biggest gripe on this site is guys getting frustrated by no reply to their messages. For whatever the reason may be. Rather than having to write countless no thanks replies would it not be possible to just have an automated polite thanks for your message but no thanks button that we can simply click. So next to the options of reply save delete we can have no thanks. Would definitely save time and energy typing these messages and hopefully make the messenger feel less ignored " No thanks | |||
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" Would only take a matter of seconds to put people out of their misery. Misery? Really? Come on now. I know...unbelievable, but typical of the inflated sense of entitlement exhibited by some men on this site. " I use that saying a lot but more tongue in cheek....so maybe that poster didn't mean it quite the way it sounds and just meant " so they know one way or another " | |||
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" Would only take a matter of seconds to put people out of their misery. Misery? Really? Come on now. I know...unbelievable, but typical of the inflated sense of entitlement exhibited by some men on this site. I use that saying a lot but more tongue in cheek....so maybe that poster didn't mean it quite the way it sounds and just meant " so they know one way or another " " Let's hope so, but I still maintain that a deleted message, lack of reply or both gives them that answer already. | |||
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" Would only take a matter of seconds to put people out of their misery. Misery? Really? Come on now. I know...unbelievable, but typical of the inflated sense of entitlement exhibited by some men on this site. " ...and lots of women and lots of couples. | |||
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"Just incorporate a 'Thankyou for your interest, however we do not wish to persue any further interest or contact at this time.' ...Reply/Block button. This way a polite message is generated and people cannot be barraged with further questions asking for reasons." but make it a reversible block that way, you can get back in touch with them on the nights you're horny and there's nobody about | |||
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"Just incorporate a 'Thankyou for your interest, however we do not wish to persue any further interest or contact at this time.' ...Reply/Block button. This way a polite message is generated and people cannot be barraged with further questions asking for reasons." Their new whinge: "I sent a polite message (personal too, and I got blocked WTF?" I seriously can't be arsed working out what the response is going to be | |||
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"Often the biggest gripe on this site is guys getting frustrated by no reply to their messages. For whatever the reason may be. Rather than having to write countless no thanks replies would it not be possible to just have an automated polite thanks for your message but no thanks button that we can simply click. So next to the options of reply save delete we can have no thanks. Would definitely save time and energy typing these messages and hopefully make the messenger feel less ignored " To be honest, that sounds quite sensible - I understand women are inundated with messages but sometimes a polite no thanks would be nice - especially when they've messaged or winked at you first - or specifically asked for something you're advertising - however, I'd never bombard someone who didn't reply with rude messages | |||
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"Just incorporate a 'Thankyou for your interest, however we do not wish to persue any further interest or contact at this time.' ...Reply/Block button. This way a polite message is generated and people cannot be barraged with further questions asking for reasons." | |||
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"To be honest....if someone can't take the hint that they are not for the person they messaged who read and delete messages...it's really their problem. I would not feel any more cherished by an automated reply than if my message is deleted... Not everyone is for everyone is that not a basic rule of life? Anybody who is offended seriously needs to get over themselves." am now off to the other site to find Ruggers xx | |||
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"Often the biggest gripe on this site is guys getting frustrated by no reply to their messages. For whatever the reason may be. Rather than having to write countless no thanks replies would it not be possible to just have an automated polite thanks for your message but no thanks button that we can simply click. So next to the options of reply save delete we can have no thanks. Would definitely save time and energy typing these messages and hopefully make the messenger feel less ignored To be honest, that sounds quite sensible - I understand women are inundated with messages but sometimes a polite no thanks would be nice - especially when they've messaged or winked at you first - or specifically asked for something you're advertising - however, I'd never bombard someone who didn't reply with rude messages " You'd think so wouldn't you, but sadly it doesn't. There's a type of person that use these types of sites that believe, by the virtue of being here, they are entitled to a message, meet. I'm on a site that has that option. You can also personalise the winks, letting the person know you don't like winks, why not drop a line etc. It also sends messages if the person is outwith your criteria etc. It doesn't stop the whining and bitching. The people that get a non reply is a no and move on are not the problem. It's the cry babies that will still spit their dummies no matter what that are the problem. | |||
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"To be honest....if someone can't take the hint that they are not for the person they messaged who read and delete messages...it's really their problem. I would not feel any more cherished by an automated reply than if my message is deleted... Not everyone is for everyone is that not a basic rule of life? Anybody who is offended seriously needs to get over themselves. am now off to the other site to find Ruggers xx" I'm not offended by 'no thanks' or a deleted message - I'm offended by rudeness and sometimes baffled when my polite response to a message the women/couple has sent, is subsequently deleted. However, like I've said many times I don't take this site too seriously | |||
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" Would only take a matter of seconds to put people out of their misery. Misery? Really? Come on now. I know...unbelievable, but typical of the inflated sense of entitlement exhibited by some men on this site. " What are you actually talking about? What am I supposedly assuming I'm entitled to? A fucking reply? So when someone does politely decline( which i am grateful for) am i to feel blessed? Warped logic. | |||
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"In fact this is the final straw. Fuck right off you silly bunch of big headed, stupid, common, retarded, single minded, self-obsessed, deluded foul fucking pigs " But you wanted to shag us earlier.... Oh the winds of change. | |||
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"There's no point. Currently its 'It's rude not to reply!" With a button it'd just be 'It's rude to use the auto-reply!' The solution isn't a button. It's for guys to stop being whiners. Hallelujah. I salute you." Me too!!!! | |||
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"In fact this is the final straw. Fuck right off you silly bunch of big headed, stupid, common, retarded, single minded, self-obsessed, deluded foul fucking pigs Also a big fuck you to the black guy with glasses who comments on every thread in order to disagree with it. " Oh, your leaveing? you will be missed.... BYE! | |||
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"i think a no thanks button would work but you need to attached a time out peroid of 1week to 1month to it. bit like the winks, where you cant wink again for another month, you cant message for another month that way no thanks works but the user aint blocked but are forced to wait out so cant contact again, but at the same time arnt fully blocked as that was going too far" Why would it be going to far? Why are people obsessed with those who have absolutely no interest in them instead of the ones that might be? If you're black say, and a profile states NO BLACKS why would you contact for a meet, then get arsey when your message is deleted? Conversely, why would someone think it rude if they didn't reply to someone the polar opposite to what they've clearly stated they want? Don't get it. | |||
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"Another site we use has this option....and people start threads complaining that they get an impersonal reply You can't win really.....so for us it is easier to have a few answers typed into word and copy and paste the relevant ones when answering mails ( we answer when we get a few rather than one at a time )" Jenson Button cant win either, tho I think he'd win over a few women on here, as for the thanx but no thanx button im all for it.It encourages a reply but is final, we often dont do replys they take time when there are loads and sometimes get silly questions as to why not. | |||
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"I don't see what's wrong with it as an OPTION! You don't have to use it but it would be a site better for the site programmers to do something like that than all the fabbed picture twaddle. " twaddle ? it makes wanking over pictures far easier and you can have two - less time spent browsing, more time pumping ! | |||
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"In fact this is the final straw. Fuck right off you silly bunch of big headed, stupid, common, retarded, single minded, self-obsessed, deluded foul fucking pigs Also a big fuck you to the black guy with glasses who comments on every thread in order to disagree with it. " You forgot to sign this rant (complete with your age) I'll sign it for you darlin' Mr Ivor Gottennowhere: age 41 (mental age: switch the numbers ) | |||
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"Often the biggest gripe on this site is guys getting frustrated by no reply to their messages. For whatever the reason may be. Rather than having to write countless no thanks replies would it not be possible to just have an automated polite thanks for your message but no thanks button that we can simply click. So next to the options of reply save delete we can have no thanks. Would definitely save time and energy typing these messages and hopefully make the messenger feel less ignored " i totally agree would be much easier | |||
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"i think a no thanks button would work but you need to attached a time out peroid of 1week to 1month to it. bit like the winks, where you cant wink again for another month, you cant message for another month that way no thanks works but the user aint blocked but are forced to wait out so cant contact again, but at the same time arnt fully blocked as that was going too far Why would it be going to far? Why are people obsessed with those who have absolutely no interest in them instead of the ones that might be? If you're black say, and a profile states NO BLACKS why would you contact for a meet, then get arsey when your message is deleted? Conversely, why would someone think it rude if they didn't reply to someone the polar opposite to what they've clearly stated they want? Don't get it." because you dont need a block permantly option as you already have that should you wish to use it, so making another block permantly option would be pointless | |||
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"Another site we use has this option....and people start threads complaining that they get an impersonal reply You can't win really.....so for us it is easier to have a few answers typed into word and copy and paste the relevant ones when answering mails ( we answer when we get a few rather than one at a time ) Jenson Button cant win either, tho I think he'd win over a few women on here, as for the thanx but no thanx button im all for it.It encourages a reply but is final, we often dont do replys they take time when there are loads and sometimes get silly questions as to why not." Sorry this is so late but we have been on our hols However you reply , be it automated or copied and pasted from yourselves...you could still get silly questions. | |||
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