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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Does anyone read them?

If someone has a long bio I just cba with it, as lazy as it sounds. Who realistically is going to read an essay just to get their message ignored?

Thoughts? Also if you're a person with a super long bio, why?

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By *arry monk40Man
over a year ago

Telford

Yep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Long bio profiles usually end in a “include this word ####### in your message title so we know you have read our profile”.

Who here doesn’t just scroll to the end find the word and paste it in the subject field of a message. I’ll usually only go back to read a long one if I get a reply.

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By *irty desireWoman
over a year ago

newcatle

My bio is longish .. straight to the point and works well for me!!

If you haven’t read it then yes your message will be ignored!!

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By *alkdirty2meCouple
over a year ago

20 miles south of Edinburgh

Wow

If you cba reading everything that a couple/profile has to say, so that you get an insight in to those you’re trying to meet what on Earth makes you think that you’re the type of people that others want to get naked with?

Better yet, just send the message so it will be ignored anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I don't read them because I'm not what they are looking for.

Like attracts like. It doesn't mean they are wrong.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Wow

If you cba reading everything that a couple/profile has to say, so that you get an insight in to those you’re trying to meet what on Earth makes you think that you’re the type of people that others want to get naked with?

Better yet, just send the message so it will be ignored anyway

"

No. You don't understand what I'm saying.

I come across loads of profiles with walls of text. Usually filled with pointless details. Personally, I think it's arrogance.

Imagine reading a profile that's basically an essay. Then messaging the person only to have your message ignored or deleted.

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By *kyhighstilettoCouple
over a year ago

Cheltenham

You reap what you sow.

Our profile blurb is long and is designed to give you as much information as possible so you can get a clear idea of what we like and don’t like. You can then make an informed decision as to whether you want to message us or not. It saves time and effort in the long run, and a refusal often offends.

If people can’t be arsed, and it’s often very easy to tell, you’ll never be invited to meet us.

PS- we ask for a word in the title of any message but it’s not at the end. This is to stop smart-asses scrolling to the bottom

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By *alkdirty2meCouple
over a year ago

20 miles south of Edinburgh


"Wow

If you cba reading everything that a couple/profile has to say, so that you get an insight in to those you’re trying to meet what on Earth makes you think that you’re the type of people that others want to get naked with?

Better yet, just send the message so it will be ignored anyway

No. You don't understand what I'm saying.

I come across loads of profiles with walls of text. Usually filled with pointless details. Personally, I think it's arrogance.

Imagine reading a profile that's basically an essay. Then messaging the person only to have your message ignored or deleted.

"

You’re really not painting a good picture of yourself here

Imagine writing a profile that explains in detail, everything you’re looking for and everything you’re not looking for from this site, detailing the reasons why you’re on the site and how to have a chance to see someone naked

Imagine that being totally ignored and being bombarded with unsolicited and unwanted dick pics because those who cba think it’s arrogant to have insight on a profile

Imagine that you’ll get to spend time fucking someone’s wife

Imagining is all it would be, because if someone doesn’t have the decency to read the profile and understand it, they sure as shit aren’t gonna get the chance to get naked and ignore boundaries

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By *alkdirty2meCouple
over a year ago

20 miles south of Edinburgh


"You reap what you sow.

Our profile blurb is long and is designed to give you as much information as possible so you can get a clear idea of what we like and don’t like. You can then make an informed decision as to whether you want to message us or not. It saves time and effort in the long run, and a refusal often offends.

If people can’t be arsed, and it’s often very easy to tell, you’ll never be invited to meet us.

PS- we ask for a word in the title of any message but it’s not at the end. This is to stop smart-asses scrolling to the bottom "

Exactly this, well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone read them?

If someone has a long bio I just cba with it, as lazy as it sounds. Who realistically is going to read an essay just to get their message ignored?

Thoughts? Also if you're a person with a super long bio, why? "

Yep.

The couple of extreme ones I have slogged through were broadly indicative of 'head up own arse' syndrome.

I'm sure that's not always the case, but...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They don't read short ones either

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By *osyredcheeksWoman
over a year ago

Plymouth


"You reap what you sow.

Our profile blurb is long and is designed to give you as much information as possible so you can get a clear idea of what we like and don’t like. You can then make an informed decision as to whether you want to message us or not. It saves time and effort in the long run, and a refusal often offends.

If people can’t be arsed, and it’s often very easy to tell, you’ll never be invited to meet us.

PS- we ask for a word in the title of any message but it’s not at the end. This is to stop smart-asses scrolling to the bottom "

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South


"Does anyone read them?

If someone has a long bio I just cba with it, as lazy as it sounds. Who realistically is going to read an essay just to get their message ignored?

Thoughts? Also if you're a person with a super long bio, why? "

The point of profiles is so you don’t waste anyone’s time. Although I tend to agree some are really really long - if you don’t read them then you maybe messaging people who have specifically said they’re not looking for people in a category you fall into. Just an exercise in futility

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By * Plus ECouple
over a year ago

The South

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I have a long profile so people can see exactly what I'm looking for, and gage if it is worth their time sending a message.

It saves on rejection and also they can see if they feel that they would be suited to me and my preferences on how and where I meet.

If they decide not to read it is clear in their message and not an issue to me, if they weren't interested enough to read my profile then I presume they are not that interested in me anyway and therefore I don't feel any need to reply.

I have explained in my profile that if I don't feel it's a good use of time I won't reply but they wont have read that anyway.

I'm more likely to be compatible with people who have invested time into their profile, the content of someone's profile will definitely help me feel interested in them enough to message or not.

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By *lutinnylons69TV/TS
over a year ago

Daventry near byfield NN11


"You reap what you sow.

Our profile blurb is long and is designed to give you as much information as possible so you can get a clear idea of what we like and don’t like. You can then make an informed decision as to whether you want to message us or not. It saves time and effort in the long run, and a refusal often offends.

If people can’t be arsed, and it’s often very easy to tell, you’ll never be invited to meet us.

PS- we ask for a word in the title of any message but it’s not at the end. This is to stop smart-asses scrolling to the bottom "

Have to agree it tells people what you like and don't like

Lot of lazy People on here

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By * Plus ECouple
over a year ago

The South


"Does anyone read them?

If someone has a long bio I just cba with it, as lazy as it sounds. Who realistically is going to read an essay just to get their message ignored?

Thoughts? Also if you're a person with a super long bio, why? "

The purpose of our biog is to inform our visitors about who we are and what we're looking for.

If you can't be bothered to read it, I can guarantee you won't get a reply.

What a daft concept, not actually bothering to read what someone's taken the time to write, then moaning because they don't reply.

*Man points loaded gun at head and pulls trigger, wonders why brains get blown out.

E

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South


"Does anyone read them?

If someone has a long bio I just cba with it, as lazy as it sounds. Who realistically is going to read an essay just to get their message ignored?

Thoughts? Also if you're a person with a super long bio, why?

The purpose of our biog is to inform our visitors about who we are and what we're looking for.

If you can't be bothered to read it, I can guarantee you won't get a reply.

What a daft concept, not actually bothering to read what someone's taken the time to write, then moaning because they don't reply.

*Man points loaded gun at head and pulls trigger, wonders why brains get blown out.

E"

Haha this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They don't read short ones either "

I read yours

Took me 14 minutes though, i need to sort that

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Wow

If you cba reading everything that a couple/profile has to say, so that you get an insight in to those you’re trying to meet what on Earth makes you think that you’re the type of people that others want to get naked with?

Better yet, just send the message so it will be ignored anyway

No. You don't understand what I'm saying.

I come across loads of profiles with walls of text. Usually filled with pointless details. Personally, I think it's arrogance.

Imagine reading a profile that's basically an essay. Then messaging the person only to have your message ignored or deleted.

You’re really not painting a good picture of yourself here

Imagine writing a profile that explains in detail, everything you’re looking for and everything you’re not looking for from this site, detailing the reasons why you’re on the site and how to have a chance to see someone naked

Imagine that being totally ignored and being bombarded with unsolicited and unwanted dick pics because those who cba think it’s arrogant to have insight on a profile

Imagine that you’ll get to spend time fucking someone’s wife

Imagining is all it would be, because if someone doesn’t have the decency to read the profile and understand it, they sure as shit aren’t gonna get the chance to get naked and ignore boundaries "

... There is a 'What I'm looking for' section which is mandatory to fill out giving a snapshot view. Sure, people might ignore it. But nothing stopping you from blocking them from contacting via filters.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Does anyone read them?

If someone has a long bio I just cba with it, as lazy as it sounds. Who realistically is going to read an essay just to get their message ignored?

Thoughts? Also if you're a person with a super long bio, why?

The purpose of our biog is to inform our visitors about who we are and what we're looking for.

If you can't be bothered to read it, I can guarantee you won't get a reply.

What a daft concept, not actually bothering to read what someone's taken the time to write, then moaning because they don't reply.

*Man points loaded gun at head and pulls trigger, wonders why brains get blown out.

E"

No, no. You're not grasping what I'm actually saying here.

I've clicked on profiles, read the walls of text, wrote a message specifically for that person only to get my message ignored or deleted.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Mine is very short and to the point. Anyone who says it's too long needs to realise the bulk of it after the initial section is to help people to get started on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone read them?

If someone has a long bio I just cba with it, as lazy as it sounds. Who realistically is going to read an essay just to get their message ignored?

Thoughts? Also if you're a person with a super long bio, why? "

We are looking for people that have a genuine interest in us not lazy instashag types..

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By *irty desireWoman
over a year ago

newcatle


"Does anyone read them?

If someone has a long bio I just cba with it, as lazy as it sounds. Who realistically is going to read an essay just to get their message ignored?

Thoughts? Also if you're a person with a super long bio, why?

The purpose of our biog is to inform our visitors about who we are and what we're looking for.

If you can't be bothered to read it, I can guarantee you won't get a reply.

What a daft concept, not actually bothering to read what someone's taken the time to write, then moaning because they don't reply.

*Man points loaded gun at head and pulls trigger, wonders why brains get blown out.

E

No, no. You're not grasping what I'm actually saying here.

I've clicked on profiles, read the walls of text, wrote a message specifically for that person only to get my message ignored or deleted."

So then it goes down too attraction!!

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By *taffs_hotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"You reap what you sow.

Our profile blurb is long and is designed to give you as much information as possible so you can get a clear idea of what we like and don’t like. You can then make an informed decision as to whether you want to message us or not. It saves time and effort in the long run, and a refusal often offends.

If people can’t be arsed, and it’s often very easy to tell, you’ll never be invited to meet us.

PS- we ask for a word in the title of any message but it’s not at the end. This is to stop smart-asses scrolling to the bottom "

This is like us. Any person who doesn’t read our profile just gets ignored. If they cannot take their time to read and digest what I’ve written then they aren’t worth meeting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Does anyone read them?

If someone has a long bio I just cba with it, as lazy as it sounds. Who realistically is going to read an essay just to get their message ignored?

Thoughts? Also if you're a person with a super long bio, why?

The purpose of our biog is to inform our visitors about who we are and what we're looking for.

If you can't be bothered to read it, I can guarantee you won't get a reply.

What a daft concept, not actually bothering to read what someone's taken the time to write, then moaning because they don't reply.

*Man points loaded gun at head and pulls trigger, wonders why brains get blown out.

E

No, no. You're not grasping what I'm actually saying here.

I've clicked on profiles, read the walls of text, wrote a message specifically for that person only to get my message ignored or deleted.

So then it goes down too attraction!! "

Exactly! You could match the exact specifications, yet be rejected due to lack of attraction. I.e. a single picture.

You've proven my point completely demonstrating bloated profile bios are pointless.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

If I can't tell you've read it I delete your message. That's true if my profile text is 20 or 2000 words.

I write it for the benefit of those who might find me interesting. Not to amuse myself. (It's currently the shortest it's ever been)

And I don't have a key word in mine. I expect evidence of reading comprehension

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You reap what you sow.

Our profile blurb is long and is designed to give you as much information as possible so you can get a clear idea of what we like and don’t like. You can then make an informed decision as to whether you want to message us or not. It saves time and effort in the long run, and a refusal often offends.

If people can’t be arsed, and it’s often very easy to tell, you’ll never be invited to meet us.

PS- we ask for a word in the title of any message but it’s not at the end. This is to stop smart-asses scrolling to the bottom

This is like us. Any person who doesn’t read our profile just gets ignored. If they cannot take their time to read and digest what I’ve written then they aren’t worth meeting. "

This is true they just don't get it

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By *irty desireWoman
over a year ago

newcatle


"Does anyone read them?

If someone has a long bio I just cba with it, as lazy as it sounds. Who realistically is going to read an essay just to get their message ignored?

Thoughts? Also if you're a person with a super long bio, why?

The purpose of our biog is to inform our visitors about who we are and what we're looking for.

If you can't be bothered to read it, I can guarantee you won't get a reply.

What a daft concept, not actually bothering to read what someone's taken the time to write, then moaning because they don't reply.

*Man points loaded gun at head and pulls trigger, wonders why brains get blown out.

E

No, no. You're not grasping what I'm actually saying here.

I've clicked on profiles, read the walls of text, wrote a message specifically for that person only to get my message ignored or deleted.

So then it goes down too attraction!!

Exactly! You could match the exact specifications, yet be rejected due to lack of attraction. I.e. a single picture.

You've proven my point completely demonstrating bloated profile bios are pointless. "

Mine is not pointless as is nobody’s long or short! If i fancied you but we didn’t like the same stuff or meet my other requirements I would still delete

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

People benefit here from good filtering of others, in whatever ways that they find works for them. Obviously we all have different needs but we'll generally need someone who will satisfy us.

If they have taken the time to write a profile that's comprehensive, it's reasonable to assume that they know best and it's important for them to include what they have done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read them. Firstly it shows that the person can be bothered to put in some thought and effort, it also gives a feel for the person and some information about compatibly/preferences xx

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By *izzibeth9Couple
over a year ago

Loughborough

In fairness I think there is a point on both sides.

Whilst I totally understand people laying out their interests on their profile to save time having to converse with someone about their preferences, sometimes they can be a bit boring.

They also risk becoming one big long list of ‘Don't contact me if you’re this, don’t bother if you’re that’ which I think gives off a bit of an arrogant impression.

That being said, if I find a long profile that’s interesting, I’m happy to spend time reading it as it does then make that first message easier as you’ve got something to point to.

I’m not great with writing profiles so Luke wrote ours which is semi-long but mostly filled with his humour which may or may not appeal to people.

In essence whilst I understand why people have long profiles, I don’t blame the people that can’t be bothered to waste a lot of time reading them. The long profile person is saving time by not giving that information as part of a convo but it’s wasted time for those who are reading it and are then not interest.

C xx

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"No I don't read them because I'm not what they are looking for.

Like attracts like. It doesn't mean they are wrong. "

Same.

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By * Plus ECouple
over a year ago

The South


"Does anyone read them?

If someone has a long bio I just cba with it, as lazy as it sounds. Who realistically is going to read an essay just to get their message ignored?

Thoughts? Also if you're a person with a super long bio, why?

The purpose of our biog is to inform our visitors about who we are and what we're looking for.

If you can't be bothered to read it, I can guarantee you won't get a reply.

What a daft concept, not actually bothering to read what someone's taken the time to write, then moaning because they don't reply.

*Man points loaded gun at head and pulls trigger, wonders why brains get blown out.

E

No, no. You're not grasping what I'm actually saying here.

I've clicked on profiles, read the walls of text, wrote a message specifically for that person only to get my message ignored or deleted."

So, what you're saying is, if there's nothing in your profile that attracts or appeals to me, I've got to reply because you sent "a nice message".

I need to change my outlook on dealing with everything that comes through my letterbox that I've no interest in.

*goes to recover pizza flyers, offers to clean my gutters, double glazing promotions, offers from taxi companies, pensions, life assurance and every other piece of unsolicited crap that arrives from the bin, in order to accept because "they sent a pretty brochure"

E

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

yes if they are interesting , if they are ranty then no.

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By *izzibeth9Couple
over a year ago

Loughborough

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By *izzibeth9Couple
over a year ago

Loughborough


"Does anyone read them?

If someone has a long bio I just cba with it, as lazy as it sounds. Who realistically is going to read an essay just to get their message ignored?

Thoughts? Also if you're a person with a super long bio, why?

The purpose of our biog is to inform our visitors about who we are and what we're looking for.

If you can't be bothered to read it, I can guarantee you won't get a reply.

What a daft concept, not actually bothering to read what someone's taken the time to write, then moaning because they don't reply.

*Man points loaded gun at head and pulls trigger, wonders why brains get blown out.

E

No, no. You're not grasping what I'm actually saying here.

I've clicked on profiles, read the walls of text, wrote a message specifically for that person only to get my message ignored or deleted.

So, what you're saying is, if there's nothing in your profile that attracts or appeals to me, I've got to reply because you sent "a nice message".

I need to change my outlook on dealing with everything that comes through my letterbox that I've no interest in.

*goes to recover pizza flyers, offers to clean my gutters, double glazing promotions, offers from taxi companies, pensions, life assurance and every other piece of unsolicited crap that arrives from the bin, in order to accept because "they sent a pretty brochure"

E"

But surely, if you’re that explicit about your preferences and someone who fits those preferences has taken time to read your profile and message you, it is only polite to reply?

They’ve taken time out to thoroughly read your profile right?

Understand if they hadn’t and sent a message that has no relevance to you.

Comparing it to flyers is silly really, they haven’t taken time out to read something you’ve written have they?

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

I've got a long one.

As a single male, I need to explain why some one (or two) would want to engage in conversation with me, and hopefully progress to meeting later.

If people can't be bothered to spend 5 minutes to see if I am what they are seeking,and vice versa.

Likewise I always read profiles. I might query if a preference is negotiable e.g. beard and tattoos, when I have a beard but no tattoos yet.

But yes it is frustrating when you read a long profile, fit what they are looking for, and the carefully crafted message still gets ignored.

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By *ickDastardlyMan
over a year ago

North East

I don't mind the length of peoples profile.

I'm happy to learn more about people which makes it easier to know if

A. I fit the bill for someone they are looking for.

B. Easier to craft out a message with more information.

Content matters though, I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone read them?

If someone has a long bio I just cba with it, as lazy as it sounds. Who realistically is going to read an essay just to get their message ignored?

Thoughts? Also if you're a person with a super long bio, why?

The purpose of our biog is to inform our visitors about who we are and what we're looking for.

If you can't be bothered to read it, I can guarantee you won't get a reply.

What a daft concept, not actually bothering to read what someone's taken the time to write, then moaning because they don't reply.

*Man points loaded gun at head and pulls trigger, wonders why brains get blown out.

E

No, no. You're not grasping what I'm actually saying here.

I've clicked on profiles, read the walls of text, wrote a message specifically for that person only to get my message ignored or deleted.

So, what you're saying is, if there's nothing in your profile that attracts or appeals to me, I've got to reply because you sent "a nice message".

I need to change my outlook on dealing with everything that comes through my letterbox that I've no interest in.

*goes to recover pizza flyers, offers to clean my gutters, double glazing promotions, offers from taxi companies, pensions, life assurance and every other piece of unsolicited crap that arrives from the bin, in order to accept because "they sent a pretty brochure"

E

But surely, if you’re that explicit about your preferences and someone who fits those preferences has taken time to read your profile and message you, it is only polite to reply?

They’ve taken time out to thoroughly read your profile right?

Understand if they hadn’t and sent a message that has no relevance to you.

Comparing it to flyers is silly really, they haven’t taken time out to read something you’ve written have they?

"

Imagine getting 100-300 messages a day, Relevant to your profile or not would you have time to deal with them? Until you know what it's like you can't relate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

anything on a profile that has lists of requirements or demands i avoid.

chances are that person will find something to rule you out and they are likely to be up their own backside.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"anything on a profile that has lists of requirements or demands i avoid.

chances are that person will find something to rule you out and they are likely to be up their own backside."

Haha oh dear

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By *izzibeth9Couple
over a year ago

Loughborough


"Does anyone read them?

If someone has a long bio I just cba with it, as lazy as it sounds. Who realistically is going to read an essay just to get their message ignored?

Thoughts? Also if you're a person with a super long bio, why?

The purpose of our biog is to inform our visitors about who we are and what we're looking for.

If you can't be bothered to read it, I can guarantee you won't get a reply.

What a daft concept, not actually bothering to read what someone's taken the time to write, then moaning because they don't reply.

*Man points loaded gun at head and pulls trigger, wonders why brains get blown out.

E

No, no. You're not grasping what I'm actually saying here.

I've clicked on profiles, read the walls of text, wrote a message specifically for that person only to get my message ignored or deleted.

So, what you're saying is, if there's nothing in your profile that attracts or appeals to me, I've got to reply because you sent "a nice message".

I need to change my outlook on dealing with everything that comes through my letterbox that I've no interest in.

*goes to recover pizza flyers, offers to clean my gutters, double glazing promotions, offers from taxi companies, pensions, life assurance and every other piece of unsolicited crap that arrives from the bin, in order to accept because "they sent a pretty brochure"

E

But surely, if you’re that explicit about your preferences and someone who fits those preferences has taken time to read your profile and message you, it is only polite to reply?

They’ve taken time out to thoroughly read your profile right?

Understand if they hadn’t and sent a message that has no relevance to you.

Comparing it to flyers is silly really, they haven’t taken time out to read something you’ve written have they?

Imagine getting 100-300 messages a day, Relevant to your profile or not would you have time to deal with them? Until you know what it's like you can't relate."

I mean, anyone getting 100-300 messages every single day needs to turn on some preferences. For example, if you’re over or under a certain age you can’t message me. The reason for this is because it’s my preference to have someone of a certain age group.

Also I know that single women get lots of messages, but I think it’s probably rare for it to be in the hundreds consistently everyday.

I also don’t blame people for ignoring the odd message, I’ve done it myself when my inbox is full but you can usually tell by the preview if they’ve read your profile, I think those ones are important to respond to even if it’s a polite thanks but no thanks.

I don’t understand how people with long profiles FULL of ‘Don’t do this, don’t do that’ can then be sooo hypocritical to not read and respond to well thought out messages in response to all of their rules.

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By *izzibeth9Couple
over a year ago

Loughborough


"anything on a profile that has lists of requirements or demands i avoid.

chances are that person will find something to rule you out and they are likely to be up their own backside."

I feel the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get 100-200 messages a day with several filters on. Is annoying when many of those people clearly haven't read my bio xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get 100-200 messages a day with several filters on. Is annoying when many of those people clearly haven't read my bio xx"

Apparently if we don't reply to them all we're up our own backsides

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By *izzibeth9Couple
over a year ago

Loughborough


"I get 100-200 messages a day with several filters on. Is annoying when many of those people clearly haven't read my bio xx

Apparently if we don't reply to them all we're up our own backsides "

So far up there you’ve clearly missed my main point....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get 100-200 messages a day with several filters on. Is annoying when many of those people clearly haven't read my bio xx

Apparently if we don't reply to them all we're up our own backsides

So far up there you’ve clearly missed my main point....

"

So far up there to realise I wasn't replying to you

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch


"I get 100-200 messages a day with several filters on. Is annoying when many of those people clearly haven't read my bio xx

Apparently if we don't reply to them all we're up our own backsides "

A lot of single males can't comprehend the difference between their experience of sending out messages, which mostly get ignored (more likely, lost in the crowd) and the experience of single women, TVs and couples who are getting hundreds of messages every day.

Though using a status update to complain, rather than setting filters to reduce the flow does annoy me (general comment, not anyone on this thread.)

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By *izzibeth9Couple
over a year ago

Loughborough


"I get 100-200 messages a day with several filters on. Is annoying when many of those people clearly haven't read my bio xx

Apparently if we don't reply to them all we're up our own backsides

So far up there you’ve clearly missed my main point....

So far up there to realise I wasn't replying to you "

Oh sorry, I wasn’t aware that you were only allowed to reply to comments that were directed at you.

Psst also I’m not up anywhere I’m afraid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get 100-200 messages a day with several filters on. Is annoying when many of those people clearly haven't read my bio xx

Apparently if we don't reply to them all we're up our own backsides

A lot of single males can't comprehend the difference between their experience of sending out messages, which mostly get ignored (more likely, lost in the crowd) and the experience of single women, TVs and couples who are getting hundreds of messages every day.

Though using a status update to complain, rather than setting filters to reduce the flow does annoy me (general comment, not anyone on this thread.)"

I have filters in place but it doesn't stop them as they find ways around it, I don't status or complain I just can't reply to them all as it's impossible, Just a shame people take that personally because it really isn't Xx

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By * Plus ECouple
over a year ago

The South


"Does anyone read them?

If someone has a long bio I just cba with it, as lazy as it sounds. Who realistically is going to read an essay just to get their message ignored?

Thoughts? Also if you're a person with a super long bio, why?

The purpose of our biog is to inform our visitors about who we are and what we're looking for.

If you can't be bothered to read it, I can guarantee you won't get a reply.

What a daft concept, not actually bothering to read what someone's taken the time to write, then moaning because they don't reply.

*Man points loaded gun at head and pulls trigger, wonders why brains get blown out.

E

No, no. You're not grasping what I'm actually saying here.

I've clicked on profiles, read the walls of text, wrote a message specifically for that person only to get my message ignored or deleted.

So, what you're saying is, if there's nothing in your profile that attracts or appeals to me, I've got to reply because you sent "a nice message".

I need to change my outlook on dealing with everything that comes through my letterbox that I've no interest in.

*goes to recover pizza flyers, offers to clean my gutters, double glazing promotions, offers from taxi companies, pensions, life assurance and every other piece of unsolicited crap that arrives from the bin, in order to accept because "they sent a pretty brochure"

E

But surely, if you’re that explicit about your preferences and someone who fits those preferences has taken time to read your profile and message you, it is only polite to reply?

They’ve taken time out to thoroughly read your profile right?

Understand if they hadn’t and sent a message that has no relevance to you.

Comparing it to flyers is silly really, they haven’t taken time out to read something you’ve written have they?

"

Where did I say I don't reply to messages from senders who have read our profile and who meet my preferences? Of course I reply to them.

Some people don't read profiles. Some people don't read thread posts either.

The junk mail example is totally valid, that's exactly what 99% of the mail we get.

Bennys pizza haven't bothered to ask if I'm interested in pizza have they? They're spam mailing, hope to get a bite.

E

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By * Plus ECouple
over a year ago

The South


"I don't mind the length of peoples profile.

I'm happy to learn more about people which makes it easier to know if

A. I fit the bill for someone they are looking for.

B. Easier to craft out a message with more information.

Content matters though, I think. "

It's not you that decides if you for the bill. It's me.

Just because you think youre a perfect match, we probably don't.

To be honest, your responses here show a total misunderstanding about connection and attraction and a high sense of entitlement.

E

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By *renzMan
over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant

When I view a profile I will look to see their age preferences then whether the male is no or straight. Not because I have a problem with them being bi, but because I assume they probably would prefer a bi male also. Then I will read the wording. All of it. It will generally tell you what they are like and what they are looking for. This will decide me on whether to message. I prefer a long profile to a short one because it gives more information. Short ones smack of laziness or perhaps a certain amount of self importance. Some of the funniest, most informative have been those that take a minute or two to read rather than those you can see in 10 seconds.

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By *izzibeth9Couple
over a year ago

Loughborough


"Does anyone read them?

If someone has a long bio I just cba with it, as lazy as it sounds. Who realistically is going to read an essay just to get their message ignored?

Thoughts? Also if you're a person with a super long bio, why?

The purpose of our biog is to inform our visitors about who we are and what we're looking for.

If you can't be bothered to read it, I can guarantee you won't get a reply.

What a daft concept, not actually bothering to read what someone's taken the time to write, then moaning because they don't reply.

*Man points loaded gun at head and pulls trigger, wonders why brains get blown out.

E

No, no. You're not grasping what I'm actually saying here.

I've clicked on profiles, read the walls of text, wrote a message specifically for that person only to get my message ignored or deleted.

So, what you're saying is, if there's nothing in your profile that attracts or appeals to me, I've got to reply because you sent "a nice message".

I need to change my outlook on dealing with everything that comes through my letterbox that I've no interest in.

*goes to recover pizza flyers, offers to clean my gutters, double glazing promotions, offers from taxi companies, pensions, life assurance and every other piece of unsolicited crap that arrives from the bin, in order to accept because "they sent a pretty brochure"

E

But surely, if you’re that explicit about your preferences and someone who fits those preferences has taken time to read your profile and message you, it is only polite to reply?

They’ve taken time out to thoroughly read your profile right?

Understand if they hadn’t and sent a message that has no relevance to you.

Comparing it to flyers is silly really, they haven’t taken time out to read something you’ve written have they?

Where did I say I don't reply to messages from senders who have read our profile and who meet my preferences? Of course I reply to them.

Some people don't read profiles. Some people don't read thread posts either.

The junk mail example is totally valid, that's exactly what 99% of the mail we get.

Bennys pizza haven't bothered to ask if I'm interested in pizza have they? They're spam mailing, hope to get a bite.

E"

‘ Where did I say I don't reply to messages from senders who have read our profile and who meet my preferences? Of course I reply to them.’ - Errm because the guy you were replying to said....

‘I've clicked on profiles, read the walls of text, wrote a message specifically for that person only to get my message ignored or deleted.’

And your response was...

‘So, what you're saying is, if there's nothing in your profile that attracts or appeals to me, I've got to reply because you sent "a nice message".’

Not sure which part I’ve not read correctly...

As I stated before, I don’t blame people for having a long bio or even for ignoring messages (alas even I've done this as I know it may be hard to realise it but I’m not perfect)

I just personally think it’s a bit rude to have a long profile that you expect people to read to then ignore those that do read it.

All jokes aside, those of you that are offended by my opinion I apologise that you feel that way, but also the world would be a boring place if we all had the same opinions

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By *aughtyYorkGentMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I really don't get this. Why would anyone not read to the end of the profile of a person they're interested in sleeping with? Sure some bios are long, some are ranty, and if you reach mention of something that's a deal breaker (either way) there's no point in continuing. But to get to the stage of sending a message without reading everything? Surely that involves a lot more wasted time then merely reading and digesting a full profile? Or are more people than I realised just adopting the scattergun "fancy a fuck?" approach?

As a single guy I feel I need all the help I can get to stand out. To me, "meaty" profiles are a help with that. It's like doing an exam, with a list of hints. If anything, I wish many women would give more information, as one of my biggest gripes is not knowing how to craft a meaningful message to someone who has only written a sentence or so about themself.

Obviously a well-written, tailored message is no guarantee of success, but at least you should pass the first stage in an often long and frustrating process!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I really don't get this. Why would anyone not read to the end of the profile of a person they're interested in sleeping with? Sure some bios are long, some are ranty, and if you reach mention of something that's a deal breaker (either way) there's no point in continuing. But to get to the stage of sending a message without reading everything? Surely that involves a lot more wasted time then merely reading and digesting a full profile? Or are more people than I realised just adopting the scattergun "fancy a fuck?" approach?

As a single guy I feel I need all the help I can get to stand out. To me, "meaty" profiles are a help with that. It's like doing an exam, with a list of hints. If anything, I wish many women would give more information, as one of my biggest gripes is not knowing how to craft a meaningful message to someone who has only written a sentence or so about themself.

Obviously a well-written, tailored message is no guarantee of success, but at least you should pass the first stage in an often long and frustrating process!!"

If guys put as much effort into their messages that they do in their forum paragraphs they would probably get a lot further

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'm physically attracted to someone, I welcome a long profile that tells me about them. I take the time to read it.

People are free to run their profiles as they wish. No reply from me means a polite no thanks and this is stated on my profile. I'm not sure why so many people feel that they're entitled to a reply or a meet. Especially when they send a faceless "Fancy a fuck?" Message. Site rules state that no reply means "No thank you", as does my profile.

I've tried replying to thoughtful messages in the past but often get questioned on why they're not my type, or even abuse

Those with very negative/ranty long profiles are helpful just like the positive, humorous or informative ones. For me, both offer some insight.

Ultimately those who I'm interested in and have read my profile will get a reply. Those who don't get a reply will know why as it's stated on my profile

Personally, I like a long, insightful profile

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By *rank speakerMan
over a year ago

Worcester


"Does anyone read them?

If someone has a long bio I just cba with it, as lazy as it sounds. Who realistically is going to read an essay just to get their message ignored?

Thoughts? Also if you're a person with a super long bio, why? "

I wouldn't call mine super long. However as a single male I feel it's up to me to let anyone I know who may be interested in meeting as much as possible in the hope it may catch their attention. After all, it's my'shop window '?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have one, since I like to tell people about myself and what I'm looking for, that way, they'll know if we're compatible.

And yes, people do read it, it's always obvious when they don't and their messages get deleted.

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Mines longish and only takes a min to read

It's obvious when someone hadn't read it, so I just delete

It's a good filter tbh

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By *lasphemouscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

Ours is longish but we read profiles too xx

If someone took the time to write it I'm happy to read it

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I suppose mine is fairly long, especially when reading on a phone.

If it's too long for someone who might otherwise be interested, they are obviously not for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't mind the length of peoples profile.

I'm happy to learn more about people which makes it easier to know if

A. I fit the bill for someone they are looking for.

B. Easier to craft out a message with more information.

Content matters though, I think.

It's not you that decides if you for the bill. It's me.

Just because you think youre a perfect match, we probably don't.

To be honest, your responses here show a total misunderstanding about connection and attraction and a high sense of entitlement.

E"

Why be so rude about him?

He is clearly saying that he reads profiles to see if the person is looking for someone like him. At no point has he said they HAVE to fuck him.

He is the one being respectful. You are the one being entitled.

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By *luttonousGirlTV/TS
over a year ago

Burnhope

I do as I like to know all the ins and outs of the people I want to play with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me, someone too lazy to read a profile = lazy in bedroom. Not what I’m looking for.

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

My profile is long, and according to some people, ranty (if they read all of it they’d see that’s not entirely the case). Some men have messaged me purely to tell me what a cunt I am for my profile. Which is always fun.

But OP asked why have a long profile, so this is why I do: it’s a filter. Yes, I’m well aware that there are message filters, and I use them. What I mean by filter is 1) I can tell at a glance if someone has read it (I don’t need a keyword for that) and if they haven’t, I delete; 2) if they have read (any of) it, but their message or profile shows that they’ve only bothered with the bits they like, I know not to bother; 3) seriously, if it’s too much hard work to read the damn thing, we’re really not going to be compatible.

It’s also hugely reduced the amount of messages I get, which is fine by me. I don’t want 100s of messages a day, it’s easier to spot the good ones when you only get 10-20.

If someone reads all mine and writes a decent message based on it, but I’m not interested in them, I’ll usually reply to say so.

Oh, and if requirements like “good personal hygiene” and “don’t be selfish in bed” mean I have my head up my arse then so be it lol.

When it comes to other people’s profiles, I love longer profiles. I hate “fill in later” and “just ask” profiles, it’s lazy and that doesn’t fill me with confidence about what a meet would be like with that person. I always read the profile of anyone who messages me, and if there’s something to read and it’s interesting to me, I’m much more likely to reply.

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By *anda and CatCouple
over a year ago

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We've just added to ours over time to try and clarify what we want. Pretty obvious though when no one bothers reading our profile but it's an easy get out by saying have a read of our profile. The non compatible profiles don't tend to message back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn’t matter how long or short a profile is, there will be some who don’t read it

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

Mine's so long it probably bores people to death (which is pretty much what I do on real life, too, so they can't say they weren't warned)

But so what? It's my profile and I can do what I like with it. Some that have read it have said it's good, and that's enough for me.

Also cuts down the messages to a manageable zero a day

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land

There is nothing worse than finding someone yummy in a pic only for there too be nothing in the profile

Without something in the profile I simply don't message, no matter how fit and or good any image.

With a decent profile im able to find commonalities and have an idea how to start a conversation

Run your profile as you will but give me nothing to work with and I'll find someone else that has invested time and effort

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My profile is simple but longish, just explains my desires and what I want.... Best to be upfront rather than several messages just to find out I'm not what you want

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

If you are seeking to play with a couple then you must understand that they have to protect their relationship, they are inviting you into there sex life at the end of the day, and are not just going to invite any tom dick and Harry. So if folks can't be bothered to read our profile, why should we bother to reply to your msg...it's simple.

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"Does anyone read them?

If someone has a long bio I just cba with it, as lazy as it sounds. Who realistically is going to read an essay just to get their message ignored?

Thoughts? Also if you're a person with a super long bio, why? "

If you read the "essay," you might find that your messages are not ignored as often.

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"No, no. You're not grasping what I'm actually saying here.

I've clicked on profiles, read the walls of text, wrote a message specifically for that person only to get my message ignored or deleted."

You mean they had the nerve to not want to meet with you?!

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By *hocolate37Man
over a year ago

Heathrow

OP, would you buy a car on the basis of a single pic, with just details of the make and model?

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Not if it's too long. The one with different chapters would take about 1/2 hour to read

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is our profile too long? Possibly.

That's for others to decide, and also up to others whether they want to message or not.

However, we have set our profile out with certain things we insist on, should someone decide to ignore what we say, then they shouldn't expect a favourable response from us, if any.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I aways read them, it's filtering for women/couples, often includes a lists of wants, desires or gives details about character, they know if you've not read it.

I read every one and I probably get replies to 85-90% of my messages, often no thanks, but many of those keep messaging for conversation.

Bottom line, the couple of minutes it takes to read them may lead to more.

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By *onkyLemonsCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

A little effort goes a long way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A little effort goes a long way "

Case in point, "Banterrific" is definitely a real word that will make its way into my lexicon.

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By *onkyLemonsCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"A little effort goes a long way

Case in point, "Banterrific" is definitely a real word that will make its way into my lexicon. "

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

Our bio is a bit of a read but it's been written for the benefit of people viewing us and who may want to contact us. It states exactly what we are looking for and what we are about so if someone can't be arsed to have a few minutes to read what we've wrote then they shouldn't be surprised or pissed of if they get shot down in our inbox

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

If it doesn’t fit into a single page in my phone I just move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone read them?

If someone has a long bio I just cba with it, as lazy as it sounds. Who realistically is going to read an essay just to get their message ignored?

Thoughts? Also if you're a person with a super long bio, why? "

Yes, I do read profiles.

I like long reading interesting dialogues. Just like I like a long text it shows they are keen to get you interested in them.

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford


"A little effort goes a long way "

Excellent profile

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford


"Does anyone read them?

If someone has a long bio I just cba with it, as lazy as it sounds. Who realistically is going to read an essay just to get their message ignored?

Thoughts? Also if you're a person with a super long bio, why? "

Oddly enough, if you read a profile and tailor a message (instead of simply looking at photos and letting your dick type "hey how are u?") then you're much less likely to have a message deleted and not replied to.

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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago

Southampton

Mine was short to start with, then I started getting asked the same questions so I just included the info in my profile, so maybe a bit long now

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Mine is longish, but it’s done in a way that you only have to read to the bit that pertains to you. The rest is just extra.

However even a paragraph isn’t read by some on here. Then they send a friend request etc...get shirty with me when I ignore it. I mention that there’s a reason why and it’s on my profile. Do I get an apology, obviously not in most cases.

Long profiles are there for a reason, past experience

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By *olidOak85Couple
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"I have a long profile so people can see exactly what I'm looking for, and gage if it is worth their time sending a message.

It saves on rejection and also they can see if they feel that they would be suited to me and my preferences on how and where I meet.

If they decide not to read it is clear in their message and not an issue to me, if they weren't interested enough to read my profile then I presume they are not that interested in me anyway and therefore I don't feel any need to reply.

I have explained in my profile that if I don't feel it's a good use of time I won't reply but they wont have read that anyway.

I'm more likely to be compatible with people who have invested time into their profile, the content of someone's profile will definitely help me feel interested in them enough to message or not."

Agree

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

The way I see it is this.

If my profile bores ya, then I'll bore or you'll bore me. Simple.

My profile represents me and my feelings, my views on life etc, if ya can't be arsed to read it then still send a message, I think that's lazy as fuck and actually really disrespectful.

You may as well have your own bio stating "I'm not interested in you as a person, I only see you as a hole to fill"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope short and sweet, its what messaging and getting to know people is about x

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By *onkyLemonsCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"A little effort goes a long way

Excellent profile "

Thank you!

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool


"Wow

If you cba reading everything that a couple/profile has to say, so that you get an insight in to those you’re trying to meet what on Earth makes you think that you’re the type of people that others want to get naked with?

Better yet, just send the message so it will be ignored anyway

No. You don't understand what I'm saying.

I come across loads of profiles with walls of text. Usually filled with pointless details. Personally, I think it's arrogance.

Imagine reading a profile that's basically an essay. Then messaging the person only to have your message ignored or deleted.

"

Arrogance is you not reading it, messaging pretending you have and filling inboxes with dick pics and words of no substance.

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By *isspurplechesterWoman
over a year ago

Chester

Mine is a long profile, not only because I'm a dyslexic rambler, but for me it's important to be very clear on what I'm looking for, and to give the person reading it an insight as to who I am, after all I may not be for them. I don't have the time to be messaging someone for days on end, only to find out that we're not compatible! If someone doesn't read my profile all the way through, then simply they're not for me anyways. I'd rather have one message from someone who has fully read my profile, than a hundred from people who clearly haven't. All personal preference right, no right or wrong in my eyes. Haha I knew this would be a long reply x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All boils down to peoples sense of entitlement, of which too many folks on here have a high sense of.

A worthy tip I feel, is to leave it behind when you log on.

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.

Ours is long, if you read it, you’ll get who we are. If it’s too long and puts you off, it’s done it’s job!

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By *onty1971Man
over a year ago

London St Helier Trier

You have to read the profile to see if you filter in or out of their preferences. Otherwise no point in writing a personalised message.

You might be in scope for them by the time you get to the end but you might have found something that turns you off. So saves time and disappointment.

Well in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bio is reasonably long but chatting info is at the beginning.

If you take note of what I ask, you will get a reply. Lazy messages get ignored.

Only people really interested in me will read the full bio.

when they do and are still interested hopefully they will include something I have said to get a chat going.

Nothing worse than "Got a big cock me and mrs Fuck Bios".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I aways read them, it's filtering for women/couples, often includes a lists of wants, desires or gives details about character, they know if you've not read it.

I read every one and I probably get replies to 85-90% of my messages, often no thanks, but many of those keep messaging for conversation.

Bottom line, the couple of minutes it takes to read them may lead to more. "

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)


"Our bio is a bit of a read but it's been written for the benefit of people viewing us and who may want to contact us. It states exactly what we are looking for and what we are about so if someone can't be arsed to have a few minutes to read what we've wrote then they shouldn't be surprised or pissed of if they get shot down in our inbox "

Some folks on here are their own worst enemy.

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

If you cba to read my profile then I'll know from messages, if you cba then I cba to put effort in.

No skin off my nose.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Does anyone read them?

If someone has a long bio I just cba with it, as lazy as it sounds. Who realistically is going to read an essay just to get their message ignored?

Thoughts? Also if you're a person with a super long bio, why? "

People run their profiles as they see fit. If you don’t like them just move onto the next profile...

Mine has a few lines of text in it but I care not what people think about it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My old profile stated which I thought was the best flavour of Monster Munch which ended up in several clashes of personalities which led to blockages. Mind boggling stuff.

That is actually true as well

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

Profile bios are like CV, meaningless.

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest


"Profile bios are like CV, meaningless. "
us like many others would disagree but each to there own and all that

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Profile bios are like CV, meaningless. "

Bullshit. I put plenty of meaning into mine.

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Profile bios are like CV, meaningless.

Bullshit. I put plenty of meaning into mine."

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By *heGentleman2024Man
over a year ago

North West

I think its quite important..it gives me an indication of what the person is like..id like to see what they are into..a little glimpse of that person..sure the photos would spark my intrest..but reading about them adds massively to my curiousity and gives me grounds to actually have a decent conversation..Mines quite long and to be honest it has always payed off..

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

Whilst I don't necessarily want to read War & Peace, I do like a profile to have enough information on it to give me an idea of what the person or people behind the profile are like. If there are only a couple of very generic lines of text then it's very unlikely to capture my interest.

K

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

If it's obvious in a message they haven't read my profile, i don't bother with a reply.

No code words required as proof though

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

Has it occurred to you that if you cba reading a person's profile you are probably exactly not what they're looking for. It's therefore a very effective filter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has it occurred to you that if you cba reading a person's profile you are probably exactly not what they're looking for. It's therefore a very effective filter."

This exactly sums it up

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