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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

To be honest this has been spurned from the GP thread... and I thought that I didn't really want to take that one off topic too much.

Anyway, it arose on there that some people really actually think that if they are using condoms that you do not need to go and get tested at a gum clinic.

I am sorry but I take a lot of grief at times for the fact that I will on occasion go bareback.. but I take great responsibility for my sexual health. I get on very well with both my local clinics, and my GP on this subject.

I can not actually believe that in this day and age anyone would still believe that wearing condoms means you don't need testing. It makes it safer, but if your having multiple partners..BARE OR SAFE, then you need a check.

How often should be your own decision and for me it will vary to how much we have played and how we have played but the longest it gets left is 3 months... and to be fair as Master and I get checked at intervals it would only really be 6 weeks really...

I know some people find it odd that I can preach safe sex when I have lots of group things... but I do take care of my sexual health.

To those that think that by using condoms your okay and don't need a test.. Get over your shame and get to the clinic.. before you get a nasty surprise. Its not scary and it is peace of mind.

How would you honestly feel if you realised you had been infecting people.... Not being tested isnt really an excuse.

Most admit on here to not using it for oral too... and that in itself carries some risks.. so get the throat swabs too.. You will also be offered some immunisations that will help protect you.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just because condoms are being used doesnt make it safe for you NOT get STD's and if people think that then they a stupid l get checked out alot and know lm clean.People can even have infections without even knowing so if you are having alot of partners no matter what you must get checked and l bet theres alot out there that dont and spoil it for others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is worrying that any person, of any age, on a swinging site does not regularly get checked.

You may think that your partners are being honest with you when they say you are their only one or they use bin bags instead of condoms just to be sure but not everyone is honest.

I know you cant trust everyone but I'd like to think that the majority of people are being responsbile and that the minority that are left....lets hope you don't find out the hard way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

To be honest anyone on here that isnt grown up enough to go get tested shouldnt be on here..

The only reason I get so heated on this topic to be fair is that its the one subject I find it hard to say "its their life". As if your not being tested potentially its not just your life your screwing with.

I admit whole heartedly that I am in high risk area because I take lots of CIM, I sometimes have creampies, and the sheer volume of partners I will have at a time.

However, even if I was just with one person, I would still get tested.. not because I don't trust them, but to be honest you can catch things in many many ways.. and to be fair the people I know that have ended up with bad complications are those that have been in serious relationships, and its been the partner that cheated and brought home a std.

I play how I want because I understand the risks.. I know that playing bare is risky, but sometimes take the risks.. same as with cim... but I get myself checked regular.

Even the months where I only use condoms for penetrative sex... I get checked.

Why... because I don't worry so much about myself catching something.. but I worry about the fact that potentially if I didnt get checked I could pass it on to lots of people. Its okay for me to take my risks... but I am not going to overly risk others..

Please people.. do get checked.. the clinics are friendly places... and yes its daunting the first time... but after a while it will just be like any other medical procedure.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be honest anyone on here that isnt grown up enough to go get tested shouldnt be on here..

The only reason I get so heated on this topic to be fair is that its the one subject I find it hard to say "its their life". As if your not being tested potentially its not just your life your screwing with.

I admit whole heartedly that I am in high risk area because I take lots of CIM, I sometimes have creampies, and the sheer volume of partners I will have at a time.

However, even if I was just with one person, I would still get tested.. not because I don't trust them, but to be honest you can catch things in many many ways.. and to be fair the people I know that have ended up with bad complications are those that have been in serious relationships, and its been the partner that cheated and brought home a std.

I play how I want because I understand the risks.. I know that playing bare is risky, but sometimes take the risks.. same as with cim... but I get myself checked regular.

Even the months where I only use condoms for penetrative sex... I get checked.

Why... because I don't worry so much about myself catching something.. but I worry about the fact that potentially if I didnt get checked I could pass it on to lots of people. Its okay for me to take my risks... but I am not going to overly risk others..

Please people.. do get checked.. the clinics are friendly places... and yes its daunting the first time... but after a while it will just be like any other medical procedure.

Cali "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Were are still newbies but rest assured we are going to be checked on a regular basis although we are married I dont know where to start explaining why we are being tested!!!? Lol this is going to get tricky

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Were are still newbies but rest assured we are going to be checked on a regular basis although we are married I dont know where to start explaining why we are being tested!!!? Lol this is going to get tricky "

no... The clinic are not really bothered.. but I always find it best to be honest with them.. for one they offer me more.. and it just means that I get a better range of tests.

Think of it like a mot for yourselves. Really does make me smile when I am in the clinic and someone comes in for the first time.. you can always tell lol

but seriously.. EVERYONE is there for the same basic reason..

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Were are still newbies but rest assured we are going to be checked on a regular basis although we are married I dont know where to start explaining why we are being tested!!!? Lol this is going to get tricky "

doesnt really matter why. i just think its extremly responsible for people to do regularly. no one is able to not catch something its a risk for all of us and we all should protect ourselves and others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Were are still newbies but rest assured we are going to be checked on a regular basis although we are married I dont know where to start explaining why we are being tested!!!? Lol this is going to get tricky

no... The clinic are not really bothered.. but I always find it best to be honest with them.. for one they offer me more.. and it just means that I get a better range of tests.

Think of it like a mot for yourselves. Really does make me smile when I am in the clinic and someone comes in for the first time.. you can always tell lol

but seriously.. EVERYONE is there for the same basic reason..

Cali "

Lol I know I'll be fine, these things usually don't phase me although when I get nervous I jabber on, I'll be coming out with all sorts of details!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Were are still newbies but rest assured we are going to be checked on a regular basis although we are married I dont know where to start explaining why we are being tested!!!? Lol this is going to get tricky

no... The clinic are not really bothered.. but I always find it best to be honest with them.. for one they offer me more.. and it just means that I get a better range of tests.

Think of it like a mot for yourselves. Really does make me smile when I am in the clinic and someone comes in for the first time.. you can always tell lol

but seriously.. EVERYONE is there for the same basic reason..

Cali

Lol I know I'll be fine, these things usually don't phase me although when I get nervous I jabber on, I'll be coming out with all sorts of details!!! "

lol theyve probably heard it all before lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I am not sure if my clinic think I am serious or joking when they ask me how many partners.. but to be fair they have a laugh with me..

I only go there if I dont have a doctors check needed.. as I have gynae issues that means I am checked at the doctors a lot.. but to be honest doctor or clinic they are fine..

although we did once have a trainee in and I had 3 group sessions in the week before I went.. I think it was nearly 100 men in that month. She dropped the clip board.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am not sure if my clinic think I am serious or joking when they ask me how many partners.. but to be fair they have a laugh with me..

I only go there if I dont have a doctors check needed.. as I have gynae issues that means I am checked at the doctors a lot.. but to be honest doctor or clinic they are fine..

although we did once have a trainee in and I had 3 group sessions in the week before I went.. I think it was nearly 100 men in that month. She dropped the clip board.

Cali "

Haha I bet you opened her eyes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am not sure if my clinic think I am serious or joking when they ask me how many partners.. but to be fair they have a laugh with me..

I only go there if I dont have a doctors check needed.. as I have gynae issues that means I am checked at the doctors a lot.. but to be honest doctor or clinic they are fine..

although we did once have a trainee in and I had 3 group sessions in the week before I went.. I think it was nearly 100 men in that month. She dropped the clip board.

Cali "

haha poor girl lol i never even approach the subject i just tell them wanting another check up and that ive had a few partners or ive had unprotected. (only unprotected with long term etc)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The nurse that I see first knows me.. she is a regular at a greedy girls night herself.. lol...

but its just amusing when their are newbies in their.. It doesnt bother me at all what they think..

I don't worry as I am just there to be responsible and grown up about my sexual antics.

But yes it does add to the fun for me that people don't know whether to take me serious or not.

Cali

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

I'm not slamming getting tested (far from it) but surely it means you were only clean on the day you were tested?

You could be tested as being 'clean' at the clinic, play the next day and pick something up then, 4 weeks down the line and 2 weeks before your next test (but extolling your clean status as per last GUM visit) pass that onto someone else.

Using condoms doesn't necessarily mean you're free of STDs - neither does a clear test you had 5 weeks ago if you're active.

Just playing the devil's advocate here

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By *ohjaneCouple
over a year ago

south staffs

Well said Cali, and thanks for once again bringing this very important subject up.

Unfortunately you, me and all the others who agree, are preaching to the converted. The people who NEED to read this are the new people who think this site is a sure way to a quick fuck, and they are never found reading forums !

They think they are clear because " they have only ever been in long term relationships", or "never met any swingers yet", or "always play safe" meaning that they stick a welly on for penetration but go bare for anything else and still think they are fully "protected" !!

How can we get this message out to the people who need to hear it ?

All good ideas will be passed on to the management.

Jane x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm not slamming getting tested (far from it) but surely it means you were only clean on the day you were tested?

You could be tested as being 'clean' at the clinic, play the next day and pick something up then, 4 weeks down the line and 2 weeks before your next test (but extolling your clean status as per last GUM visit) pass that onto someone else.

Using condoms doesn't necessarily mean you're free of STDs - neither does a clear test you had 5 weeks ago if you're active.

Just playing the devil's advocate here "

yes that is how it is.. I will get my results and maybe have 30-40 guys the week after.. to be fair I would say on average between testing full sex would be about 5-10 guys in that time.. bare... mostly just Master ( but maybe 2-3 times a year that I will with another) and about 50plus orally in between tests..

So yes to be fair I could catch something inbetween... but that is why I personally go often.

To be honest there are times I have been twice in a month.. which is why I have to be honest with the clinic.

They wont refuse to test you that often.. but they want to know its not just you being paranoid.

although to be honest even I sometimes use different clinics.

cali

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By *ohjaneCouple
over a year ago

south staffs

You have to have a base line to work from, that is why check-ups work.

Yes, it is possible to pick up something the week after but at least you then have only the number of people SINCE the test to worry about as opposed to 6 months or a year's worth !

Jane x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not slamming getting tested (far from it) but surely it means you were only clean on the day you were tested?

You could be tested as being 'clean' at the clinic, play the next day and pick something up then, 4 weeks down the line and 2 weeks before your next test (but extolling your clean status as per last GUM visit) pass that onto someone else.

Using condoms doesn't necessarily mean you're free of STDs - neither does a clear test you had 5 weeks ago if you're active.

Just playing the devil's advocate here "

which is why everyone should be checked regularly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im glad there is much better information and advice on this thread. its all about education no ones too old or too young to learn something new and if it helps you cut risks down and be a responsible adult with your sexual health (and other areas in ur life)then its allll good enjoy and play safe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and it takes 2 weeks for most STI's to show on a test after the contact

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By *ont Ask Dont GetWoman
over a year ago

amersham

Last time I got tested, the receptionist was an old friend of my daughter's and the nurse was her mum! Slightly embarassing but, hey, gotta be done!

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By *ohjaneCouple
over a year ago

south staffs


"Were are still newbies but rest assured we are going to be checked on a regular basis although we are married I dont know where to start explaining why we are being tested!!!? Lol this is going to get tricky "

Hi Fanny and Balls

It doesn't matter what you tell the clinic. Tell them whatever you are comfortable with.

The clinic wants you there and they can give you even better service if they know what you get up to.

I have told mine that we swing and we get a full work-up including mouth swabs

every time.

Jane x

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By *aughtynigel02121980Man
over a year ago

Brandon

Here is another angle about when using condoms. I always practice safe sex as have had a couple of scares over the years. Now when wearing a condom and a guy is having sex with a woman who gets really wet. The reason why I mention this is i have noticed the condom very wet inside. This isnt pre cum either. There is a chance of catching something that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you would drive a car with out geting the tyers checked reguler

most people when they leave there home lock the door then double check to make shure its locked

when i turn the gas stove off i check to make shure the gas has gone out

so why have sex with a stranger or strangers and not get your self checked out its stupid the way some think they can use a condom and be 100% safe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you would drive a car with out geting the tyers checked reguler

most people when they leave there home lock the door then double check to make shure its locked

when i turn the gas stove off i check to make shure the gas has gone out

so why have sex with a stranger or strangers and not get your self checked out its stupid the way some think they can use a condom and be 100% safe "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here is another angle about when using condoms. I always practice safe sex as have had a couple of scares over the years. Now when wearing a condom and a guy is having sex with a woman who gets really wet. The reason why I mention this is i have noticed the condom very wet inside. This isnt pre cum either. There is a chance of catching something that way "

we have had it ware the guys condom roled forward and the condom although it didnt come off ended up going inside Jane so he wasnt completly covered yet another reason for reguler testing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't believe how naive some people are about sex and sexual health. I have had to walk away from a conversation with a woman in her 50's this week at work as she feels that she could not possibly have an STD as she only has monogamous relationships...the fact that relationships is plural, and the man she is currently seeing is married seems to have completely slipped her mind!

She was basically saying that anyone who has casual sex must be riddled...I left the conversation before telling her exactly how stupid she was being as I just could not believe someone of her age and intelligence could be so stupid! I didn't think it would be wise to tell her my sexual history in front of all the sales lads, but I must admit I did struggle to bite my tongue! x

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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago

with the moon n stars somewhere in gtr manc

it has really opened my eyes more this evening than ever before reading forums.

I look after my sexual health and hope others do. ( I am not meeting btw but like to keep a hand in, so to speak) So find it fascinating how some people can be ignorant to their own or sexual partners sexual health. Just play safe, whether it be testing every couple of months or whatever, just be aware of your own sexual health!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't believe how naive some people are about sex and sexual health. I have had to walk away from a conversation with a woman in her 50's this week at work as she feels that she could not possibly have an STD as she only has monogamous relationships...the fact that relationships is plural, and the man she is currently seeing is married seems to have completely slipped her mind!

She was basically saying that anyone who has casual sex must be riddled...I left the conversation before telling her exactly how stupid she was being as I just could not believe someone of her age and intelligence could be so stupid! I didn't think it would be wise to tell her my sexual history in front of all the sales lads, but I must admit I did struggle to bite my tongue! x"

I know someone like that! She seems to think that at 'her age' she'll be fine. In fact a lot of people think the same. Apparently if the other person says they are 'safe'... then they are.

It only takes once...!

Thank you for posting this Cali. Interesting to see who has/ who hasn't posted on it.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really wish someone would tell me how the testing works. This is what I do, I go without sex for 2 weeks get tested then go without for another 2 weeks but I keep seeing things about how some get tested every cpl weeks or so and I'm just so confused.

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria


"I really wish someone would tell me how the testing works. This is what I do, I go without sex for 2 weeks get tested then go without for another 2 weeks but I keep seeing things about how some get tested every cpl weeks or so and I'm just so confused. "

I was at the clap clinic last Friday, had the full range of swabs, throat, vag n backside plus bloods (only took 3 goes to get my blood, I've not got very good veins) and the nurse told me to abstain from unprotected sex for 2 weeks till the results come in.....told her I don't do BB, she was happy with that, and wasn't bothered that I hadn't abstained for 2 weeks previously...I go every 6 months but considering changing it to every 3 seeing as the nurse ran out of space on my list of sexual partners (and tbh, my memory ain't what it used to be), but she said so long as I could contact all of them if needs be then no problem.....also talked about the oral without question and she congratulated me on being a good condom user for penetrative sex and agreed the risk from oral was less......end of the day, it's a personal risk assessment, if you want to abstain 2 weeks either side fair do's

Bonus was about 50 free condoms and a coupla dozen sachets of lube so that's another plus to going more frequently

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I had to explain to someone what the HPV jab is for - she was suggesting that men should only play with women who've had it cos they were putting themselves at risk.

So thats men putting themselves at risk of cervical cancer...

Now I'm an idiot since I'm not prepared to pay ?500 for a jab which has a lower rate of efficacy in the over 25s and may give me no protection at all if I have been exposed to (though I may not have or be a carrier of) the virus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've only just read the GP thread.

Just... wow.........

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I've only just read the GP thread.

Just... wow......... "

Yep. I wrote my last post and then had to go somewhere. I wondered if I'd been a little harsh. Just reread and nope, I was rational, informed and concerned.

Anyway, best not rehash or I'll get three days off

Educate yourself, decide what risks you are happy to take, and if you're sexually active at all get a six month health check for peace of mind - wherever you choose to do it. Some of us choose to get checked more often, but as long as you know that not everything has symptoms and some of our sexual partners (,even those closest to us) may lie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've only just read the GP thread.

Just... wow.........

Yep. I wrote my last post and then had to go somewhere. I wondered if I'd been a little harsh. Just reread and nope, I was rational, informed and concerned.

Anyway, best not rehash or I'll get three days off

Educate yourself, decide what risks you are happy to take, and if you're sexually active at all get a six month health check for peace of mind - wherever you choose to do it. Some of us choose to get checked more often, but as long as you know that not everything has symptoms and some of our sexual partners (,even those closest to us) may lie."

I wouldnt like to comment too much either lol. But I read the whole thing looking like this.

Didn't think you or others were harsh at all. Fair reaction from all but one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've only just read the GP thread.

Just... wow.........

Yep. I wrote my last post and then had to go somewhere. I wondered if I'd been a little harsh. Just reread and nope, I was rational, informed and concerned.

Anyway, best not rehash or I'll get three days off

Educate yourself, decide what risks you are happy to take, and if you're sexually active at all get a six month health check for peace of mind - wherever you choose to do it. Some of us choose to get checked more often, but as long as you know that not everything has symptoms and some of our sexual partners (,even those closest to us) may lie."
i too thought maybe i was bit harsh but then kept re-reading incase i had misread etc lol but every time i just thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I really wish someone would tell me how the testing works. This is what I do, I go without sex for 2 weeks get tested then go without for another 2 weeks but I keep seeing things about how some get tested every cpl weeks or so and I'm just so confused. "
the only way you would need tested every couple of weeks is if you have ever picked something up or your getting a fals positive other than that every 6 months deppending on how active you are is enough we dont play that often now as Jane dont get alot of spare time due to work so 6 months is plenty for us unless the guy phones us if hes had a bad result that happend to us last year and it took 4 months to get the all clear due to one of us getting a fals positive but we refused to play till we got the all clear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it safe to come out and post now? It seems my last thread ummmm well........

Being new to swinging I've just had my very first full screening check at the gum clinic and it wasn't as embarrassing as I thought it would be, although I wasn't quite truthful about the number of partners or my name but hey you can do that and as long as I know who I've fucked its fine. I have also abstained until I get my results tomorrow.

So if there is anyone out there who hasn't yet been screened go because it isn't bad.

I wish I had asked for condoms though!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cali have you ever thought of writing a book?

A ghost writer will actually write it and you just talk.

I can see it selling well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cali have you ever thought of writing a book?

A ghost writer will actually write it and you just talk.

I can see it selling well "

And it would be better than that dumb shadey grey book!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I really wish someone would tell me how the testing works. This is what I do, I go without sex for 2 weeks get tested then go without for another 2 weeks but I keep seeing things about how some get tested every cpl weeks or so and I'm just so confused.

I was at the clap clinic last Friday, had the full range of swabs, throat, vag n backside plus bloods (only took 3 goes to get my blood, I've not got very good veins) and the nurse told me to abstain from unprotected sex for 2 weeks till the results come in.....told her I don't do BB, she was happy with that, and wasn't bothered that I hadn't abstained for 2 weeks previously...I go every 6 months but considering changing it to every 3 seeing as the nurse ran out of space on my list of sexual partners (and tbh, my memory ain't what it used to be), but she said so long as I could contact all of them if needs be then no problem.....also talked about the oral without question and she congratulated me on being a good condom user for penetrative sex and agreed the risk from oral was less......end of the day, it's a personal risk assessment, if you want to abstain 2 weeks either side fair do's

Bonus was about 50 free condoms and a coupla dozen sachets of lube so that's another plus to going more frequently "

Thank you that makes sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here here, to all 'SAFE' comments - it almost makes you want to check documents before you climb into bed!!!!

SHOCKING!!!!

We all need some kind of vehicle registration certificate with milage check ups LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just like to add our view to this, we only play safe sex but give oral without and we get checked up, but what id like people to know is dont go through your doctor as it goes on your medical records and can effect insurances just go to a gum clinic and use faulse details unless you need treatment then you will have to give proper for perscriptions, i was given this advice some years ago froma nurse at the gum clinic when she ask would i like a aids test etc etc i was worried about the effect this can have on my insurances so she told us to come back and contact them direct and you only use a date of birth anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One thing about the GP thread. One person appears to be unsafe/ head in the sand/ oblivious to risks. Someone said they would avoid that person and anyone that had a veri linked to them.

However.... There will be tons of people out there just the same, so it's probably wise to assume that everyone you meet has the same (bad, risky) attitude. Obviously most people won't be as daft. I'm not tarring everyone with the same brush at all. But I just mean.... You never know.....

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Thanks for highlighting that condoms/protection just make for safer sex, and there's failsafe method other than abstinence/not touching someone that really means something can't be transferred from one person to another.

Some bugs can be within someone and there are no symptoms, which is possibly why there are rates of chlamydia and gonorrhea around, where people are somewhat carriers, without seeing symptoms. There are also the first few days when there aren't symptoms for many things.

I'm guessing that wet fingers etc, could transmit an infection too, so there doesn't always have to be genital to genital contact.

I like my frequent check-ups, it helps keep me and my partners, and their partners, a lot safer.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I dont go to a sexual health clinic we only have one for 2 hours once a week and im not sitting with a load of sixteen year olds waiting for the pill.

My nurse does mine, i see her three.four times a year. She does throat swab, blood tests and swabs, she knows im a swinger but its not on my records as my mother works there. We basically have a "chat" while im there for other stuff. I cant see how people cant even have a cylomedia check though as its done automatically here every time you have your bits looked at

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By *ishopstippleMan
over a year ago

Purley


"I really wish someone would tell me how the testing works. This is what I do, I go without sex for 2 weeks get tested then go without for another 2 weeks but I keep seeing things about how some get tested every cpl weeks or so and I'm just so confused.

I was at the clap clinic last Friday, had the full range of swabs, throat, vag n backside plus bloods (only took 3 goes to get my blood, I've not got very good veins) and the nurse told me to abstain from unprotected sex for 2 weeks till the results come in.....told her I don't do BB, she was happy with that, and wasn't bothered that I hadn't abstained for 2 weeks previously...I go every 6 months but considering changing it to every 3 seeing as the nurse ran out of space on my list of sexual partners (and tbh, my memory ain't what it used to be), but she said so long as I could contact all of them if needs be then no problem.....also talked about the oral without question and she congratulated me on being a good condom user for penetrative sex and agreed the risk from oral was less......end of the day, it's a personal risk assessment, if you want to abstain 2 weeks either side fair do's

Bonus was about 50 free condoms and a coupla dozen sachets of lube so that's another plus to going more frequently "

So what do you do, keep a name and address log of your encounters after prior verifing two forms of ID ?

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria


"I really wish someone would tell me how the testing works. This is what I do, I go without sex for 2 weeks get tested then go without for another 2 weeks but I keep seeing things about how some get tested every cpl weeks or so and I'm just so confused.

I was at the clap clinic last Friday, had the full range of swabs, throat, vag n backside plus bloods (only took 3 goes to get my blood, I've not got very good veins) and the nurse told me to abstain from unprotected sex for 2 weeks till the results come in.....told her I don't do BB, she was happy with that, and wasn't bothered that I hadn't abstained for 2 weeks previously...I go every 6 months but considering changing it to every 3 seeing as the nurse ran out of space on my list of sexual partners (and tbh, my memory ain't what it used to be), but she said so long as I could contact all of them if needs be then no problem.....also talked about the oral without question and she congratulated me on being a good condom user for penetrative sex and agreed the risk from oral was less......end of the day, it's a personal risk assessment, if you want to abstain 2 weeks either side fair do's

Bonus was about 50 free condoms and a coupla dozen sachets of lube so that's another plus to going more frequently

So what do you do, keep a name and address log of your encounters after prior verifing two forms of ID ?"

LOL....Yeah, plus a signed note off their mam.....

Seriously tho' it's just Alan from Aspatria, Ben from Bolton, Carla from Chorley and what sort of sex I had with each of them....and I'm totally honest with the clinic, these may or may not be folks real names, I don't always know for def, but as I only meet people off Fab, I can get in touch via their profiles and/or phone numbers if needed.....in a club or party situation, there may be a little less familiarity, but usually someone who was playing with me would hopefully be able to provide some sort of contact details if required

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I go every 6 months but considering changing it to every 3 seeing as the nurse ran out of space on my list of sexual partners "

We go every SIX WEEKS. If you are not going that frequently, the tests have little of no validity, specially if you are a fully active swinger.

In porn, it is every 30 days for good reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had to explain to someone what the HPV jab is for - she was suggesting that men should only play with women who've had it cos they were putting themselves at risk.

So thats men putting themselves at risk of cervical cancer... "

HPV has only recently been recognised as an important factor in mouth cancer. Mouth cancers have generally been in the older person who smokes and, or, heavily drinks. But there are now more cases in younger people, who don't smoke or drink, that have been found to be HPV related - youngest I've seen was in his late 30s who needed a drastic removal of tongue and all neck glands.

It's all thought to be down to more oral....that's my fate decided then...

Good news is that they're generally easier treated than smoking/drinking related cancers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where did you find that out please?

I need to send the info to someone.

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria


"I go every 6 months but considering changing it to every 3 seeing as the nurse ran out of space on my list of sexual partners

We go every SIX WEEKS. If you are not going that frequently, the tests have little of no validity, specially if you are a fully active swinger.

In porn, it is every 30 days for good reason. "

Fair comment, but also the validity is just that at that moment that you were tested, you were disease free, as has been mentioned before some STDs have a 2 week incubation period so if you abstained 2 weeks either side then you've got a month where you're clean, but getting tested every 6 weeks only would give you 2 weeks playing ....everyone makes their own decisions/risk assessments, hopefully threads like this serve to remind folk and reassure them that there's no shame in going along for the full set of tests (and you can get free johnnies and lube)

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

For the test to have any relevance you would need to go after every encounter...not once in a while 'just to be on the safe side'...

If one couple got it on with a another who had two meets a month and those two had two and so on, they would be 400 times more likely to catch something over a year...

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I go every 6 months but considering changing it to every 3 seeing as the nurse ran out of space on my list of sexual partners

We go every SIX WEEKS. If you are not going that frequently, the tests have little of no validity, specially if you are a fully active swinger.

In porn, it is every 30 days for good reason.

Fair comment, but also the validity is just that at that moment that you were tested, you were disease free, as has been mentioned before some STDs have a 2 week incubation period so if you abstained 2 weeks either side then you've got a month where you're clean, but getting tested every 6 weeks only would give you 2 weeks playing ....everyone makes their own decisions/risk assessments, hopefully threads like this serve to remind folk and reassure them that there's no shame in going along for the full set of tests (and you can get free johnnies and lube) "

And you can often get dental dams and also non-latex condoms too if you ask. The larger sizes they don't always have, but I like to keep a selection handy...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For the test to have any relevance you would need to go after every encounter...not once in a while 'just to be on the safe side'...

If one couple got it on with a another who had two meets a month and those two had two and so on, they would be 400 times more likely to catch something over a year..."
so what is your point are you saying testing is a wast of time?

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West


"what is your point are you saying testing is a wast of time?"

Oh no not at all...once in a blue moon is even better than nothing...but if someone is going to be really responsible they would/should get tested after each meet..theres no point in having a session then having 6 more before your tested really is there?

the sooner the test is done the sooner you can either carry on, or if someone does find they have been unlucky enough to pick something up they can start the treatment before it becomes worse.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"what is your point are you saying testing is a wast of time?

Oh no not at all...once in a blue moon is even better than nothing...but if someone is going to be really responsible they would/should get tested after each meet..theres no point in having a session then having 6 more before your tested really is there?

the sooner the test is done the sooner you can either carry on, or if someone does find they have been unlucky enough to pick something up they can start the treatment before it becomes worse."

Most weeks I meet 4 days out of seven.. and its multiple guy play.. For me it would mean going to the clinic daily for that to happen..

So we go between 6-12 weeks... although if we are playing a lot.. its monthly.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what is your point are you saying testing is a wast of time?

Oh no not at all...once in a blue moon is even better than nothing...but if someone is going to be really responsible they would/should get tested after each meet..theres no point in having a session then having 6 more before your tested really is there?

the sooner the test is done the sooner you can either carry on, or if someone does find they have been unlucky enough to pick something up they can start the treatment before it becomes worse."
thank god for that i though you were going to say it pointless for a min but now i get what you meen i agrea i think the more you play the more you should get tested but it has to be a ratio that suits your self and your play time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One thing about the GP thread. One person appears to be unsafe/ head in the sand/ oblivious to risks. Someone said they would avoid that person and anyone that had a veri linked to them.

However.... There will be tons of people out there just the same, so it's probably wise to assume that everyone you meet has the same (bad, risky) attitude. Obviously most people won't be as daft. I'm not tarring everyone with the same brush at all. But I just mean.... You never know..... "

I think assuming everyone you meet is a risk is a healthy attitude to take...keeps you more alert to the fact that one of those people could be. Having said that, notes have been made on a certain profile that should any of her meets contact me they will be given a wide berth...and probably told exactly why! Some people seem to be under the impression they're indestructible. I just hope they're right x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I go every 6 months but considering changing it to every 3 seeing as the nurse ran out of space on my list of sexual partners

We go every SIX WEEKS. If you are not going that frequently, the tests have little of no validity, specially if you are a fully active swinger.

In porn, it is every 30 days for good reason.

Fair comment, but also the validity is just that at that moment that you were tested, you were disease free, as has been mentioned before some STDs have a 2 week incubation period so if you abstained 2 weeks either side then you've got a month where you're clean, but getting tested every 6 weeks only would give you 2 weeks playing ....everyone makes their own decisions/risk assessments, hopefully threads like this serve to remind folk and reassure them that there's no shame in going along for the full set of tests (and you can get free johnnies and lube) "

Caz, you are quite right, but imho (Pork) if you are swinging then the frequency of the testing has to be greater. In our case if something is missed or has not presented itself yet at Test 1, in six weeks, it should show up. Not an exactly scientific way of doing it but the more you get tested the more chance you have of getting clear and staying that way. But do accept the point you are making. We're singing off the same hymn sheet bascially - just on different verses...

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By *ake and JulesCouple
over a year ago

Donny

so if we play bareback and catch say aids, and we decided to always play bareback with everyone but tested every week. say on week 6 we play with a couple who has aids and passes it on to us, but all is fine because we've 'been tested' how do we explain to our kids that mummy and daddy might die of aids related illness because we decided to play russian roulette? a positive test result for some stds means you can begin treatment, but not all can be 'cured'. A bit like picking a random pair of glasses to drive in, every now and then you might get a dodgy pair. our opinion anyway

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"so if we play bareback and catch say aids, and we decided to always play bareback with everyone but tested every week. say on week 6 we play with a couple who has aids and passes it on to us, but all is fine because we've 'been tested' how do we explain to our kids that mummy and daddy might die of aids related illness because we decided to play russian roulette? a positive test result for some stds means you can begin treatment, but not all can be 'cured'. A bit like picking a random pair of glasses to drive in, every now and then you might get a dodgy pair. our opinion anyway"

I have to say that it could happen even using condoms.. it would be rare.. but condoms are not 100% and if you have unprotected oral there is a risk there.. if you finger someone there is a risk.. if a woman squirts there is a risk..

What my post was pointing out is however you play.. no matter how safe you think you are being.. you need to be tested.

We do play bareback on occasion.. its our choice.. we do have kids.. If we caught something then we catch something.. and we deal with the consequences..

The only time I wont play with others till I have had the all clear though is when we have played totally bareback with someone.. then we wait..

Its all about personal risk assessment..

cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can tell from some responses that crop up on the sexual health testing discussions and the lack of understanding and eduction people have surrounding STIs, that many do not get tested.

It would be beneficial if you were partaking in any hobby that you'd read up on the facts and gain information. If people are getting tested as regularly as they indicate, they how come many people do not have a clue on infections, symptoms and how to minimise risk.

The clinic is full of leaflets, the medical staff explain at length, there's a sexual advisor on hand to go through all this, so why aren't we all clued up and why are there so many misconceptions about infectiuons, mode of transmission and risk.

The only thing some people seem to care about is getting free condoms which shows the mentality if people think saving £3 is more important than information to keep yourself safe and healthy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can tell from some responses that crop up on the sexual health testing discussions and the lack of understanding and eduction people have surrounding STIs, that many do not get tested.

It would be beneficial if you were partaking in any hobby that you'd read up on the facts and gain information. If people are getting tested as regularly as they indicate, they how come many people do not have a clue on infections, symptoms and how to minimise risk.

The clinic is full of leaflets, the medical staff explain at length, there's a sexual advisor on hand to go through all this, so why aren't we all clued up and why are there so many misconceptions about infectiuons, mode of transmission and risk.

The only thing some people seem to care about is getting free condoms which shows the mentality if people think saving £3 is more important than information to keep yourself safe and healthy "

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over a year ago

Visiting an STI clinic

You can make an appointment to go there, or sometimes there's a drop-in clinic (which means you can just turn up). You might feel embarrassed but there’s no need: the staff at these clinics are used to testing for all kinds of infections. It’s their job, and they won’t judge you. They should do their best to explain everything to you and make you feel at ease.

You can go to a sexual health clinic whatever age you are, whether or not you have STI symptoms. If you're under 16, the service is still confidential and the clinic won't tell your parents.

If they suspect that you or another young person are at risk of harm, they might need to tell other healthcare services. But they will talk to you before they do this.

Find sexual health services near you, including sexual health and GUM clinics.

Your name and details

When you go to a sexual health clinic, you'll be asked for your name and some contact details. You don’t have to give your real name if you don’t want to. If you do, it will be kept confidential. Your GP won’t be told of your visit without your permission.

If you have tests and the results aren't available during your visit, the clinic will need to contact you later, so give them the correct contact details. They will check how you want to receive your results: they can usually be given to you over the phone, in a text or in an unmarked letter.

Answering some questions

You will see a doctor or a nurse, and they'll ask you about your medical and sexual history. Be prepared to answer questions about your sex life, including:

when you last had sex

whether you have had unprotected sex

whether you have any symptoms

why you think you might have an infection

You can ask to see a female doctor or nurse if you prefer but you might have to wait longer than usual for one to become available.

Having STI tests

The doctor or nurse will tell you which tests they think you need. They should explain to you what is going on and why they are suggesting these tests. If you're not sure about anything, ask them to explain.

The tests might involve:

a urine (pee) sample

a blood sample

swabs from the vagina (which you can usually do yourself)

an examination of your genitals

Testing for chlamydia and gonorrhoea usually requires only a urine sample. Testing for HIV and syphilis needs a blood sample.

Tests for herpes aren't usually done unless you have sores on your genitals or anus. In this case, a swab will be taken from a sore. This will be uncomfortable for a moment.

Find out more about:

chlamydia test

herpes test

syphilis test

gonorrhoea test

HIV test

Getting your results

With some tests, you can get the results (and treatment if you need it) on the same day. For others, you might have to wait for a week or two. If this is the case, the clinic will check how you would prefer to receive your results.

If you test positive for an STI, you will be asked to go back to the clinic to talk about your results and your treatment. Many STIs can be cured with antibiotics. Some infections, such as HIV, have no cure but there are treatments available. The clinic can advise you on these, and can put you in touch with a counsellor.

If possible, tell your sexual partner and any ex-partners so that they can get tested and treated as well. If you don't want to do this, the clinic can usually do it for you (it’s called partner notification, and the clinic won't reveal who you are).

Using condoms

The best way to protect yourself from getting or passing on an infection is to use a condom every time you have sex. The clinic can give you some condoms so that you can practise safer sex.

Always buy condoms that have the CE mark on the packet. This means that they've been tested to high European safety standards. Condoms that don't have the CE mark won't meet these standards, so don't use them. Get tips on using condoms properly.

Bear in mind that having an STI in the past doesn't make you immune to it: you can get the same infection again.

Other places to go for help

Sexual health and GUM clinics have the greatest expertise in tests and treatments for STIs. But you can also go to:

your GP

a young people’s service (call 0800 567123)

a community contraception clinic

a pharmacy

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West


"

Most weeks I meet 4 days out of seven.. and its multiple guy play.. For me it would mean going to the clinic daily for that to happen..

So we go between 6-12 weeks... although if we are playing a lot.. its monthly.

Cali "

Hi Cali

Im no mathematician..but assuming multi guy play is say 3 at a time?...4 times a week = 12 guys a week

You go every for a check every 6-12 weeks, lets say 9 then..

9 x 12 = 108 contacts: 1 test

Cali, im not judging, you live YOUR LIFE how you want to live it..it is your life at the end of the day... but if I have got the averages right based on what you have said...that, to me is taking an awful risk...ok perhaps thats a part of the buzz, fair enough but those ratios are more like playing Russian roulette with five bullets in the chamber...

(not criticising you btw x)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Most weeks I meet 4 days out of seven.. and its multiple guy play.. For me it would mean going to the clinic daily for that to happen..

So we go between 6-12 weeks... although if we are playing a lot.. its monthly.

Cali

Hi Cali

Im no mathematician..but assuming multi guy play is say 3 at a time?...4 times a week = 12 guys a week

You go every for a check every 6-12 weeks, lets say 9 then..

9 x 12 = 108 contacts: 1 test

Cali, im not judging, you live YOUR LIFE how you want to live it..it is your life at the end of the day... but if I have got the averages right based on what you have said...that, to me is taking an awful risk...ok perhaps thats a part of the buzz, fair enough but those ratios are more like playing Russian roulette with five bullets in the chamber...

(not criticising you btw x)"

I know the risks.. but I mostly do just do oral on my multiple guys and no It's more like 10plus each time. I rarely have full sex protected or otherwise with anyone but master or a regular partner.. so that limits my play. If I'm playing with lots of guys its a monthly test. As I've only had one in the last 6 weeks its been a 6 week gap.

I rarely do bareback.. but always do oral to completion...

I worked out that as I've never caught anything in some 20years of oral without a condom and sometimes topping 100guys a month that It's a low risk.

My clinic and doctor know how I play... And are always happy to tell me any new things.

One test every 4 weeks or 6 weeks depending is maybe not enough but It's what I'm happy doing. And as I said already.. if I bareback then I wait for my all clear before playing again.

It's not ideal but it works for me.

Cali

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