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Wink or message first?

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By *addyFunk72 OP   Man
over a year ago

Stockton-on-Tees

What do you fabbers prefer?

A wink or a message first?

Loads of couples and single women on here say that they're often inundated with mesages.

With that in mind, i'm thinking that a wink might be best first, then the couple or single woman can check out your profile and see if you're their cup of tea before messaging or winking back.

Or do you prefer message?

Either way you're going to check out the profile before deciding to message back.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

A well written message is best. We’ll return a wink if we’re interested, however so many don’t follow up with a message! (maybe a lot of accidental winks )

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I never remember to check my winks

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath

Message first I think with a nice introduction no copy and past.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A well written message, fab pics and something different in the subject header. Oh, and Read profile lol, discuss something they mention etc.

Tbh with the volume of messages ladies get its pot luck if you actually have your message read because they get lost in the volume!

Patience is what it takes for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never wink

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By *attoo manMan
over a year ago

Rhyl

Always message

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

An intelligent message that has something on my profile included, first.

But I’d prefer a wink over ‘ u meetin’ or ‘luv to fuk U’

Currently the messages I get around 2am when I finish work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really don’t get the snobbery around winks. It’s a quick way for both to say yeah let’s chat which is how we treat it.

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By *ecret_gentMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

I like winking

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London


"I really don’t get the snobbery around winks. It’s a quick way for both to say yeah let’s chat which is how we treat it. "
Exactly..

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

id say message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like to wink first and if we get one back then we will always send a message, people who don't check winks miss out on so much fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I really don’t get the snobbery around winks. It’s a quick way for both to say yeah let’s chat which is how we treat it. "

Exactly this

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London


"We like to wink first and if we get one back then we will always send a message, people who don't check winks miss out on so much fun "
Absolutely. I have had plenty of meets that started with me sending or receiving a wink.

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By *kyblue1878Couple
over a year ago

Southport

A thoughtful message with a face picture if none displayed on your profile.

The reason you're making contact is you are interested in meeting, yes? So have a face picture and physique picture and write something meaningful, not benign.

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By *all me FlikWoman
over a year ago

Galaxy Far Far Away

I've just bulk deleted the 62 winks so far today. To reply to a wink lets say a minute or two to check their profile before messaging or winking back...so let's call that a couple of hours. I get far fewer messages so more practical to answer those.

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By *onty1971Man
over a year ago

London St Helier Trier

I love being winked by a Lady.

Does not involve much effort and sends a message.

Just think the amount of mails she has.

I message the Ladies a bespoke mail. Read their profile. Be honest.

Both have led to some great dates and lovely Ladies met.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Always try a cheeky wink and see where that takes me

but also I can do original messages no copy and pasting that is just ridiculous

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By *weet and SpiceCouple
over a year ago

Around the Midlands


"I really don’t get the snobbery around winks. It’s a quick way for both to say yeah let’s chat which is how we treat it. "

As do we

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By *ee And MikeCouple
over a year ago

Cannock

We always find a wink ha a waste of time if they have no public photos on their profile and a few words of text !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winks are easier to mass delete without losing messages from friends so wink away though many rarely respond to them.

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By *olidOak85Couple
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I go for the wink and then follow up with a message - usually winking at the point where I'm browsing and don't really have much time to put thought into the message, which is v important!

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By *havenpussycatsCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

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By *havenpussycatsCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

Winks are fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do enjoy getting a cheeky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm fine with receiving winks, but a message would be better.

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By *isa2018Couple
over a year ago

East Northamptonshire

For Guys to single women or couples then it needs to be a message if yo really like the profile.

Single guys just winking are going to have even less luck in the numbers game, unless the female half happens to have spare time to look at the profile and really likes what they see.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always prefer messages xx

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath

I think ladies wink and men message is the normal if that’s right or not I don’t know but I think male should message

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter

I feel like the wink function is underused. In 'real life' interactions I look for some kind of nonverbal 'go ahead' from someone before engaging with them in conversation. Either a wink, or a smile, prolonged eye contact - that kind of thing. And on here I feel the same should apply. Sending someone a message without knowing if they're receptive or not doesn't really feel right to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We dont understand why people wink us then dont reply to our messages

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By *ickdasterdly51Man
over a year ago

Lingfield

A wink first to let them know I exist and they can have a look if they want, followed up by a message if I think there is compatibility there. However as most single men will tell you, however much time you put into a well crafted and personalized message most of them are ignored and often not even read. That's why sometimes mass winking is easier and generally produces the same results!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought about this Also. I find some like full on then some people like it slow

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By *lasphemouscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

We don't mind either way, we'll wink or fab pics, message someone we like but it's always nice to recieve them too x

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

We're happy to receive winks. We will check out the profile and message if we want to know more.

The only time it's annoying is when someone winks with no bio and no pics, what on earth are we meant to be checking out?

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath

Iver one would be good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it's snobbery to not want winks, I think it's more how you access the site.

The mobile site is a lot easier to see your new winks, as they're right there on the home page when you first log in. If your using the desktop site you have to go hunting for them specifically, hence they're never checked.

I've always liked using them and will continue to wink regardless, but will always follow up with a message where appropriate.

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By *rank speakerMan
over a year ago

Worcester


"We like to wink first and if we get one back then we will always send a message, people who don't check winks miss out on so much fun "

I'd love a wink off you!

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By *rank speakerMan
over a year ago

Worcester


"We like to wink first and if we get one back then we will always send a message, people who don't check winks miss out on so much fun "

I'd love a wink off you!

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By *rank speakerMan
over a year ago

Worcester


"We like to wink first and if we get one back then we will always send a message, people who don't check winks miss out on so much fun "

I'd love a wink off you!

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