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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi people,

So relatively new here and wanted some advice.

Swinging and missing a lot.. Not so much bothered by unread messages - it's to be expected with the male to female ratios on here.

But I get a lot of read and ignore, which is cool.. They're not interested. But I'm wondering why?

I've done very well on Tinder etc. Gotten a lot of matches and past GF's have always told me that their friends tell them how attractive I am. Granted I get I'm not everyone's cuppa.

I send face and body pics in the main message, no dick pics unless requested. And my messages tend to reference their profile, tell a bit more about me etc.

I know it's a numbers game, but I have never struck out so much in my life lol. Am I missing something?

Honest criticism, advice etc. Very welcomed.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

You have a good body, but only one photo.

The text within your profile, could’ve been copied and pasted from hundreds of other guys profiles. Basically it’s a very generic profile, with little to raise you above all the other guys with nice bodies and bland profile text.

What I’m suggesting isn’t easy, write something new and unique, but you are unique as we all are, so don’t say the same as the majority on here.

Did I mention getting more pictures...they are what will really sell you on here

Good luck Op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You have a good body, but only one photo.

The text within your profile, could’ve been copied and pasted from hundreds of other guys profiles. Basically it’s a very generic profile, with little to raise you above all the other guys with nice bodies and bland profile text.

What I’m suggesting isn’t easy, write something new and unique, but you are unique as we all are, so don’t say the same as the majority on here.

Did I mention getting more pictures...they are what will really sell you on here

Good luck Op "

This is sound advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More pictures would help, but one thing that really helps on here is previous meets.

Bit of a catch-22, huh? Well, in normal times I'd tell you to get out to some social meetups - they're a great way to build up some verifications, and to make some connections. 99% of guys on here don't go to socials so it's an easy win.

Keep an eye out for local ones, and see when they start up again.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You have a good body, but only one photo.

The text within your profile, could’ve been copied and pasted from hundreds of other guys profiles. Basically it’s a very generic profile, with little to raise you above all the other guys with nice bodies and bland profile text.

What I’m suggesting isn’t easy, write something new and unique, but you are unique as we all are, so don’t say the same as the majority on here.

Did I mention getting more pictures...they are what will really sell you on here

Good luck Op "

Great advice thanks. I'll be sure to do that.

I do send pics in the message, but it's not enough? Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"More pictures would help, but one thing that really helps on here is previous meets.

Bit of a catch-22, huh? Well, in normal times I'd tell you to get out to some social meetups - they're a great way to build up some verifications, and to make some connections. 99% of guys on here don't go to socials so it's an easy win.

Keep an eye out for local ones, and see when they start up again."

That's great advice mate thanks. As I'm a bit of a noob, where would I find the socials lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You have a good body, but only one photo.

The text within your profile, could’ve been copied and pasted from hundreds of other guys profiles. Basically it’s a very generic profile, with little to raise you above all the other guys with nice bodies and bland profile text.

What I’m suggesting isn’t easy, write something new and unique, but you are unique as we all are, so don’t say the same as the majority on here.

Did I mention getting more pictures...they are what will really sell you on here

Good luck Op

Great advice thanks. I'll be sure to do that.

I do send pics in the message, but it's not enough? Lol

"

Personally, I check a person's profile before I even read their message, so if I saw they didn't have photos on their profile I'd probably just delete their message straight away.

So I'd suggest adding more =)

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"You have a good body, but only one photo.

The text within your profile, could’ve been copied and pasted from hundreds of other guys profiles. Basically it’s a very generic profile, with little to raise you above all the other guys with nice bodies and bland profile text.

What I’m suggesting isn’t easy, write something new and unique, but you are unique as we all are, so don’t say the same as the majority on here.

Did I mention getting more pictures...they are what will really sell you on here

Good luck Op

Great advice thanks. I'll be sure to do that.

I do send pics in the message, but it's not enough? Lol

"

Women often look in stealth, to avoid getting messages from guys they’re not interested in. So you’ll never know exactly how many views you get a day. So to get that pleasant message out of the blue, would most likely be because they like the pictures you’re displaying and a more imaginative text that adds a bit more of your real personality.

I’d also agree get to socials, they’re advertised on the site.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You have a good body, but only one photo.

The text within your profile, could’ve been copied and pasted from hundreds of other guys profiles. Basically it’s a very generic profile, with little to raise you above all the other guys with nice bodies and bland profile text.

What I’m suggesting isn’t easy, write something new and unique, but you are unique as we all are, so don’t say the same as the majority on here.

Did I mention getting more pictures...they are what will really sell you on here

Good luck Op

Great advice thanks. I'll be sure to do that.

I do send pics in the message, but it's not enough? Lol

Personally, I check a person's profile before I even read their message, so if I saw they didn't have photos on their profile I'd probably just delete their message straight away.

So I'd suggest adding more =) "

Very good to know!!! I'll be sure to do that. Thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You have a good body, but only one photo.

The text within your profile, could’ve been copied and pasted from hundreds of other guys profiles. Basically it’s a very generic profile, with little to raise you above all the other guys with nice bodies and bland profile text.

What I’m suggesting isn’t easy, write something new and unique, but you are unique as we all are, so don’t say the same as the majority on here.

Did I mention getting more pictures...they are what will really sell you on here

Good luck Op

Great advice thanks. I'll be sure to do that.

I do send pics in the message, but it's not enough? Lol

Women often look in stealth, to avoid getting messages from guys they’re not interested in. So you’ll never know exactly how many views you get a day. So to get that pleasant message out of the blue, would most likely be because they like the pictures you’re displaying and a more imaginative text that adds a bit more of your real personality.

I’d also agree get to socials, they’re advertised on the site. "

Thanks for the information. It's been a very helpful. I'll be sure to give my profile a revamp. Really appreciate it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You have a good body, but only one photo.

The text within your profile, could’ve been copied and pasted from hundreds of other guys profiles. Basically it’s a very generic profile, with little to raise you above all the other guys with nice bodies and bland profile text.

What I’m suggesting isn’t easy, write something new and unique, but you are unique as we all are, so don’t say the same as the majority on here.

Did I mention getting more pictures...they are what will really sell you on here

Good luck Op

Great advice thanks. I'll be sure to do that.

I do send pics in the message, but it's not enough? Lol

Personally, I check a person's profile before I even read their message, so if I saw they didn't have photos on their profile I'd probably just delete their message straight away.

So I'd suggest adding more =)

Very good to know!!! I'll be sure to do that. Thanks "

You're welcome, good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's great advice mate thanks. As I'm a bit of a noob, where would I find the socials lol. "

Well currently the admins are blocking the events/meetups system that is used to advertise them so keep an eye out on the relevant area forum, and in your feed, for adverts.

With pictures think "personality", not pornography - though obviously show off your assets - and you should be on to a winner

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Hi people,

So relatively new here and wanted some advice.

Swinging and missing a lot.. Not so much bothered by unread messages - it's to be expected with the male to female ratios on here.

But I get a lot of read and ignore, which is cool.. They're not interested. But I'm wondering why?

I've done very well on Tinder etc. Gotten a lot of matches and past GF's have always told me that their friends tell them how attractive I am. Granted I get I'm not everyone's cuppa.

I send face and body pics in the main message, no dick pics unless requested. And my messages tend to reference their profile, tell a bit more about me etc.

I know it's a numbers game, but I have never struck out so much in my life lol. Am I missing something?

Honest criticism, advice etc. Very welcomed. "

If it ain't broke don't fix it, I'd genuinely go back on tinder if I was getting lucky but not on here ?

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By *nked_kittenWoman
over a year ago

Ankh Morpork

Most guys seem to do better on tinder I think

Plus at the moment a lot of people on here are not meeting

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