FabSwingers.com forum: Block button strategy

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Over the last few days I've tried to implement a new strategy. Essentially if anyone reads my message and either deletes it or doesn't respond. I block them.

I've found this strategy might help others, including women because:

1. It removes anyone who isn't interested from my search and stops me re-messaging the same person twice (As this can happen by accident).

2. Benefits women as it stops the same men from messaging again and again (or at least, it shows they are blocked).

Obviously I'm narrowing down my pool of potential partners. But I'm gonna try it for a few weeks. Has anyone done this? If so, what's your experience been like?

Thanks for reading!

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By *aylorsFlameCouple
over a year ago

North West

Think it’s a good strategy I have started to do the same. I know when people read and delete that’s their way of politely saying no thank you. Obviously that is fine and makes sense, however when you can see that those profiles have been back on looking at your profile again and again, so basically just perving at your pics...I think no actually you aren’t going to....sod off!! And I block them

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'd just like to clarify that if someone reads my message but doesn't respond. I usually wait around 24 hours before blocking. If someone deletes my message, I block immediately.

(I've had a few messages already about this that's why I thought I'd post it)

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By *aylorsFlameCouple
over a year ago

North West

I think it makes total sense to do what you do

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think it makes total sense to do what you do"

Right? Thanks for the feedback. Hopefully it works out. I've just had a few direct messages saying it takes someone longer than 24 hours.

But realistically, if you read a message but don't respond within 24 hours you're probably not all that interested anyway.

I also block anyone who stops talking or gives one word responses. I ain't here for complete time wasters.

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

We block a lot of single guys, sometimes after deleting an unread message, sometimes after reading and replying with a "no thanks". If we're really not attracted to them then we think it's easier that they don't find us again in a search and message again - it's far too common for us to get the same message every few weeks from some guys.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

I wish ALL guys did this.

I always reply to polite messages - whether it be a yay or nay - but I find that the same guys just end up messaging again & again. I feel mean blocking them, but it's what I do now. X

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By *lleyCat1969Man
over a year ago

Folkestone

"Over the last few days I've tried to implement a new strategy. Essentially if anyone reads my message and either deletes it or doesn't respond. I block them.

I've found this strategy might help others, including women because:

1. It removes anyone who isn't interested from my search and stops me re-messaging the same person twice (As this can happen by accident).

2. Benefits women as it stops the same men from messaging again and again (or at least, it shows they are blocked).

Obviously I'm narrowing down my pool of potential partners. But I'm gonna try it for a few weeks. Has anyone done this? If so, what's your experience been like?

Thanks for reading! "

This is what I do, although I also add a private note before blocking to say why I blocked them. This helps a few months down the line when I can't remember why I blocked someone!

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By *ornyelginMan
over a year ago

Elgin

If my message is deleted without a reply I always block. I don’t want to waste my or their time with a message few weeks down the line

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By *1bttmMan
over a year ago

Shoreditch east London

"Think it’s a good strategy I have started to do the same. I know when people read and delete that’s their way of politely saying no thank you. Obviously that is fine and makes sense, however when you can see that those profiles have been back on looking at your profile again and again, so basically just perving at your pics...I think no actually you aren’t going to....sod off!! And I block them "

I think that's spot on and do exactly the same. Don't understand why people don't respond but still keep pervin. Block def solves that issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am always puzzled, I delete messages as I go, I always reply even to say no thanks but I clear out my in box every week and one guy blocked me after we had been chatting and I accepted freind request because I deleted my messages, sometimes I think dammed if you do and dammed if you don't..

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land

At This time I'm not interested because social distancing.

Next year will hopefully be very different so by blocking now are you potentially not reducing your contacts when social distancing is (hopefully) no longer a requirement?

Genuinely curious. You run your profile as suits you

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By *all me FlikWoman
over a year ago

Galaxy Far Far Away

"I'd just like to clarify that if someone reads my message but doesn't respond. I usually wait around 24 hours before blocking. If someone deletes my message, I block immediately.

(I've had a few messages already about this that's why I thought I'd post it)"

Interesting...i get a lot of messages and depending on how busy I am i sometimes read messages but reply at a later date when I have some time for a conversation. I have some sitting there from up to 2 weeks ago but they will be replied to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At This time I'm not interested because social distancing.

Next year will hopefully be very different so by blocking now are you potentially not reducing your contacts when social distancing is (hopefully) no longer a requirement?

Genuinely curious. You run your profile as suits you

This is our view also. Charlie and I are currently not meeting due to Covid. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"At This time I'm not interested because social distancing.

Next year will hopefully be very different so by blocking now are you potentially not reducing your contacts when social distancing is (hopefully) no longer a requirement?

Genuinely curious. You run your profile as suits you

I don't think anyone should be meeting until at least 2021. All I'm trying to do is meet like minded people in the hope of meeting once it's save.

I look at it like this. If I take the time to read someone's profile, write a witty pm then have the courage to send it. I'd at least want some kind of acknowledgement.

If someone doesn't want to meet yet (obviously) they could always respond with a 'hey cool profile, maybe we can chat after lockdown'.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I think it's a good tactic

Saves you making contact again, with someone

Blocking is there as a tool for us to use

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

We also block people, with a private note, when messages are read and deleted, read and not responded or where they reply to indicate a lack if interest.

The reason we do it is to remove them from search results.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I have a slightly watered down version. Anyone that replies with a thanks but no thanks gets a block from me. That way I’m not going to send an embarrassing second message further down the line.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Over the last few days I've tried to implement a new strategy. Essentially if anyone reads my message and either deletes it or doesn't respond. I block them.

I've found this strategy might help others, including women because:

1. It removes anyone who isn't interested from my search and stops me re-messaging the same person twice (As this can happen by accident).

2. Benefits women as it stops the same men from messaging again and again (or at least, it shows they are blocked).

Obviously I'm narrowing down my pool of potential partners. But I'm gonna try it for a few weeks. Has anyone done this? If so, what's your experience been like?

Thanks for reading! "

If someone reads a message from me, but straight deletes it, I’ll block them as they’re obviously not interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Over the last few days I've tried to implement a new strategy. Essentially if anyone reads my message and either deletes it or doesn't respond. I block them.

I've found this strategy might help others, including women because:

1. It removes anyone who isn't interested from my search and stops me re-messaging the same person twice (As this can happen by accident).

2. Benefits women as it stops the same men from messaging again and again (or at least, it shows they are blocked).

Obviously I'm narrowing down my pool of potential partners. But I'm gonna try it for a few weeks. Has anyone done this? If so, what's your experience been like?

Thanks for reading! "

I think this is a great idea, one I shall be using from now on thanks OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use notes, that say

Read, no reply

Read, deleted

No interest

Didn't read

I won't message anyone again from the first three unless forum games. I may message the last category on the basis that girls say they get thousands of messages and mine may just have been missed through bad timing

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By *renzMan
over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant

I don't disagree op. Although I don't tend to block, maybe I don't message as many as you do, I tend to remember those I have messaged to no avail. One point, though. Do you not get the message... you have messaged this person before and not had a reply, you may be better off messaging someone else? Not verbatim but something like that. So I don't see how you can 'accidently' message again anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send messages then delete them, there could be lots of reasons people don't reply and it's none of my business. I'll only message someone a second time (which you know because of the warning on sending a message) in response to a status or new picture or whatever though - and again, delete the sent message and forget about it.

I block people that I don't like (usually because they have a status/forum post that means I wouldn't enjoy their company) and people I was interested in but obviously wouldn't be suitable for (e.g. "BBC only").

Essentially if I don't want to interact with them then I'll block - and if everyone did this the site would be far better

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I block people that I don't like (usually because they have a status/forum post that means I wouldn't enjoy their company) and people I was interested in but obviously wouldn't be suitable for (e.g. "BBC only").

Essentially if I don't want to interact with them then I'll block - and if everyone did this the site would be far better

The first point in your comment is great tbh. Do you think it would be worth extended that to say height and weight requirements?

I've noticed a lot of profiles are very picky, especially with height or if they are fit/hung (Within their right of course) might be worth blocking those types as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The first point in your comment is great tbh. Do you think it would be worth extended that to say height and weight requirements?

I've noticed a lot of profiles are very picky, especially with height or if they are fit/hung (Within their right of course) might be worth blocking those types as well. "

You calling me fat and short mate?

Yes, if you don't match their hard requirements then block them IMO. You're not in for a chance and they're not missing out on anything they wanted anyway.

My approach is to make my feed full of people I might be interested in, that also might be interested in me. In absence of better filtering, blocking is the only way of doing that!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"The first point in your comment is great tbh. Do you think it would be worth extended that to say height and weight requirements?

I've noticed a lot of profiles are very picky, especially with height or if they are fit/hung (Within their right of course) might be worth blocking those types as well.

You calling me fat and short mate?

Yes, if you don't match their hard requirements then block them IMO. You're not in for a chance and they're not missing out on anything they wanted anyway.

My approach is to make my feed full of people I might be interested in, that also might be interested in me. In absence of better filtering, blocking is the only way of doing that!"

It’s all about narrowing the field down to people you’re most likely to make a match with. Forget the pretty profile pics of people you’re never going to meet, there’s plenty of free porn to enjoy elsewhere on the web. You’re here to meet, so cut the wheat from the chaff

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

i got with afew men who over the year tried to get hold of me on fab... sometimes, messages really do get lost in fab inbox traffic so blocking someone after 24 hrs is to me hasty unless they're really not your type

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"The first point in your comment is great tbh. Do you think it would be worth extended that to say height and weight requirements?

I've noticed a lot of profiles are very picky, especially with height or if they are fit/hung (Within their right of course) might be worth blocking those types as well.

You calling me fat and short mate?

Yes, if you don't match their hard requirements then block them IMO. You're not in for a chance and they're not missing out on anything they wanted anyway.

My approach is to make my feed full of people I might be interested in, that also might be interested in me. In absence of better filtering, blocking is the only way of doing that!

we not allowed to meet though... I'm here to make online connections

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We never block anyone. Just add little notes to their profile.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"The first point in your comment is great tbh. Do you think it would be worth extended that to say height and weight requirements?

I've noticed a lot of profiles are very picky, especially with height or if they are fit/hung (Within their right of course) might be worth blocking those types as well.

You calling me fat and short mate?

Yes, if you don't match their hard requirements then block them IMO. You're not in for a chance and they're not missing out on anything they wanted anyway.

My approach is to make my feed full of people I might be interested in, that also might be interested in me. In absence of better filtering, blocking is the only way of doing that!

we not allowed to meet though... I'm here to make online connections

I can’t make an online connection with someone who states on their profile (for example) ; “BBC only“, “no attached guys”, or “no baldies”, so I may as well just block them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know mrs Ravensong does this, especially when she gets the same copy and paste message from people she has already politely declined.

Thete does seem to be a constant stream of new members to replace the blocked ones, making it quite an effective quality control option

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's good to find a system that works for you, which Fab has given us the tools to do.

I find that many will not often be in a position to be able to respond as quickly as others would like or expect. Bearing this in mind is a useful guide, as others' circumstances are very likely to be different to our own. Design a system that is based on others, not just yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We block pretty much instantly if we know straight away we wouldn't be interested in meeting them. Not that they have offended or done anything wrong. Just easier and not wasting anyone's time. Theirs and ours

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By *hiny-SinnersCouple
over a year ago

Vale of Glamorgan

Clearly we are being too soft

We don't want to offend anyone and largely people get the hint if we don't reply, but ironically only the other day we had to again block a stalker. He has tried to contact us in the past via 5 different profiles asking if he can be sub to Mrs S. We were always polite until he stepped over the line. Each time now he always starts with the message "can I serve". When we tell him firmly that we know who he is, to respect our wishes and that his behaviour is creepy, he always comes back asking why we are being horrible to him and saying he is a lovely person. And so it goes on. We also have intelligence from other people who have encountered him at a party where he was going up to strangers asking if he could pay them to dominate him! If he appears again we will report him

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By *rx1Couple
over a year ago

North of Okehampton, South of Bideford

Sometimes we take a couple of days to reply, simply because of Shift working.

So in reality one of us can view the messages but not the other.

The last thing we want to do after a 12 hour shift is to dive on fabs or even discuss Fabs.

We tend to answer when we are both here at the same time and discuss each person and message before replying.

We also keep Private notes (site supporters can do this), just a few lines, that's all, so if we give a polite "no thanks" we know.

Especially if that same person keeps messaging with "I've just come across your profile".

So the bottom line is

if you need a reply within an hour and cannot wait, please feel free to block us, for wasting your time

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By *OXO2018Couple
over a year ago

Norfolk

We've been doing this for years

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By *anshee99Woman
over a year ago

all over

Hmm... maybe not many do what I do, I dont know... but 9/10 I get overwhelmed with the messages and delete all. It doesnt mean I'm not interested. You may be blocking potential matches.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hmm... maybe not many do what I do, I dont know... but 9/10 I get overwhelmed with the messages and delete all. It doesnt mean I'm not interested. You may be blocking potential matches. "

If someone deletes my message without replying I'd never message them again anyway.

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By *anshee99Woman
over a year ago

all over

"Hmm... maybe not many do what I do, I dont know... but 9/10 I get overwhelmed with the messages and delete all. It doesnt mean I'm not interested. You may be blocking potential matches.

If someone deletes my message without replying I'd never message them again anyway. "

You must be the only guy not to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's good to find a system that works for you, which Fab has given us the tools to do."

I think it's a case of finding a system that works despite the tools fabs offer.

Everything seems geared towards making the site seem busy, at the expense of user experience. It wouldn't be hard to design systems that are more friendly - but they would drive less revenue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’re only now getting winks and messages back from people we tried contacting months ago...so 24 hours may be a little hasty! We recognise we may not be what others are looking for at the time but we update our profile and pics when things change for us, which may mean people who aren’t right for us before may be now.

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By *r and Mrs 81Couple
over a year ago

Leicester

"I'd just like to clarify that if someone reads my message but doesn't respond. I usually wait around 24 hours before blocking. If someone deletes my message, I block immediately.

(I've had a few messages already about this that's why I thought I'd post it)"

It can sometimes take us a little while to reply as the hubby isn't much of a replier but a perv so is on alot more than me, who does the replying lol x

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By *exleypeteMan
49 weeks ago

bexleyheath

"I'd just like to clarify that if someone reads my message but doesn't respond. I usually wait around 24 hours before blocking. If someone deletes my message, I block immediately.

(I've had a few messages already about this that's why I thought I'd post it)"

Totally agree

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
49 weeks ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

OP = User no longer on site

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By *anted by NightMan
49 weeks ago

Shangri-La

"OP = User no longer on site

I think he blocked everyone on the site

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By *itty.kat2023Woman
49 weeks ago

Kirkcaldy

I block anyone who's messaged me and I just don't want to meet them but I (almost) always send a reply first. It's usually because they're too far away, into drugs, married, offering money, or ones that are just arse holes. Yes, it will cut down my options, but it saves multiple messages from the same person down the line when I've forgotten the old messages or whatever lol

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By *xonman53Man
49 weeks ago

Thame

"Over the last few days I've tried to implement a new strategy. Essentially if anyone reads my message and either deletes it or doesn't respond. I block them.

I've found this strategy might help others, including women because:

1. It removes anyone who isn't interested from my search and stops me re-messaging the same person twice (As this can happen by accident).

2. Benefits women as it stops the same men from messaging again and again (or at least, it shows they are blocked).

Obviously I'm narrowing down my pool of potential partners. But I'm gonna try it for a few weeks. Has anyone done this? If so, what's your experience been like?

Thanks for reading!

This is what I do, although I also add a private note before blocking to say why I blocked them. This helps a few months down the line when I can't remember why I blocked someone!"

I do same .. Also on replies (unless it's a specific request scenario) saying no thank you.... Reduces amount to see on later searches

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"I block anyone who's messaged me and I just don't want to meet them but I (almost) always send a reply first. It's usually because they're too far away, into drugs, married, offering money, or ones that are just arse holes. Yes, it will cut down my options, but it saves multiple messages from the same person down the line when I've forgotten the old messages or whatever lol"

We do the same; although with us it’s couples and single fems as opposed to males.

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By *mpierdoleMan
48 weeks ago

Birmingham

"Over the last few days I've tried to implement a new strategy. Essentially if anyone reads my message and either deletes it or doesn't respond. I block them.

I've found this strategy might help others, including women because:

1. It removes anyone who isn't interested from my search and stops me re-messaging the same person twice (As this can happen by accident).

2. Benefits women as it stops the same men from messaging again and again (or at least, it shows they are blocked).

Obviously I'm narrowing down my pool of potential partners. But I'm gonna try it for a few weeks. Has anyone done this? If so, what's your experience been like?

Thanks for reading! "
that's exactly what I've been doing and it is working a treat. For those that don't respond, I give them a week or so first.

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By *exleypeteMan
48 weeks ago

bexleyheath

"Over the last few days I've tried to implement a new strategy. Essentially if anyone reads my message and either

deletes it or doesn't respond. I block them.

I've found this strategy might help others, including

women because:

1. It removes anyone who isn't interested from my search and stops me re-messaging the same person twice (As this can happen by accident).

2. Benefits women as it stops the same men from messaging again and again (or at least, it shows they are blocked).

Obviously I'm narrowing down my pool of potential partners. But I'm gonna try it for a few weeks. Has anyone done this? If so, what's your experience been like?

Thanks for reading! that's exactly what I've been doing and it is working a treat. For those that don't respond, I give them a week or so first."

Sounds similar to me

But I give them 24 hours ,if they have been on site and not replied block button it is

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