Managing your state of mind is like any other skill that we have - we can do it, and we can get better at it with practice. Rather than focusing on just being in a better state of mind before a meet, working on being in control of your emotional state of mind generally. It will potentially pay dividends in many areas of your life.
Also, discriminate between excitement and nerves, possibly the latter meaning some fear etc. It's likely that many of us will be excited before meets - I sure am - and especially before, say a first meet. If you can recognise the different between your nerves and excitement, it potentially makes what you need to address smaller, as you'll not want to minimise the excitement.
Who you meet is partly down to you, and also whoever wants to meet you. Even if people want to meet you, it doesn't mean that you have to, nor meet them at a time that's not right for you. Be selective in who you meet, so that you're more confident that you're meeting someone who will help you feel more relaxed/comfortable than others would.
Otherwise, we all have to do things that we're not quite prepared for, this is part of our growth curve, how we move on and expand our capabilities. If we stay in a little box, it'll always be the same little box, albeit we'll know it very well. When we step outside of it, things will be new and different - some would immediately turn back, others will have the courage to continue, even if feeling perhaps a little reluctant, and yet trusting that they're on the right path.
We only have one step to take at a time, and usually our anxiety makes things much, much worse than the actual event, when they finally happen. Be bold, master your state of mind, learn to relax and be confident more easily than now, and just choose the right people to meet, and at a right time for you.
Good luck!  |
