FabSwingers.com forum: Life as an Army wife??

By *rink Me xx OP Woman
over a year ago

Shropshire

After a really tough year so far this is becomming a possibility in my not too distant future. Married quarters etc. Any advice or insights would be very welcomed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its like marmite, you either love it or you hate it.

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By *SuperbMan
over a year ago

now in Germany

I’ve visited lots of friends in that life and they love it.

Prepare to take the sudden changes and moves but all families are normally very helpful.

Where could you be moving to?

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Worst three years of my life ever. My cousin agreed.

I agree it’s like marmite. You either enjoy it or it’s a nightmare no inbetween.

It’s just like living on a big council estate really. I’m glad we bought our own home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would NEVER willingly live in married quarters. But each to there own. My partner always came home to me, and although the distance sometimes sucked, it made things much easier to have a home that was HOME.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"I would NEVER willingly live in married quarters. But each to there own. My partner always came home to me, and although the distance sometimes sucked, it made things much easier to have a home that was HOME.

Yes. This. Xx

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By *edonisthenryMan
over a year ago

Cambridge

An acquaintance of mine is a Forces wife who's back in the UK. She has found it difficult integrating into a new community with a small child.

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By *SuperbMan
over a year ago

now in Germany

There is certainly no hiding!

Try and help others out but they may not do the same.

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By *eeps and TattiesCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

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By *aughty_nymphWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

It’s what you make of it ultimately. It’s not for some and others love it!

It can be lonely and others might not always reciprocate kindness unfortunately but you’d get that in any walk of life! Biggest pet hate for me is rank wearing wives!

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By *estableMan
over a year ago

Wigan

It can be very cliquey and extremely rank orientated. If you are an officer's wife it can be even worse but the quarters are bigger.

Sometimes you can make a good life of it if you do get some god friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't do it - simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My freind did and hated it so when pregnant with her son she decided enough and bought a house, like someone said previously to call home and he went back and forth she was so much more happier having freinds and family around to support her with a new baby..

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

As mentioned very very cliquey and most, not all wives, will assume the rank of their husband and expect to be treated accordingly.

You might be lucky and find a group or a few that you get in with. I’d be prepared to find your own place as a back up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This all sounds very negative and not at all the fun adventure Soldier Soldier led me to believe it was. Damn Robson & Jerome

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"This all sounds very negative and not at all the fun adventure Soldier Soldier led me to believe it was. Damn Robson & Jerome "

I honestly thought the exact same lol

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By *ob jonesMan
over a year ago

Wales

One of my mates was an army officer. We was away and his wife stayed in their house.

Great move I think, I popes round to see her as and when for a catch up and coffee. She was always happy to have a visitor. I loved going round, she was always flirty, often had sexy underwear out drying and is it was very close to him coming home. She was very open baouy how she was looking forwards to getting fucked.

Once I popped by tge day before he came home, and when I asked was she excited she went into great detail of how her pussy was fully shaved and ready for use!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Inbox me for some help if you wish-been an army wife for over 11 years and also the one in the forces x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We spent 18 years living in married quarters, always lots of friends around us and just stayed away from all the internal dramas.

Since leaving and buying our own house we are outside our comfort bubble and my wife has struggled to make any new friends.

Married quarters life is good for some people, get involved but stay away from the bitching and pettiness

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By *eachesAndCream99Couple
over a year ago

Outskirts of Cardiff just off the M4

It’s not all doom and gloom and I have a variety of connections with all three services. Some absolutely love it and others hate it. It depends on the service, the area, the amount of children you have, rank of spouse etc, there are so many anomalies. Not everyone gets along in a normal street and some people don’t know any of heir neighbours as their lives are so busy. Look at housing costs in the area you want to live, is it that you’d rather buy with the help to buy scheme etc, pay a private landlord if renting or the MOD? You have a lot of things to consider but for short term if you are unsure where you want to settle, MQs are a great option to give you time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This all sounds very negative and not at all the fun adventure Soldier Soldier led me to believe it was. Damn Robson & Jerome

I honestly thought the exact same lol"

Joy Wilton always seemed quite miserable tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

officer or soldier? If soldier then its like living on a council estate and not in a good way (I was brought up on a council estate before anyone comments). A lot of Jeremy Kyle esque characters. Also a lot of rough wives thinking they wear their husbands rank.

Officers less Jeremy Kyle but still wives thinking they wear their husbands rank.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and generally the married quarters are in a poor state of repair and old.

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By *assionatepoetsCouple
over a year ago

Highbridge

Take pictures of everything before you move in so you don't get billed when you leave for any repairs not down to you

Abigail xx

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

Back in the 'good old days' there was a washing powder called 'OMO' - a packet in view on a married quarters kitchen windowsill meant one thing...

...."On My Own" - as in hubby's away...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Back in the 'good old days' there was a washing powder called 'OMO' - a packet in view on a married quarters kitchen windowsill meant one thing...

...."On My Own" - as in hubby's away...

I always got told it was “Old Man’s Out”

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

"I always got told it was “Old Man’s Out”

That was the other version of it...

....it was a former soldier's wife I had a thing with back in the 80's who told me about it...

....it supposedly originated 'down under', and signified "Old Man Overseas"

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By *rink Me xx OP Woman
over a year ago

Shropshire

Thanks for all the advice. Even more nervous now!

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk

My personal opinion, I hated it.

We lived in a pads house for less than a year.

Certain individual's think that thier husbands rank is transferable to them, and they continually remind you of this.

When he was a Junior rank it was fine, but when he became a senior rank that's when all the nonsense started.

Its a very tight community which is brilliant when you need it, but a nightmare if you don't.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

The price is right, everytime I looked at my wage deduction. My advise would be if your not already on the property market, get on it. I (Mr) bought a property in my early 20s. When I lived in married quarters (with ex wife) I rented it out. Know so many other couples leaving after years paying low accommodation rates and not taking advantage of saving for the future. Then coming out in their 40s/50s and having to start on the property ladder from the bottom.

As to other aspects of married quarter life you'd be best to ask the ex wife. I was rarely at home to experience it.

Oh and be careful of leaving boxes of washing powder in the window (or not).

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By *haun2k20Man
over a year ago

Stockton

Does anyone even reply on here I’ve messaged loads off woman and there don’t even reply back I’m even a silver site supporter I must be that ugly for anyone to message back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me and my ex was in 1 for 4 years she hated It

Bitchy as fuck estate is like scene out off shameless It’s all fake friendships it ruined us Iam still serving part of the reason she’s now my ex

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

Ask your self these questions...

Do I get on with other wives and the occassional husband?

Can I live in a house I can't decorate, put up shelves etc?

Do I want my home linked to my partner's employer?

What do I want? It's not selfish, as you need your own life, identity and income stream.

Can you see yourself moving every couple of years? I'm not even 50 yet and I am on my 27th address.

Have you got itchy feet?

If your relationship breaks up/you are widowed, you have to leave your residence in a very short time. Can you cope?

In a word ask 100 people and get 101 different ideas. I can't givr you the answers, but I can get you to ask the right questions.

Hope it's useful.

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By *atelotmanMan
over a year ago

Chatham

How life in married quarters have changed. I was born in army quarters an so were the brother an sister.We moved all around the world some were good homes others real crap. The best thing for me, we make so many life long friends. My father was a junior rank, who by the end of his service 22yrs had made it to officer. But still kept his friends,an rank didnt matter to them or us. I hope you get on an enjoy the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After a really tough year so far this is becomming a possibility in my not too distant future. Married quarters etc. Any advice or insights would be very welcomed

Get your own place and have him live on camp during the week.

Many army units work compressed weeks so that people can commute back to wherever they actually live - quite rare to find anyone working after midday on a Friday, and in some places before midday Monday.

Depends on the unit and the role though.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

"Does anyone even reply on here I’ve messaged loads off woman and there don’t even reply back I’m even a silver site supporter I must be that ugly for anyone to message back"

Random post of the week lmao

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By *oandjohnCouple
over a year ago

South Wales, will travel to Hereford, Worcestershire and Shropshire

You ether love it or hate it.

But don’t swing on or near the base or the married accommodation because everyone will know and make life hell..

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By *etitePleasure111Woman
over a year ago

Telford

"After a really tough year so far this is becomming a possibility in my not too distant future. Married quarters etc. Any advice or insights would be very welcomed

Wow this is a surprise! Lol

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By *lattyukbiMan
over a year ago

Rugby

"Back in the 'good old days' there was a washing powder called 'OMO' - a packet in view on a married quarters kitchen windowsill meant one thing...

...."On My Own" - as in hubby's away...

I was waiting for someone to mention it!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the camp, some regiment are a pain in the ass, others are fine. Army still takes an old fashioned view of swinging too

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By *asmartsCouple
over a year ago

sheffield

"Worst three years of my life ever. My cousin agreed.

I agree it’s like marmite. You either enjoy it or it’s a nightmare no inbetween.

It’s just like living on a big council estate really. I’m glad we bought our own home

You got the wrong postings lol we loved Cyprus

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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago

Coventry

"As mentioned very very cliquey and most, not all wives, will assume the rank of their husband and expect to be treated accordingly.

You might be lucky and find a group or a few that you get in with. I’d be prepared to find your own place as a back up. "

So true

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By *eedsmale36Man
over a year ago

Leeds

I loved visiting married quarters in the RAF especially late at night to fuck a nice lonely wife while hubby was at a beer call, my first wife fucking experiences, now I can’t get enough

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By *acamanCouple
over a year ago

aberdeen

The old urban escape and evasion getting out off the patch and back to the block without getting busted loved it

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By *SuperbMan
over a year ago

now in Germany

Just been to the patch in Bovington!

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By *arlomaleMan
over a year ago

darlington

Love pad wifes especially whilst wearing Ron hills (when you know you know )

ron hills can you still get them ?

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Stafford

Its a shit hole in pads. There's a clique where I am, so I keep myself to myself and I dont know anyone... ive lived here 2.5 years.

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By *arlomaleMan
over a year ago

darlington

"Its a shit hole in pads. There's a clique where I am, so I keep myself to myself and I dont know anyone... ive lived here 2.5 years. "
best way keep away from them

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By *anutd2006Couple
over a year ago

bolton

"After a really tough year so far this is becomming a possibility in my not too distant future. Married quarters etc. Any advice or insights would be very welcomed

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By *anutd2006Couple
over a year ago

bolton

RUN

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I grew up around the military, constantly moving every two years or so, best years of my life and an amazing childhood! Would not swap it for the world! Esp after seeing more of it then most others at that age. Shame most peeps who are born to civie life never understand.

Think most pad brats would agree!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I grew up around the military, constantly moving every two years or so, best years of my life and an amazing childhood! Would not swap it for the world! Esp after seeing more of it then most others at that age. Shame most peeps who are born to civie life never understand.

Think most pad brats would agree!

From your location (Plymouth) Im guessing thar you may have been in Navy Married Quarters?? I think they are often easier places to live than Army or RAF MQs...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think most pad brats would agree!

From your location (Plymouth) Im guessing thar you may have been in Navy Married Quarters?? I think they are often easier places to live than Army or RAF MQs...

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no army! My location is where I'm present now, spent a good 11 years in Germany, 2 in northern Ireland etc

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By *at_aMan
over a year ago

Chester

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By *at_aMan
over a year ago

Chester

As stated before some good and some bad. Served over 25 years including a few in quarters never let my rank effect the friends I made on way up. Wife never assumed my rank but you do find yourself mixing with different people on promotion.

The secret is to keep your old friends as well as new ones. Did a bit of swinging when married but need to be very discreet and don’t have single guys from same unit!

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By *nigmatic_AngelWoman
over a year ago

The place where fairies live

"Its like marmite, you either love it or you hate it. "

This..

I loved it. It's what you make of it thought. It's not for life so take the best bits from it and make it great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought it was only Lee Roy who lived on the Patch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I lived in six married quarters before I bought a house.

There’s definitely a clique with quarters estates. If you fit in, they’re great. If you don’t.....

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By *evez02Man
over a year ago

north london stamford hill

Marriage made in heaven....my best wishes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I bloody hated it and was very lonely

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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago

Coventry

"It can be very cliquey and extremely rank orientated. If you are an officer's wife it can be even worse but the quarters are bigger.

Sometimes you can make a good life of it if you do get some god friends"

This. It is clicky and rank stuff and just remember you lost your identify as become wife of as opposed to being you. You will make friends but it's a lot to get used to.

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By *rink Me xx OP Woman
over a year ago

Shropshire

Such mixed opinions on this one. Have now got to wait to be housed until around xmas before he comes back from training so will keep you all posted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You wont get any random swingers past the gate guards if your home is on the barracks area n be for long periods of being on your own as hubbys job entails long periods away with no contact ie no tinternet in a jungle xx

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By *at_aMan
over a year ago

Chester

Some love it some don’t, just like living anywhere. I was in for 25 years there was some swing going on but it was a time before the internet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A boot lickers wife , haven’t heard of that fetish before

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By *he_TicklersCouple
over a year ago

Havant & Aberdare

I’m on my first 4 month trip with merchant navy , miss Ticklish is cracking on well, though she does get asked a lot how she copes with separation, which annoys her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get involved with the wives clubs etc. You all share a common issue (being an Army wife and what goes with it) and you can all support each other.

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By *arlomaleMan
over a year ago

darlington

Just keep away from army regimental boxing champions wifes or daughters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends there are a lot of variables. Type of unit how senior your hubby is. Your sense of humour and ability not to let that system get you down or fuck you about.

I was attached to a Black Watch V unit on an exercise one time up in Scotland. There was a big barracks piss up during my attachment. So the guys had a laugh taking the piss and winding up the latest recruits to join so funny. Like one was newly married and they kidded him on that everyone shared their wives and wife swapping was a thing in the unit. The look on his face lol! Then there was the drinking game the dance of the flaming arseholes. This is a setup for the new guys. A couple of the old guys demonstrate, this involved standing on a table, dropping the breeks or trews, holding a rolled up newspaper between the bare bum cheeks and as someone lit the end of it, the sojjer had to down a pint before he got his bum burnt. So the con is, the old hands roll the newspaper up tight so it gives them a time advantage. But when it came to the new guys it was rolled up loose. (This was I swear the funniest thing I ever saw in uniform.) So the new guys decide to have a go, paper lit, whoosh flames direct to the butthole!!! ..guy actually finishes the pint before jumping off the table in pain! It doesn't get funnier, well if you are pissed too anyway! More booze, next morning those guys may have woke up bungied to their beds.

Anyhow just so you know what to expect..

And yeah they did actually do gang bangs as well but that was before my time with them. One of the officers joined in apparently, all consensual so they say.

I met the junior subaltern years from there years later in a fetish night. He was the commanding officer by then and he was dressed as a woman. With another woman, luigi a nato fighter pilot from the italian air force and also a trans lol. You can't make it up!

You will get a lot of laughs whatever happens. Best of luck.

"After a really tough year so far this is becomming a possibility in my not too distant future. Married quarters etc. Any advice or insights would be very welcomed

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By *ittle-Miss-Cunty-1Woman
over a year ago

Your basement, Cuntsville

Stayed in the quarters for 6yrs, the women on the patch were friendly, then there was also the mummy and baby group twice a week, family days on camp helped alot when the men were away for 6 months at a time, if you get involved with what's going on you will easily make friends

the piss ups were amazing

divorced now but I have some good memories

and not so good ones.

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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago

Coventry

"After a really tough year so far this is becomming a possibility in my not too distant future. Married quarters etc. Any advice or insights would be very welcomed

My experience was a considerable time ago but let's just say I found the wives could be very clicky.

Getting used to the jargon was a bit of a tough call and it's understanding that you are wife of and therefore the identity of yourself is all under your husband's rank number. The quarters are ok depends where you're based but it does take some adjustment there are highs and lower lows but drinking was a big part of it when I was there but the accommodation was really cheap and you all share a common theme with your neighbours full stop this about pushing the boundaries and socialising with people and trying to remember some wives will be fixated with the rank more than the husband

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By *rincess1988Woman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

"Get involved with the wives clubs etc. You all share a common issue (being an Army wife and what goes with it) and you can all support each other."

Get not involved with them. I repeat do not get involved with the wives.

Always kept to myself and avoided the cliques. Army life is better that way. Have your own job, friends etc. those choirs and other groups suuuuuck.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Think it depends on so many variables. I had job, and as my husband was what he termed an attached arm (basically with each unit for 2 to 3 years at most) it meant the wife's appeared clicky as I never early got to know them.

There was also the rank thing which I never got and could never answer the question "so what rank is your husband?" At first I would vaguely stumble through what I thought he was and did and you could see them back off as they apparently realised he was quite high up. Later I used to just say "why, does it matter I not in the Army."

Only moved with him for four postings then settled down in the North East whilst he lived in the Mess and I just went down for parties which were amazing.

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By *he FAB Social - MCRCouple (FF)
over a year ago

manchester

Did you get married/move in?

We need an update and what side of the marmite fence you are on? Xx

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

city

It might be easier if you're the senior wife. Ive come across that, they held as much power over your career as their husbands. Use quarters, to help save for your own house.

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By *andyrod1Man
over a year ago

St Margaret's at Cliffe

Be prepared to have your house inspected when you leave, and for a bill if it was deemed not clean enough, even it is cleaner than when you moved in.

The RAF had a 'March Out' service where you paid a cleaner to remove all the hassle.

My ex hated married quarters, she was a massive snob though, there are lots of unwritten rules you have to navigate among the wives, we had neighbour issues but a call to Estates Flight sorted this.

It is what you make it, like most things in life.

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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago

Coventry

"Be prepared to have your house inspected when you leave, and for a bill if it was deemed not clean enough, even it is cleaner than when you moved in.

The RAF had a 'March Out' service where you paid a cleaner to remove all the hassle.

My ex hated married quarters, she was a massive snob though, there are lots of unwritten rules you have to navigate among the wives, we had neighbour issues but a call to Estates Flight sorted this.

It is what you make it, like most things in life."

March outs ...hated those

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you can make it work without moving to the ‘pads’ I would recommend you do so. Weekend commuting can work very well if you have your own place. Not sure which arm or device your other half is in, but our experience was very long days during the week so little quality time, even in garrison vs. exercises and deployments. Weekends in a different environment were very welcome when we could do that.

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By *oroRick1027Man
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

To be perfectly honest, when I met my future wife I gave up my Army career and bought myself out.

I saw too many Army marriage's break up.

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By *iscreet_Guy52Man
over a year ago

Any married military women want some fun I’m your man! Loved sleeping with them whilst I was in!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After a really tough year so far this is becomming a possibility in my not too distant future. Married quarters etc. Any advice or insights would be very welcomed

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join the wife social clubs. I dont know if they have them there. We were both in the military I served 10 years my husband retired. Moving around to different installations is daunting but you make life long friends. The clubs help a lot during extended deployments.

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