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Possible FFM with my gf?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok so me and my girlfriend have been together for over 5 years, and the other day she mentioned that something that really gets her off is the thought of me recieving oral from another woman... This obviously intrigued me as i thouht id never get the chance to potentially have a third woman join us.

One thing she mentioned though is that she thinks its more of a mental fantasy than one that she would actually like to see play out in front of her.

After trying to dig a little deeper she agreed that perhaps one day she would be open to allowing another girl in to watch first, and then play if she was ok with it, and didnt feel second best so to speak.

Does anyone have any similar experience or advice on those comments?

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

You chances of finding it on here are very slim. What exactly is in it for a single fem?

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I would be wary of meeting anyone in the situation you've described, she doesn't seem sure of what she wants. Also the fact you're on here without her, it all screams drama.

Your first step, if she's serious, would be to create a couples profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That is very fair and i completley get your point. Thank you

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

Any other year, the answer would be this is what clubs are for. Dipping a toe in the water, watching others, seeing what excites you both.

Sadly this year you’re out of luck

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Not my thing at all. Nothing in it for me, plus you'd be way better off on a couples profile. Clubs would be better for you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex love the thought being pleased by another woman that was great feeling sexy thought so convinced her have profile last about week some couple pushed it too far when chatting bang chat deleted never to be mentioned again ...as mentioned one thing fantasy complete different reality let her take the lead her own time is ny my advice

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By *izzibeth9Couple
over a year ago

Loughborough


"Ok so me and my girlfriend have been together for over 5 years, and the other day she mentioned that something that really gets her off is the thought of me recieving oral from another woman... This obviously intrigued me as i thouht id never get the chance to potentially have a third woman join us.

One thing she mentioned though is that she thinks its more of a mental fantasy than one that she would actually like to see play out in front of her.

After trying to dig a little deeper she agreed that perhaps one day she would be open to allowing another girl in to watch first, and then play if she was ok with it, and didnt feel second best so to speak.

Does anyone have any similar experience or advice on those comments?

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People have said they’re wary or what’s in it for the other woman, but I totally get where your Mrs is coming from.

She’s afraid that she’s going to get left out and maybe feel something like jealousy or anxious that you’ll prefer the other person, but equally sounds like she maybe would like to try it.

I’d recommend trying to find a few single females or even a couple to chat to and have her chat to them too so that she gets to know them and feels comfortable with them and go for a social first and just see how things go. I think a lot of women will be understanding of the situation. If you do end up all playing just try and be attentive to your wife, and then give her lots of aftercare afterwards to reassure her.

Good luck!

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By *atBottomGirlsWoman
over a year ago

St Austell-ish


"Ok so me and my girlfriend have been together for over 5 years, and the other day she mentioned that something that really gets her off is the thought of me recieving oral from another woman... This obviously intrigued me as i thouht id never get the chance to potentially have a third woman join us.

One thing she mentioned though is that she thinks its more of a mental fantasy than one that she would actually like to see play out in front of her.

After trying to dig a little deeper she agreed that perhaps one day she would be open to allowing another girl in to watch first, and then play if she was ok with it, and didnt feel second best so to speak.

Does anyone have any similar experience or advice on those comments?

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As you've been on here over a year (yet with your gf over 5 years), and your profile mentions "mutually discreet meets," I'd suggest you let her know you're here, and ask her for her opinion.

She may be up for it....?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok so me and my girlfriend have been together for over 5 years, and the other day she mentioned that something that really gets her off is the thought of me recieving oral from another woman... This obviously intrigued me as i thouht id never get the chance to potentially have a third woman join us.

One thing she mentioned though is that she thinks its more of a mental fantasy than one that she would actually like to see play out in front of her.

After trying to dig a little deeper she agreed that perhaps one day she would be open to allowing another girl in to watch first, and then play if she was ok with it, and didnt feel second best so to speak.

Does anyone have any similar experience or advice on those comments?

"

If I was you I would watch a porno of ffm with her see how wet/turned she gets, if its evident she's into it start working towards making it a reality

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Ok so me and my girlfriend have been together for over 5 years, and the other day she mentioned that something that really gets her off is the thought of me recieving oral from another woman... This obviously intrigued me as i thouht id never get the chance to potentially have a third woman join us.

One thing she mentioned though is that she thinks its more of a mental fantasy than one that she would actually like to see play out in front of her.

After trying to dig a little deeper she agreed that perhaps one day she would be open to allowing another girl in to watch first, and then play if she was ok with it, and didnt feel second best so to speak.

Does anyone have any similar experience or advice on those comments?

"
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People have a lot of fantasies that they enjoy either during sex or talking and thinking about but never want to enact in real life. The key is it she'll talk about it in the cold light of day. If not, she's not interested in it becoming a reality.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Why would a woman be bothered trying to coax your girlfriend into playing when there are so many willing couples on here ?

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Why would a woman be bothered trying to coax your girlfriend into playing when there are so many willing couples on here ?"

All the ayes to the right!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why would a woman be bothered trying to coax your girlfriend into playing when there are so many willing couples on here ?

All the ayes to the right!"
your single profile screams Drama

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By *exandthesuburbans83Couple
over a year ago

EASTBOURNE

We were in a similar situation when we started. A few key things for us were to be very clear in your profile or chat with someone. Maybe find a soft swap couple where the man stays just with their own partner but the girls can play (which is how we entered it). The reason we say this is because finding single women can be harder. Maybe a hotwife or cuck couple may be good as the man prefers to watch than be involved so its more like a 3some. The main thing is start slow and communicate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok so me and my girlfriend have been together for over 5 years, and the other day she mentioned that something that really gets her off is the thought of me recieving oral from another woman... This obviously intrigued me as i thouht id never get the chance to potentially have a third woman join us.

One thing she mentioned though is that she thinks its more of a mental fantasy than one that she would actually like to see play out in front of her.

After trying to dig a little deeper she agreed that perhaps one day she would be open to allowing another girl in to watch first, and then play if she was ok with it, and didnt feel second best so to speak.

Does anyone have any similar experience or advice on those comments?

,

People have a lot of fantasies that they enjoy either during sex or talking and thinking about but never want to enact in real life. The key is it she'll talk about it in the cold light of day. If not, she's not interested in it becoming a reality."

I was in a similar position with my ex, we discussed it at length openly, the opportunity did arise and we had a fantastic time, but we’d already set boundaries, discussed any fears, and informed our partner. I would without a doubt set up a couple profile and lose yours, trust is everything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are lucky enough to have met 3 women so far. The key thing is, your gf has to be absolutely sure she is on board with the idea. It's also gonna pretty hard to get a woman in to experiment with, what's in it for her?

Bella is full on bi and loves ladies. When we are lucky enough to play with a lady, we don't see it as us and her, more 3 people playing together where everybody's pleasure equally as important. Well, for me, being the bloke, I love ensuring both ladies have s great time. I just feel blimin lucky to be there!!!

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