FabSwingers.com forum: Fun Feelings

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sooo...

I am a married man with child. And my friend is a married man with pregnant wife. Yes I know it’s wrong to begin with but I’m not here to be lectured about that.

We have been friends for years. And suddenly had this different connection that appeared.

We have unbelievable sexual tension and whenever alone have some fun. However we have both developed feelings. I think

Every time we meet something happens. And then he usually takes cold feet. Says he feels guilty on his wife. Then it happens again and so on.

I was totally fine with casual fun as that’s all it was ment to be. But with his constant hot and cold it’s messing with my head.

My head is a mess with it.... but the fun side is too fun.

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

Not much advice I can offer I'm afraid as never been in that kind of situation but I imagine now feelings are developing it is very difficult for you both. Maybe take some time away from each other and see how you feel after that. It seems like your friend doesn't really want to face what is going on though and you both need to in order to work out how to deal with it.

Mrs x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

he gets horny and once that's relieved he feels guilty until he feels horny again. Until and unless he faces up to the situation this will continue.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Fast forward 36 weeks and we are no further forward. I suggested cutting all ties but he said that it’s extreme?and didn’t want to

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By *renzMan
over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant

"Fast forward 36 weeks and we are no further forward. I suggested cutting all ties but he said that it’s extreme?and didn’t want to

He doesn't want to?

What do you want?

Obviously you don't want to after 36 weeks, so why bring it up again?

Hmmmm.

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By *winkleFairyCouple
over a year ago

Putting his feelings aside... you yourself admit you’ve developed feelings. While that itself isn’t unusual it’s how you deal with them that makes the difference to how you proceed.

You’re both playing a very dangerous game. Both of your wives and kids are potentially going to be caught up in this if you don’t think carefully about what you are doing.

Walk away. You don’t need his permission to do it either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"he gets horny and once that's relieved he feels guilty until he feels horny again. Until and unless he faces up to the situation this will continue. "

This. I've been in this similar situation for almost 3 years with someone. Although I genuinely believe him when he says he loves me, the down times are horrific.

Hard to give up on something where the connection is so strong though.

Sadly I've no advice really. We have tried cutting all ties many times. They never really break.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"he gets horny and once that's relieved he feels guilty until he feels horny again. Until and unless he faces up to the situation this will continue.

This. I've been in this similar situation for almost 3 years with someone. Although I genuinely believe him when he says he loves me, the down times are horrific.

Hard to give up on something where the connection is so strong though.

Sadly I've no advice really. We have tried cutting all ties many times. They never really break. "

One of you has to be the strong one

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I was having a conversation with our adult daughter recently about the behaviour of one of her friends who claimed they "couldn't" do something in similar circumstances to those described here. I said that once you're an adult and especially if you have children you have to realise that sometimes you don't have a choice, sometimes you *have* to do things you really don't want to. It's what being an adult is, facing reality, accepting your responsibilities to other people and making tough decisions. Excuses like "I can't" "it was inevitable" "we just couldn't help it" aren't acceptable.

Tough words but being an adult is tough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think also the crush element and the excitement of it being a secret make it irresistible. Only way is to cut all ties/contact. But it's hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fast forward 36 weeks and we are no further forward. I suggested cutting all ties but he said that it’s extreme?and didn’t want to

Of course he did; he's having his cake and eating it. Personally, I'd make the only sensible decision in the circumstances and cut all ties. It might be painful at the outset but, in the long run,your sanity will thank you for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He's a fuck boy ...

Urban dictionary definition:

fuck boys do whatever they want whenever they want and don't care who the screw over while doing it. They lead a person on to believe that they are special and they really care about you then they turn into horny duchebags that do whatever they can to get laid.

He's using you. Sorry.

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

"He's a fuck boy ...

Urban dictionary definition:

He's using you. Sorry. "

They’re both using their wives imo.

It’s always the innocents that get hurt the most.

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