FabSwingers.com forum: Guess its a no then

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Pretty new to this still and just wondered when you message someone and they don't read it but view you and leave the message unread in their account should it be taken as a not interested?

We always reply to messages whether it's a yes or no just to be polite!

I only ask as someone we messaged didn't read the message , has view us now quite a few times and then tried adding us a friend and still not replied to message?

If they just read it viewed us then deleted it then we'd know

Maybe I need to work on my messaging skills or something xx mrs cxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They might get a ton of mail and missed yours somehow. Wink again. Otherwise just move on. If they can't reply to mail they might not be reliable at turning up to a meet.

Not everyone is rude, you'll meet nice people too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if they viewed your profile, id take it that they looked at your message, never clicked it, and looked at your profile first, the profile wasnt what they were looking for so they didnt read the message

happens alot, this is why a great profile is needed.

if your after bi females, then your profile is certinetally lacking in the male photo deparment

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By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

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what do you mean by tried to add you as a friend - isnt that them showing an interest - if you didnt accept them maybe they think YOU are not interested

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

"Pretty new to this still and just wondered when you message someone and they don't read it but view you and leave the message unread in their account should it be taken as a not interested?

We always reply to messages whether it's a yes or no just to be polite!

I only ask as someone we messaged didn't read the message , has view us now quite a few times and then tried adding us a friend and still not replied to message?

If they just read it viewed us then deleted it then we'd know

Maybe I need to work on my messaging skills or something xx mrs cxx "

I'm guessing that the person has looked at your profile rather than read the message, the number of times might be because the (I'm assuming ) couple have both had a look maybe at different times , one might be unsure or wanting to do a double check, friends request if you didn't send your face pictures or pictures of you both might be them trying to see what ya look like .. either way up, the balls in their court, so I'd move on to the next who interest you .. if you yey to fathom what and how others do things this site will drive you crazy.

Have fun..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"what do you mean by tried to add you as a friend - isnt that them showing an interest - if you didnt accept them maybe they think YOU are not interested"

I'd guess that if they've looked, still not read the message and then tried adding you as a friend - it might indicate they aren't sure after reading your profile (might be worth considering the content - I haven't looked but always worth updating regularly) and your visible pics haven't spurred them to reply - so they want to see your private pics first!

One of two things may then happen. They like your private pics and will respond to your message. Or they still won't be interested and will more than likely just delete it!

Some people work like that on here - frustrating (and some think rude!) at times - but just take it as it comes and move on to the next people that take your fancy!

Good luck!

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By *eminiman61Man
over a year ago

mansfield

There's nowt as strange as folk..... Most ppl on here will do things like this,I've had soooo many time wasters but I say stick in there the genuine peeps make it all worth while

Have fun ..... Non illigitimous carborundum

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs

I'm sure that most/everyone will have experienced what you have so put it to bed and don't worry about it.

they've probably tried to become friends to view your private pics, possibly because you may have some of your male half in there.

so perhaps put some in your main profile as you're looking for him to join in as well.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanx everyone -

Suppose we'll just have to move on from it - and get some of hubby on public!

Xx mrs c xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I get a message and I'm interested sometimes I'll send a friend request for 2 reasons.

1 so they can see my face pics and then if I'm not for them they can decline and go on with their search and 2 so as if they mail back & I see we are friends I give them a higher prioriety on my too respond list,

Just my pennies worth, as the other posters have already said, it could be for any number of reasons

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