FabSwingers.com forum: New partner

By *lasgowsfinest OP Man
over a year ago

glasgow

Hi guys. Looking for best way to speak to a new partner about the swinging lifestyle and if it’s something she would be interested in. Pretty early days just now but some advice would be great!

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

"Hi guys. Looking for best way to speak to a new partner about the swinging lifestyle and if it’s something she would be interested in. Pretty early days just now but some advice would be great!"

Ah the eternal question. I’m sure you’ll get some different opinions, but for a start have you any reason at all to believe she’s interested? I don’t mean that in a negative way, but discussing fantasies might be a starting point.

If you’ve been a swinger before, I know others have said they’ve mentioned it to a new partner quite early on in a “btw” sense.

Also, what are your own interests? Asking her to full swap is a very different proposition to a soft FFM for example.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Just talk about it. Ask them how they feel about swinging, fantasies etc and if they're interested. Better to find out sooner than later if you're compatible or not

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By *lasgowsfinest OP Man
over a year ago

glasgow

Well she doesn’t seem to be shy at all in the bedroom with what she wants and what she likes. I know that doesn’t for one min mean that she is in to swinging but she seems open minded . I’d be happy to take it it her pace if she was as wouldn’t want to pressure her or make her feel uncomfortable . Again would be happy to play any way, if she wasn’t interested something then it wouldn’t happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd bring it up as soon/early into the relationship as you can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd bring it up as soon/early into the relationship as you can. "

Agreed. Put her in the picture.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"I'd bring it up as soon/early into the relationship as you can.

Agreed. Put her in the picture."

I echo this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask her if she's ever had a 3some, if the answer is yes, she'll be interested.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"Ask her if she's ever had a 3some, if the answer is yes, she'll be interested. "

Not necessarily

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ask her if she's ever had a 3some, if the answer is yes, she'll be interested.

Not necessarily "

She'll more than likely be interested in it if she has, game to do it? Now thats a different matter.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Ask her if she's ever had a 3some, if the answer is yes, she'll be interested. "

If she has had a threesome it does not mean she will be into swinging. I wonder what brings you to that conclusion about a woman you do not know?

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By *lasgowsfinest OP Man
over a year ago

glasgow

"Ask her if she's ever had a 3some, if the answer is yes, she'll be interested.

If she has had a threesome it does not mean she will be into swinging. I wonder what brings you to that conclusion about a woman you do not know?"

Yeh I agree. A threesome is a threesome , swinging more of a lifestyle choice!

I’ll bring up the subject over next few weeks and see how it goes (hopefully well)

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