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By *ornyQueer OP   Woman
over a year ago

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Last time I give a guy with no verifications a chance. Turns up and obviously fake pics sent or ten years old at least. Men wonder why we won't meet them if no verifications.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Last time I give a guy with no verifications a chance. Turns up and obviously fake pics sent or ten years old at least. Men wonder why we won't meet them if no verifications. "

hope you’re ok and you kicked his ass into tomorrow

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley

And that's why it pays to be honest!

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

I’ve got some and I still don’t have a chance

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Last time I give a guy with no verifications a chance. Turns up and obviously fake pics sent or ten years old at least. Men wonder why we won't meet them if no verifications. "
Thats why its always better to do a social meet before a play meet

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By *pecialK88Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"Last time I give a guy with no verifications a chance. Turns up and obviously fake pics sent or ten years old at least. Men wonder why we won't meet them if no verifications. "

I do wonder what goes through their minds. Do they honestly think you will just go oh well you are here now so let's get it on even though you lied... too many weirdos in the world.

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

That’s why verifications are important on this site , least you know if they are the real deal

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

such a shame to hear this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope you don't mind me adding to this. I do understand totally and I respect that. But for us genuine guys that are serious and want to start a long journey of excitement on here, it can be so hard when people say I won't meet guys without verifications, how are we suppose to get verifications if no one is willing to give us a chance.

I hate the fact that these guys ruin it for us serious ones. I would try a club but lockdown put a stop to that lol.

Anyway have a lovely evening people x

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By *uicy jugsWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Last time I give a guy with no verifications a chance. Turns up and obviously fake pics sent or ten years old at least. Men wonder why we won't meet them if no verifications. "

I look at the length of time on the site if just joined you can understand no veris but if they have been on the site 12 months or more and no veris then yep i avoid ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I look at the length of time on the site if just joined you can understand no veris but if they have been on the site 12 months or more and no veris then yep i avoid ...."

I'll get my coat...

Can understand this view though.

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By *ittlemisssassypantsCouple
over a year ago

South East Wales

There are so many ways for a single guy (or anyone else) to get verified that there really is no excuse.

Cam

Clubs

Socials

All of these can be easily achieved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree with the above but...

Cams - no one wants to cam with me as I'm not verified

Clubs - I joined just as the lockdown started

Socials - again no one wants socials with me as I'm not verified.

So you can see how its hard for some of us.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Hope you don't mind me adding to this. I do understand totally and I respect that. But for us genuine guys that are serious and want to start a long journey of excitement on here, it can be so hard when people say I won't meet guys without verifications, how are we suppose to get verifications if no one is willing to give us a chance.

I hate the fact that these guys ruin it for us serious ones. I would try a club but lockdown put a stop to that lol.

Anyway have a lovely evening people x"

if a guy hasn't been on the site for that long, had a good profile, i probably would cam with him if i liked him enough then verify him

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Totally agree with the above but...

Cams - no one wants to cam with me as I'm not verified

Clubs - I joined just as the lockdown started

Socials - again no one wants socials with me as I'm not verified.

So you can see how its hard for some of us."

Socials in lockdown?

Think there is an answer in there.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Last time I give a guy with no verifications a chance. Turns up and obviously fake pics sent or ten years old at least. Men wonder why we won't meet them if no verifications. Thats why its always better to do a social meet before a play meet "

I’m guessing this was a social meet, given the current situation......?

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Last time I give a guy with no verifications a chance. Turns up and obviously fake pics sent or ten years old at least. Men wonder why we won't meet them if no verifications. "

OP just think of it as a learning curve. Try other ways of making sure they are who they say they are before meeting. Xx

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By *trangeleftyMan
over a year ago

London

I get rejected by everyone or get stood up. How should I approach verifications?

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Last time I give a guy with no verifications a chance. Turns up and obviously fake pics sent or ten years old at least. Men wonder why we won't meet them if no verifications.

OP just think of it as a learning curve. Try other ways of making sure they are who they say they are before meeting. Xx"
The op would need to confirm that

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm verified and still can't get a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm verified and still can't get a meet"

Maybe because you joined just before lockdown? Maybe thats why you cant get a meet?

Seems you did ok in the month just before lockdown.

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By *ickDastardlyMan
over a year ago

North East


"Hope you don't mind me adding to this. I do understand totally and I respect that. But for us genuine guys that are serious and want to start a long journey of excitement on here, it can be so hard when people say I won't meet guys without verifications, how are we suppose to get verifications if no one is willing to give us a chance.

I hate the fact that these guys ruin it for us serious ones. I would try a club but lockdown put a stop to that lol.

Anyway have a lovely evening people x"

I agree with you, but for one genuine person that are 10's of opportunistic people. I rarely reply to someone unverified nowadays because 99 times of a 100 its someone talking sexually and then disappearing.

Not for me.

Bide your time, wait for a club to open or meet socially if can find someone willing to meet you.

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By *ittlemisssassypantsCouple
over a year ago

South East Wales


"Totally agree with the above but...

Cams - no one wants to cam with me as I'm not verified

Clubs - I joined just as the lockdown started

Socials - again no one wants socials with me as I'm not verified.

So you can see how its hard for some of us."

Obviously lockdown has hindered things at the moment, but in general (before/after lockdown) there’s still no excuse.

I’m sure if you joined one of the cam rooms someone would happily verify you too

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

It's a bout the person, not the verifications or lack thereof. I've been here ten years and met many men (always a social only first for me) who are not verified but they all had good pictures, could hold a conversation away from sex and remained respectful.

On the day of any social or meet, if they don't reply to a message I send in the morning, I cancel the meet but they all know that in advance.

Due diligence and trust your gut.

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By *hebestrimmerMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

What annoys me more than anything, not just on swingers,but on most sites I've been on is the amount of liers there are when it commes to verifying people. Loads promise to verify at the time of meeting but then once yo leave and askthem they flatey refuse to.

Obvious from my profile name that I get more meets with men than women, and usualy the ladies keep their woord and do veriy me, but the young men ???? Forget it.

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By *anya1974Woman
over a year ago

Barnsley

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s great to know catfish is surviving the coronavirus.....

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By *INTONIC300Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow/Manchester/Edinburgh

I would always cam before even considering meeting anyone. This for us is the best way to assure they are real . Appreciate everyone doesn't like to cam but we won't meet otherwise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very sensible Gin x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What annoys me more than anything, not just on swingers,but on most sites I've been on is the amount of liers there are when it commes to verifying people. Loads promise to verify at the time of meeting but then once yo leave and askthem they flatey refuse to.

Obvious from my profile name that I get more meets with men than women, and usualy the ladies keep their woord and do veriy me, but the young men ???? Forget it.

"

Really? But you're verified by men only...

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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago

Coventry


"Last time I give a guy with no verifications a chance. Turns up and obviously fake pics sent or ten years old at least. Men wonder why we won't meet them if no verifications. "

I feel your pain. To be honest I met someone last year with verifications but his pics were still that old I could not recognise him. It was awkward and embarrassing and a waste of time

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton


"Last time I give a guy with no verifications a chance. Turns up and obviously fake pics sent or ten years old at least. Men wonder why we won't meet them if no verifications. "

It has nothing to do with men, women do it too so I guess the moral of the story is...be sure who you are talking to is who they say they are.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

i do video calls to reduce the anxiety of meeting someone who looks different from their profile.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"There are so many ways for a single guy (or anyone else) to get verified that there really is no excuse.

Cam

Clubs

Socials

All of these can be easily achieved. "

Spot on, but the intsa shaggers won't do this, only the genuine swingers with social skills will.

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By *ornyQueer OP   Woman
over a year ago

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I don't like doing video ones really. I hate the way I look on camera. But it might be a good idea. It's not only single men I've had lots of fake women too.


"i do video calls to reduce the anxiety of meeting someone who looks different from their profile. "

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central


"Hope you don't mind me adding to this. I do understand totally and I respect that. But for us genuine guys that are serious and want to start a long journey of excitement on here, it can be so hard when people say I won't meet guys without verifications, how are we suppose to get verifications if no one is willing to give us a chance.

I hate the fact that these guys ruin it for us serious ones. I would try a club but lockdown put a stop to that lol.

Anyway have a lovely evening people x"

Veris from meets are closer to impossible, due to the virus just permitting limited social meets, or cam meets online.

Once the lockdown restrictions ease even more, it's likely that more people will have socials and veris will get easier.

Until then, cams to get a cam veri is possibly better than nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not verified .. was but not now .. lol don’t tar us all with the same brush .. ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've given the unverified a chance in the past. But never again. I've been followed after a social. Had guys turn up that don't match their pics. I always socialed first because of this behaviour from some men. Now I only meet in clubs, on member only nights

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *WbaMan
over a year ago

Maidstone

Interesting topic. I appreciate everyone has to start somehwere but I tend to have a fairly good eye for the fakes.

It may not be everyone's cup of tea but a completely non verified and green ticked profile can still fairly quickly/easily verify.

Sometimes I request a very stupid random pic, like a pic of a tooth brush next to your nipple. Or 3 fingers over your nose, that kinda thing. It doesn't have to be sexual at all and not a face pic either. It's amazing how quickly genuine people can do that and don't have a problem with it, and how much resistance the fakes put up...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've given the unverified a chance in the past. But never again. I've been followed after a social. Had guys turn up that don't match their pics. I always socialed first because of this behaviour from some men. Now I only meet in clubs, on member only nights"

Yes I agree but not being verified doesn’t mean you are automatically a loon either .. guess you had a bad apple there .. but safety is most important

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"Interesting topic. I appreciate everyone has to start somehwere but I tend to have a fairly good eye for the fakes.

It may not be everyone's cup of tea but a completely non verified and green ticked profile can still fairly quickly/easily verify.

Sometimes I request a very stupid random pic, like a pic of a tooth brush next to your nipple. Or 3 fingers over your nose, that kinda thing. It doesn't have to be sexual at all and not a face pic either. It's amazing how quickly genuine people can do that and don't have a problem with it, and how much resistance the fakes put up...

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Apart from the people who aren't fakes who wont jump through those hoops.

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By *auti Lass and MoleCouple
over a year ago

Bicester


"Totally agree with the above but...

Cams - no one wants to cam with me as I'm not verified

Clubs - I joined just as the lockdown started

Socials - again no one wants socials with me as I'm not verified.

So you can see how its hard for some of us."

Socials can be two things.

A social no pressure meeting with individuals, which is what you are describing here. This is the more intimate version.

The other version being an organised social. A gathering of many people. Often new starters etc. These happen every so often and are an amazing way to meet and chat with others.

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By *WbaMan
over a year ago

Maidstone


"Interesting topic. I appreciate everyone has to start somehwere but I tend to have a fairly good eye for the fakes.

It may not be everyone's cup of tea but a completely non verified and green ticked profile can still fairly quickly/easily verify.

Sometimes I request a very stupid random pic, like a pic of a tooth brush next to your nipple. Or 3 fingers over your nose, that kinda thing. It doesn't have to be sexual at all and not a face pic either. It's amazing how quickly genuine people can do that and don't have a problem with it, and how much resistance the fakes put up...

Apart from the people who aren't fakes who wont jump through those hoops. "

Yea very true, of course. But if they're not verified in any way and are basically trying to show they are genuine, I feel like the ball is in their court to do something that suggests they're genuine. A phone call, funny pic, etc. Otherwise perhaps they're just waiting for someone to take a complete chance on them and get that veri once they've met up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so many guys message us that have been on for a year or more with no verification's they all say new to this ??? probably new to being polite

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By *ilkchocolate87Man
over a year ago

sw london

How do you expect all men to obtain verifications when the ratio is close to

50:1? Women can afford to be picky and often miss genuine messages.

If someone is green tick verified that should be enough. If you want to know them better then video call and make your own judgement

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By *ickDastardlyMan
over a year ago

North East


"How do you expect all men to obtain verifications when the ratio is close to

50:1? Women can afford to be picky and often miss genuine messages.

If someone is green tick verified that should be enough. If you want to know them better then video call and make your own judgement "

To add to this, people on here come and go and verifications with them disappear too.

So men also have sustain that. But hey ho.

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By *ittlemisssassypantsCouple
over a year ago

South East Wales


"Interesting topic. I appreciate everyone has to start somehwere but I tend to have a fairly good eye for the fakes.

It may not be everyone's cup of tea but a completely non verified and green ticked profile can still fairly quickly/easily verify.

Sometimes I request a very stupid random pic, like a pic of a tooth brush next to your nipple. Or 3 fingers over your nose, that kinda thing. It doesn't have to be sexual at all and not a face pic either. It's amazing how quickly genuine people can do that and don't have a problem with it, and how much resistance the fakes put up...

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We aren’t fake and definitely wouldn’t do that

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"Interesting topic. I appreciate everyone has to start somehwere but I tend to have a fairly good eye for the fakes.

It may not be everyone's cup of tea but a completely non verified and green ticked profile can still fairly quickly/easily verify.

Sometimes I request a very stupid random pic, like a pic of a tooth brush next to your nipple. Or 3 fingers over your nose, that kinda thing. It doesn't have to be sexual at all and not a face pic either. It's amazing how quickly genuine people can do that and don't have a problem with it, and how much resistance the fakes put up...

Apart from the people who aren't fakes who wont jump through those hoops.

Yea very true, of course. But if they're not verified in any way and are basically trying to show they are genuine, I feel like the ball is in their court to do something that suggests they're genuine. A phone call, funny pic, etc. Otherwise perhaps they're just waiting for someone to take a complete chance on them and get that veri once they've met up."

I've met many unverified men over the years for socials, it's easy to see who wont turn up, no phone call or daft picture needed.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"How do you expect all men to obtain verifications when the ratio is close to

50:1? Women can afford to be picky and often miss genuine messages.

If someone is green tick verified that should be enough. If you want to know them better then video call and make your own judgement "

I just don't see how the numbers are imbalance though? The same number of men and women join, online, chat on forums. Personally I think it is how men create their profile, converse in messages that may make men feel like it is 50:1. There's plenty of profile and conversation advice on forums but you still see same mistakes made time and time again. swingers aren't free sex workers!

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"How do you expect all men to obtain verifications when the ratio is close to

50:1? Women can afford to be picky and often miss genuine messages.

If someone is green tick verified that should be enough. If you want to know them better then video call and make your own judgement

I just don't see how the numbers are imbalance though? The same number of men and women join, online, chat on forums. Personally I think it is how men create their profile, converse in messages that may make men feel like it is 50:1. There's plenty of profile and conversation advice on forums but you still see same mistakes made time and time again. swingers aren't free sex workers! "

How do you know how many join tho? The true figures are masked. I've just looked how many women joined -200 v how many men - 300+. Now the + bit could mean 301 or 300,000, we don't know. But fab do. So why not publish the real figures? I've never understood that one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you expect all men to obtain verifications when the ratio is close to

50:1? Women can afford to be picky and often miss genuine messages.

If someone is green tick verified that should be enough. If you want to know them better then video call and make your own judgement

I just don't see how the numbers are imbalance though? The same number of men and women join, online, chat on forums. Personally I think it is how men create their profile, converse in messages that may make men feel like it is 50:1. There's plenty of profile and conversation advice on forums but you still see same mistakes made time and time again. swingers aren't free sex workers!

How do you know how many join tho? The true figures are masked. I've just looked how many women joined -200 v how many men - 300+. Now the + bit could mean 301 or 300,000, we don't know. But fab do. So why not publish the real figures? I've never understood that one."

If the ratio is a mystery it still gives hope. If the ratio is revealed as 500 men to 1 woman...........

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By *ikesEmBigMan
over a year ago

Herts


"Last time I give a guy with no verifications a chance. Turns up and obviously fake pics sent or ten years old at least. Men wonder why we won't meet them if no verifications. "

Unfortunately mine are real

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By *erox81Man
over a year ago

Maynooth, Lucan, Dublin


"i do video calls to reduce the anxiety of meeting someone who looks different from their profile. "

Does it work for you? Be honest please and tell how many people did you refuse to meet after video call and why?

I’m wondering how can I improve to become a verified member.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always said to anyone but I am going to meet on any website it doesn't matter if it's a dating website it doesn't matter if it's a sex site I've always asked for a face picture and if they don't want to give a face picture then a video call that way I know who I am speaking to sometimes if they don't want to do it a lot of the time you know that they are fake you just got to be careful and ask

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hope you don't mind me adding to this. I do understand totally and I respect that. But for us genuine guys that are serious and want to start a long journey of excitement on here, it can be so hard when people say I won't meet guys without verifications, how are we suppose to get verifications if no one is willing to give us a chance.

I hate the fact that these guys ruin it for us serious ones. I would try a club but lockdown put a stop to that lol.

Anyway have a lovely evening people x"

This here

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"i do video calls to reduce the anxiety of meeting someone who looks different from their profile.

Does it work for you? Be honest please and tell how many people did you refuse to meet after video call and why?

I’m wondering how can I improve to become a verified member."

You could try reading advice on some of the help threads or start your own.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"I've always said to anyone but I am going to meet on any website it doesn't matter if it's a dating website it doesn't matter if it's a sex site I've always asked for a face picture and if they don't want to give a face picture then a video call that way I know who I am speaking to sometimes if they don't want to do it a lot of the time you know that they are fake you just got to be careful and ask "

Declining a video call does not make someone fake!

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