FabSwingers.com forum: Bdsm ... “light”

By *akeyou1 OP Man
over a year ago

sutton

Hi guys looking to get into “light bdsm” if there is such thing ! :D

I have a woman to help with this but just looking for beginners advice. No pain stuff or dog collars just “light” just to be abit kinkier outside our comfort zones like what size butt plug should she use etc?

Thanks in advance

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I think one person's light is another person's heavy. For instance any size butt plug is a hard limit for me but I'm fine with a collar.

As far as butt plugs go start small. As for the rest communicate and never do anything that isn't safe, sane or consensual and you'll be fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think one person's light is another person's heavy. For instance any size butt plug is a hard limit for me but I'm fine with a collar.

As far as butt plugs go start small. As for the rest communicate and never do anything that isn't safe, sane or consensual and you'll be fine

OP, what you and your partner consider light will be different to anyone else's.

Safe, sane, and consensual are the most important things. And if you can't talk to your partner about preferences and limits, you might want to work on communicating openly first because it's so important when you're pushing limits.

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By *akeyou1 OP Man
over a year ago

sutton

Yeah i just want to get kinkier and naughtier so in my mind ass play is the next thing on the list as she’s quite reluctant to do it.

I have experienced it before but I want to sort of move it into normal foreplay and not just once in a blue moon if that makes sense?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Yeah i just want to get kinkier and naughtier so in my mind ass play is the next thing on the list as she’s quite reluctant to do it.

I have experienced it before but I want to sort of move it into normal foreplay and not just once in a blue moon if that makes sense?"

If she's reluctant why are you trying to do it more often?

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By *atex and KinkCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Furry hand cuffs, scarf blindfold and a feather for touch is probably more Light bdsm.

Butt plug for anal - probably more sexually adventurous rather than bdsm. but, each to there own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ass play is, in my books, quite far from BDSM. It can be incorporated into it, but doesn't have to be integral part.

How about some sensual BDSM? One person tied up to bed (can be very soft restraints, like silk scarf etc) and blindfolded, the other one touching their body, looking for erogenous zones? You could use very light touch, barely brushing the body, you could use nails or you could try pinwheel? It looks like it could do some serious damage, but it feels amazing for me. You'd be surprised what you may discover in the way of the partner reacting where you wouldn't expect them to react.

You could also use feather (feather duster?) etc. As long as you keep open mind, a lot of everyday items can be used in sensory play.

Or maybe some erotic massage?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Op, bdsm isn't a way to make someone do something they don't really want to.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I enjoy BDSM but I don't like anal myself, although I am happy to peg others.

Anal and BDSM are not the same thing at all.

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

I teach a beginners rope class that you can use for tie and tease. My next one is week on Saturday then I’ll run one in maybe 3 months time. Drop me a message If you’re interested

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By *oft_SensualTV/TS
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Is she using the butt plug on you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi guys looking to get into “light bdsm” if there is such thing ! :D

Thanks in advance "

Discuss what it is you both find exciting and go from there. Discovery is the best part of starting out. Just don't try and run before you can walk. And if you are going to use any form of restraints make sure you know how to get out of them quickly, a good pair of surgical scissors are a good thing to have as they pretty much cut through anything quickly.

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By *inksAPlentyCouple
over a year ago

Bedfordshire

"Yeah i just want to get kinkier and naughtier so in my mind ass play is the next thing on the list as she’s quite reluctant to do it.

I have experienced it before but I want to sort of move it into normal foreplay and not just once in a blue moon if that makes sense?"

As others have asked if she's reluctant why do you want to do it more often? Have you asked her why she's reluctant? Is it something that's a soft or hard limit for her?

I love my arse being played with, I love anal and I also love pegging. It's not something we do all the time though.

Ms x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ditch her, live your best life with someone you're more compatible with and matches your tastes.

The end

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By *ncutgemMan
over a year ago

Bath ish

Of this does not come natural and built in so you instinctively know what IS right then IT IS not for you stop trying to hang on others for a lead

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By *quirt1810Woman
over a year ago

Boston

Following

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