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By *r Mrs H OP   Couple
over a year ago

Gatwick

So we’ve got to know a couple and have been chatting for a while. When it is safe, we are going to be looking to invite them over to ours and now it has got us thinking...

This will be a first meet for us, so wanting a bit of advice as to how an evening should flow.

Do you usually start with a few drinks, or just get down to it?

Do you start by playing with your own partner to warm up?

Do you invite the other couple to stay for the night?

We’re a bit embarrassed to be asking as they’re probably such amateur Question and it’s different in all situations. But just a bit of advice from all your experiences would be brilliant.

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The best is to discuss with them what the expectations are and what all of you are comfortable with.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Don't be embarrassed .

There are no wrong or right answers really. Just decide how you want things to go then discuss it with the other couple.

Hope it goes well

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Communicate with them.

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By *inksAPlentyCouple
over a year ago

Bedfordshire

As others have said talk to them about expectations. We like to start with drinks.

For us we wouldn't invite a couple to stay over on a first meet.

Have fun!

Ms x

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland

Chat over coffee/drinks ,just chit chat then when you all feel comfortable talk about expectations and needs etc before you go further and have a scene in the bedroom .good luck ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't go in with preconceptions just let everything happen naturally and enjoy !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We still get nervous before a meet! We on,y accommodate as Abby likes to be able to get ready at home. Have to say it feels more relaxed as well for us in familiar territory.

We will have communicated a lot with the other party and found out their likes and dislikes.

Are they happy to watch porn or rather have some music on,

Do they like to have a couple of drinks, if so, what?

That kind of stuff.

When they arrive we like to sit and chat for a while then you can usually sense the atmosphere hotting up.

I (V) tend to usually initiate the start of play with the other female. At some stage when we are all ready and it’s going well, we suggest going upstairs.

We like long nights of fun so if they want to eventually catch some sleep in the spare room that’s fine with us.

Once we’re alone we are usually very turned on and reclaim each other!

Hope it goes well for you OP!

V x

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

Talking and confidence is key.

Set the situation you are most happy with but be prepared to adjust it it needs be. If it's just drinks for the evening at yours offer that.

After that it's all about not over indulging and getting the mood set. Personally speaking, we have met a few first time couples over the years and 60% of the time, someone in the other party was a bit nervous and drank a bit to much and at that point it's not a good idea to continue (though they always make up for it on the 2nd date :D ). It happens. People get nervous.

However if everything is going well (and it probably will be), steer the conversation towards more sexy talk and just build it up from there. More than once weve talked a very nervous newbie out of her dress just to show us her lingerie and that's been the kick off event. Last two times my wife just walked up to the female half, snogged her and said "there you go, nothing to be nervous about now" and that kicked it all off.

Its going to be different with everyone but reading the room.and being willing to take the lead is key. If the other party is.not making excuses to leave and the conversation is flowing well after a few hours, just go for it. You're all.there for the same reason.

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