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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My gf has said she wants to see another woman have sex with me and would also like to try a bit of fun with a woman as well and also would like to try me and another man having fun with her but she would only do this if she was a bit d*unk due to her being a bit shy do I try and arrange something or let it fall on deaf ears?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If she isn’t truly into it then, if she needs to be d*unk to be able to swing

Plus d*unk swinging is no fun - for any partner involved

Talk to your partner again , really talk about it

Rules, interests

Then once you’re all settled , enjoy yourself! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Forget about 'arranging something' under those circumstances. Why not show her your profile here and ask her if she wants to set up a couples profile ? Preferably when no one is under the influence.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Good advice above OP. Personally speaking, I would actively avoid anyone under the influence of illegal substances or alcohol as consent could be an issue. If this was the case when I turned up to meet, I would certainly walk away immediately and not have any issues doing so. One or two drinks in a social way is OK, but certainly not to excess.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Invited to meet a d*unk wan from a single male profile. Can you see how dodgy that looks op? As others have said, she needs to be involved from the start 100%sober.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

*woman

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

Communication is key, talking about fantasies etc but with absolutely no pressure to act on them unless she specifically says she wants to.

I assume she knows you are on here? maybe start by showing her your profile, let her have a look at the site and discuss whether she would like to set up a profile as a couple, but emphasise the fact she is under no pressure to do anything more unless she chooses to.

K

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

She would probably have more luck with a couples/her own profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My gf has said she wants to see another woman have sex with me and would also like to try a bit of fun with a woman as well and also would like to try me and another man having fun with her but she would only do this if she was a bit d*unk due to her being a bit shy do I try and arrange something or let it fall on deaf ears? "

Why haven't you got a couples profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My gf has said she wants to see another woman have sex with me and would also like to try a bit of fun with a woman as well and also would like to try me and another man having fun with her but she would only do this if she was a bit d*unk due to her being a bit shy do I try and arrange something or let it fall on deaf ears?

Why haven't you got a couples profile? "

Dkes she know yiu have a single profile here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fantasy may be better than reality, I’d urge you to be open and speak freely about what you both want and what would turn you on etc, speak about any fears you may have, and kee it 100% sober!

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By *am4CamWoman
over a year ago

Fairy Land

Set up a couple profile together, as in she helps write it, not set it up behind her back.

Go to a club when they reopen.

Don’t swing when pizzled.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If she isn’t truly into it then, if she needs to be d*unk to be able to swing

Plus d*unk swinging is no fun - for any partner involved

Talk to your partner again , really talk about it

Rules, interests

Then once you’re all settled , enjoy yourself! X"
we have spoken about it when we have both not had a drink or two as well as with a drink and that's what she said she would do it with alcohol inside her reason being she's not a confident person and a drink or two helps her to relax when meeting new people or friends

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Fantasy may be better than reality, I’d urge you to be open and speak freely about what you both want and what would turn you on etc, speak about any fears you may have, and kee it 100% sober! "
I have tried this in the past with an ex wife many years ago and I've swung since but never with my current partner and I've never been anywhere else since I've been with her

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My gf has said she wants to see another woman have sex with me and would also like to try a bit of fun with a woman as well and also would like to try me and another man having fun with her but she would only do this if she was a bit d*unk due to her being a bit shy do I try and arrange something or let it fall on deaf ears?

Why haven't you got a couples profile?

Dkes she know yiu have a single profile here?"
no she doesn't but she knows I have played with men in the past

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"She would probably have more luck with a couples/her own profile "
she would get loads of attention from single men and that's what she is not looking for she just wants to try something new as she has fantsied about being with a women and a couple as well as her partner a few times over the years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She would probably have more luck with a couples/her own profile she would get loads of attention from single men and that's what she is not looking for she just wants to try something new as she has fantsied about being with a women and a couple as well as her partner a few times over the years "

Can block all single men from messaging on a couple profile. Also can block people outside of age range with the message filters.

Personally as a fem... i would not want to entertain anyone under the influence of anything be is booze or substances. Nor would i want to be under the influence myself when i play.

You both need to sit down and really talk about everything. Including about having a profile on here as i said above message filters are key. It stops those who you dont want to contact you Eg single males or those outside of age range.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"She would probably have more luck with a couples/her own profile she would get loads of attention from single men and that's what she is not looking for she just wants to try something new as she has fantsied about being with a women and a couple as well as her partner a few times over the years

Can block all single men from messaging on a couple profile. Also can block people outside of age range with the message filters.

Personally as a fem... i would not want to entertain anyone under the influence of anything be is booze or substances. Nor would i want to be under the influence myself when i play.

You both need to sit down and really talk about everything. Including about having a profile on here as i said above message filters are key. It stops those who you dont want to contact you Eg single males or those outside of age range.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"If she isn’t truly into it then, if she needs to be d*unk to be able to swing

Plus d*unk swinging is no fun - for any partner involved

Talk to your partner again , really talk about it

Rules, interests

Then once you’re all settled , enjoy yourself! X we have spoken about it when we have both not had a drink or two as well as with a drink and that's what she said she would do it with alcohol inside her reason being she's not a confident person and a drink or two helps her to relax when meeting new people or friends "

I'll often have a couple of social drinks when we meet someone. Its only a problem in my opinion if it helps you do something you wouldn't agree to normally or you actually need it to go ahead. That can lead to regrets and mistakes.

We once met a couple, the woman drank at least 12 vodkas in the pub. We didn't take things further.

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By *wistedTooCouple
over a year ago

Frimley


"My gf has said she wants to see another woman have sex with me and would also like to try a bit of fun with a woman as well and also would like to try me and another man having fun with her but she would only do this if she was a bit d*unk due to her being a bit shy do I try and arrange something or let it fall on deaf ears? "

Don’t arrange something until you’ve agreed all the details with her lol

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By *lue NoteMan
over a year ago

Chertsey

Sounds like a recipe for disaster to me ...

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

There is nothing wrong with a couple of drinks to calm the nerves. The trouble only starts when a couple turn into a skinful.

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