FabSwingers.com forum: Post Orgasm Apathy

By *he Ringmaster OP Man
over a year ago

Canford Cliffs

I've Googled this and cant seem to find much. Does anyone experience that pretty much as soon as they cum then all sexual interest and urges tends to completely disappear? It's slightly less so with a partner but when alone as soon as I cum I become totally disinterested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to get very depressed after masturbation alone.. A bit like if a tree falls in the forest and there is no one there to witness it does it happen at all kinda thing. I am submissive and not interested in my own pleasure unless it pleases someone else. Luckily my orgasms have been controlled by C for six years.. Kinky I know lol

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By *illwalkerMan
over a year ago

South Lincs

"I've Googled this and cant seem to find much. Does anyone experience that pretty much as soon as they cum then all sexual interest and urges tends to completely disappear? It's slightly less so with a partner but when alone as soon as I cum I become totally disinterested. "

Yes, I am the same but I find that it only lasts for a few minutes. In the right company I am usually up for round 2 within 15 minutes!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I think it's fairly common. That's where the old joke about the want laying awake dissatisfied while her partner rolled over and fell asleep comes from

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I get this. Once the orgasm has died down, I lose all desire. It as meant we changed the way we play, so I don't cum until everyone is happy. But it has been changing recently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There a theory that it's something men are designed to feel, evolutionarily speaking. The book Sex at Dawn goes into this, and you might find more on it if you Google evolutionary psychology of sex.

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By *hyguy187Man
over a year ago

Maybe near to you!

I didn't realise that others felt this way too!!.... I'm totally the same once I orgasam I seem to lose interest for a bit I Questioned whether I was unconsciously being selfish which is why I tend to favour a lot of foreplay beforehand and really concentrate of giving pleasure rather than receiving.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the same. I try and make sure I'm the last to cum which helps overcome any issues. I think it's quite common with men. I think I read somewhere that it's to do with a drop endorphins but I might be wrong.

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

Yup, just got to push through and carry on. No pun intended

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By *lice AgainTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

I used to get it badly.

I'd dress up, then cum (sadly on my own at the time) and think? WTF why am I wearing this stuff and have to undress immediately.

But now... practise certainly makes the feeling better.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I'm a lady and I feel the same. It's probably a normal human thing just to give your body a little downtime.

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By *sianMancMan
over a year ago

Manchester

it happens to me only when I wank but it probably has alot to the constituents of semen.

Mostly zinc. When we masturbate we release and thus lose lots of zinc and thus our sexual desires diminish.

However they have studied and found when you have sex with a female her secretions balances the levels of nutrients apparently...a symbiotic relationship of sorts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nature has evolved us like that so as we don't interfere with the earliest stage of fertilisation. The immediate drop in energy is also designed so the man is more likely to stick around and protect the woman from danger and other males immediately after copulation.

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

If I've been watching gay porn or getting a bj from a guy then I can feel disgusted with myself the very second after orgasm. I'm into it right up until that point.

Or if I'm planning on licking my own cum off Steph because I think it'll be horny. As soon as I've cum the thought horrifies me!

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow

Google Post-coital tristesse

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

South Side.

"There a theory that it's something men are designed to feel, evolutionarily speaking. The book Sex at Dawn goes into this, and you might find more on it if you Google evolutionary psychology of sex."

A great book. Just finshed reading it. We men are biologically designed to be satisfied aftet a shag. All the natural hormones and chemicals, post orgasm , are triggered causing sleepiness and loss of libido.. Dont worry it's temporary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I've been watching gay porn or getting a bj from a guy then I can feel disgusted with myself the very second after orgasm. I'm into it right up until that point.

Or if I'm planning on licking my own cum off Steph because I think it'll be horny. As soon as I've cum the thought horrifies me! "

I feel exactly the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I've been watching gay porn or getting a bj from a guy then I can feel disgusted with myself the very second after orgasm. I'm into it right up until that point.

Or if I'm planning on licking my own cum off Steph because I think it'll be horny. As soon as I've cum the thought horrifies me! "

Pretty much the same for me, 5 minutes after I regret the missed opportunity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely the same for me too. And as others have said, as a result I tend to make sure I cum last. But, I also think it’s also turned me quite submissive because I’ve found that I enjoy pleasing the other person just as much now and prefer to do that (perhaps to avoid the feeling?!) x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What I will say is right up to the point before I'm way up there which makes the drop even more noticeable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's why women complain about there partner falling asleep after cumming, apathy and tiredness!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I used to get it badly.

I'd dress up, then cum (sadly on my own at the time) and think? WTF why am I wearing this stuff and have to undress immediately.

Totally this, and also everything uncomfortable that was turning me on moments before like the huge butt plug in my ass and the nipple clamps just suddenly become nothing more than uncomfortable.

What I found was just as soon as I'd removed all toys and clothing I'd just start to come back on the boil, horny again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a woodbine and a cup of tea then I am ready to go again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I've been watching gay porn or getting a bj from a guy then I can feel disgusted with myself the very second after orgasm. I'm into it right up until that point.

Or if I'm planning on licking my own cum off Steph because I think it'll be horny. As soon as I've cum the thought horrifies me! "

This is me absolutely!

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By *ustwant2pleaseMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Is it not just the refractory period? It gets worse as you get older apparently!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't think so, well not for me anyway. Mine is an actual revulsion at thoughts fantasies I had felt were great only seconds earlier!

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I think it's fairly common. That's where the old joke about the want laying awake dissatisfied while her partner rolled over and fell asleep comes from

Ferry sex ! Roll on, roll off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exactly the same! I always focus on making the other person cum 1st (or a few times!) Before cumming myself. It seems selfish to come 1st and then lose all interest especially when my wife can keep going and have multiple orgasms

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By *ensualgent38Man
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

Never apathy. No. But I do love lying chatting stroking kissing after the first passionate fuck. Then slowly feeling the heat rise again for the second time.

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London

Google 21 day orgasm challenge, and your’ll find a decent explanation. It’s to do with a rapid drop in oxytocin levels.

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

Yeah agree it is probably nature's attempt of stopping us constantly fucking. There is such huge intense burst of energy when we climax so it is only natural that we feel a bit anticlimactic I guess. What goes up...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I used to get very depressed after masturbation alone.. A bit like if a tree falls in the forest and there is no one there to witness it does it happen at all kinda thing. I am submissive and not interested in my own pleasure unless it pleases someone else. Luckily my orgasms have been controlled by C for six years.. Kinky I know lol

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Lucky girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nature has evolved us like that so as we don't interfere with the earliest stage of fertilisation. The immediate drop in energy is also designed so the man is more likely to stick around and protect the woman from danger and other males immediately after copulation."

Yeah, the snoring from the satisfied man scares many other men off

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By *indobona_1TV/TS
over a year ago

Tring

Moi Aussi

This is where the unsatisfied partner has previously tied up the climaxing partner. There cannot be an escape after the 'event'. Given a period of rest (but not sleep) and teasing, say 20 mins, with a little stimulus, carry on with a longer build up and hopefully satisfying partners lust.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting to hear its possibly a male thing. Unfortunately I must be male at times.

I think mine is a deep set guilt. Sex is bad!! Getting pleasure is bad!!

I'm not like it with a partner but on my own. I'm learning not to feel the guilt anymore. Self pleasure and fantasy isnt disgusting as I was lead to believe it was.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interesting to hear its possibly a male thing. Unfortunately I must be male at times.

I think mine is a deep set guilt. Sex is bad!! Getting pleasure is bad!!

I'm not like it with a partner but on my own. I'm learning not to feel the guilt anymore. Self pleasure and fantasy isnt disgusting as I was lead to believe it was. "

Good for you! Don't know why we feel this way with something so natural and pleasurable!

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

One of my old grey mares was great.

After sex, we'd cuddle and chat and then she would start playing with my cock as we were in afterglow, sometimes going down on me.

Let me tell you, the sleepiness can be counteracted multiple times, if the lady likes to fondle

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By *etitesaraTV/TS
over a year ago

rochdale

I've always felt that it's an evolutionary safety mechanism, to stop the male going on a triumphant rampage because he got his end away!

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By *lovisMan
over a year ago

Twickenham

Off on a slight tangent here but the primeval reason a woman makes noise during sex is to attract other men so she can continue trying to get impregnated.

The reason the man falls asleep post orgasm is so that he doesn't get into an altercation with the new men arriving to have sex.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Well, after my wank last night, I felt drained, happy, and ready for sleep lol! Which is pretty much the same every time I enjoy a late night ‘stress buster’

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Off on a slight tangent here but the primeval reason a woman makes noise during sex is to attract other men so she can continue trying to get impregnated.

The reason the man falls asleep post orgasm is so that he doesn't get into an altercation with the new men arriving to have sex."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Brilliant

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