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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Mainly in club situation: Am I the only person who wouldn't feel happy or comfortable about having sex with someone just because they purely want sex. If they saw my fab profile, they would just ignore me. But in a club, if I ask them for sex, they say yes.

Or if this scenario is in reverse. You don't like their profile, but you meet them in a club and actually really think they're great.

I never been to a club to understand this and it maybe an very long time I get to go so like to hear from others

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By *hickennchipsWoman
over a year ago

up above the streets and houses

It’s different somehow in a club? If I wanted them and they wanted me - bingo!

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"It’s different somehow in a club? If I wanted them and they wanted me - bingo! "

It is one of the weird things, when we guys try and connect with someone on here, we usually are required to provide several references, a comprehensive set of images, a mensa intelligence test, a forensic analysis of previous conquests, and a cock you can see from the other side of the English channel. Yet at a club... If you look good and take the fancy.... Jump aboard.

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By *hickennchipsWoman
over a year ago

up above the streets and houses


"It’s different somehow in a club? If I wanted them and they wanted me - bingo!

It is one of the weird things, when we guys try and connect with someone on here, we usually are required to provide several references, a comprehensive set of images, a mensa intelligence test, a forensic analysis of previous conquests, and a cock you can see from the other side of the English channel. Yet at a club... If you look good and take the fancy.... Jump aboard. "

Exactly that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mainly in club situation: Am I the only person who wouldn't feel happy or comfortable about having sex with someone just because they purely want sex. If they saw my fab profile, they would just ignore me. But in a club, if I ask them for sex, they say yes.

Or if this scenario is in reverse. You don't like their profile, but you meet them in a club and actually really think they're great.

I never been to a club to understand this and it maybe an very long time I get to go so like to hear from others "

Its a lot of fun Jas and cuts a lot of the bull, chat sites like this gives us.

There is no reason at all, that you couldn't develop something more, from a sexual only visit, be it club or anywhere else!

If that didn't happen, why can't it be looked at, as fun while it lasted and a whole lot of experimenting was conquered!

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"It’s different somehow in a club? If I wanted them and they wanted me - bingo!

It is one of the weird things, when we guys try and connect with someone on here, we usually are required to provide several references, a comprehensive set of images, a mensa intelligence test, a forensic analysis of previous conquests, and a cock you can see from the other side of the English channel. Yet at a club... If you look good and take the fancy.... Jump aboard. "

Don’t forget the way they chat to you. I'm just finding reading too many creepy messages off putting. would they speak to me like this in a club in order to get me to have sex with them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've turned down people kindly and politely on fabs as when face pics have been exchanged we decided there was no initial attraction, however have then gone on to bump into them in a club environment, got chatting and personality has won us over instantly making them more appealing

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"It’s different somehow in a club? If I wanted them and they wanted me - bingo!

It is one of the weird things, when we guys try and connect with someone on here, we usually are required to provide several references, a comprehensive set of images, a mensa intelligence test, a forensic analysis of previous conquests, and a cock you can see from the other side of the English channel. Yet at a club... If you look good and take the fancy.... Jump aboard.

Don’t forget the way they chat to you. I'm just finding reading too many creepy messages off putting. would they speak to me like this in a club in order to get me to have sex with them? "

Of course, the one thing you can guarantee in a face to face meeting is you're not looking at a photo from 10 years ago. Would they talk to you like that in a club.? Mostly not, I mean I can't imagine some guy approaching you in a club, slapping a cock in your face and opening up with "do you take it up the arse love?"

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By *urious8812Couple
over a year ago

dorchester

We’ve met a few couples on here that on paper were brilliantly matched and we were really looking forward to meeting them. The reality however was that we did not click one bit and found them really rude and full of themselves.

In clubs we have met some awesome couples that having checked out their profiles after the event, we’d never have thought we’d get on. But we did and had a really fab time.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"It’s different somehow in a club? If I wanted them and they wanted me - bingo!

It is one of the weird things, when we guys try and connect with someone on here, we usually are required to provide several references, a comprehensive set of images, a mensa intelligence test, a forensic analysis of previous conquests, and a cock you can see from the other side of the English channel. Yet at a club... If you look good and take the fancy.... Jump aboard.

Don’t forget the way they chat to you. I'm just finding reading too many creepy messages off putting. would they speak to me like this in a club in order to get me to have sex with them? "

Very unlikely they would speak to you like that in a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s different somehow in a club? If I wanted them and they wanted me - bingo!

It is one of the weird things, when we guys try and connect with someone on here, we usually are required to provide several references, a comprehensive set of images, a mensa intelligence test, a forensic analysis of previous conquests, and a cock you can see from the other side of the English channel. Yet at a club... If you look good and take the fancy.... Jump aboard.

Don’t forget the way they chat to you. I'm just finding reading too many creepy messages off putting. would they speak to me like this in a club in order to get me to have sex with them? "

I've never had those so called 'creepy' guys, be like that with me in clubs. I usually go alone and most are really friendly, cpls, fems and guys x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've turned down people kindly and politely on fabs as when face pics have been exchanged we decided there was no initial attraction, however have then gone on to bump into them in a club environment, got chatting and personality has won us over instantly making them more appealing "

This in my opinion is soo common!

Happen to me many times!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not sure if this answers the OP question or not but I think it’s the same sort of feeling you’re describing.

I actually feel more of pressure to make something happen if I’ve arranged a meet here and everyone booked rooms, made childcare plans etc and find it harder ( not impossible ) to decide not to play at a private meet than I ever do at a club.

At a club I’m there to see what happens with no pressure whatsoever. If I don’t play, there’s likely to be other options so I can happily turn around and just so no thanks.

I know no one should ever feel obligated to do anything they don’t want to regardless of situation but it’s just something that I find easier to do in a club setting than at a private meet.

It hope that makes sense and I haven’t completely fumbled it up

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham


"We’ve met a few couples on here that on paper were brilliantly matched and we were really looking forward to meeting them. The reality however was that we did not click one bit and found them really rude and full of themselves.

In clubs we have met some awesome couples that having checked out their profiles after the event, we’d never have thought we’d get on. But we did and had a really fab time. "

This really ^

We are very biased in terms of wanting to meet in clubs, I’m sure it’s possible to sort out meets on the internet just that it seems like a lot effort compared to the guaranteed fun of a night out.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

A few times I've met men in a club that I wouldn't be interested in if I saw their profile first.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"A few times I've met men in a club that I wouldn't be interested in if I saw their profile first. "

what was about their profile that put you off but you liked in person?

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I’m not sure if this answers the OP question or not but I think it’s the same sort of feeling you’re describing.

I actually feel more of pressure to make something happen if I’ve arranged a meet here and everyone booked rooms, made childcare plans etc and find it harder ( not impossible ) to decide not to play at a private meet than I ever do at a club.

At a club I’m there to see what happens with no pressure whatsoever. If I don’t play, there’s likely to be other options so I can happily turn around and just so no thanks.

I know no one should ever feel obligated to do anything they don’t want to regardless of situation but it’s just something that I find easier to do in a club setting than at a private meet.

It hope that makes sense and I haven’t completely fumbled it up "

yes kinda. but would you get with people in clubs to later find out you didn't like their profile but you liked them enough to enjoy their company in person? For me, online dating, I always liked their profiles and in person. I never took the courage to date a guy with a rubbish profile.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"It’s different somehow in a club? If I wanted them and they wanted me - bingo!

It is one of the weird things, when we guys try and connect with someone on here, we usually are required to provide several references, a comprehensive set of images, a mensa intelligence test, a forensic analysis of previous conquests, and a cock you can see from the other side of the English channel. Yet at a club... If you look good and take the fancy.... Jump aboard.

Don’t forget the way they chat to you. I'm just finding reading too many creepy messages off putting. would they speak to me like this in a club in order to get me to have sex with them?

I've never had those so called 'creepy' guys, be like that with me in clubs. I usually go alone and most are really friendly, cpls, fems and guys x"

You think online persona, people believe they need to be "unnatural"?

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall

We find you get a far better feel for someones personality from 5 minutes chatting in a club or any face to face environment than you would get from a 2 week game of message ping pong. We've played with people that we may not have even noticed their profiles. We've actually played far more in clubs as opposed to setting up meets from the site.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"A few times I've met men in a club that I wouldn't be interested in if I saw their profile first.

what was about their profile that put you off but you liked in person? "

Either their pics were crap or the text was crap.

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By *ogNMuseCouple
over a year ago

Surrey


"We’ve met a few couples on here that on paper were brilliantly matched and we were really looking forward to meeting them. The reality however was that we did not click one bit and found them really rude and full of themselves.

In clubs we have met some awesome couples that having checked out their profiles after the event, we’d never have thought we’d get on. But we did and had a really fab time.

This really ^

We are very biased in terms of wanting to meet in clubs, I’m sure it’s possible to sort out meets on the internet just that it seems like a lot effort compared to the guaranteed fun of a night out. "

Pretty much same for us, always feels less pressured with no expectations, compared to, say a hotel meet

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

How would you know if somebody who would have sex with you at a club wouldn't be interested in you if they only saw your profile? It sounds like you are putting yourself down a bit.

Clubs and online are two completely different environments. It seems a bit pointless trying to gauge somebody's behaviour online when you meet them in a club. How does that help you and how could you be sure what they would do in a different environment?

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Don’t forget the way they chat to you. I'm just finding reading too many creepy messages off putting. would they speak to me like this in a club in order to get me to have sex with them? "

No, because people who speak to you like that generally don't bother to put their money where their mouth is and actually get to a club. And if they *did* behave like that in a club – at least any of the ones I've been to – they would be removed.


"Clubs and online are two completely different environments."

This is absolutely true, at least as far as my own experience goes. It's much, much easier to make connections and find people to play with in a club than it is online.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"How would you know if somebody who would have sex with you at a club wouldn't be interested in you if they only saw your profile? It sounds like you are putting yourself down a bit.

Clubs and online are two completely different environments. It seems a bit pointless trying to gauge somebody's behaviour online when you meet them in a club. How does that help you and how could you be sure what they would do in a different environment? "

From one experience some people aren't great at creating their profiles and undersell themselves.

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