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"I've found that time wasters come across as too keen. They make unusual promises and are overly sexual. Some will pay more compliments than what is normal. Time wasters will often make extreme status updates like "I'm soaking wet and looking to fuck!", Etc. Real women aren't usually like that. " What about men who straight away tell you want they want to do with you? Too forward so therefore a fantasist? | |||
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"I get 'Dom guys' immediately calling me names... No dear.... names need to be negotiated now jog on "Yeah I get mummy and miss straight away. Neither names turn me on  | |||
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"Straight in with sex talk and have no actual genuine interest in getting to know you just what they want from you or to do to you "  | |||
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"I get 'Dom guys' immediately calling me names... No dear.... names need to be negotiated now jog on " | |||
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"They usually try to get you off fab and onto other apps fairly quickly so they can get their wank fodder more easily because you won't be so distracted by other people messaging. Also asking for friends adds early or straight away and wanting to cam off fab. " Crikey I get many of them I'm not keen on that direct fuck me now attitude.  | |||
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"The first give away is usually their profile username. If it contains Dom or Bull then you can be 99% that they wont be either. Not that I want them to be as hate both of those terms. "I'm definitely not looking for a dom so safe with that  | |||
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"Want to take conversation off fab as soon as they can, normally 2 or 3 messages in. We only chat on fab and that has reduced the amount of time wasters, we also do not engage in sex talk, preferences and likes but nothing graphic. They soon get bored and go searching for someone else. Lily " Wow interesting to know. 95% of what I receive is pretty much how people describe on this post. Yikes  it's worse than I imagined | |||
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" strange preferences Want to kik but not speak/message via an actual phone number Any combination of several of these issues and a host of others lead us to suspicion of a timewaster " I'm gonna say..... I'd prefer to move to kik or telegram once I get a quick initial feel for someone ... and I tend to not give out my number quickly. I've been stalked .... and ppl are just easier to block on those apps Also.... define strange? I love being face slapped..breath controlled. ... beat... used like a filthy whore (also treated like a princess too) Am I strange lol | |||
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" strange preferences Want to kik but not speak/message via an actual phone number Any combination of several of these issues and a host of others lead us to suspicion of a timewaster I'm gonna say..... I'd prefer to move to kik or telegram once I get a quick initial feel for someone ... and I tend to not give out my number quickly. I've been stalked .... and ppl are just easier to block on those apps Also.... define strange? I love being face slapped..breath controlled. ... beat... used like a filthy whore (also treated like a princess too) Am I strange lol" Yes I like a quick flowy conversation so do enjoy using kik | |||
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" strange preferences Want to kik but not speak/message via an actual phone number Any combination of several of these issues and a host of others lead us to suspicion of a timewaster I'm gonna say..... I'd prefer to move to kik or telegram once I get a quick initial feel for someone ... and I tend to not give out my number quickly. I've been stalked .... and ppl are just easier to block on those apps Also.... define strange? I love being face slapped..breath controlled. ... beat... used like a filthy whore (also treated like a princess too) Am I strange lol" Not really. We all have our preferences. I like to dominate a man and tell him what a naughty or good boy he's been but not in a weird way. I could use "good man" and but it's not dominant enough. Maybe I should say good puppy. But then someone will comment about animal rights so there's no non PC word is there? | |||
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" strange preferences Want to kik but not speak/message via an actual phone number Any combination of several of these issues and a host of others lead us to suspicion of a timewaster I'm gonna say..... I'd prefer to move to kik or telegram once I get a quick initial feel for someone ... and I tend to not give out my number quickly. I've been stalked .... and ppl are just easier to block on those apps Also.... define strange? I love being face slapped..breath controlled. ... beat... used like a filthy whore (also treated like a princess too) Am I strange lol Yes I like a quick flowy conversation so do enjoy using kik " I agree. But best not to go straight to Kik until you're sure about the other person. Funnily enough, sometimes the Kik conversations drop off after a short time. | |||
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"In all fairness I've found that guys get it tough on here. There either married, (like me), bi, straight, curious etc can't accommodate etc as it seems married woman get attention but don't get called cheats. I got turned down because I don't, or didn't wear glasses. I understand there are some rude, timewasters on here but it just seems like guys can't do right from doing wrong. It's not having a moan but women and couples get a better deal on here. " We might, in your opinion, get a better deal - and it's true that we have more choice - but it also comes potentially at huge cost. We have to sort from an enormous volume of people where there can be copious levels of dross. My take on how to spot those who will be more likely to expend your time fruitlessly, are largely the same as most in this thread. I also think that it's worth never sharing publicly 100% of your arsenal, as this can give people the tips that they want to avoid being stopped from misusing your time. Some of them have near perfected the art of misdirection - don't let them get any better at it! Improve your skills with detecting liars as much as possible, not just here. If you see any opportunity, take it. Improve your relaxation skills too, as we are less likely to make mistakes when relaxed imo. If you notice that you are not relaxed, take time out until you are. That pause can also be enough to have them get bored and to move on, so has an added bonus. Meeting in public places with CCTV also puts them on record associated with you, if they actually get around to meeting but would be dangerous, rather than sexually fulfilling, as their motivation to waste your time. Think widely. Not feeding them with wank fodder is a helpful way of cutting the wankers from your inbox. | |||
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"In all fairness I've found that guys get it tough on here. There either married, (like me), bi, straight, curious etc can't accommodate etc as it seems married woman get attention but don't get called cheats. I got turned down because I don't, or didn't wear glasses. I understand there are some rude, timewasters on here but it just seems like guys can't do right from doing wrong. It's not having a moan but women and couples get a better deal on here. We might, in your opinion, get a better deal - and it's true that we have more choice - but it also comes potentially at huge cost. We have to sort from an enormous volume of people where there can be copious levels of dross. My take on how to spot those who will be more likely to expend your time fruitlessly, are largely the same as most in this thread. I also think that it's worth never sharing publicly 100% of your arsenal, as this can give people the tips that they want to avoid being stopped from misusing your time. Some of them have near perfected the art of misdirection - don't let them get any better at it! Improve your skills with detecting liars as much as possible, not just here. If you see any opportunity, take it. Improve your relaxation skills too, as we are less likely to make mistakes when relaxed imo. If you notice that you are not relaxed, take time out until you are. That pause can also be enough to have them get bored and to move on, so has an added bonus. Meeting in public places with CCTV also puts them on record associated with you, if they actually get around to meeting but would be dangerous, rather than sexually fulfilling, as their motivation to waste your time. Think widely. Not feeding them with wank fodder is a helpful way of cutting the wankers from your inbox. " Sorry what's a "wank fodder"? | |||
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"We have our profile locked down to such a degree that a time waster literally wouldn’t waste their time trying to waste ours!" Wow how did you do that? Litterly with just filters? | |||
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"I've found that time wasters come across as too keen. They make unusual promises and are overly sexual. Some will pay more compliments than what is normal. Time wasters will often make extreme status updates like "I'm soaking wet and looking to fuck!", Etc. Real women aren't usually like that. What about men who straight away tell you want they want to do with you? Too forward so therefore a fantasist?" Not always but may be masturbating while you tell him what you will do to him. Then once he cums it's bye bye. | |||
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"I've found that time wasters come across as too keen. They make unusual promises and are overly sexual. Some will pay more compliments than what is normal. Time wasters will often make extreme status updates like "I'm soaking wet and looking to fuck!", Etc. Real women aren't usually like that. " Yeah pretty spot on. | |||
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"In all fairness I've found that guys get it tough on here. There either married, (like me), bi, straight, curious etc can't accommodate etc as it seems married woman get attention but don't get called cheats. I got turned down because I don't, or didn't wear glasses. I understand there are some rude, timewasters on here but it just seems like guys can't do right from doing wrong. It's not having a moan but women and couples get a better deal on here. We might, in your opinion, get a better deal - and it's true that we have more choice - but it also comes potentially at huge cost. We have to sort from an enormous volume of people where there can be copious levels of dross. My take on how to spot those who will be more likely to expend your time fruitlessly, are largely the same as most in this thread. I also think that it's worth never sharing publicly 100% of your arsenal, as this can give people the tips that they want to avoid being stopped from misusing your time. Some of them have near perfected the art of misdirection - don't let them get any better at it! Improve your skills with detecting liars as much as possible, not just here. If you see any opportunity, take it. Improve your relaxation skills too, as we are less likely to make mistakes when relaxed imo. If you notice that you are not relaxed, take time out until you are. That pause can also be enough to have them get bored and to move on, so has an added bonus. Meeting in public places with CCTV also puts them on record associated with you, if they actually get around to meeting but would be dangerous, rather than sexually fulfilling, as their motivation to waste your time. Think widely. Not feeding them with wank fodder is a helpful way of cutting the wankers from your inbox. Sorry what's a "wank fodder"? "Pictures and videos are wank fodder. Beware of people asking for pics and videos. 9 times out of 10 they just want to have a wank not meet you. | |||
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"What are the tell tell signs of a fantasist/time wasters? What would a genuine dabber behave like? Or can you not tell the difference and only find out the hard way? " It's going to be different for you as you are female and I am male. My red flags are Male half of the couple asking you to describe what you would do to his wife/girlfriend if you met her. She probably doesn't know he has an account on fab. Female half never available to chat. No verifications (of course we all have to get our first verification) No wanting to get to know you. No interest in finding out what turns you on, no interest inn finding out what you enjoy sexually, and no interest in finding out what turns you off sexually. In other word on interest in finding out about you. Been here years and no verifications. | |||
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"Over a year (or several months in normal circumstances) and no veris Verified but no details shown Pics that are from porn sites etc Over the top profile wording and strange preferences Want to kik but not speak/message via an actual phone number Over the top status updates No proper conversation via messages General tone of conversation Any combination of several of these issues and a host of others lead us to suspicion of a timewaster I have no veries and been here over a year but it because the men outnumber the women on here and I live in a shared house with 3 flatmate's so it puts people off actually meeting or so I've found and before anyone says it not long started living close to any clubs i could go to lol " | |||
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"We have our profile locked down to such a degree that a time waster literally wouldn’t waste their time trying to waste ours! Wow how did you do that? Litterly with just filters? " Hi, yes. No newbies, no unverified, no one that’s not a site supporter and no one with no public pics. We might well be missing out on some lovely people but it’s certainly cut out a very high percentage of fakes and timewasters x | |||
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"We have our profile locked down to such a degree that a time waster literally wouldn’t waste their time trying to waste ours! Wow how did you do that? Litterly with just filters? Hi, yes. No newbies, no unverified, no one that’s not a site supporter and no one with no public pics. We might well be missing out on some lovely people but it’s certainly cut out a very high percentage of fakes and timewasters x" I'm not a site supporter. Won't pay for it, can't meet off here and no clubs open to advertise events on here.... People have now got an excuse to talk the talk lol | |||
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"I’ve got two I’m messaging at the moment. I’m dubious about. Both say they want to meet. A give away for me is very short sentences (Two or three words) no capital letter, no full stops. As daft as it’s sounds it’s normally a sign. " Yeah that's abit weird especially if they want to meet. I only use short sentences if I'm in a rush and not particularly keen | |||
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