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"Nah. Don't jump thro hoops to prove we are genuine. Must be fake then. " Exactly ![]() | |||
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"You ask for a picture of the woman holding a picture of your wife? Have I got that right? " I apologise to all, obviously I have not explained myself well enough. Yes, fundamentally that is what we are asking, but not as a substitution for verifications, that have a place but are not totally reliable, as they can be out of date. People split up and move on. What we mean is preventing wishful husbands who are using their wives’ (potentially even ex partners) photos possibly unknowingly. As a demo, Nice couple we will send you a private message to prove that Minnie is onboard. By the way hadn’t realised you are so close ![]() | |||
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"Nah. Don't jump thro hoops to prove we are genuine. Must be fake then. " 100% this. I’m not here to perform on demand. Maybe I’m really a bloke in disguise?! ![]() | |||
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"Nah. Don't jump thro hoops to prove we are genuine. Must be fake then. 100% this. I’m not here to perform on demand. Maybe I’m really a bloke in disguise?! ![]() You sure aren’t ![]() | |||
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"We wouldn't jump through hoops for anyone." Nor us but to be fair nobody had ever asked us to | |||
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"We wouldn't jump through hoops for anyone. Nor us but to be fair nobody had ever asked us to " Same apart from a couple of times where We've been asked to do FF cam to verify but declined. Its pretty easy meeting as a couple so we can't be bothered with all the drama. | |||
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"Nah. Don't jump thro hoops to prove we are genuine. Must be fake then. " Must admit that we would probably cut the conversation at that stage. Nothing against the suggestion and it comes from a good place, but that's a lot of wives that would feel like they'd be posing to prove themselves. | |||
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"We wouldn't jump through hoops for anyone. Nor us but to be fair nobody had ever asked us to Same apart from a couple of times where We've been asked to do FF cam to verify but declined. Its pretty easy meeting as a couple so we can't be bothered with all the drama." I think someone asked us to do a F to F phone call once. We said no and they still met us lol. Amusingly we realised at the social that the woman wasn't keen on the idea at all. | |||
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"Wishful husband..." I In our experience some women sabotage meets somehow rather than say outright they don't want to do it. We have also met couples where the guy doesn't want to either. | |||
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"Wishful husband...I In our experience some women sabotage meets somehow rather than say outright they don't want to do it. We have also met couples where the guy doesn't want to either." Interesting, but not too surprising (bar the guy not interested...!) lol We’ll we seem to be getting lots of positive feedback from couples and most of the serious couples that contact us seem willing to reciprocate. It adds some fun too and definitely helps reassure both couples that everyone is onboard. Those who haven’t were either not too seriously about it, or were probably on their own and the alleged partner was not interested.. so we got rid of a time waster..! | |||
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"Nah. Don't jump thro hoops to prove we are genuine. Must be fake then. 100% this. I’m not here to perform on demand. Maybe I’m really a bloke in disguise?! ![]() Nope, seen you in person, you are definitely female. ![]() | |||
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"We have introduced a mechanism to help safeguard poor unsuspecting wives from overly keen and greedy husbands that use their wives/girlfriends’ pictures to hook up with couples... We know that verifications are one way of doing this, but they are not always current and does not actually mean that they female half is actually interested in contact you and it’s just a wishful bloke trying to get access to your private gallery. Our technique consists in sharing a “dedicated” photo of the Mrs to ensure that the other Mrs is actually involved. too often we get invites from wishful hubbies and the Mrs is totally clueless of what is going on. It’s to safeguard the other Mrs and hopefully shouldn’t be a problem for her to reciprocate the one we’ve attached. The dedicated photo does not have to be nude or sexual ( although it can help with the mood... ), as long as it’s clear it is a women and not a CD... lol and is holding a photo of our Mrs (or even Mr if she wishes..!).. It’s not a difficult thing to do if the other Mrs is onboard and can also be fun. We regularly introduce ourselves this way. It gives the other couple reassurance that we are all onboard and separates the wheat from the chaff as we said..." I appreciate what you’re trying to achieve and that verifications photo verification & a couples account could be out of date & have changed but there’s no way on earth I could be bothered with all those extra photos I’m a technophobe uploading our original Ines was a faff (we try and update 1 or two a year as like you said things changes (hair, body shape etc) but like others have said it really feels like your making a potential meet jump through hoops Surely an easier option and less fustrating for your potential meets if they aren’t fake is simply to tell any blokes that do turn up solo to s0d off MrsB | |||
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"We usually ask for a phone chat between the girls (if it gets that far) failing that a pic of each others choice proving we all who we say we are. But suggestion of quick phone chat usually sees the fakes dissappear lol" Declining a phone call doesn't make someone fake. | |||
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"We usually ask for a phone chat between the girls (if it gets that far) failing that a pic of each others choice proving we all who we say we are. But suggestion of quick phone chat usually sees the fakes dissappear lol Declining a phone call doesn't make someone fake." Agree with this... I would personally decline any offer of a phone call or video chat through whatsapp/kik etc etc. (fem here btw). | |||
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"We stick to the clubs and socials so there is no need for fafing about with pictures." This is us too... Can’t wait to get back, going to give it a few weeks to see how things “pan out” plus with work need to watch the £’s ![]() | |||
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"I the mrs will always state that I’m happy to have a quick fem to fem talk to verify we are indeed a couple even if it’s just to give the ok for you to chat to my partner x it’s quick and easy " It is amazing how many ladies are not willing to do this. | |||
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"I the mrs will always state that I’m happy to have a quick fem to fem talk to verify we are indeed a couple even if it’s just to give the ok for you to chat to my partner x it’s quick and easy It is amazing how many ladies are not willing to do this. " Why? For a start, the woman I'd talk to may not be the one you turn up with. | |||
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"I the mrs will always state that I’m happy to have a quick fem to fem talk to verify we are indeed a couple even if it’s just to give the ok for you to chat to my partner x it’s quick and easy It is amazing how many ladies are not willing to do this. Why? For a start, the woman I'd talk to may not be the one you turn up with. " By that reasoning, photos can also be faked (deep faked), identities changed etc. ... I don’t think we’d have an issue with an F to F chat if we were asked, particularly if we were travelling a distance, I don’t think that’s “performing”. | |||
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"I the mrs will always state that I’m happy to have a quick fem to fem talk to verify we are indeed a couple even if it’s just to give the ok for you to chat to my partner x it’s quick and easy It is amazing how many ladies are not willing to do this. Why? For a start, the woman I'd talk to may not be the one you turn up with. By that reasoning, photos can also be faked (deep faked), identities changed etc. ... I don’t think we’d have an issue with an F to F chat if we were asked, particularly if we were travelling a distance, I don’t think that’s “performing”. " It's all fake until proven otherwise and how someone chooses to do that is up to them. The statement above yours said they were amazed that some people choose not to talk to someone. | |||
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"Nah. Don't jump thro hoops to prove we are genuine. Must be fake then. 100% this. I’m not here to perform on demand. Maybe I’m really a bloke in disguise?! ![]() This. It’s a little infuriating. Constantly being accused of being fake. I just lose interest immediately then get several messages of abuse. I’m not here to chase or bow to every whim. Just wanted a chat at first.... | |||
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"Sounds complicated I just ask for them to hold something random up I’ve selected or a hand signal to their face / faces No method is without flaws but I go on instinct mainly " We now use this approach before going too far. It might be equally appropriate for the Op and get round the printing etc hassle TBF Op sees/has had a specific issue when dealing with couples where partner is not part of the play, and veris cannot reflect. In our short time on here one couple become a single who split into two males of different ages/locations. And that was with verifications. So a flawed system in a specific area. Have to also say that given ratios on here, expecting any female to validate beyond breathing is more than most would hope for ![]() | |||
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"I had a conversation with a couple a few weeks ago from my couple's profile. They asked for photos immediately. I dont keep pics on my phone but my partner does so I said he would send them over later. They then asked for a phone call. Kids were around so I declined. Went back a day later when we were together to find we had either been blocked or couple unlos. It's not always possible to verify in the time frame people want. I dont exactly sit around in my underwear ready for pics just in case. " Exactly this. We keep those kind of pics on his phone cause the kids more likely to play with my phone. I get that there are tons of catfish but that's why we use socials. | |||
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"Sounds complicated I just ask for them to hold something random up I’ve selected or a hand signal to their face / faces No method is without flaws but I go on instinct mainly We now use this approach before going too far. It might be equally appropriate for the Op and get round the printing etc hassle TBF Op sees/has had a specific issue when dealing with couples where partner is not part of the play, and veris cannot reflect. In our short time on here one couple become a single who split into two males of different ages/locations. And that was with verifications. So a flawed system in a specific area. Have to also say that given ratios on here, expecting any female to validate beyond breathing is more than most would hope for ![]() Trust me I’ve had issues with single guys not even being the person in the pics so there’s always someone trying to pull a fast one For myself having been on here 7 years and well verified right through from hosting club nights. Socials and play meets I personally would’nt feel the need to have to verify myself However if I was a newbie , limited sketchy veris and lack of content / photos in my profile I would fully expect to have to prove I am whom I’m pertaining to be ![]() | |||
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"We have introduced a mechanism to help safeguard poor unsuspecting wives from overly keen and greedy husbands that use their wives/girlfriends’ pictures to hook up with couples... We know that verifications are one way of doing this, but they are not always current and does not actually mean that they female half is actually interested in contact you and it’s just a wishful bloke trying to get access to your private gallery. Our technique consists in sharing a “dedicated” photo of the Mrs to ensure that the other Mrs is actually involved. too often we get invites from wishful hubbies and the Mrs is totally clueless of what is going on. It’s to safeguard the other Mrs and hopefully shouldn’t be a problem for her to reciprocate the one we’ve attached. The dedicated photo does not have to be nude or sexual ( although it can help with the mood... ), as long as it’s clear it is a women and not a CD... lol and is holding a photo of our Mrs (or even Mr if she wishes..!).. It’s not a difficult thing to do if the other Mrs is onboard and can also be fun. We regularly introduce ourselves this way. It gives the other couple reassurance that we are all onboard and separates the wheat from the chaff as we said..." We use common sense ..and get the ladies to chat on the phone early doors if a meet of any kind is on the cards | |||
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"Sounds complicated I just ask for them to hold something random up I’ve selected or a hand signal to their face / faces No method is without flaws but I go on instinct mainly We now use this approach before going too far. It might be equally appropriate for the Op and get round the printing etc hassle TBF Op sees/has had a specific issue when dealing with couples where partner is not part of the play, and veris cannot reflect. In our short time on here one couple become a single who split into two males of different ages/locations. And that was with verifications. So a flawed system in a specific area. Have to also say that given ratios on here, expecting any female to validate beyond breathing is more than most would hope for ![]() ![]() Touche. ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I the mrs will always state that I’m happy to have a quick fem to fem talk to verify we are indeed a couple even if it’s just to give the ok for you to chat to my partner x it’s quick and easy It is amazing how many ladies are not willing to do this. " Why is it amazing? I’m expected to share my phone number with strangers because they have trust issues? No thanks. I don’t give my phone number out to anyone I don’t know. This kind of palaver is why clubs are so much easier than the minefield you get on here! ![]() | |||
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"I the mrs will always state that I’m happy to have a quick fem to fem talk to verify we are indeed a couple even if it’s just to give the ok for you to chat to my partner x it’s quick and easy It is amazing how many ladies are not willing to do this. Why is it amazing? I’m expected to share my phone number with strangers because they have trust issues? No thanks. I don’t give my phone number out to anyone I don’t know. This kind of palaver is why clubs are so much easier than the minefield you get on here! ![]() We find this. The minute people start demanding phone calls or video chats, we are out. Pushiness is a no no for us and if people choose to believe we aren't genuine, we will stick to clubs ![]() | |||
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"I the mrs will always state that I’m happy to have a quick fem to fem talk to verify we are indeed a couple even if it’s just to give the ok for you to chat to my partner x it’s quick and easy It is amazing how many ladies are not willing to do this. Why is it amazing? I’m expected to share my phone number with strangers because they have trust issues? No thanks. I don’t give my phone number out to anyone I don’t know. This kind of palaver is why clubs are so much easier than the minefield you get on here! ![]() We were just stating a fact, no more that. However it would be interesting to know how you get to know someone via this site before you meet. In a club do you not chat before you decide to play? And if you have trust issues there is also no need for you to give out your phone number. | |||
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