FabSwingers.com forum: Cuck unsure?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi, recently introduced here by cuck. Didn’t even know what a cuck was a month ago! We’ve struggled to agree the way forward since we both can be dominant outside the bedroom. Sex is great but the rest needs work.

He totally relies on me cheating etc for him to be remotely interested whereas I’m emotionally invested in him.

He now says we must be friends only to learn how to get along and then see if things go further.

Whilst he’s thinking, he can do what he likes which I dislike. I need fidelity.

I’m not sure what the hell to do in the meantime.

I’ve tried asking if he wants to meet up but there’s lots of reasons why he can’t despite me working and him not. He says he hasn’t ruled us out?

Is he playing me for a fool, I don’t get this shit and may be better off on tinder!

Has anyone had this experience? Feel like deleting and running to the hills

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

There's not 1 specific way that a cuckold relationship can operate - it's very much about how the 2 of you want it to work. You both have to be comfortable as well as find the arrangement leads to satisfaction.

If 1 partner feels pressured to be involved and their needs aren't fully included, nor the style of the arrangement not completely created by you both, it suggests things aren't right.

Open communication is key and I'd not be interested in someone who couldn't.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Reading your post again op, it sounds like there's a lot more than just his desire to be a cuck. I'd fully assess what he's offering as I think he's potentially a recipe for you not to get what you want and need. Perhaps the cuck concept is how he thinks that he can just be unfaithful in a relationship. It's possibly a cop-out as there are more adult and honest ways to negotiate an open relationship. Generally a cuck would get what he's given or agreed that he can enjoy. As I said earlier, there's no 1 way that's true and right for all.

You may just deserve to be in a relationship that's a bit more mature and honest than he's currently offering.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you Sophie, I find it all really confusing. I appreciate I’m new/naive but I feel like the rules are changing and I can’t keep up.

Do people here actually keep a relationship going strong whilst playing? It’s something I’ve never explored and am glad to be enlightened but wonder if it works? (No offence meant to anyone)

I’ve actually met some really lovely people here and am enjoying my time here x

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

It sounds to me one of two things, he is either not sure what he wants or he is trying to keep his options open and is stringing you along. For a cuckold relationship to work you both have to know and agree what it is you both like and want.

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By *B 4099Man
over a year ago

North West, Outer Letterkenny area

"Hi, recently introduced here by cuck. Didn’t even know what a cuck was a month ago! We’ve struggled to agree the way forward since we both can be dominant outside the bedroom. Sex is great but the rest needs work.

He totally relies on me cheating etc for him to be remotely interested whereas I’m emotionally invested in him.

He now says we must be friends only to learn how to get along and then see if things go further.

Whilst he’s thinking, he can do what he likes which I dislike. I need fidelity.

I’m not sure what the hell to do in the meantime.

I’ve tried asking if he wants to meet up but there’s lots of reasons why he can’t despite me working and him not. He says he hasn’t ruled us out?

Is he playing me for a fool, I don’t get this shit and may be better off on tinder!

Has anyone had this experience? Feel like deleting and running to the hills

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not a relationship for you. You want totally different things.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

He totally relies on me cheating etc for him to be remotely interested whereas I’m emotionally invested in him.

He now says we must be friends only to learn how to get along and then see if things go further.

Whilst he’s thinking, he can do what he likes which I dislike. I need fidelity.

I’m not sure what the hell to do in the meantime.

I’ve tried asking if he wants to meet up but there’s lots of reasons why he can’t despite me working and him not. He says he hasn’t ruled us out?

Is he playing me for a fool, I don’t get this shit and may be better off on tinder!

Has anyone had this experience? Feel like deleting and running to the hills

Sounds like it's not a straightforward relationship at the moment. Dear Deirdre says... The beauty of this is that there is something for everyone... But in my experience, when in a couple, for it to work for you both, there has to be some common ground and huge amounts of trust, inviting others in, just complicates things in what sounds a complex environment.

It also sounds like, at the moment you have a red line about fidelity... You have to be comfortable and happy otherwise it will just make you miserable. That said, exploring new stuff can be heart racingly exciting too. My advise would be, have an idea what you want and if your fella leads you in that direction.... Then happy days

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you. I guess there’s lots to consider. Sadly it seems that I’ve been played yet again. Best of luck all x

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

"Thank you. I guess there’s lots to consider. Sadly it seems that I’ve been played yet again. Best of luck all x"
His loss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He totally relies on me cheating etc for him to be remotely interested whereas I’m emotionally invested in him.

He now says we must be friends only to learn how to get along and then see if things go further.

Whilst he’s thinking, he can do what he likes which I dislike. I need fidelity.

I’m not sure what the hell to do in the meantime.

I’ve tried asking if he wants to meet up but there’s lots of reasons why he can’t despite me working and him not. He says he hasn’t ruled us out?

Is he playing me for a fool, I don’t get this shit and may be better off on tinder!

Has anyone had this experience? Feel like deleting and running to the hills

sorry but all that is as far from cuckolding as it gets coukolding is very much about a loving couple with total trust and togetherness not one person ruling the other sorry to say your so called cuck has it all totally wrong ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

opps spelling

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

I'm glad I'm not the only one that wondered what this has to do with cuckolding.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everyone. He has been here many years and keeps telling me how wrong I have things so it’s reassuring to hear I’m not nuts.

I think it’s time for me to call it a day and join a convent x

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

"Thanks everyone. He has been here many years and keeps telling me how wrong I have things so it’s reassuring to hear I’m not nuts.

I think it’s time for me to call it a day and join a convent x

Sadly there are some people who will try to get others to take on their warped view of the world.

Things can work in many ways but only really when things are about you all having your needs met. He may have commitment issues, so is manipulating things to try to achieve his satisfaction at the expense of yours.

You could have lots of choice here, potentially gaining what you need but without some jerk.

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