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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why are people so against reading profiles, it's driving us nuts!!! It's obvious when people haven't, and if theycant be bothered with that why would they be bothered with you anywhere else!? Anyone else frustrated???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes all the time especially those that ask me what am I up to today but my status says what I am doing, if they cannot read the status, they really aint going to read the profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get mail from married men who clearly haven't read my profile! I take the time to read profiles and if I don't meet their requirements I just move on..

profiles with absolutely no info get ignored too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am the same, I even added a note on my profile saying when sending a message quote the word 'Cinamon' in a message, but you wouldnt believe how many dont, its very frustrating and just shows how desperate some people are.!

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

I'm afraid these are all related events. It is called The Law of Fab Sod: that which you do not seek is what you will get - for some reason I keep getting bi guys tv/ts thinking I should be interested in them, so I just block without reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I despair at the 'hi how RU' it's awfully dull

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am the same, I even added a note on my profile saying when sending a message quote the word 'Cinamon' in a message, but you wouldnt believe how many dont, its very frustrating and just shows how desperate some people are.!"

Great idea I might do simular as I fed up of non readers too

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By *obinhood-maidmarionCouple
over a year ago

Yorkshire area


"I am the same, I even added a note on my profile saying when sending a message quote the word 'Cinamon' in a message, but you wouldnt believe how many dont, its very frustrating and just shows how desperate some people are.!"

we read profiles but tend not to email people with these kind of "must do's" in their profile, we just find them very tedious. On a site like this a message is a good indicator of wether you want to meet them or not, if it is clear they have not read your profile then as the op says, whats the chances of meeting them anywhere else!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I despair at the 'hi how RU' it's awfully dull "

Really Fia? That kinda message makes my knickers shoot straight off my foo involuntarily

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By *eon85Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"I despair at the 'hi how RU' it's awfully dull

Really Fia? That kinda message makes my knickers shoot straight off my foo involuntarily "
hiya ladies how are you? Sorry couldn't resist x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get mail from married men who clearly haven't read my profile! I take the time to read profiles and if I don't meet their requirements I just move on..

profiles with absolutely no info get ignored too "

Most are married on here, surprised when I don't hear from them lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I despair at the 'hi how RU' it's awfully dull

Really Fia? That kinda message makes my knickers shoot straight off my foo involuntarily hiya ladies how are you? Sorry couldn't resist x"

Someone catch me panties ...they're my favourites

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I despair at the 'hi how RU' it's awfully dull

Really Fia? That kinda message makes my knickers shoot straight off my foo involuntarily hiya ladies how are you? Sorry couldn't resist x"

Theirs always one!!!

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By *eon85Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Just to play devils advocate though. I understand the whole reading the profile malarkey but if somebody messages you saying "how are you?" maybe it is just to see what the reaction is like. Life is too short to write paragraph after paragraph just to have it ignored or deleted. I find a general hiya message is sufficient at 1st and then if the interest is there proceed with interesting convo. Just my view

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

made me laugh today when someone sent me a message saying he'd love to meet me, was i interested? i referred him to my status and the response was to tell me that i'm fit and would i meet him?

fraid the block button got used again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are people so against reading profiles, it's driving us nuts!!! It's obvious when people haven't, and if theycant be bothered with that why would they be bothered with you anywhere else!? Anyone else frustrated???"

We get very frustrated when we get a message saying... Hiya we love your profile and pics... But when we read there profile they wont meet smokers.. so if they have looked and pics and profile im sure they would of seen that we both smoke some times we message back saying Thanks for the message its a shame you dont meet smokers (incase its a mistake on their part) or we ignore and delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe fab could use technology to solve this problem??

Perhaps they could have a timer on the page that stopped you clicking on 'message' button for one minute after landing on the page...

With a minute to spare most people would have to read the profile..

It would sort out those who we're genuine from the hoards of desperate men seeking pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just to play devils advocate though. I understand the whole reading the profile malarkey but if somebody messages you saying "how are you?" maybe it is just to see what the reaction is like. Life is too short to write paragraph after paragraph just to have it ignored or deleted. I find a general hiya message is sufficient at 1st and then if the interest is there proceed with interesting convo. Just my view"

If these "Hi how are you?" messages were a rarity (ie unique) I'll be more prone to reply through politeness.

But sadly, they are way too common and unimaginitive to grab attention. "Hi how are you?" is a conversation opener. If you have say 10 (which we'd say is average for us when filters are off) of these messages a day... you'll end up having 10 conversations ...and potentially have these guys thinking they are going to end up essentially 'in my pants'.

I'd sooner give attention to someone that reads the profile and sends a more personal message as they are showing 'real' interest in me and my man.

We NEVER ignore a first message that is personal to us and from someone that matches our criteria.... they've made an effort and are not chancing it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe fab could use technology to solve this problem??

Perhaps they could have a timer on the page that stopped you clicking on 'message' button for one minute after landing on the page...

With a minute to spare most people would have to read the profile..

It would sort out those who we're genuine from the hoards of desperate men seeking pics "

What a Fab idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just to play devils advocate though. I understand the whole reading the profile malarkey but if somebody messages you saying "how are you?" maybe it is just to see what the reaction is like. Life is too short to write paragraph after paragraph just to have it ignored or deleted. I find a general hiya message is sufficient at 1st and then if the interest is there proceed with interesting convo. Just my view"

Oh yeah, forgot to say ....your pic might be getting you away with murder PHWOOOOOAAARRRR!!!!

Yes, I know ....shallow

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By *amnationsedgeMan
over a year ago

Ashborne

To be fair I always read profiles before messaging and its made bugger all diffrence to the replies I get. To me the big disaster isn't people not reading but people not replying even if its just no its better than nothing. I agree people should read profiles but then I struggle to support the side thats causing an equally irritating problem.

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By *hinaManMan
over a year ago

Twickenham

I don't personally write "Hi, how are you?" but I can understand why some guys to that.

I try to bring in what is mentioned on the profile into my first messge to show that I have taken the time to read carefully. However, it is rather disheartening when you spend 10mins to write a well constructed message only to see the message gets deleted right away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just to play devils advocate though. I understand the whole reading the profile malarkey but if somebody messages you saying "how are you?" maybe it is just to see what the reaction is like. Life is too short to write paragraph after paragraph just to have it ignored or deleted. I find a general hiya message is sufficient at 1st and then if the interest is there proceed with interesting convo. Just my view"

Would that be the reason that after a year of membership, you don't have one verification?

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By *hinaManMan
over a year ago

Twickenham

He might have loads of verifications, they are just hidden.


"Just to play devils advocate though. I understand the whole reading the profile malarkey but if somebody messages you saying "how are you?" maybe it is just to see what the reaction is like. Life is too short to write paragraph after paragraph just to have it ignored or deleted. I find a general hiya message is sufficient at 1st and then if the interest is there proceed with interesting convo. Just my view

Would that be the reason that after a year of membership, you don't have one verification?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be fair I always read profiles before messaging and its made bugger all diffrence to the replies I get. To me the big disaster isn't people not reading but people not replying even if its just no its better than nothing. I agree people should read profiles but then I struggle to support the side thats causing an equally irritating problem."

A lot of ladies and couples will be conscious of the fact that once you reply to someone the message filters will become useless if that person 'forgets' they have had a polite 'no thanks'.

Scenario:

Single male: I would love to meet you.

Single female: sorry, I'm not interested. Good luck!

Single male: ok thanks

(Single female decides to block single men because she feels overwhelmed)

(single male forgets she isn't interested)

Single male: I would love to meet you.

Single female: (FFS) I'M NOT FUCKING INTERESTED

Single male: 'I need to report this timewasting bitch'

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I don't get frustrated, delete and ignore.

Deleted a message from a couple without reading to be sent a follow up message calling me ignorant.

What part of my profile asks for couples I don't know, and what part of I'll delete if you don't meet what I'm looking for" they don't get is beyond me

But there you go!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First if all I agree 100% secondly love your name in Scotland it translates to fannybaws lol x

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By *eon85Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"Just to play devils advocate though. I understand the whole reading the profile malarkey but if somebody messages you saying "how are you?" maybe it is just to see what the reaction is like. Life is too short to write paragraph after paragraph just to have it ignored or deleted. I find a general hiya message is sufficient at 1st and then if the interest is there proceed with interesting convo. Just my view

Would that be the reason that after a year of membership, you don't have one verification?"
I have got verifications hidden I have also got a file saved of my verifications from my account from the 1st time of being here. I'm abit against paying £5 for a membership on here to just send "hi how are you" messages, as it says above It was just to play devils advocate. Altho I do sometimes just say that in a message it all depends what rating out of 10 the persons worth as to what effort I put in the message.

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By *eon85Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"Just to play devils advocate though. I understand the whole reading the profile malarkey but if somebody messages you saying "how are you?" maybe it is just to see what the reaction is like. Life is too short to write paragraph after paragraph just to have it ignored or deleted. I find a general hiya message is sufficient at 1st and then if the interest is there proceed with interesting convo. Just my view

Oh yeah, forgot to say ....your pic might be getting you away with murder PHWOOOOOAAARRRR!!!!

Yes, I know ....shallow "
haha thanks. I wasn't disagreeing with what your post is about, In honesty I was just in work on a 12 hour shift and thought Id add to the convo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are people so against reading profiles, it's driving us nuts!!! It's obvious when people haven't, and if theycant be bothered with that why would they be bothered with you anywhere else!? Anyone else frustrated???"

We had a message from a guy the other week and when we replied that he hadn't read our profile his reply was that he was sick of reading war and peace to get a shag!!! Nice eh, the sort who gives decent single guys a bad name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, too many single guys think that a 'swingers site' means an automatic yes to every offer, where as people on here are just as selective, if not more so than in the vanilla world, surely we need to be?

x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"First if all I agree 100% secondly love your name in Scotland it translates to fannybaws lol x"

Lmao thanks!

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are people so against reading profiles, it's driving us nuts!!! It's obvious when people haven't, and if theycant be bothered with that why would they be bothered with you anywhere else!? Anyone else frustrated???

We had a message from a guy the other week and when we replied that he hadn't read our profile his reply was that he was sick of reading war and peace to get a shag!!! Nice eh, the sort who gives decent single guys a bad name "

Hahahaha! We had the same a few months back! A guy said our profile went on like a book when we told him we weren't interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So go on then, own up !

Who else looked at this thread and opened it up thinking it was about impotence ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So go on then, own up !

Who else looked at this thread and opened it up thinking it was about impotence ? "

Pmsl, I did!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I message I write completely random bollocks, it very rarely doesn't get a reply, not always a positive one though I admit lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So go on then, own up !

Who else looked at this thread and opened it up thinking it was about impotence ? "

Hehe...

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By *onnoisseur100Man
over a year ago

Woking-ish


"Yeah, too many single guys think that a 'swingers site' means an automatic yes to every offer, where as people on here are just as selective, if not more so than in the vanilla world, surely we need to be?

x"

WHAT!!!!!!!! you mean It's not! Holy shit! Mumble,mumble ..... been wasting my time....... mutter mutter..... wanders off talking gibberish.....again.

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By *irty_newcastleCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle Upon Tyne

We have the same in our profile with the word "xrated". If anybody messages us without this word in the title the message is deleted before it is even opened.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had a guy mail us yesterday and say......Your profiles very long can you just tell me.... Are you meeting single men?? Gave me a right giggle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We had a guy mail us yesterday and say......Your profiles very long can you just tell me.... Are you meeting single men?? Gave me a right giggle "

So..... are you?

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"We had a guy mail us yesterday and say......Your profiles very long can you just tell me.... Are you meeting single men?? Gave me a right giggle "

WOW...that's a new level of low, lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single men??? Only if they are perfect in every way and by that I mean Bi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single men??? Only if they are perfect in every way and by that I mean Bi "

lol, phew I didn't have to read your profile after all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aaawwww but it's witty and comes complete with cock pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One thing that gets on our nerves is the profiles that are set up as singles but when you read them they are a couple. If you come as a couple (excuse the pun) then set up a couples profile, its not difficult!

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"One thing that gets on our nerves is the profiles that are set up as singles but when you read them they are a couple. If you come as a couple (excuse the pun) then set up a couples profile, its not difficult! "

Depends how long they have been a couple i suppose. Some people hook up on here and forget to make a new one, or can't be bothered.

But i totally agree with you nonetheless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One thing that gets on our nerves is the profiles that are set up as singles but when you read them they are a couple. If you come as a couple (excuse the pun) then set up a couples profile, its not difficult!

Depends how long they have been a couple i suppose. Some people hook up on here and forget to make a new one, or can't be bothered.

But i totally agree with you nonetheless "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as they read the main points on a profile I suppose... I know some have problems with attention span over the complete magnum opus that some write...

You could always hold que cards with what you want on them posed daintily around your best bits...

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

...for those who only look at the pictures that is...

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are people so against reading profiles, it's driving us nuts!!! It's obvious when people haven't, and if theycant be bothered with that why would they be bothered with you anywhere else!? Anyone else frustrated???"

Yes x I think some spoilers are here with nothing better to do x I've managed to get my own stalker on here x all because I made a request for an email instead of wink x so I guess it's the opposite x he did read it and then at out to deliberately upset me x fake profiles everything x very strange

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree it must be annoying.

However in my experience actually having read profiles often makes no difference to whether you're afforded a response or not.

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