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By *ingAlive999 OP   Man
over a year ago

London

... hi ppl. I'm new here. I have messaged soo many ppl... in so different ways and contexts.. I'm trying to be as respectful as possible so my msg doesn't sound like Who the hell is this creep and so on.. if ppl require a pic attached to msg it's there.. I dont bother anyone who's interests or types doesn't match with mine ...

In the end I've got only few replies...

Jm just confused as never....

Maybe someone can give me some answers..

Tnx ppl

And have a great weekend.

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"... hi ppl. I'm new here. I have messaged soo many ppl... in so different ways and contexts.. I'm trying to be as respectful as possible so my msg doesn't sound like Who the hell is this creep and so on.. if ppl require a pic attached to msg it's there.. I dont bother anyone who's interests or types doesn't match with mine ...

In the end I've got only few replies...

Jm just confused as never....

Maybe someone can give me some answers..

Tnx ppl

And have a great weekend. "

OP..why do you think people should answer your messages?

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Maybe avoid the text speak?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a numbers game and when you receive over 100+ messages a day you can never read or reply to them all

My advice try to only message when the person is online as there more likely to see the message rather than it getting lost in the hundreds or mass deleted

Never be rude or crude be yourself stand out be polite

Always see if you are what they are after

Send a clear face picture nothing else if there attracted to your face it’s the best start keep the rest for the people who deserve it

Don’t copy and paste make every message specific to that person

And don’t keep messaging if the person says no there not interested my advice is add them to your block list then you’ll never message them again and not annoy them or waste your time

Happy hunting

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By *ingAlive999 OP   Man
over a year ago

London

It's what in talking about. I've been following all the criterias.. to stay polite as possible... I never text twice.. or if person isn't online... I dont think I've been rude or disrespectful to anyone.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

It is likely that if they are not interested they won't reply, which actually saves your time.

If you find someone of particular interest, maybe try an individual message after reading their profile.

In the frequently asked questions on here it does state no reply is no thank you.

Just keep trying and when the clubs reopen in due course maybe try one of those as that's a great way to meet people even if it is only socially.

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"It's what in talking about. I've been following all the criterias.. to stay polite as possible... I never text twice.. or if person isn't online... I dont think I've been rude or disrespectful to anyone. "

...but still you expect a reply..

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By *icplshropsCouple
over a year ago

Rock


"... hi ppl. I'm new here. I have messaged soo many ppl... in so different ways and contexts.. I'm trying to be as respectful as possible so my msg doesn't sound like Who the hell is this creep and so on.. if ppl require a pic attached to msg it's there.. I dont bother anyone who's interests or types doesn't match with mine ...

In the end I've got only few replies...

Jm just confused as never....

Maybe someone can give me some answers..

Tnx ppl

And have a great weekend. "

It’s a numbers game. There’s a lot more men on here looking for the same thing as you. It can take a lot more than a couple of seconds to reply to a message, when there’s 200 and counting to go through. Furthermore, even though you may feel it’s a good match, the person may not feel the same way.

J

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"It's what in talking about. I've been following all the criterias.. to stay polite as possible... I never text twice.. or if person isn't online... I dont think I've been rude or disrespectful to anyone. "

How does that entitle you to a reply?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try being a woman on here... Just because YOU think you fulfill all the criteria mentioned on the profile, it doesn't mean THEY (the people you are messaging) think you meet their criteria.

How about making your profile a bit more informative?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

A lot of people on here will read a profile before deciding whether or not to reply. If there's nothing of interest on yours for them why would they reply? FAQ section says no reply means no interest, it's not considered rude. Would you reply to every message on your email account to say no thanks? I know I don't. Good luck, I hope you find what you are looking for on here.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Try being a woman on here... Just because YOU think you fulfill all the criteria mentioned on the profile, it doesn't mean THEY (the people you are messaging) think you meet their criteria.

How about making your profile a bit more informative?"

This is the key, a decent profile will help but it won’t guarantee a meet or even a reply to your messages. But it is worth trying to stand out from the rest of the guys on here.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I have the human league song seconds going through my head as well now....

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

OP.

In addition to what has been said already, the truth is you've only been on here 5 weeks, in the midst of a pandemic which has all but decimated any chance of meets.

Even in normal times, it could take weeks, if not, months for guys to reach successful stages on here!

This isn't an Instant Shag site; it wasn't before lockdown, and won't be afterwards.

You may have sent out many messages, but it's not mandatory for the recipients to reply to you.

Put it this way, a female contact of mine, recently placed new pics on her profile & within 72 hours, had over 500 messages. Then, no wonder ladies don't respond to everyone!

Look at the Forum Index for similar posts on how to succeed in getting responses.

But above all, it takes bags of Patience, more Patience & Perseverance allied to a thick skin when people don't respond. At that last point, simply move on.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After the pandemic is over go to a club, go with the view of not playing and just chat to people. Get verifications and then keep going to the clubs and things will happen. Oh and if you want to meet a couple you need to chat to the guy and engage with him otherwise you have no chance.

No reply just means they weren't interested, simply block them so you don't accidentally message them again

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By *ingAlive999 OP   Man
over a year ago

London

Thanks everyone. Everything makes much more sence now. I'm much more relaxed. And I might change my profile to slightly informative.

Perhaps someone knows what defo shouldn't be there.

Thank you ppl. Your amazing .

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset


"Thanks everyone. Everything makes much more sence now. I'm much more relaxed. And I might change my profile to slightly informative.

Perhaps someone knows what defo shouldn't be there.

Thank you ppl. Your amazing . "

"Might change my profile" as said before, people will check your profile before even opening a message ......currently it makes no sense and is pretty meh to be honest.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"... hi ppl. I'm new here. I have messaged soo many ppl... in so different ways and contexts.. I'm trying to be as respectful as possible so my msg doesn't sound like Who the hell is this creep and so on.. if ppl require a pic attached to msg it's there.. I dont bother anyone who's interests or types doesn't match with mine ...

In the end I've got only few replies...

Jm just confused as never....

most

Maybe someone can give me some answers..

Tnx ppl

And have a great weekend. "

Before opening your email most people look at your profile. If your profile text doesn't interest them your email is not getting opened.

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By *ee And MikeCouple
over a year ago

Cannock

To be honest there are very few single guys on here that interest us enough to want to meet.

As a cuckold couple a lot of guys seem to think that you should be grateful to chat and then meet with them and even though we say on our profile if you are going to message us then let it be more than ‘hi’ or ‘hey’ that’s what we still get.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

You're really new and it always takes months for new single men here. On top of this it's lockdown so people have other priorities.

Adjust your expectations and use your time to get your fab service to sell you well, including via your profile which people read when they get a message. Most guys profiles are rubbish at creating interest in them, they don't communicate what they are really offering that's any different to most others and usually focus on what they want, rather than giving readers an understanding of why they could give them what they want.

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By *ids_NaughtyCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

Things to think of for anyone who sends someone a message single or couple.

If you were standing in a normal nightclub full of people, there may be plenty of people you see who you think attractive, lust after or even see as someone you would like to know as person and not just get a dance/song shag form. But you’d equally likely realise that some of those you clearly wouldn’t even attempt to approach as you clearly know as much as you like them they unlikely going to like you, they may be married and just out for a good time, they may be gay/lesbian etc and you just the wrong sex. So just as those people have gone out to a night club and even may be on the pull you(or I hope) wouldn’t expect that you’d think that just because they are there they will snog any person they talks to them. Fabs is no different - as much as people are being more open - it doesn’t mean, as nice a bloke you are that every person on here is obliged to respond to your advances, just as they wouldn’t in the club.

Remember on here the difference is every one does send a wink, message unlike I the club where everyone doesn’t have the ability to hide behind the internet.

Equally take into account that all people have to go on Is pictures that often don’t reflect what someone really looks like - and it doesn’t clearly allow you to see what they like as a person.

It be easy to take a photo of a beautiful woman - that we all would just after - especially with a bit of creative photography and photoshopping, but seeing that same woman in real life and how she holds herself, and not just her looks would make you realise more about who and what type of person they really are. Don’t forget Manson was actually consider a good looking man!

So clearly you need to accept that along with fact women and couples get hundreds of messages, that you competing from, that just because they on here doesn’t mean you are what they want, and equally you maybe Whaf they exactly want - but all they have to judge is a profile and picture - and Your OpenIng email - which will we be one of many.

Simply answer is don’t take it seriously - accept you going to Send more messages than you’ll ever receive - and ultimately the best way to succeed is to (when we can) attend clubs/socials etc - if you can do that - best option - pay for a hooker then you can guarantee they will think you are great for that hour regardless of even if you clearly not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP.

In addition to what has been said already, the truth is you've only been on here 5 weeks, in the midst of a pandemic which has all but decimated any chance of meets.

Even in normal times, it could take weeks, if not, months for guys to reach successful stages on here!

This isn't an Instant Shag site; it wasn't before lockdown, and won't be afterwards.

You may have sent out many messages, but it's not mandatory for the recipients to reply to you.

Put it this way, a female contact of mine, recently placed new pics on her profile & within 72 hours, had over 500 messages. Then, no wonder ladies don't respond to everyone!

Look at the Forum Index for similar posts on how to succeed in getting responses.

But above all, it takes bags of Patience, more Patience & Perseverance allied to a thick skin when people don't respond. At that last point, simply move on.

Good luck. "

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Thanks everyone. Everything makes much more sence now. I'm much more relaxed. And I might change my profile to slightly informative.

Perhaps someone knows what defo shouldn't be there.

Thank you ppl. Your amazing . "

Bonus points for coming back to us and saying thanks OP. Not many do on these threads. Good luck!

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)


"Thanks everyone. Everything makes much more sence now. I'm much more relaxed. And I might change my profile to slightly informative.

Perhaps someone knows what defo shouldn't be there.

Thank you ppl. Your amazing .

Bonus points for coming back to us and saying thanks OP. Not many do on these threads. Good luck! "

Even more bonus points if the op actually acts on all the help he's been given as even fewer folks do that.

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...


"Things to think of for anyone who sends someone a message single or couple.

If you were standing in a normal nightclub full of people, there may be plenty of people you see who you think attractive, lust after or even see as someone you would like to know as person and not just get a dance/song shag form. But you’d equally likely realise that some of those you clearly wouldn’t even attempt to approach as you clearly know as much as you like them they unlikely going to like you, they may be married and just out for a good time, they may be gay/lesbian etc and you just the wrong sex. So just as those people have gone out to a night club and even may be on the pull you(or I hope) wouldn’t expect that you’d think that just because they are there they will snog any person they talks to them. Fabs is no different - as much as people are being more open - it doesn’t mean, as nice a bloke you are that every person on here is obliged to respond to your advances, just as they wouldn’t in the club.

Remember on here the difference is every one does send a wink, message unlike I the club where everyone doesn’t have the ability to hide behind the internet.

Equally take into account that all people have to go on Is pictures that often don’t reflect what someone really looks like - and it doesn’t clearly allow you to see what they like as a person.

It be easy to take a photo of a beautiful woman - that we all would just after - especially with a bit of creative photography and photoshopping, but seeing that same woman in real life and how she holds herself, and not just her looks would make you realise more about who and what type of person they really are. Don’t forget Manson was actually consider a good looking man!

So clearly you need to accept that along with fact women and couples get hundreds of messages, that you competing from, that just because they on here doesn’t mean you are what they want, and equally you maybe Whaf they exactly want - but all they have to judge is a profile and picture - and Your OpenIng email - which will we be one of many.

Simply answer is don’t take it seriously - accept you going to Send more messages than you’ll ever receive - and ultimately the best way to succeed is to (when we can) attend clubs/socials etc - if you can do that - best option - pay for a hooker then you can guarantee they will think you are great for that hour regardless of even if you clearly not."

That is a great post and very true.

I would add, as I've done many times before, that you can't have FAB (or any other swinger site) as the only tool in your box.

If you are going to take this lifestyle seriously then you have to embrace all the other parts of it.

I know it's difficult at the moment but clubs and socials really are a big help in getting yourself known.

To be fair the law of averages says that you will get a meet or two from time to time off here, but they will be very few and far between.

FAB or any other internet swinger site in not a magic bullet that will lead to a whole new sex life, and the people that realise that tend to get much more out of this lifestyle as a whole.

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside


"... hi ppl. I'm new here. I have messaged soo many ppl... in so different ways and contexts.. I'm trying to be as respectful as possible so my msg doesn't sound like Who the hell is this creep and so on.. if ppl require a pic attached to msg it's there.. I dont bother anyone who's interests or types doesn't match with mine ...

In the end I've got only few replies...

Jm just confused as never....

Maybe someone can give me some answers..

Tnx ppl

And have a great weekend. "

You've been on 6 weeks, virus raging, nobody meeting.

Profile is average, nothing special or anything to make it stand out.

Once everything is back to normal, why not try attending a social, get yourself a few verifications and move on from there.

It's not easy, even for couples but great when it happens.

Good luck.

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.


"... hi ppl. I'm new here. I have messaged soo many ppl... in so different ways and contexts.. I'm trying to be as respectful as possible so my msg doesn't sound like Who the hell is this creep and so on.. if ppl require a pic attached to msg it's there.. I dont bother anyone who's interests or types doesn't match with mine ...

In the end I've got only few replies...

Jm just confused as never....

Maybe someone can give me some answers..

Tnx ppl

And have a great weekend. "

Because when you reply no thanks, the sender will do one of two things. They will either try to convince you that they’re what you are looking for and to ‘give them a chance’, with increasingly desperate messages. Or they will call you names, and say they’re not interested anyway etc.

So we don’t engage.

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By *ee And MikeCouple
over a year ago

Cannock


"... hi ppl. I'm new here. I have messaged soo many ppl... in so different ways and contexts.. I'm trying to be as respectful as possible so my msg doesn't sound like Who the hell is this creep and so on.. if ppl require a pic attached to msg it's there.. I dont bother anyone who's interests or types doesn't match with mine ...

In the end I've got only few replies...

Jm just confused as never....

Maybe someone can give me some answers..

Tnx ppl

And have a great weekend.

Because when you reply no thanks, the sender will do one of two things. They will either try to convince you that they’re what you are looking for and to ‘give them a chance’, with increasingly desperate messages. Or they will call you names, and say they’re not interested anyway etc.

So we don’t engage. "

We always try and give a polite ‘no thank you’ but end up having to then fend off numerous messages about why we should meet them and all their experience, like we’d be missing out if we didn’t lol

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By *ebwizMan
over a year ago

Clevedon

Been on here for some time. Have had messages with general chat, some non replies. Have never had a meet with a woman off here. Only time that's happened was when me and wife used to club together. Very different dynamic in a club as a single guy. So better at privately organised parties. Glad I have a good sex life at home.

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By *ingAlive999 OP   Man
over a year ago

London

Thanks for the tips ppl. Bloody corona standing in the way now

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Bloody corona standing in the way now"

It was here when you joined.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

To be honest we never look at how long a person has been on here if they send a message, and have a profile, that interests us.

Two weeks, two years, who cares?

I would say that anyone who has been here for a long time, gets no interest and had tried all the usual things needs to consider if s inging is really for them.

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By *entlecaressMan
over a year ago

Wakefield/ Beverley

Ohh you got a few replies well done that's more than most get. Your successful

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over a year ago

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