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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Obviously I respect and would hope others respect my decision to keep certain aspects of my life private.

But I would be devastated to be part of someone cheating on their partner either in marriage or just serious relationship.

How can I tell they are a cheat? (as most 'single but secretly married profiles', there's no real obvious signs) HELP

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By *anshee99Woman
over a year ago

all over

If you ask the right questions in the right ways they usually tell you.

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By *arbellsWoman
over a year ago

Cambridge

Asking questions, noticing inconsistent answers, patterns of when people reply etc not always solid but I think that's helped me in the past x

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By *exymidscouple2017Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

After a few messages exchanged we ask if they are attached/ married..if they are genuine they reply and carry on with the conversations.. but if they go quiet then that tells me the truth.

We rather not play with 'singles' who say they are married/attached knowingly as we don't do drama.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just ask him , how often he buys toilet paper for his home.....

Any single guy only buys toilet paper once every 2 - 3 months....

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By *arbellsWoman
over a year ago

Cambridge


"Just ask him , how often he buys toilet paper for his home.....

Any single guy only buys toilet paper once every 2 - 3 months...."

2-3 months? Whaatttt? How?

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By *aulj69Man
over a year ago

dunstable


"Just ask him , how often he buys toilet paper for his home.....

Any single guy only buys toilet paper once every 2 - 3 months...."

Lol. Brilliant but you know what, I have a bidet really underrated and great for a quick freshen up. In answer to your question ask if they accom? Always a bit of a giveaway for me in the past, I'm o.k with married or partners providing the partner knows or they are part of this lifestyle. Good luck to you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just ask him , how often he buys toilet paper for his home.....

Any single guy only buys toilet paper once every 2 - 3 months....

2-3 months? Whaatttt? How? "

I shop at Costco, so I get 20 rolls in a bundle....

I usually poop in the morning and jump in the shower after....

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

Not always available

Evasive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just ask him , how often he buys toilet paper for his home.....

Any single guy only buys toilet paper once every 2 - 3 months...."

Yes, that is absolutely true. I only buy loo roll once a month, if that.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Just ask him , how often he buys toilet paper for his home.....

Any single guy only buys toilet paper once every 2 - 3 months...."

You know what, I try it and let you know how I get on

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By *olex99Man
over a year ago

Hull

I'm not available when I'm at work. I have no access to Fabs apart from when I'm home. Does that make me married?

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Just ask him , how often he buys toilet paper for his home.....

Any single guy only buys toilet paper once every 2 - 3 months....

2-3 months? Whaatttt? How? "

Men rarely use it when they do a number one... You're lucky they use more than afew sheets for a number two

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I'm not available when I'm at work. I have no access to Fabs apart from when I'm home. Does that make me married? "

If you're on fab at 3 am while your wife asleep... I guess so

I know some people work nights so go on fab during their break.

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By *olex99Man
over a year ago

Hull


"I'm not available when I'm at work. I have no access to Fabs apart from when I'm home. Does that make me married?

If you're on fab at 3 am while your wife asleep... I guess so

I know some people work nights so go on fab during their break. "

Tell that to my imaginary wife

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Do a couple of calls and ask lots of questions you will easily know within 60 secs if someone is for real or cheating

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By *arracksCouple
over a year ago

Deal

Can't accommodate, no weekend meets, only available during the day

All of which there may be legitimate reasons for but sets off alarm bells here

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Ask to speak to them in the evening on a few occasions? A single person should be able to speak.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"Can't accommodate, no weekend meets, only available during the day

All of which there may be legitimate reasons for but sets off alarm bells here"

Desperate to talk off-site but only on kik. No messages evenings and weekends.

They're red flags, not proof, and all can potentially be explained with something entirely reasonable, but they'd certainly have me asking more questions.

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By *oneyjule65Couple
over a year ago

Halifax


"Just ask him , how often he buys toilet paper for his home.....

Any single guy only buys toilet paper once every 2 - 3 months....

2-3 months? Whaatttt? How?

I shop at Costco, so I get 20 rolls in a bundle....

I usually poop in the morning and jump in the shower after....

"

As long as you don't poop in the shower..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Obviously I respect and would hope others respect my decision to keep certain aspects of my life private.

But I would be devastated to be part of someone cheating on their partner either in marriage or just serious relationship.

How can I tell they are a cheat? (as most 'single but secretly married profiles', there's no real obvious signs) HELP "

Mine is quite open.

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By *urocougarCouple
over a year ago

watton


"Can't accommodate, no weekend meets, only available during the day

All of which there may be legitimate reasons for but sets off alarm bells here

If they cant talk freely at different times of the day when you ask what they do for work and hours they work if they want to chat after work call them and see if they answer it’s not fool proof but 90% of cheats won’t be able to speak when you do ??????????

Desperate to talk off-site but only on kik. No messages evenings and weekends.

They're red flags, not proof, and all can potentially be explained with something entirely reasonable, but they'd certainly have me asking more questions."

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Can't accommodate, no weekend meets, only available during the day

All of which there may be legitimate reasons for but sets off alarm bells here"

Eeek. I work every weekend, can't accommodate but prefer to meet week day evenings... Definitely not a cheat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A question we ask is will they meet us in a club. Many suddenly get very evasive about exactly why they can't do clubs which raises our suspicions.

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By *rown Eyed SubWoman
over a year ago

North Lanarkshire

Inconsistency, txtn at the same time eg only at night it in morning, if i get someone's number i search them on social media, caught out a few with that one!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m married and always say as soon as messages start. If it’s clear in the profile they don’t want to meet married guys I block them so I don’t wink or message them. Everybody has rules and preferences. I’m cheating on my wife and I get that it’s not right. But we all have our reasons and it’s on our conscience. I have met women and couples before who actually prefer it.

Each to their own I suppose. But I did suspect that most guys on here are “Fab Single” and have a other half locked up somewhere

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By *hilledout-coupleCouple
over a year ago

telford

We are a couple and have always said I’m happy to do a female to female chat first if wanting to meet with my partner xx

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

What's about when they don't have any photos and they say they want to be discreet

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By *hilledout-coupleCouple
over a year ago

telford

I’m sure if they want to meet and are single then they can send a face photo after all u are looking to meet them

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I’m sure if they want to meet and are single then they can send a face photo after all u are looking to meet them "

They reply “its because of my job.. Can you be discreet? “

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By *aughty_nymphWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Female toiletries in the mandatory bathroom pics.

Can’t talk after 5pm.

Can’t accommodate or insists on car meets.

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By *hilledout-coupleCouple
over a year ago

telford

So how will they meet you if not prepared to send pic ?

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"A question we ask is will they meet us in a club. Many suddenly get very evasive about exactly why they can't do clubs which raises our suspicions."

Not wanting to meet in a club is more likely to be because of the cost incurred as a single male, rather than being married/attached and playing away....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I imagine they would be a lot busier and vague about what they're doing. Other than that would need to see his gaff. While we try a bit most of us aren't arsed about scatter cushions and bowls with little things in them. I like candles but you can tell im single just looking at my front room.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"So how will they meet you if not prepared to send pic ?"

I got a very shirty response from that comment... He was probably married then

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I imagine they would be a lot busier and vague about what they're doing. Other than that would need to see his gaff. While we try a bit most of us aren't arsed about scatter cushions and bowls with little things in them. I like candles but you can tell im single just looking at my front room."

Pink floral vase with fresh cut flowers also a dead give away. I don't think i ever been to a bachelor pad with that in it. Especially pink things

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Female toiletries in the mandatory bathroom pics.

Can’t talk after 5pm.

Can’t accommodate or insists on car meets. "

Could they be living with mum, sister or grandmother? My friend's friend cheating bf did that to her for a year. Stayed with her during the week. Then went home to look after his sick mum aka wife every weekend. She fell for it

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We met a partnered man at his house once. It was only when he started to get paranoid about a condom being left somewhere in case "the cleaner saw it" that we twigged though, there was nothing to indicate that he was in a relationship otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ask early on, but you can't guarantee an honest answer.

Unwilling to talk on the phone, never free on a Friday or Saturday night: they are my first red flags.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask why they can't accommodate. Can they meet Saturday evening? Pay close attention to the pictures and the background: is there a wedding ring on a finger, how many toothbrushes are in the glass, ladies clothing, hairbrush, make up, toiletries etc. in the background. How many sets of towels? Home decor: feminine touches in respect of flowers in the vase, patterns of the curtains, colour scheme and patterns of the bedding, little decorative items. Are all pictures taken in low light, only in the toilet/bathroom, only in a hotel?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ask why they can't accommodate. Can they meet Saturday evening? Pay close attention to the pictures and the background: is there a wedding ring on a finger, how many toothbrushes are in the glass, ladies clothing, hairbrush, make up, toiletries etc. in the background. How many sets of towels? Home decor: feminine touches in respect of flowers in the vase, patterns of the curtains, colour scheme and patterns of the bedding, little decorative items. Are all pictures taken in low light, only in the toilet/bathroom, only in a hotel?"

This sounds like a lot of work just for shag.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ask why they can't accommodate. Can they meet Saturday evening? Pay close attention to the pictures and the background: is there a wedding ring on a finger, how many toothbrushes are in the glass, ladies clothing, hairbrush, make up, toiletries etc. in the background. How many sets of towels? Home decor: feminine touches in respect of flowers in the vase, patterns of the curtains, colour scheme and patterns of the bedding, little decorative items. Are all pictures taken in low light, only in the toilet/bathroom, only in a hotel?

This sounds like a lot of work just for shag.....

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Yeah, takes about 30 seconds...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ask why they can't accommodate. Can they meet Saturday evening? Pay close attention to the pictures and the background: is there a wedding ring on a finger, how many toothbrushes are in the glass, ladies clothing, hairbrush, make up, toiletries etc. in the background. How many sets of towels? Home decor: feminine touches in respect of flowers in the vase, patterns of the curtains, colour scheme and patterns of the bedding, little decorative items. Are all pictures taken in low light, only in the toilet/bathroom, only in a hotel?

This sounds like a lot of work just for shag.....

Yeah, takes about 30 seconds..."

You are good.....

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By *avina64TV/TS
over a year ago

Grimsby

One of the most obvious is can't accommodate

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Ask why they can't accommodate. Can they meet Saturday evening? Pay close attention to the pictures and the background: is there a wedding ring on a finger, how many toothbrushes are in the glass, ladies clothing, hairbrush, make up, toiletries etc. in the background. How many sets of towels? Home decor: feminine touches in respect of flowers in the vase, patterns of the curtains, colour scheme and patterns of the bedding, little decorative items. Are all pictures taken in low light, only in the toilet/bathroom, only in a hotel?

This sounds like a lot of work just for shag.....

Yeah, takes about 30 seconds..."

Some men hardly have any photos, let alone photos that can leave clues. But not being able to meet weekends is good one. However, I can't meet weekends because of work commitments. We also was advise that when vanilla dating, weekend was premium time so to stay abit aloof at the beginning, best arrange a quick meet during the week. For me personally, I can only meet during weekday evenings.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"One of the most obvious is can't accommodate "

Unfortunately I can't accommodate or do weekends but definitely not married or with a partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of the most obvious is can't accommodate "

Is accommodating in your car , seen as a positive?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of the most obvious is can't accommodate

Is accommodating in your car , seen as a positive?"

About the same as accomodating behind Tesco.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ask why they can't accommodate. Can they meet Saturday evening? Pay close attention to the pictures and the background: is there a wedding ring on a finger, how many toothbrushes are in the glass, ladies clothing, hairbrush, make up, toiletries etc. in the background. How many sets of towels? Home decor: feminine touches in respect of flowers in the vase, patterns of the curtains, colour scheme and patterns of the bedding, little decorative items. Are all pictures taken in low light, only in the toilet/bathroom, only in a hotel?

This sounds like a lot of work just for shag.....

Yeah, takes about 30 seconds...

Some men hardly have any photos, let alone photos that can leave clues. But not being able to meet weekends is good one. However, I can't meet weekends because of work commitments. We also was advise that when vanilla dating, weekend was premium time so to stay abit aloof at the beginning, best arrange a quick meet during the week. For me personally, I can only meet during weekday evenings. "

You can ask if meeting Saturday night is an option, don't necessarily have to go for it.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Just ask him , how often he buys toilet paper for his home.....

Any single guy only buys toilet paper once every 2 - 3 months...."

Very strange way of knowing.....single guys I’ve known don’t have that pattern lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Not wanting to meet in a club is more likely to be because of the cost incurred as a single male, rather than being married/attached and playing away...."

Nonsense, when asked they are very evasive and can't give reasons about why not clubs and then suggest hotel meets which are certainly not cheaper than clubs! For the local club it is only a fiver more for a single guy vs a couple. This is still much cheaper than paying for even half of a hotel room.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m married, it’s in my profile and I will tell anyone that asks!

It’s not the end of the world to some people.

I’m just looking for something I can’t have at home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Not wanting to meet in a club is more likely to be because of the cost incurred as a single male, rather than being married/attached and playing away....

Nonsense, when asked they are very evasive and can't give reasons about why not clubs and then suggest hotel meets which are certainly not cheaper than clubs! For the local club it is only a fiver more for a single guy vs a couple. This is still much cheaper than paying for even half of a hotel room."

Which club is that? That's great value, my local can be around £80 almost 4 times the cost of a couple and single women can be free at times which rubs it in further.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not always available

Evasive"

This one .

You don't need to ask any probing questions either .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Which club is that? That's great value, my local can be around £80 almost 4 times the cost of a couple and single women can be free at times which rubs it in further. "

Milf club at VA, daytime event, £30 single guys, £20 couples (forgot they reduced the prices by £5 for couples this year), free for single women, single guys need to be on the guest list though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Obviously I respect and would hope others respect my decision to keep certain aspects of my life private.

But I would be devastated to be part of someone cheating on their partner either in marriage or just serious relationship.

How can I tell they are a cheat? (as most 'single but secretly married profiles', there's no real obvious signs) HELP "
in this weather its easy look for white bit on wedding finger where he took ring off or check his mobile phone screensaver thats always a great clue WIFE and kids or just look into his eyes as your feeling his bulge and ask him not many men could lie convincingly whilst your hands on their nuts

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch


"One of the most obvious is can't accommodate

Unfortunately I can't accommodate or do weekends but definitely not married or with a partner"

We've only got your word for that....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose all these reasons can be for married women cheating too it’s just not always guys...

Oh and I am single by the way...but I can’t accommodate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I suppose all these reasons can be for married women cheating too it’s just not always guys...

Oh and I am single by the way...but I can’t accommodate "
yea tell us another one

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch


"I suppose all these reasons can be for married women cheating too it’s just not always guys.... "

Yeah, but women are allowed to be cheats, even actively encouraged to be

Whereas all men are bastards, innit

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I suppose all these reasons can be for married women cheating too it’s just not always guys....

Yeah, but women are allowed to be cheats, even actively encouraged to be

Whereas all men are bastards, innit "

No I feel the same about married women cheating on here!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"

Not wanting to meet in a club is more likely to be because of the cost incurred as a single male, rather than being married/attached and playing away....

Nonsense, when asked they are very evasive and can't give reasons about why not clubs and then suggest hotel meets which are certainly not cheaper than clubs! For the local club it is only a fiver more for a single guy vs a couple. This is still much cheaper than paying for even half of a hotel room."

The entry fee for a pub or coffee house isn’t gender-biased at all though, unlike a swingers’ club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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The entry fee for a pub or coffee house isn’t gender-biased at all though, unlike a swingers’ club "

If that is the case why can't they just outright say that then? Rather than being evasive with comments such as "I can't really do clubs" or "couldn't you accommodate just for me" or the rather telling "I'm worried someone might recognise me"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My partner has no need or desire for sex since the menopause, she has told me to find it elsewhere as long as I dont rub her nose in it , so I fit meets in during times when I'm normally out of the house , workdays Saturday golf twice a month or five aside on a Wednesday . Or if she is away for work or a girlie weekend away . I know some will still skate me off but it works for us

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"

The entry fee for a pub or coffee house isn’t gender-biased at all though, unlike a swingers’ club

If that is the case why can't they just outright say that then? Rather than being evasive with comments such as "I can't really do clubs" or "couldn't you accommodate just for me" or the rather telling "I'm worried someone might recognise me""

Some people prefer clean sheets on a proper bed, to wipe-clean wrestling mats.

Some people prefer their intimate times to be kept private, and not watched by onlookers chatting about the football/Eastenders.

It’s fair enough, people could be more straight to the point, instead of being evasive, but you could always ask too, or put a note in your profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

shes sitting outside in car waiting to give him a lift home

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By *ilverminxWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

I’m always suspicious of someone who says they don’t use social media. There are genuine ones that don’t but always a red flag. I work weekends and nights and also have kids so meets can be pretty random but normally time will tell. I also don’t chat on phone often as I’m normally within earshot.

I had been chatting to a guy for months who said he was single never married, no kids, sent me pics/videos from his house, no obvious signs. Invited him to meet me in a bnb (Was away with work) and he wouldn’t come til early hours of the morning and left straight after. Immediate red flag. Turned out he had a wife and 9 year old kid.

It’s hard to tell sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Obviously I respect and would hope others respect my decision to keep certain aspects of my life private.

But I would be devastated to be part of someone cheating on their partner either in marriage or just serious relationship.

Honesty is the best policy, were all on here for different reasons. People just need to be open and honest with others they chat to

How can I tell they are a cheat? (as most 'single but secretly married profiles', there's no real obvious signs) HELP "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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It’s fair enough, people could be more straight to the point, instead of being evasive, but you could always ask too, or put a note in your profile? "

It's already written on our profile, either a social or meet at club and we do ask very quickly if we want to meet. Then we get the evasiveness over the clubs and then why they can't be meeting out somewhere public for the social and then asking us to accommodate which is already explained why we can't accommodate on our profile. Something around half our messages from guys after we delete all the dross "hi how you doing?" messages end up being like this.

Honestly, we don't really care, if guys can't be bothered to make any effort to either read our profile or make some effort in meeting then we're not going to make any effort for them. Honestly we get so many messages from guys and have so many who will meet at clubs that we don't feel we're missing out on anything anyway, their loss, not ours!

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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago

north and south


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It’s fair enough, people could be more straight to the point, instead of being evasive, but you could always ask too, or put a note in your profile?

It's already written on our profile, either a social or meet at club and we do ask very quickly if we want to meet. Then we get the evasiveness over the clubs and then why they can't be meeting out somewhere public for the social and then asking us to accommodate which is already explained why we can't accommodate on our profile. Something around half our messages from guys after we delete all the dross "hi how you doing?" messages end up being like this.

Honestly, we don't really care, if guys can't be bothered to make any effort to either read our profile or make some effort in meeting then we're not going to make any effort for them. Honestly we get so many messages from guys and have so many who will meet at clubs that we don't feel we're missing out on anything anyway, their loss, not ours!"
Op can’t accommodate and most single women on this tread can’t accommodate,that makes me think you have something to hide , Swinging is open to all single, married, gay , and no one person should have to explain there circumstances , happy fabs where they can be safe again everyone

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"

It’s fair enough, people could be more straight to the point, instead of being evasive, but you could always ask too, or put a note in your profile?

It's already written on our profile, either a social or meet at club and we do ask very quickly if we want to meet. Then we get the evasiveness over the clubs and then why they can't be meeting out somewhere public for the social and then asking us to accommodate which is already explained why we can't accommodate on our profile.

Something around half our messages from guys after we delete all the dross "hi how you doing?" messages end up being like this.

Honestly, we don't really care, if guys can't be bothered to make any effort to either read our profile or make some effort in meeting then we're not going to make any effort for them. Honestly we get so many messages from guys and have so many who will meet at clubs that we don't feel we're missing out on anything anyway, their loss, not ours!"

For me if you're in a couple profile, then yes it's an open relationship. It's the single profiles that I'm worried about. Sounds like it's risky as some people are devious.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


" Honestly we get so many messages from guys and have so many who will meet at clubs that we don't feel we're missing out on anything anyway, their loss, not ours!"

Sounds like you're sorted then

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over a year ago


"Just ask him , how often he buys toilet paper for his home.....

Any single guy only buys toilet paper once every 2 - 3 months...."

But now he’s got his mountain of bog rolls from panic buying

So trying to offload - 1 roll for a hand job, 4 for a bj and a 16 pack for a shag

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over a year ago

Best asking straight up in the outset, not the very first line , but probably first conversation. You can usually tell by just chatting, I think sometimes you just have to take people at face value.

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By *arbellsWoman
over a year ago

Cambridge


"

It’s fair enough, people could be more straight to the point, instead of being evasive, but you could always ask too, or put a note in your profile?

It's already written on our profile, either a social or meet at club and we do ask very quickly if we want to meet. Then we get the evasiveness over the clubs and then why they can't be meeting out somewhere public for the social and then asking us to accommodate which is already explained why we can't accommodate on our profile. Something around half our messages from guys after we delete all the dross "hi how you doing?" messages end up being like this.

Honestly, we don't really care, if guys can't be bothered to make any effort to either read our profile or make some effort in meeting then we're not going to make any effort for them. Honestly we get so many messages from guys and have so many who will meet at clubs that we don't feel we're missing out on anything anyway, their loss, not ours!Op can’t accommodate and most single women on this tread can’t accommodate,that makes me think you have something to hide , Swinging is open to all single, married, gay , and no one person should have to explain there circumstances , happy fabs where they can be safe again everyone "

Yes you're right but I don't accommodate for safety reasons being a single female, I think that's probably true for a lot of females

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

We've found most guys are up front about their relationship status.

To be honest if we are in a club or party and have fun with a single guy, not really bothered with his relationship outside the club or party, it's no of my business.

Unless......he slags his wife off.

Happened once but he was a complete dickhead.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"

It’s fair enough, people could be more straight to the point, instead of being evasive, but you could always ask too, or put a note in your profile?

It's already written on our profile, either a social or meet at club and we do ask very quickly if we want to meet. Then we get the evasiveness over the clubs and then why they can't be meeting out somewhere public for the social and then asking us to accommodate which is already explained why we can't accommodate on our profile. Something around half our messages from guys after we delete all the dross "hi how you doing?" messages end up being like this.

Honestly, we don't really care, if guys can't be bothered to make any effort to either read our profile or make some effort in meeting then we're not going to make any effort for them. Honestly we get so many messages from guys and have so many who will meet at clubs that we don't feel we're missing out on anything anyway, their loss, not ours!Op can’t accommodate and most single women on this tread can’t accommodate,that makes me think you have something to hide , Swinging is open to all single, married, gay , and no one person should have to explain there circumstances , happy fabs where they can be safe again everyone

Yes you're right but I don't accommodate for safety reasons being a single female, I think that's probably true for a lot of females "

Me too, it’s not safe but I also don’t want people coming to my home. My home is separate to this and I have pets I don’t want being scared. Anyone who queries my accommodation status gets blocked.

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch


"Yes you're right but I don't accommodate for safety reasons being a single female, I think that's probably true for a lot of females

Me too, it’s not safe but I also don’t want people coming to my home. My home is separate to this and I have pets I don’t want being scared. Anyone who queries my accommodation status gets blocked. "

That's fair comment, but do you not think single men might feel the same way about their safety? Let's face it there are unhinged women around just as there are men, so it would be nice if people didn't assume we must be married / partnered up just because we decide not to accommodate

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By *arbellsWoman
over a year ago

Cambridge


"Yes you're right but I don't accommodate for safety reasons being a single female, I think that's probably true for a lot of females

Me too, it’s not safe but I also don’t want people coming to my home. My home is separate to this and I have pets I don’t want being scared. Anyone who queries my accommodation status gets blocked.

That's fair comment, but do you not think single men might feel the same way about their safety? Let's face it there are unhinged women around just as there are men, so it would be nice if people didn't assume we must be married / partnered up just because we decide not to accommodate "

Like I said above I agree but a few factors come in to play with safety with females. I'm a pretty strong female, deadlift 150kg, can put 90kg above my head but I would not stand a chance against a very high percentage of men if I was attacked regardless of my strength. I'm not saying this doesn't happen the other way around at all. Anyways we are moving away from OP post.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Yes you're right but I don't accommodate for safety reasons being a single female, I think that's probably true for a lot of females

Me too, it’s not safe but I also don’t want people coming to my home. My home is separate to this and I have pets I don’t want being scared. Anyone who queries my accommodation status gets blocked.

That's fair comment, but do you not think single men might feel the same way about their safety? Let's face it there are unhinged women around just as there are men, so it would be nice if people didn't assume we must be married / partnered up just because we decide not to accommodate "

I only likened my situation to the previous posters comment. I think a high percentage of men who accommodate will do so if they know they are getting sex! From my experience on Fab a high percentage of men who can’t accommodate are usually married. However it’s up to the individual if they wish to accommodate, I don’t.

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over a year ago


"

Swinging is open to all single, married, gay , and no one person should have to explain there circumstances"

Disagree with this, we're not open to playing with people who are cheating as it could create drama for us that we don't want to deal with if someone who is cheating had their partner find out. We don't want to have to deal with a jealous partner who then might out us to friends and family about our lifestyle and we have seen this happen in the past.

For us swinging is about being open and honest and up front with people and having lots of mutual fun, not being involved with cheats.

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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago

shropshire

No profile pic sometimes maybe

And I usually just ask if I think they might be married

Foxy

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"No profile pic sometimes maybe

And I usually just ask if I think they might be married

Foxy"

I can tell from a profile pic. Married man, middle aged, dad body, not looked after himself, no effort...!

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over a year ago


"No profile pic sometimes maybe

And I usually just ask if I think they might be married

Foxy

I can tell from a profile pic. Married man, middle aged, dad body, not looked after himself, no effort...! "

So all the middle aged women with mom bodies are also married?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

You can usually tell the married women on here because they say so and get sympathy.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"No profile pic sometimes maybe

And I usually just ask if I think they might be married

Foxy

I can tell from a profile pic. Married man, middle aged, dad body, not looked after himself, no effort...!

So all the middle aged women with mom bodies are also married?"

No it’s the opposite. Women try to make themselves attractive to an unresponsive husband. Men expect women to find them attractive no matter what....only my experience of life has taught me this.......

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch


"No profile pic sometimes maybe

And I usually just ask if I think they might be married

Foxy

I can tell from a profile pic. Married man, middle aged, dad body, not looked after himself, no effort...!

So all the middle aged women with mom bodies are also married?

No it’s the opposite. Women try to make themselves attractive to an unresponsive husband. Men expect women to find them attractive no matter what....only my experience of life has taught me this......."

No, it's that men aren't as vain as women

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"No profile pic sometimes maybe

And I usually just ask if I think they might be married

Foxy

I can tell from a profile pic. Married man, middle aged, dad body, not looked after himself, no effort...!

So all the middle aged women with mom bodies are also married?

No it’s the opposite. Women try to make themselves attractive to an unresponsive husband. Men expect women to find them attractive no matter what....only my experience of life has taught me this.......

No, it's that men aren't as vain as women "

Is presenting the best you vain?

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"No profile pic sometimes maybe

And I usually just ask if I think they might be married

Foxy

I can tell from a profile pic. Married man, middle aged, dad body, not looked after himself, no effort...!

So all the middle aged women with mom bodies are also married?

No it’s the opposite. Women try to make themselves attractive to an unresponsive husband. Men expect women to find them attractive no matter what....only my experience of life has taught me this.......

No, it's that men aren't as vain as women "

Best not argue lol because I know what I’m talking about!

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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago

north and south


"No profile pic sometimes maybe

And I usually just ask if I think they might be married

Foxy

I can tell from a profile pic. Married man, middle aged, dad body, not looked after himself, no effort...!

So all the middle aged women with mom bodies are also married?

No it’s the opposite. Women try to make themselves attractive to an unresponsive husband. Men expect women to find them attractive no matter what....only my experience of life has taught me this.......

No, it's that men aren't as vain as women

Best not argue lol because I know what I’m talking about! "
Did we ever find out the tell tail signs of adults on fab yet , Or only toys being thrown out of pram

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I definitely didn't make much effort as I do now being married. As you see that person literally 24/7 and he made the fatal mistake saying "I love you just the way you are. No make up etc" so I stopped wearing makeup, comfort ate etc.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"No profile pic sometimes maybe

And I usually just ask if I think they might be married

Foxy

I can tell from a profile pic. Married man, middle aged, dad body, not looked after himself, no effort...!

So all the middle aged women with mom bodies are also married?

No it’s the opposite. Women try to make themselves attractive to an unresponsive husband. Men expect women to find them attractive no matter what....only my experience of life has taught me this.......

No, it's that men aren't as vain as women

Best not argue lol because I know what I’m talking about! Did we ever find out the tell tail signs of adults on fab yet , Or only toys being thrown out of pram "

Lol many suggestions have been posted in the thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i just seem to have a weird 6th sense for it and can guess a few messages in

somethings are a dead giveaway though

photos taken in surroundings clearly decorated/ inhabited by a woman

profile inconsistencies to what they say in terms of name/ age / location and going on and on about discretion... nobody is advertising they are on here but people actively trying hard to conceal it usually have something to hide

will chat at work but not when home

happy to just gab away with no real intention of meeting is often another

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By *avina64TV/TS
over a year ago

Grimsby

You should also add hotel room pictures

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By *rank speakerMan
over a year ago

Worcester


"Just ask him , how often he buys toilet paper for his home.....

Any single guy only buys toilet paper once every 2 - 3 months....

2-3 months? Whaatttt? How? "

Us guys in general don't need that much loo paper if we have a decent diet. I remember being amazed how much paper I got through whenever my daughters came to stay with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing is fool proof...

Instinct tells you, if it doesn't feel right, move on to the next!

Nobody is worth investigating - it's sex for christ sake lol

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By *rouble Is My Middle NameWoman
over a year ago

Sutton Coldfield

WELL I can tell 100% my personal experience on that.

Married man .. wife hidden for so long.. he begged me to became his girlfriend..more than just swinging partner..than slowly things just doesn't add up.. .

You would think someone who's holding private swinger party for a decade long and well known in certain swinging community - can be trusted..

Of course Not haha.

Cheated on the wife for over 10+ years.. Ive became the lover ( without knowing) than I got cheated on too by other fellow swinger females..real mess.

Signs:

- not accommodating in his own place ..always excuse why you can't go to his place..

- only available on certain weekends or days ( when he can lie to the wife his going on business trips).

- no social platform access apart from Fab

- too much phone activity during a meet up

- prepared/organized plans " suddenly" get cancelled on his side more than 2x

Like his son , his mother got ill...or the childminder can't look after his son....( pretending to be a single man with full custody ).

- he is dictating kinda controlling when you can meet up using business or child topic as an excuse

- not preferring hotels in his area ..close to his address

Too fancy wine and dine activities .Creating an illusions/ atmospheres by sweeping off you from your feet.

You get that 6th sense it's just too nice to be true..

- catching him by lies

( sometimes can't keep up the same story once you ask about it again more detailed...)

He pretends it's all about you..being a gent..but closed walls/details about him..

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By *rouble Is My Middle NameWoman
over a year ago

Sutton Coldfield

Also the way of communications too.

He calls you from:

-office

-during lunch breaks

- Travelling from / to work home on route.

Only vid call from public places never from his place..or he does.. like mine did once..you can tell a touch of woman taste by the decoration.

But you will sense it after sometime..we always do..

If it's something too nice to be true ...well ..you will know..

Xx

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Only late night communication by email when wife is in bed! Expecting me to stay up until he comes on line...

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By *alkdirty2meCouple
over a year ago

20 miles south of Edinburgh


"I ask early on, but you can't guarantee an honest answer.

Unwilling to talk on the phone, never free on a Friday or Saturday night: they are my first red flags. "

We are singers so weekend nights are out for us, we’ll except now, we are 100% a couple though and not married lol

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I ask early on, but you can't guarantee an honest answer.

Unwilling to talk on the phone, never free on a Friday or Saturday night: they are my first red flags.

We are singers so weekend nights are out for us, we’ll except now, we are 100% a couple though and not married lol "

But you're on a couples profile. So for me seeing a couple profile is a given. It's single profiles claiming they are "single"

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Also the way of communications too.

He calls you from:

-office

-during lunch breaks

- Travelling from / to work home on route.

Only vid call from public places never from his place..or he does.. like mine did once..you can tell a touch of woman taste by the decoration.

But you will sense it after sometime..we always do..

If it's something too nice to be true ...well ..you will know..

Xx

"

Dammm... Poor you. Hopefully it won't happen again. People just need to be honest with others in their lives.

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By *urdazMan
over a year ago

Near Gainsborough


"Female toiletries in the mandatory bathroom pics.

Can’t talk after 5pm.

Can’t accommodate or insists on car meets. "

Well that's me knackered with my face wash from Lush then!

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By *hat BlokeMan
over a year ago

Harrogate


"i just seem to have a weird 6th sense for it and can guess a few messages in

somethings are a dead giveaway though

photos taken in surroundings clearly decorated/ inhabited by a woman

profile inconsistencies to what they say in terms of name/ age / location and going on and on about discretion... nobody is advertising they are on here but people actively trying hard to conceal it usually have something to hide

will chat at work but not when home

happy to just gab away with no real intention of meeting is often another "

I am happy to gab away because I think it’s rude and crass to immediately start telling ladies you would like to meet them and do dirty things with them in the first sentence of a message. I also work Saturdays and have my children over a couple of times a week which would prevent me from meeting at those times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i just seem to have a weird 6th sense for it and can guess a few messages in

somethings are a dead giveaway though

photos taken in surroundings clearly decorated/ inhabited by a woman

profile inconsistencies to what they say in terms of name/ age / location and going on and on about discretion... nobody is advertising they are on here but people actively trying hard to conceal it usually have something to hide

will chat at work but not when home

happy to just gab away with no real intention of meeting is often another

I am happy to gab away because I think it’s rude and crass to immediately start telling ladies you would like to meet them and do dirty things with them in the first sentence of a message. I also work Saturdays and have my children over a couple of times a week which would prevent me from meeting at those times. "

its not fool proof , but you get a feeling and my track record for working it out and being right is pretty high

in fact while i have probably met people that i haven’t been wise enough to catch out cheating, i have actually never asked if someone had a partner (because i was already 80% sure) and been told i was wrong ... so my instinct can’t be that far off

might be crap for you that the cheaters are making your legitimate reasons less believable but thats just life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it interesting that many think not being able to accommodate is a sign of being married. I don't accommodate, not because I'm married, but because my autistic child doesn't like new environments, so it's easier to have a babysitter stay at mine for his comfort. I'm open with my family about my lifestyle, but I'm not prepared to put my kids into an uncomfortable position for it. no one is forced to believe my reasons either, if they think I'm cheating they don't have to meet me

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

I would say 80% of people we have met are married some we catch out some admit ihe guys wife plays with outside club know she is married and vice versa, we don't interigate people at club and they don't integrate us, one guy we know his wife choses to turn a blind eye as she gone of sex and glad he's getting else where, if either half of a couple blatently cheating, and bragging about it, we stay clear, but some have a good reason, like health, genuine separated, when we do play solo we can't play at home as we have family at home and do not want them to know about our sexy pastime, in my view if they have to cheat and hurt partner get a divorce, we enjoy threesomes as well as full swap,

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract


"A question we ask is will they meet us in a club. Many suddenly get very evasive about exactly why they can't do clubs which raises our suspicions.

Not wanting to meet in a club is more likely to be because of the cost incurred as a single male, rather than being married/attached and playing away...."

Going to a club costs less than booking a hotel room and it's more fun x

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch


"A question we ask is will they meet us in a club. Many suddenly get very evasive about exactly why they can't do clubs which raises our suspicions.

Not wanting to meet in a club is more likely to be because of the cost incurred as a single male, rather than being married/attached and playing away....

Going to a club costs less than booking a hotel room and it's more fun x"

For women and couples, that's true.

Very often a very different story for single men.

Last time I checked I think it was £80 a year plus the cost of the individual evening for men, with an 8 month waiting list for membership

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get turned on by fucking a cheating wife or gf

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"A question we ask is will they meet us in a club. Many suddenly get very evasive about exactly why they can't do clubs which raises our suspicions.

Not wanting to meet in a club is more likely to be because of the cost incurred as a single male, rather than being married/attached and playing away....

Going to a club costs less than booking a hotel room and it's more fun x

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For women and couples, that's true.

Very often a very different story for single men.

Last time I checked I think it was £80 a year plus the cost of the individual evening for men, with an 8 month waiting list for membership "

Many northern clubs are much better priced... some as low as £15

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I get turned on by fucking a cheating wife or gf"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get turned on by fucking a cheating wife or gf

"

What

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have Joe Malone products around my house....

The salesperson told me the products are unisex....

If you saw Joe Malone products in my pictures ?

Would you think I’m cheating? Or just like to smell good...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not always available

Evasive"

48 and cannot accommodate.

Married or lives with mum....either way avoid if you dont want to meet with attached....

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By *he Vital SparkMan
over a year ago

Preston

Obviously some of the above apply, I myself, am single/separated now 2 years going through a divorce and due to the ex living in the marital home, forced to live with parent. So this is my reason I cannot accommodate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s not always the case as depends if he’s got kids with an ex or things like that like I’ve 3 girls and they use nearly 2 rolls a bloody day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find that local guys who are unable to meet for a public social (locally) are usually attached.

Those who don't accommodate and only message throughout the day also perhaps.

I'd never ask someone for their phone number or social media details. Or expect them to accommodate at their home. Some people like to keep Fab separate and I respect that. As long as they're willing to meet in a public place for a social, claim not to be attached and don't give me any major obvious clues to suggest otherwise, I assume they're single and I'm happy to meet them. I don't even ask about their work or anything too personal. I like to keep meets fun and lighthearted and don't have the time or energy to play detective. People lie. If married men or women can lie to their partners then they'll certainly have no issues lying to a stranger in order.

As mentioned by other's, there can be obvious signs though. I tend to find most married guys are upfront with me. It's then up to me to decide what I do.

I see a fair few mentions on profiles about not wanting to meet attached/married. I think that sometimes can give people the incentive to lie from the off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*in order to get what they want

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By *traxtra69Man
over a year ago

Blackpool .

Men are not single,if they can't accommodate and won't give you there phone number,or if they do give you there phone number,it will be text only,if you call them it will go to and ansafone .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Men are not single,if they can't accommodate and won't give you there phone number,or if they do give you there phone number,it will be text only,if you call them it will go to and ansafone ."

There are some absolute cranks about. I don't accommodate or give out my number. I just like to keep where I live and my phone number private

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By *amba2Man
over a year ago

Derbyshire

Not really. Some are sharing accommodation etc.

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract


"A question we ask is will they meet us in a club. Many suddenly get very evasive about exactly why they can't do clubs which raises our suspicions.

Not wanting to meet in a club is more likely to be because of the cost incurred as a single male, rather than being married/attached and playing away....

Going to a club costs less than booking a hotel room and it's more fun x

For women and couples, that's true.

Very often a very different story for single men.

Last time I checked I think it was £80 a year plus the cost of the individual evening for men, with an 8 month waiting list for membership "

I would think about getting a bloke I was meeting in on a new couple membership ( that's usually free ) but would keep the membership card so the bloke dont abuse it x then it turns out cheap night for bloke good night for me and no harm done

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract


"Men are not single,if they can't accommodate and won't give you there phone number,or if they do give you there phone number,it will be text only,if you call them it will go to and ansafone .

There are some absolute cranks about. I don't accommodate or give out my number. I just like to keep where I live and my phone number private "

exactly this x

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By *rouble Is My Middle NameWoman
over a year ago

Sutton Coldfield


"I have Joe Malone products around my house....

The salesperson told me the products are unisex....

If you saw Joe Malone products in my pictures ?

Would you think I’m cheating? Or just like to smell good..."

Not at all - candles even potpourri are fine , but if I see a heart shaped fluffy pillow and a picture on the wall saying LOVE ( with pinky grey candles next to it ) I would suspect..something ain't right.

obviously if I see a sanitary towel lol that's staright foward answer to the question

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By *anillaboyMan
over a year ago

london

I think u should Tell him this......... i want this night to be special because comes from a long time of break and i would apreciate If u would stay overnight and tease each other all night long.

What do u think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have Joe Malone products around my house....

The salesperson told me the products are unisex....

If you saw Joe Malone products in my pictures ?

Would you think I’m cheating? Or just like to smell good...

Not at all - candles even potpourri are fine , but if I see a heart shaped fluffy pillow and a picture on the wall saying LOVE ( with pinky grey candles next to it ) I would suspect..something ain't right.

obviously if I see a sanitary towel lol that's staright foward answer to the question "

Nice , I’ll keep that in mind

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

Bloody hell what club you go to

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I think u should Tell him this......... i want this night to be special because comes from a long time of break and i would apreciate If u would stay overnight and tease each other all night long.

What do u think?"

Couldn't he tell his wife he's on a business trip? That's what my ex did when he was cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have Joe Malone products around my house....

The salesperson told me the products are unisex....

If you saw Joe Malone products in my pictures ?

Would you think I’m cheating? Or just like to smell good...

Not at all - candles even potpourri are fine , but if I see a heart shaped fluffy pillow and a picture on the wall saying LOVE ( with pinky grey candles next to it ) I would suspect..something ain't right.

obviously if I see a sanitary towel lol that's staright foward answer to the question "

yep those wicker heart hanging decorations are a dead giveaway lol

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By *ulfilthmentMan
over a year ago

Just around the corner

The telltale sign on my profile is that I state it up front. Anyone who finds this morally problematic has the option not to contact me.

Conversely I respect profiles who state they won’t meet cheats.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"The telltale sign on my profile is that I state it up front. Anyone who finds this morally problematic has the option not to contact me.

Conversely I respect profiles who state they won’t meet cheats."

The point I'm trying to make is men don't say in their profiles and don't openingly admit. It took me until end of a cam chat to find out once and I was certainly peed off he didn't say earlier as he said his partner doesn't know he's on fab. He had a good profile with lots of verifications. Just missed out most important point to me, he got a girlfriend who doesn't know.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"Obviously I respect and would hope others respect my decision to keep certain aspects of my life private.

But I would be devastated to be part of someone cheating on their partner either in marriage or just serious relationship.

How can I tell they are a cheat? (as most 'single but secretly married profiles', there's no real obvious signs) HELP "

Don't meet men who can't accommodate. This will out 99.9% of the cheats.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

deaf....... warn knees...... ball and chain....... can't accom....... wedding ring......... can only meet daytime....... can only call daytime....... stammer.......... beetroot when you ask

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By *hingy2Woman
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Just ask him , how often he buys toilet paper for his home.....

Any single guy only buys toilet paper once every 2 - 3 months....

Lol. Brilliant but you know what, I have a bidet really underrated and great for a quick freshen up. In answer to your question ask if they accom? Always a bit of a giveaway for me in the past, I'm o.k with married or partners providing the partner knows or they are part of this lifestyle. Good luck to you x"

I'm single but I don't accom

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield


"i just seem to have a weird 6th sense for it and can guess a few messages in

somethings are a dead giveaway though

photos taken in surroundings clearly decorated/ inhabited by a woman

profile inconsistencies to what they say in terms of name/ age / location and going on and on about discretion... nobody is advertising they are on here but people actively trying hard to conceal it usually have something to hide

will chat at work but not when home

happy to just gab away with no real intention of meeting is often another "

To be fair. People who visit my house are sometimes surprised it hasn’t had a woman’s touch. Maybe it’s my excellent interior design skills.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i just seem to have a weird 6th sense for it and can guess a few messages in

somethings are a dead giveaway though

photos taken in surroundings clearly decorated/ inhabited by a woman

profile inconsistencies to what they say in terms of name/ age / location and going on and on about discretion... nobody is advertising they are on here but people actively trying hard to conceal it usually have something to hide

will chat at work but not when home

happy to just gab away with no real intention of meeting is often another

To be fair. People who visit my house are sometimes surprised it hasn’t had a woman’s touch. Maybe it’s my excellent interior design skills. "

Or maybe you keep the toilet seat down

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield


"I get turned on by fucking a cheating wife or gf"

This does nothing for me whatsoever.

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By *DreamOfGenieWoman
over a year ago

London

Only ever paying in cash

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only ever paying in cash "

We have a winner.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As my wedding ring is tattooed on and I don't really fancy taking a sharp knife or angle grinder to it I only swing with my partners full knowledge.

She has removable jewelry but I'm fairly sure she informs me of any encounters as she has no reason to hide anything.

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By *enithWoman
over a year ago

closer than you think

When you do arrange a meet you get asked not to wear perfume as he is allergic to it

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By *dinburghsexMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

In my own view everyone is entitled to privacy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my own view everyone is entitled to privacy. "

And those who want to know someone’s marital status are entitled to ask.

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By *laymateteeMan
over a year ago

bristol


"I find it interesting that many think not being able to accommodate is a sign of being married. I don't accommodate, not because I'm married, but because my autistic child doesn't like new environments, so it's easier to have a babysitter stay at mine for his comfort. I'm open with my family about my lifestyle, but I'm not prepared to put my kids into an uncomfortable position for it. no one is forced to believe my reasons either, if they think I'm cheating they don't have to meet me "

This. Everyone who can't accommodate is not cheating and has a good reason why. If I doesn't sit well with you then move on and find someone who can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if it says cannot accommodate more often than not cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im a single woman but i cant accomodate as i have a young adult living with me and i find this is the situation with some men after divorce. I do accomodate if i can work around when she is at work.

I just like honesty then i can make my mind up wether i see the guy or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only ever paying in cash "
i accept cash

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if it says cannot accommodate more often than not cheating"

Quite judgemental and certainly in our case wrong. We have large dogs which can be quite full on when people first arrive and we don't really want the hassle of neighbours chatting or people popping around when uninvited.

Guess the 'must be cheating' is an easy catch all though.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

It's funny when men accuse me of being married because I probably do all the things people tell me to look out for but I'm totally single and love being single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's funny when men accuse me of being married because I probably do all the things people tell me to look out for but I'm totally single and love being single"
well then people in glass houses

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