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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Everyone hates one liners and ‘hey, how’re you?’

But what opening messages normally catch your eye?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m very shy and cannot chat to ladies or couples in rooms or on message boards. I don’t know what to say and end up talking rubbish. I know I’m not the only one. Sometimes all we need is for someone to start the convo for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a difficult question to answer as every one is different and will reply to different approaches but basically we reply to every message in kind as in if someone sends a HI I reply with a HI and so on and Carol reads all messages but only replies to the ones she wants to reply to.

Main advice is to read the profile and if you feel that you are a good fit the Taylor your first message around that profile.

Always be polite and respectful and don’t go in all cocks blazing.

For example had a message this morning that just said CAN I FUCK YOUR WIFE????

To which I replied NO because that’s a really crap first message and he sent a cock pic which it clearly says not to on our profile.

Good luck and just be yourself.

T

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset

FAF

Only requires yeah or no reply, no messing, to the point

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By *ert n BerylCouple
over a year ago

middlesbrough

That’s some good advice (thumbs up)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Good advice! I like it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fancy a bum?"

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby


""Fancy a bum?""

Depends on who's bum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""Fancy a bum?"

Depends on who's bum "

Well

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I once had an insult, difference was, it was done very in a humorous way and with a lot of self deprecation.

I found it funny, it wasn’t personally critical.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""Fancy a bum?"

Depends on who's bum "

That goes without saying...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a minefield of a question, will be intrigued by answers?

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

I try not to judge people on their first message so as long as it's not an idiotic one liner, if I like the look of their profile then I will give them a chance and see how the messages go x

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By *edVelveteenCouple
over a year ago

Heaven in the Midlands


"This is a minefield of a question, will be intrigued by answers?"

It certainly is a minefield, cos every individual person has a different opinion. I treat each message as I would if i met that person in the street. Some people just need a courteous 'hi', some i feel inclined to spend some time with and others deserve a...

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby


""Fancy a bum?"

Depends on who's bum

Well "

Who's are you think of Jessica

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""Fancy a bum?"

Depends on who's bum

Well

Who's are you think of Jessica "

It's s secret

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By *ouandi1993Man
over a year ago

North Tyneside

I usually wait for them to contact me. If I’m interested I wink them. If they like me they can message, no pushy approach. It also means they don’t have to trawl through messages since couples and females get so many these days.

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby


""Fancy a bum?"

Depends on who's bum

Well

Who's are you think of Jessica

It's s secret "

I'm good at keeping secrets.

Well not that good as I tell my cat everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest it's hard to tell what's a good opener since some people want something "eye catching" but that's different for everyone and some dont mind one liners but there is rarely a way to tell unless its specified in the bio (I've seen it on occasions but it's like...what do you want me to say? If I say too much will I come off cheesy or looking for more of a connection when that's not the case)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s definitely not very easy it certainly doesn’t make it comfortable when you don’t get a reply or they just delete the Message would be nice to now the reasons so you get a better idea of if it’s just the way you come across in your messages or your not there type or to far away for example

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